Daniel_BT
Jul 24, 2008, 02:17 PM
Hi I hope you can help me out, I'm having a lot of troubles with my relationship :(
My girlfriend is diagnosed with OCD, and her obsession is with me, and that's what bugs me a little bit. I mean don't get me wrong, I'm happy being with her, but she constantly wants to be with me, and if she's not, she gets very lonely, and she CALLS ME CONSTANTLY.
She's your general "Phonoholic", and even when we are on the phone, most of the time, we barely speak. We basically listen to each other breath most of the time, and then when I say, "I have to go, I have stuff to do" she gets all clingy and doesn't want me to go, and then she blames me for not being very talkative about a lot.
And she calls at like 11:30pm at night to talk because she had a fight with her dad, and I might be asleep by then, and then she leaves a message like "I just fought with my dad and all I want to do is talk to you to calm down...you said you'll always be there for me...jerk!!" then hangs up.
Ok now let's move onto me, I have Asperger's Syndrome, which is a form of Austism. From what I notice I seem to focus on one topic, which is filmmaking. Most of the time, that's all I can talk about, and when there's a different topic in the air, I can't always contribute to it so I usually stay quiet. If at all, I try to get in a word or 2, but most of the time I can't.
My mind likes to focus too much on my computer, filmaking, being alone, etc. and when she calls me constantly, it bugs the crap out of me. She ALWAYS wants to do something with me, and when I say, "I just want to be alone for today" (basically just to have some time to myself) and she doesn't get it, and it makes her think that I don't love her, and I do very much, but this is killing me. She has suicidal thoughts once in a while over that too.
Now I don't want to break up with her, I just want things straightened out. We seem to fight A lot as well. Like, at least one or two times a week, and this is making me VERY STRESSED... I've started smoking because of this! I want all of this tension to stop between us!
Please help me the very Best you can
Thank you
-Daniel_BT
FYI
We have spent time with each other many times before, but she kind of looks at it like we haven't at all
And when were together she's VERY happy, and she has told me at times she goes to bed crying, and I worry about that :(
My girlfriend is diagnosed with OCD, and her obsession is with me, and that's what bugs me a little bit. I mean don't get me wrong, I'm happy being with her, but she constantly wants to be with me, and if she's not, she gets very lonely, and she CALLS ME CONSTANTLY.
She's your general "Phonoholic", and even when we are on the phone, most of the time, we barely speak. We basically listen to each other breath most of the time, and then when I say, "I have to go, I have stuff to do" she gets all clingy and doesn't want me to go, and then she blames me for not being very talkative about a lot.
And she calls at like 11:30pm at night to talk because she had a fight with her dad, and I might be asleep by then, and then she leaves a message like "I just fought with my dad and all I want to do is talk to you to calm down...you said you'll always be there for me...jerk!!" then hangs up.
Ok now let's move onto me, I have Asperger's Syndrome, which is a form of Austism. From what I notice I seem to focus on one topic, which is filmmaking. Most of the time, that's all I can talk about, and when there's a different topic in the air, I can't always contribute to it so I usually stay quiet. If at all, I try to get in a word or 2, but most of the time I can't.
My mind likes to focus too much on my computer, filmaking, being alone, etc. and when she calls me constantly, it bugs the crap out of me. She ALWAYS wants to do something with me, and when I say, "I just want to be alone for today" (basically just to have some time to myself) and she doesn't get it, and it makes her think that I don't love her, and I do very much, but this is killing me. She has suicidal thoughts once in a while over that too.
Now I don't want to break up with her, I just want things straightened out. We seem to fight A lot as well. Like, at least one or two times a week, and this is making me VERY STRESSED... I've started smoking because of this! I want all of this tension to stop between us!
Please help me the very Best you can
Thank you
-Daniel_BT
FYI
We have spent time with each other many times before, but she kind of looks at it like we haven't at all
And when were together she's VERY happy, and she has told me at times she goes to bed crying, and I worry about that :(