I met this girl on the internet named and her name is steph.. she is a really lovely girl and all, and I wanted to be her friend. We had a really conversation and I later found out that we had so much in common that its scary.. anyway.. the second time I talked to her, she was busy packing for a trip down to australia from canada, which was her hometown. So we didn't really talk much and at the end I asked her if she can give me a call when she got down to aus.. anyway like 20 something hours have passed and I got really worried about her so I sent her an email asking if her flight was all right and whether she was OK and stuff. Still no reply, so then I made the mistake of adding one of her friends and asked if she had got to aus safely... I found out that she had deleted me and blocked me on msn and deleted me off her friends list on Facebook. She emailed me and said she had a bad experience with someone that stalked her on the internet, and I have been feelling completely useless, I hate myself for what I'm doing, I feel like such a waste of time and air and I never actually intended to hurt her like that.. But now she has blocked all main sources of contact that I have with her and she won't answer any of my emails... So I don't know what to do, I am someone that really values friendship with people and if I get really depressed when I stuff up like this.. Please help me! I am ready to apologise and sit down with her and have a chat about this but she isn't really giving me a chance to do that... what can I do?

My next door neighbor was robbed recently. Do you feel guilty about it? You have neighbors, too, right? So, using her logic it's perfectly reasonable for me to blame and punish YOU for my neighbor getting robbed, right? Right?

Wrong. There is no connection between your actions and any previous experience she has had. None. Similarities are random coincidence. They mean nothing. Well, they mean nothing to reasoning people.

If her fuse is THAT short, if she is that paranoid, you want to chase her down WHY EXACTLY? You need all this drama aimed at you? I promise that if you get this worked out and get back to talking to her, she will find more ways to put you on defense, and for things that have nothing to do with you at all seem to be fuel for this as well. That doesn't bode well. If you're fine with that, if this kind of behavior turns you on, then go for it.

Just make sure you accept this before you dive in. That's honest.

I found out that she had deleted me and blocked me on msn and deleted me off her friends list on Facebook.

What part of leave me alone is it your not getting?

But now she has blocked all main sources of contact that I have with her and she won't answer any of my emails... So I don't know what to do,
Do nothing just leave her alone as her actions have said. For whatever reason just let it go!!

I am someone that really values friendship with people and if I get really depressed when I stuff up like this.. Please help me!
Stop being depressed by things you have no control over and just learn to accept what life throws at you and deal with it in a positive way.


I am ready to apologise and sit down with her and have a chat about this but she isn't really giving me a chance to do that... what can I do?


Obviously that's not what she wants so let it go, as this reaction is bordering on obsessive.

There are loads of people on the internet and you can't get distraught over ever virtual friend you lose. People aren't always what they seem especially on chats. Many people on the internet are just not interested in someone getting serious over them. She very well could have had a bad experience with someone on the internet and is now leery of anybody on here. All you can do is respect her wishes and not contact her any more. You will get over it and get on with your life. Like Talaiman said you have no control over what she wants and pursuing her will only make her angrier with you.