8 weeks ago the man I was suppose to marry was killed in a car accident. My whole life has come to a halt, I am numb from head to toe, I think about him every minute of everyday and I cry all the time. Every night I go to bed hoping to not wake up, and every morning I wake up hoping to die. He was my soul mate through and through, we were made for each other and planned our future together. Now I just don't know what to do? I keep hoping that it has all been a mistake & that my angel hasn't gone but I know deep down that he has. We were supposed to get married and I cannot imagine being with anyone other than him. He always promised me that he would never leave me so I always thought he would be there until the day I died but our life together was cut short and I can't bear it. I try and pretend that he is lying next to me in bed but I know he isn't. I just don't know what to do with out him, I talk to him all the time in the hope that his ghost may appear or that he may send me a sign but nothing has come. Please help me I'm close to suicide. Thank you

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I am so sorry to hear that. My condolences. You are grieving, it is a process and it's normal. Is there someone else a part of his family you can share your grief with?
Maybe find a grief counseling group, others going through this. You can talk and get support.

8 weeks ago the man i was suppose to marry was killed in a car accident. My whole life has come to a halt, I am numb from head to toe, i think about him every minute of everyday and I cry all the time. Every night i go to bed hoping to not wake up, and every morning i wake up hoping to die. He was my soul mate through and through, we were made for each other and planned our future together. now i just don't know what to do? I keep hoping that it has all been a mistake & that my angel hasn't gone but i know deep down that he has. we were suposed to get married and i cannot imagine being with anyone other than him. He always promised me that he would never leave me so i always thought he would be there untill the day i died but our life together was cut short and i can't bear it. i try and pretend that he is lieing next to me in bed but i know he isn't. I just don't know what to do with out him, i talk to him all the time in the hope that his ghost may appear or that he may send me a sign but nothing has come. Please help me I'm close to suicide. thank you

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You poor love, my heart goes out to you, do you have family you can talk with, and what about his family? Ae you close to them, can you talk about him with them?

It's still early days to be looking for signs of him sweetheart, you're still way too raw, in too much pain. He's not with you in body, but the love will always be there, and so will the memories. He wouldn't want you to live in such agony, so for both your sakes, you must seek help, and try to do the best you can, and not try to join him.

I read a story last week that was from a young girl who'd lost her fiancé just weeks prior to their wedding. It was bitter-sweet - she had their rings blessed in a small service in church on the day they would have wed, and she still wore them. You could also write - write the story of when you met, and how you're feeling - each day do your diary entry, and try to finish with a sweet memory in your book. This sounds hard, but it's a small routine that can be a comfort. Have his picture by you when you write - grieving's natural, you need to release those tears.

No, you can't imagine loving anyone else and you probably never will love anyone in the same way that you two had, but one day, you will turn that corner. He'll see to that, because with him loving you as much as you so obviously and deeply love him - he won't want you to be alone. You owe it to him to do the best that you can, and live your life the best that you can, for both of you. Sending you deepest hugs, and sympathies.xxxxx

Losing a love one is so very hard, I have had two wives pass away and the pain and loss is so hard.

First you have to remember what would they want for us, they would want the best, and they would want us to be happy. There is no fast and easy cure, time helps as the pain turns into memories of the good times together. For me, I did find someone new, they never replace the other person, they are merely a new part of my life moving on, but the other person who passed will always be another love in my life that also never ends either.

The writing is a great idea, I talked and still talk to them both sometimes.

As for as loving someone else, you may or you may not, that only the future and life can tell. But no matter this love will always be yours and his, and he will live in you as long as you live.

I really want to get in contact with my fiancé I miss him sooo much please help x

I really want to get in contact with my fiance i miss him sooo much please help x

Please know that I am with you in your time of loss. It is never easy to go through what you are going through. But please know that you are far from being the only one experiecning this fracas at this time. Literally thousands and thousands of people pass away from this Earth every week from all countries. Why? Because "death" is actually a very important part of life. From the moment our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ died and then Resurrected He gave Christian Believers in Him the same ability.

I know it is hard but it is hard for so many across the globe as well yet they cope knowing that the higher power of God is within them to help them in their time of need. He will help you too, just have Faith in Him!

You also ask how can one communicate with one who has passed on. Please know that your loved one is right there with you only he exists in a higher vibration now and that is the reason you cannot see him or hear him as before. There is, in effect, no "death". It is simply a process of shedding one's physical body and stepping into one's spiritual body and living on and on for eternity! So there is great hope! When he is ready, he may start giving you subtle signs which you should look out for.

In the meantime, you may wish to visit the following wonderful website! May God Bless you especially during your difficult period and always! I send you a strong hug, dear one.

How to Make Contact with Your Loved One (http://www.leewoof.org/Contact.htm)

I am so sorry for your loss, but for me, you just talk, for some you write them letters. I used to go visit her grave on a regular basis, then I got to going to a quiet place and telling her all about my day.

So if you want to talk to him, just talk to him,
There is no real way to "communicate" with him, as in you and he talking back and forth But you can know that his love is with you always.

I find myself "talking" to my Dad all the time.

When I was a little girl we used to go camping with the YMCA... he and I would always stay up and watch the stars come out. Ever since then Orion has been "our" special constellation. Even though he has been gone for four years, I still find Orion every night and talk to him.

Find something special that you and your loved one shared and use it as a remembrance. Mine is Orion. Maybe yours will be a special restaurant.

There is nothing wrong with talking with your loved one...

Would your fiancé want you to give up? If you are feeling suicidal you need to go to the doctor or hospital ASAP!

Find a grief counselor, or psycologist to help you organize your feelings. Also when I lost someone I loved I tried to re-focus my emotions into hobbies, my passion is photography, yours might be painting, or writing. Remember that he LOVES you and will always love you from heaven. He would only want he best for you.

I recently lost my exhusband on March 2, 2008. I had taken him back after 13 years of not seeing him or talking to him. We lived together for about 2 years and I was mad at him for drinking and made him move out again he died 2 weeks later. I haven't seen a good enough sign that he is here with me. I thought I would feel something right away.
I even sleep with his ashes(kinda crazy) I stay up late so I can actually sleep without waking up all night thinking about it. Im trying to think that the love we had was so special that I had it again for that short time and try not to blame myself Im tryng to stay busy. So I know what you are going through. Just take it one day at a time and stay strong

I am so sorry for your loss. I just lost my fiancée Jan. 16th. She passed away due to a blood clot on her brain. She was here one day and gone the next and I am so lost without her now. We spent every day together when we were not working. She was my life and I keep holding to that, but it hurts so bad. I keep looking, reading and wanting her to send me some sort of sign. I know God has a reason for taking her from me, but I feel so cheated at life. I knew when we first met, she was my soul mate. She was the most down to earth and loving person. She stole my heart from the start. I know what you are experienceing. She too, promised me she would never let me go. I keep repeating that in my head. Christy was very religious and had a life full of religious up bringing and knew God had a answer for everything. I still remember her tell me, when I had a bad day that God has a reason for everything. I just have to keep those words in my head, but it doesn't make it any easier, when I think that I will never have her again. I too, have had many thoughts of not wanting to live life without her, but I know God and I know if I were to try to make my way to her, in some other means, I would never have her again. You and I have to keep in mind, that someday we will see them again. It doesn't see like it will be now, tomorrow or ever, but if there is one thing she did for me, its brought me closer to God. Only God knows when we will see them again, but I want to touch her or tell her so much. I pray for dreams or anything to have her close again. We just have to hope, that this pain will someway ease and we will be able to continue, but its not going to be easy. Please, remember that we will see them again, but only on Gods terms. Don't risk lossing him for ever. You will have him again, as I will have Christy. If you need to talk, please post email or I will post mine.

John

My heartfelt condolences and best wishes to you all.

8 weeks ago the man i was suppose to marry was killed in a car accident. My whole life has come to a halt, I am numb from head to toe, i think about him every minute of everyday and I cry all the time. Every night i go to bed hoping to not wake up, and every morning i wake up hoping to die. He was my soul mate through and through, we were made for each other and planned our future together. now i just don't know what to do? I keep hoping that it has all been a mistake & that my angel hasn't gone but i know deep down that he has. we were suposed to get married and i cannot imagine being with anyone other than him. He always promised me that he would never leave me so i always thought he would be there untill the day i died but our life together was cut short and i can't bear it. i try and pretend that he is lieing next to me in bed but i know he isn't. I just don't know what to do with out him, i talk to him all the time in the hope that his ghost may appear or that he may send me a sign but nothing has come. Please help me I'm close to suicide. thank you

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My heart is with you, 7 weeks ago my boyfriend died but in my situuation I could have saved him, I knew something was way wrong, and I let his 19 year old son convince me he was fine, just really drunk when I left at 7:15 am, when I came back at 3:00 his friends were sitting around the tabe drinking beer waiting for tony to wake up, Tony NEVER sleeps past 8:00 am EVER I knew he was dead before I even opened the bedroom door, This didn't have to happen, guilt and grief are wearing me down, Stay srtong lady, remember the good times and know that at least you didn't fail him

Unfortunately, thousands of people deal with death of a loved one every single day.. tho we feel isolated and alone, we aren't.. there is someone else crying for their son, daughter or spouse too... find a bereavment group, call the hospital, they will know of one. Call a minister.. Your mate was taken for a reason, we do not know why... but you have to keep on living, and let him live inside of you... It is very painful.. I know myself. Your mate would want you to continue living.. We have to go on.. that's the plan.. Time will mend and ease your pain. Surround yourself with those who love you and focus on doing and living the things your mate wanted to do.. do it for him. Believe there is a reason and GOd will help you through this pain. GOd Bless

I'm deeply sorry to her about that and all that I can tell you is that you will see him again. I know that you are going through terrible time just remember to have faith and I promise you everything will be all right. I honestly will pray for you. Because if someone I truly loved died I would feel the same way.

I too lost the one I love. Some moments are harder than others. I go back and read his emails full of love and concern for me. I read where I had planned a night with the girls and he encouraged me to go and have a good time and know that he loved me. One of his last messages to me was that he loved me and wanted me to be happy. I hold those things close as I mourn the loss of him. I have three children (not his) that I HAVE to live for. My sons have no "father" and my daughter's dad can never have custody so I am all they have. So, my motivation is them. I have talked to my closest friends and asked them to help me help myself. I'm very independent and that wasn't easy to do, but for my kids, myself and my love I have to. I'm trying to believe I can find a way to live, not merely exist as time goes by and I hope that you can and will do the same.

I hear and feel your pain and would be more than willing to talk if ever you want/need.

My heartfelt sympathy and best wishes to you.

Bette

Keep his love in your heart. Bereavement counseling is a good thing too. It is hard. I lost my first wife after 13 years,, we were high school sweethearts. Be strong. You will survive.

I am going through much the same but as the others here have said God takes our mates for a reason and we shoukd be excited that we have the chance too meet with them again!! God Bless, stay strong! I pray for an angel too wrap their wings of comfort around you always!

The days are slowly getting easier to get through. I have surrounded myself with friends as well. They surround my with their friendship and reach for me when I haven't been able to ask them to. I can laugh without crying now and can say my days aren't too bad, which is drastic progress. I know he loved me deeply and that I was on his mind at the end. That brings comfort that I didn't have before... Thank you for your kindness and support!

8 weeks ago the man i was suppose to marry was killed in a car accident. My whole life has come to a halt, I am numb from head to toe, i think about him every minute of everyday and I cry all the time. Every night i go to bed hoping to not wake up, and every morning i wake up hoping to die. He was my soul mate through and through, we were made for each other and planned our future together. now i just don't know what to do? I keep hoping that it has all been a mistake & that my angel hasn't gone but i know deep down that he has. we were suposed to get married and i cannot imagine being with anyone other than him. He always promised me that he would never leave me so i always thought he would be there untill the day i died but our life together was cut short and i can't bear it. i try and pretend that he is lieing next to me in bed but i know he isn't. I just don't know what to do with out him, i talk to him all the time in the hope that his ghost may appear or that he may send me a sign but nothing has come. Please help me I'm close to suicide. thank you

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I too lost my fiancé sept 6/08 and feel much likeyou, I have thought of suicide however in doing that I will never seemy sweetheart again, ilive min by min, second by second,think I am going tocrazy at any given moment, and then feel quilty when sometimes I am notcrying, he is my besfriend,I miss him somuch, and don't know what todo without him,I wake up every dam day,prior to sleep ihave 2 wishes, 1, please let him come to me in a dream, 2 please don't let mewake up.

Please email me iwouldlike to know how you are doing.

Best wishes
Rose

I am so sorry for your loss. I know how devastating it is. It's been five months now since my boyfriend has been gone and sometimes it doesn't seem like it's been that long. I can say that just taking one step at a time helps you to get through. Cry when you need to and don't beat yourself up when you don't. Your loved one would only want the very best for you and they would want you to get through this and LIVE, not just exist. I believe that those who loved us would only want our lives to continue and to be full of love and happiness. I know it seems impossible, but time helps a little and allowing yourself to feel the pain and loss of your love does too.

Wishing you peace and comfort during this difficult time and praying you find the strength and courage to keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Hugs,
Bette

I'm so sorry darling... you need to get professional help. If you don't have anyone to talk to parents, friends, or can not afford a professional, research places you can go online, if you can't do that go to a local AA alcohol anonymous meeting and ask the person in charge for their opinion on a free place to get help. This is something you more than likely can not deal with or should have to deal with on your own.. You need a professional. Please try if you can get out of bed to exercise a little... this will release natural endorphins that will help out a little... remember... one day at a time... time heals wounds.. Only time

I am so sorry for your loss,. I lost my husband four years ago in an auto accident... please listen to the advice that these people give... and reach out to those around you... and yes, find a counselor or therapist. (A lot of us have... because it really does help!)
A small hug, a touch of another person's hand, or even a few words of kindness will make a lot of difference... Make sure you don't close yourself off to those who can offer support and be there for you to help... let them help you.
I wish you strength and courage, peace and faith... and know that you're in my prayers.

You cope. You try to live with it. You ask yourself that question everyday until you finally find your answer. It will hurt like nothing you will ever experienced or will experience again. It will tear you apart from the inside out. Your mind will rarely stray from it. It will depress you, discourage you, and belittle you in ways you cannot describe. It is sheer torment and you'll feel like you're already going through Hell. You'll feel like there is no escape, despite how many friends are there for you and how many will tell you it will be okay. The fact is, it will not. It will be with you for the rest of your life, however long or short it may be. Every time you think of it you'll lose a piece of yourself. You'll want to talk but feel no one is around who knows your pain, so you end up keeping it inside, and slowly dying. I speak from experience, as my fiancé committed suicide in April. It's completely changed who I am, making me basically a shadow of my former self. There is some good to be had. In time, you'll learn to remember them for how they made you feel. You may even manage a smile amidst the tears. I try to, so believe me when I say I know it is hard. You'll learn to take no one's love for granted as you might have in the past. You'll cherish all the time you can spend with people. You'll try to help everyone else around you, sacrificing yourself in the process, believing you are trying to find yourself. You'll do anything and everything to keep your mind off it. Doing something to keep your mind off it is all you can do to try to keep your sanity. At night, you'll try to sleep. You'll toss and turn, wishing, praying, willing to give anything for one more night beside your loved one. I know this because I am still doing it and it's nearly been a year. It is a rough thing to go through, but you will smile again. Your pain will be less noticeable as time goes on. It'll still stay as sharp as ever, the only thing that changes is you growing numb to the feeling, as you get used to it with each passing day. Even though it has been over a year since yours has died, I know you are still suffering a tremendous amount. If you want to talk about things, send me a personal message on here, provided this site allows it (this being my first visit and subsequent post to this site, I am not sure what is allowed here). If you'll allow me, I will try to help you myself. If you accept, I guarantee I'll try my best to get you to smile and mean it. Until then, take care.

From the US to the UK
Armando

I know exactly what you are going through. It hasnt yet been 4 months, but I have lost my fiance as well. He died November 12th, even though technically when we took him off life support, it was the 13th.
He's the love of my life & as much as I'd like to talk to his family about what Im going through, It feels like no one understands.

Id really like to talk to you & see how you survived. I know a year has past and Im sure you are so much stronger now, than you were before.
Im still mourning and I'd love someone to talk to who understands my pain.

*Ericka* aka ~Jasper's Wife~

My personal information is posted in my profile on here. Feel free to get in touch with me, Ericka.

I too lost my fiancé a month and a half ago (march 18). I'd like to know how you are coping because your words over a year ago echo my thoughts EXACTLY. I am LOST without him. He was my reason for getting out of bed in the morning, for being who I was, for breathing! And to make matters worse, he died so tragically and I'm having issues with his family (they are making things a competition between our love for him - his sister mainly). Please contact me. I need to know from someone who went through what I am currently going through.

AntMaria, please get in contact with me. I will try my best to help you out. My personal information is in my profile.

Luscarion, I looked up your info in your profile but didn't see any contact info. Have you gone through something like this? We were supposed to get married 2 months from today...

That's odd, my contact information is deleted. My AIM is xmiliardox, my MSN is luscarion @ hotmail, and my Yahoo is luscarion. You can reach me at any of those. And yes, I lost my fiancé a bit more than a year ago.

I'm very sorry for your loss. My husband, the love of my life after years of destructive relationships (yes, the prince who finally came along) is dying of brain cancer after 12.5 wonderful years of marriage and togetherness.

Even though I'm a grief counselor and have a full life, I grieve the pending loss every single day. I know how "lost without you" feels as he's been here but not really here the past 8 months. We both struggled before we met, doing our best without the support of our families, raising children alone. We came together and found a true partner and friend and lover. Fantastic.

Just as our youngest is getting ready for college and we had so many plans when we were FINALLY child-free (my oldest is 30 and our youngest is 15), he fell ill. I feel as if I have been so robbed. So very robbed. While at the same time I am grateful to have had the love of such a special person.

My suggestions to you are the same I'd give anyone, including myself. See if you can find a grief or bereavement group. Read The Grief Recovery Handbook and work through the loss with someone else who has had a loss. Read "Grieving: How To Go On Living After Someone You Love Has Died" by Therese Rando
The Centering Corporation also has good literature. I have a link to it on my blog about Michael's illness: RopeBurns (http://RopeBurns.wordpress.com) as well as other resources.

There are so many hopes and dreams to be grieved along with the person. It's a shattering loss but I believe that you can and will heal and go on. Difficult to imagine now but those who face their grief come out on the other side.

Wishing you peace in your heart.

Susan

Hi, I just found this post. I was looking for something that might help me. My fiancé was killed 3 weeks ago and I am having a really difficult time with it. I was just wondering if I could talk to someone that has been through this.

Thank you

I understand how you feel, 7 weeks ago I woke up to go to the bathroom around 4am of a Saturday and realize that my fiancée ( we lived together for more than 3 years and were going to get merry in 2 week after his death) wasn't on bed.. I started calling him but he did not answer me, so I went downstairs looking for him and found him dead on our kitchen. I was in shock I could not believe that life could just flip like that! I said to myself "wake up! this isn't real you guys just got this house a year ago, wake up , this isn't real you are 6 weeks pregnant! oH my god he is dead!. . .

I still stay on the same house where all that happend, if i were to try to sell the house I will end up owning the bank... i can't run, there's no where to run, if god put me thru this he will get me out!, I just can't see how but i believe that no more than ever we are just a dash in a paragraph, i never had control of life so i won't have it now. All I can do at this moment is keep breathing, keep waking up and just see live minute by minute but having very clear that I will not leave this life unless god call me over, and hopefully one day i get to see my angel again.

the pain is so big that somethimes it feels like burning alive but all i can do is make it thru one day at the time. i say to myself "just today I won't see him, just for today".

I miss him a lot, it feels like braking inside, alrefy broke, but as long as I keep brething I may be able to see him one day...

Its just today without him

I'm so so sorry for your pain, that is an awful thing to happen to anyone.:(

You really need to start a new thread, or post a question or statement so people can respond.
The one you posted on is old and you might not get the support you need.

Please keep the faith, it can get better!:)

I too loose my fiancé this year Jan 20th. He was murdered by someone. The day I heard a call from his fren, my life was totally lost. It was the most terrible thing that happened in my life. I loved my fiancé so much. I loved him crazily actually. I can't stay even 1 day without talking to him. Everyday I will hang with him on the phone. Since he was working outstation, I hardly see him. Ours was a long distance relationship. Although ours was a long distance relationship we loved each other so much. Ayappan loved me so much. We were actually planning for our wedding. Whenever he's down here for holidays, I spend good times with him. I can never forget those intimate time with him. We were so close to each other & loving. He was a perfect gentleman for me. I can't imagine my life without him. I also tried to suicide but didn't work out. My mum saved me. But my life is meaningless now. For what must I live? Why do I have to see my fiancé? Why did I loose him after 7 years? I love him so much but why did he have to go this way? God knows I love him so much.

I thought the same thing after a few days, I want to see my fiancé again. I will wait for him no matter how long it takes. Im praying to God so that I will see him one day. If I have to wait this whole life for him, I will definitely wait for him. I only want to see him again. I don't want anything else in my life. Once I get my fiancé back, everything will be back to normal. I'll be the most happiest person. Im willing to sacrifice anything for my fiancé. I only want my fiancé back. I know its impossible but if God wants he can create miracles in my life. I want a miracle in my life. I want to see my fiancé again. Im missing him so much. I truly love him a lot. As long as I'm alive, I will alwiz love him.

Im missing you so much my dear!! We will definitely meet again soon!! I believe God will unite us. God knows we love each other very much. God will unite us soon!! I love you so much darling!!

For everyone who has lost a partner (whether married or not) here... there is a great website called young widow's bulletin board. It's ywbb.org and it has been a lifesaver for me. Check it out. You can post about anything and the people are super supportive and helpful. Many posters lost a fiancé as opposed to a spouse, and there are special feelings and issues regarding that. Also there is a special posting area for Survivors of Suicide. I am also a widow (my hubby died 3 + years ago in an accidental whitewater kayak drowning, leaving me with a 23 month old boy and a 5 month old girl to raise alone) and still find it helpful. Best wishes for your pain to ease. Be easy on yourself and get the help you need.

Hey,I feel for you so much... im now 36 and don't talk about this a lot but when I was 18 my fiancé died in a car accident he was 18 as well... id been with him over 2 years he was and still is till this day the love of my life... he was on his way home from seeing me that night and fell asleep at the wheel... he left me that night smileing the next morning I was told he was gone... I was pregnant at the time and give birth to our daughter 2 weeks later, I have never felt so alone in my life,going threw the birth and knowing he would never see our child he would never even know he had a daughter... its now 17 years and I have never got over him.everyone tells me I need counselling... and I know they are right... I have wanted to give up so many times... I hate life but the best advice I can give you is to get counselling I know that had I got it years ago I wouldn't be the way I am today... god bless xx

I find it kind of ironic that I am posting on here nearly two years after her death, but I've just suffered through a relapse in thought. I let my mind wander and I started thinking about Jena again and it damn near brought me to my knees. Here I was thinking I was finally starting to become numb to the pain when, in reality, it only seemed to have opened up a new sense to feel it with. I deeply miss her and I wish above all else she were around with me. I got to say, the road does feel so cold and lonely, and I'm not even sure where I am going anymore. I'm sure I'll regain myself in a few days or so and continue to try to forget, but right now I can't seem to shake the pain. I'm thinking I might need to find a local support group or something...

If you feel you need help, seek out help for yourself.

It's a healing process and there is no "right" way to recover from grief. What you are experiencing is not alien to me - my life has gone on but there are still days when the grief comes back, certainly not as strong as it once was, but it does come back.

I lost my fiancée cole sept 18 2006 things won't be easy it wasent for me the most important thing is don't stay in your own head too much I know it's a lot easier said than done but if you do your just setting yourself up for bad thoughts and talk to family and friends there's no easy way to get through something like this and suicide is not the answer eventually you will want to live life again just give it time

I know how you feel... I wish I never do... but... its true
My fiancé... We should have wedding on 2 April 2010... I'm 32 he was... 41.. Kindest, smart, gentle... We never argue.. we just couldn't because cared and loved each other sooo much... God
I was waiting for him whole my life... He was my heart, my love, my soulmate... Best one , the only one... Same I was for him...
He got to hospital... Inside blooding... God know what was the reason... And they could do nothing... He never woke up... Two weeks before wedding... He was so excited about to live together and... Have kids... And I prayed so much for it... But...
It is not fair... I don't understand... And never will... I still think as if he alive... I can't let it go... Just can't... I don't know how to live...

I know how you feel... I wish I never do... but... its true
My fiancé... We should have wedding on 2 April 2010... I'm 32 he was... 41.. Kindest, smart, gentle... We never argue.. we just couldn't because cared and loved each other sooo much... God
I was waiting for him whole my life... He was my heart, my love, my soulmate... Best one , the only one... Same I was for him...
He got to hospital... Inside blooding... God know what was the reason... And they could do nothing... He never woke up... Two weeks before wedding... He was so excited about to live together and... Have kids... And I prayed so much for it... But...
It is not fair... I don't understand... And never will... I still think as if he alive... I can't let it go... Just can't... I don't know how to live...

I know how you feel... I wish I never do... but... its true
My fiancé... We should have wedding on 2 April 2010... I'm 32 he was... 41.. Kindest, smart, gentle... We never argue.. we just couldn't because cared and loved each other sooo much... God
I was waiting for him whole my life... He was my heart, my love, my soulmate... Best one , the only one... Same I was for him...
He got to hospital... Inside blooding... God know what was the reason... And they could do nothing... He never woke up... Two weeks before wedding... He was so excited about to live together and... Have kids... And I prayed so much for it... But...
It is not fair... I don't understand... And never will... I still think as if he alive... I can't let it go... Just can't... I don't know how to live...

What has been posted above also pertains to your situation. Your grief is so new, so fresh, that you cannot see beyond it.

You have to take care of yourself first, take each day at a time, gradually come to acceptance. Seek out a group if that will help you, find a friend who will listen, grieve at your own pace.

Did the funeral give you any comfort?

It's a long journey that you have just started. I wish you well and I'm so sorry for your loss.

I lost my brother 6 months ago how can I communicate with him

I lost my wife in 2009. She comes to me and shuts off the picture frame and I just talk to her. I go to mediums and they say that your love is with you. Just talk to him.

I know exactly how you feel on 2/3/10 my fiance' the love of my life, my heart, my soul, my everything was taken from me as well after an unexpected short illness.I was also 8mo pregnant with his only child. There is nothing anyone can say that will make the pain go away.. unless they can bring him back. Everyday I ask god "why" and " y not me instead". The only thing that gives me hope and comfort.. is thinking that there is an afterlife and he is still here with us. I try to talk to him daily and believe he can hear me. Somehow I feel he does. Its been 6 months on July 3rd and its only got harder. I hope 1 day I will find peace as well as yourself and everyone else who has lost someone they love. I don't really have any advice for u.. my hope is that you find comfort in knowing that someone else knows how you feel and is going through it 2.

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Of a truth, no one is able to communicate with dead loved ones. Biblically, if one dies in the Lord, he/she is just sleeping and waiting for the great day of awakening (when Jesus Christ will take his church bride). But once a person dies who is not in the Lord, he/she will temporarily go to the torment place called hell and no man is empowered to reach out for them there even our prayers (see the story in the Bible about Lazarus and the rich man who both died and their conversations with God).

What you can do is just reminisce the memories you have had with your precious loved one. I lost my father about 5 years ago but he is always alive inside my heart. Every time I miss him, I just go alone somewhere or go to his grave or take a look of his pictures when he is still alive.

I lost my husband last June, I have struggles with the same question all I want to do is feel him cuddle me and tell him how much I love him and miss him. I tell our son who is 5 that he can talk to daddy, daddy will always listen but unfortunetly he will never talk back, he crys saying "mummy i wish daddy had a phone in heaven so i could call him and ask him to come home" I try and think that where ever I am he is so he is hearing my thoughts. They are the lucky ones I believe they are content and happy they feel no pain, we are the ones left to del with grief and that feeling of something missing until we meet them again. Xxx

I lost my grandmother before I was born.. my Mother always told me I could talk to her whenever I wanted and I did. As I'm getting older I'm truly realizing how much I miss her even though I never knew her. I am now 14. And when I think of her, talk about her, or even look at her picture it makes me cry. Honestly, earlier today I grabbed her picture and was just talking to her. I talked, and talked, and cried, and cried hoping she would somehow respond. But unfortunately I know that's not possible... I am named after her, which makes me feel like I have some kind of connection with her I will always love her... <3

I lost my grandmother before i was born.. my Mother always told me i could talk to her whenever i wanted and i did. as i'm getting older i'm truley realizing how much i miss her even though i never knew her. I am now 14. and when i think of her, talk about her, or even look at her picture it makes me cry. Honestly, earlier today i grabbed her picture and was just talking to her. i talked, and talked, and cried, and cried hoping she would somehow respond. but unfortunatly i know thats not possible... i am named after her, which makes me feel like i have some kind of connection with her i will always love her... <3


Grief is a very odd thing and everyone grieves in a different manner.

If you are missing someone you never met, crying when you think of her, talking (and crying) over her picture I suspect there are other issues in your life, and you have chosen this form of grief in order to cope.

You cannot "miss" someone who was never part of your life.

Have you ever considered talking to someone about your grief and this particular issue?

I know what you are going through so many unanswered questions and broken dreams I still feel him with me

On June 24th, 2001, my mother died from breast cancer... I was 11 years old. I am 21 now and just recently lost my step mother in aug 2011 from the SAME THING my mom died from ten years ago. I miss them both very much and I have learned and taught myself how to cope with these facts. I can tell you it is very hard for awhile to get used to the pain and the loss of a parent at a young age. I didn't know what happened or what death was until my mom didn't come home from the hospital. At the funeral I think I realized it. But I have been through some grieving classes as a child and they really do help.. along with some therapy because of the P.T.S. (post tramatic stress). I ALWAYS talk to my mother and her grave is an hour away from where I live. You don't have to go to their grave to talk or to remember. Take time to yourself and talk to the loved one and if you relax your brain, and listen hard enough, you can at least feel their presence and what they are attempting to say. I can feel my mom sometimes... like if she's happy with me or not. Our bond was amazing growing up for those 11 years. I miss her more and more everyday. Just try and feel them. Their always with us just not in human form. You will always be missed and remembered. M.L.R 6-24-01<3 & J.L.C 8-22-11<3

I lost my mother 6 years ago and my brother 32 years ago I want to know if they are around me

I used to be able to see and talk to my brother when I was young but now it seems like I need to regain being able to communicate with him

None of us here are psychics, if that is what you are asking.

Some people believe that their deceased loved ones are always with them. Others do not.

It's a matter of your personal belief but no one here knows if your mother and brother are around you.

If you used to see your deceased brother but can no longer see him, we also don't know why - again, it's probably a matter of personal belief.