leoparedgirl41
Jul 27, 2007, 03:44 PM
My boyfriend of two years broke my heart a few weeks ago. He broke up with me. He made love with me twice on Wendesday. On Thursday he broke up with me over the phone. He was very curt with me. Raising his voice but not quiet yelling. I did not argue or ask him to stay. He had broken up with me once before, three months prior to this. When we got back together we spoke of marriage but he never officially asked. He had suggested living together for awhile first. I agreed with this.
I was already looking for a house for me and my nine year old. We talked about getting a three bedroom so his two children would have a room when they visited us. He helped me look at houses . I narrowed my choices down to two and he decided which was best. He would ask questions like: Where are my bookcases going to go? Who's tables to use? etc. Three weeks into escrow he told me that he just felt that it was too much commitment to live together now. I told him that it was okay. I was getting scared also and we could talk about it again in a year or so.
A few weeks later he calls me to say I'm OUT. I tried to give you hints. I guess I have to just come right out and say it. I do not want to get married. I do not want to live together. I do not want a future with you! I was speechless. I asked how long had he been thinking about breaking up this time? He said,(in a raised voice) what does it matter. He told me to just let him go. I said no problem. He had made arrangements for my son,s Xbox 360 to be repaired. It was to be sent back to his address due to our impending move. I asked if he had put it in the mail he said Yes. He told me he would make sure I got everything that belonged to me back. He would not screw me over. He still has many of my sons games at his house.
I went to his place four days later to give him his key. I told him I was sorry for showing up without calling first. I told him that I missed him a hell of a lot. Not the boyfriend so much as I thought I would. But my buddy, I miss so much ( I tapped at my chest twice.) He said you. Then he said, do you want your key back? I said I guess so. I took my key and walked to my car. I turned and said( when some time has past maybe we can be friends) he shook his head yes.
One week later I went into a restaurant to join my large family for a birthday celebration. He was setting across the way at the table that we set at on our first date. He was with his parents and wearing a shirt I had gave to him. His mom hugged me. His dad said I looked pretty. I told him hello. He turned his head towards me with out really looking at me and nooded his head. He then zipped his head right back toward his father. I had to leave I was starting to cry and did not want them to see me like that.
My son stayed with my family. After I left my ex spoke to my son. That night I called him but he did not answer. I left a message that said I was sorry if he was uncomfortable at the restaurant. I was shocked to see them there and I was sure he had been also. I thanked him for speaking to my son. I said that it means a lot to me. I told him that the boy missed him.
Two days ago I called him, He did not answer. I left a message stating that I wanted to speak to him. That it was not about us or getting back together. I said that I did not know if it was a bad idea but I sure needed to talk with my friend. To call me if you want to. He has not called back.
My question is why after being togther for two years, getting along great, only having one argument in all that time and being kind to each other would he not even say hello at the restaurant. I understand he is done with me and chose not want to return my phone call. God, he did not even look at me in the restaurant. Why?
I was already looking for a house for me and my nine year old. We talked about getting a three bedroom so his two children would have a room when they visited us. He helped me look at houses . I narrowed my choices down to two and he decided which was best. He would ask questions like: Where are my bookcases going to go? Who's tables to use? etc. Three weeks into escrow he told me that he just felt that it was too much commitment to live together now. I told him that it was okay. I was getting scared also and we could talk about it again in a year or so.
A few weeks later he calls me to say I'm OUT. I tried to give you hints. I guess I have to just come right out and say it. I do not want to get married. I do not want to live together. I do not want a future with you! I was speechless. I asked how long had he been thinking about breaking up this time? He said,(in a raised voice) what does it matter. He told me to just let him go. I said no problem. He had made arrangements for my son,s Xbox 360 to be repaired. It was to be sent back to his address due to our impending move. I asked if he had put it in the mail he said Yes. He told me he would make sure I got everything that belonged to me back. He would not screw me over. He still has many of my sons games at his house.
I went to his place four days later to give him his key. I told him I was sorry for showing up without calling first. I told him that I missed him a hell of a lot. Not the boyfriend so much as I thought I would. But my buddy, I miss so much ( I tapped at my chest twice.) He said you. Then he said, do you want your key back? I said I guess so. I took my key and walked to my car. I turned and said( when some time has past maybe we can be friends) he shook his head yes.
One week later I went into a restaurant to join my large family for a birthday celebration. He was setting across the way at the table that we set at on our first date. He was with his parents and wearing a shirt I had gave to him. His mom hugged me. His dad said I looked pretty. I told him hello. He turned his head towards me with out really looking at me and nooded his head. He then zipped his head right back toward his father. I had to leave I was starting to cry and did not want them to see me like that.
My son stayed with my family. After I left my ex spoke to my son. That night I called him but he did not answer. I left a message that said I was sorry if he was uncomfortable at the restaurant. I was shocked to see them there and I was sure he had been also. I thanked him for speaking to my son. I said that it means a lot to me. I told him that the boy missed him.
Two days ago I called him, He did not answer. I left a message stating that I wanted to speak to him. That it was not about us or getting back together. I said that I did not know if it was a bad idea but I sure needed to talk with my friend. To call me if you want to. He has not called back.
My question is why after being togther for two years, getting along great, only having one argument in all that time and being kind to each other would he not even say hello at the restaurant. I understand he is done with me and chose not want to return my phone call. God, he did not even look at me in the restaurant. Why?