View Full Version : The End of the Assertive Male
toonking
Apr 30, 2005, 11:38 PM
What's going on with the world?? Everywhere I turn, men are becoming less and less assertive. I'm not talking about assertive as in arrogant pompous , but assertive as in actually making a decision sans drama. Ordering food, ordeal! Choosing what to do, ordeal! TELLING A WOMAN EXACTLY WHAT'S GOING THROUGH HIS MIND, ORDEAL!!
Geeezus!! I grew up with a sensibility of the old-fashioned way of doing things. On a date, I make the reservation, I drive, I pay. Not because I'm superior or sexist or trying to prove anything, but simply because that's how I was raised. She can pay if she likes, but I always offer first.
Are men becoming more like girls, and girls becoming more like men? Perhaps a new epidemic is sweeping America. Don't have a name forr it yet, but it seemss to turn decent men into hesitant, limp spined wimps.
Wildcat21
May 1, 2005, 11:24 AM
AMEN! My brother. This is the type of stuff woman want!!
Men have been programed to thinking that woman want a 'girlfriend'/equal as a boyfriend!! They MAY tell you they want that - BUT, what woman prefer and what they ACTUALLY want/feel... are TWO WAY different things!!
Woman don't want a WUSSS. Men have to make decisions!! Be the leader.
Don't be her 'girlfriend' EVER - don't dicuss her problems until you're married.
For some reawson most men have been programed to be pussys/wussys.
Woman want the strong/silent type. No needy-clingy crap. They want you around when they need you. For some reason guys have been programmed by most mothers to kiss-womans-asses - THEY DON'T want this!!
Until a man realize what you said he will have massive amounts of heartache. Be a freaking MAN about things - woman have plenty of girlfriends - she DOESN'T need another girlfriend.
Never put a woman ahead of you - they will llove you for this.
Wildcat21
May 1, 2005, 11:36 AM
BTW - this is the type of stuff I have been preaching since January. Woman want a guy who has a life.
Too many guys get way too attached to a woman - she shouldn't be that important in the beginning. Seriously.
Being 'nice' is NOT the way to go - you got these guys who think all they can do is be agreeable - stand your ground a say what YOU believe in.
I am sure there will be woman here who will argue with me... but in the end, they know I'm right.
Woman need a man who make them feel safe - someone who could take care of them if need be.
toonking
May 1, 2005, 05:47 PM
Yes. That's right.
Finally!! Widcat 21 agrees with me. The end of the world is tomorrow.
Wildcat21
May 1, 2005, 07:59 PM
That girly man niceness - nice guy - -kisser is what ALWAYS gives guys heartbreak. Woman HATE this. They say they want a 'nice guy'. BUT, what they say they want and actually want are TWO different things.
Woman want a strong, silent, jerk-like tendemcies - , Kind (not nice), emotionally independent.
think
May 4, 2005, 02:56 AM
For some reawson most men have been programed to be pussys/wussys.
What a thread! You guys might want to check this out..
http://www.savethemales.ca
Wildcat21
May 4, 2005, 07:55 AM
Check these sites out as well:
www.sosuave.com
www.relationships.blog-city.com
CroCivic91
May 4, 2005, 09:56 AM
www.relationships.blog-city.com
Man, this site is full of infos! Will be reading it for the next few weeks :) My head is already spinning from all the "illogical" stuff! :)
Wildcat21
May 4, 2005, 10:31 AM
Learn it - so you understand woman
toonking
May 4, 2005, 12:26 PM
THIS is what I'm talking about.
Great links. Great reading.
"Men Are Fron Mars, Women Are From Venus" sucks!!
Dr. Phil? Phhhhhhhfffff.
Wildcat21
May 4, 2005, 01:09 PM
John Gray - Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus...
That joker got me in so much trouble in younger days. That stuff is worthless - it helps in what woman think - BUT, they don't want you to react that way!
He tried to pussify me. He made MEN Wussys!! Woman ultimate HATE Nice Guys - it's what kills marriages!!
HANK
May 4, 2005, 01:45 PM
A conclusion is the place where you got tired of thinking.
HANK :)
lawnshark
Jul 17, 2008, 02:01 PM
Girls just want to be more independent, not like a 50's houswive! They feel that they want guys to know they have paychecks too and they can fend for themselves. And don't complain, at least u don't have to pay, u should be thankful! And remember, be careful what u wish 4!