jbhl
Jan 15, 2013, 10:26 PM
I'm 19, 20 in less than 2 months, I'm in college, I have a job, a boyfriend and no friends. I've been dating the same man for years, and am a very very private person. Even in high school and junior high I knew people and spoke to them but never really held a deep connection to anyone because I never wanted people to know more than they needed to: that I'm a decent person, reliable, and honest. That is it. If ever there was drama, it was between me and the other party, no advice asking, no "just wanna talk"-ing, and no "confiding". I realize that it's something my mother desperately wants me to do with her.
She wants me to tell her where I am going, when I will be back. But my personal record for outings is always 10am-4pm, no later than 4:30pm, never on weekends though because that's the only time the entire family is home. I don't do bad things, ever. If I don't want people knowing me and judging me, why would I put myself in the position to be judged? That being said, all I want my mother to know is the same as I expect everyone else to know: I'm a good girl, reliable, and honest. Whether I spend all my days with the same man in his room, alone, (honestly playing rockband, diablo, halo, pizza, and the occasional loveystuff *ahem) is something I want kept between me and him only. That's it.
But she asks about my whereabouts, gives me a hoot n holler every time because she doesn't know if I'm safe or not, that good girls shouldn't go out, "don't you know that you're precious to me!?", trying to keep me safe all of that good-mother stuff that I do appreciate the sentiment, but I'm an adult and prefer my business to be my own. Is it wrong for me to not want to talk to her about my life?
She wants me to tell her where I am going, when I will be back. But my personal record for outings is always 10am-4pm, no later than 4:30pm, never on weekends though because that's the only time the entire family is home. I don't do bad things, ever. If I don't want people knowing me and judging me, why would I put myself in the position to be judged? That being said, all I want my mother to know is the same as I expect everyone else to know: I'm a good girl, reliable, and honest. Whether I spend all my days with the same man in his room, alone, (honestly playing rockband, diablo, halo, pizza, and the occasional loveystuff *ahem) is something I want kept between me and him only. That's it.
But she asks about my whereabouts, gives me a hoot n holler every time because she doesn't know if I'm safe or not, that good girls shouldn't go out, "don't you know that you're precious to me!?", trying to keep me safe all of that good-mother stuff that I do appreciate the sentiment, but I'm an adult and prefer my business to be my own. Is it wrong for me to not want to talk to her about my life?