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jay-lynn11
May 31, 2012, 05:38 PM
What should I do my ex boyfriend and I broke up because or some stuff that was happening its been 2 monthes since we broke up and everybody knows I still like him and people are saying he still likes me and I'm to scared to talk to him, what should I do I've already messed everything up and I don't want to fail again

Homegirl 50
May 31, 2012, 05:42 PM
How old are you?
Why did you break up?
Did he break up with you? If so, if he wanted you back he would approach you.
What happened that you are scared to talk to him?

jay-lynn11
May 31, 2012, 05:47 PM
I'm OK for now
We broke up cause people were saying stuff about him and another girl
I broke up with him, then we got back together for 1/2 a day then I said something but meant it differently
I don't know I just freeze up my heart starts raceing and I can't speak and I'm scared of what he might say

Alty
May 31, 2012, 05:53 PM
The choice is yours.

You can tell him that you forgive him, and ask if he wants to be your boyfriend again, or you can remain silent and hope that he come to you, or, you can forget him and move on.

Those are you choices.

I realize that your afraid, but fear never amounts to anything other than lost chances.

Besides, what are you afraid of? Afraid he'll say "no, I don't want to date you?" You're already broken up, so you'll be no worse off than you are now. But, what if you tell him you still like him, and he says "I feel the same way. Let's date again"?

You won't get anything if you're too afraid to try.

jay-lynn11
May 31, 2012, 05:56 PM
But it was my fault and no he could do worse then say no trust me we've known each other for 2 years and we dated for 6 months

Alty
May 31, 2012, 05:59 PM
but it was my fault and no he could do worse then say no trust me we've known each other for 2 years and we dated for 6 months

Your fault, his, it doesn't change my answer. Your options are still the same.

jay-lynn11
May 31, 2012, 06:00 PM
Your fault, his, it doesn't change my answer. Your options are still the same.

OK thanks I guess ill try tmo and let you know what happened p.s. he knows I still like him

Alty
May 31, 2012, 06:12 PM
ok thnx i guess ill try tmo and let you know what happened p.s. he knows i still like him

Then go for it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. It's a lesson that's hard to learn, and requires a lot of chutzpah, but what do you have to lose? You already lost it. There's nothing but gain here, either way.

jay-lynn11
Jun 2, 2012, 06:00 AM
Then go for it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. It's a lesson that's hard to learn, and requires a lot of chutzpah, but what do you have to lose? You already lost it. There's nothing but gain here, either way.



I'm sorry I couldn't I was to shy :(

farmgirl13
Jun 2, 2012, 07:44 AM
Do you guys still talk to each other? That is a good way to get where you want to be then

Homegirl 50
Jun 2, 2012, 07:56 AM
How old are you?
You dated a guy for 6 months and are too shy to talk to him now?

jay-lynn11
Jun 2, 2012, 11:26 AM
do you guys still talk to each other? that is a good way to get where you want to be then

No we haven't really talked we talk but not a lot its usually just saying hey and how are you nothing more I want to talk to him but I just can't

Homegirl 50
Jun 2, 2012, 11:39 AM
Well if you can't talk to him there is nothing we can help you with. You dated him for 6 months. How can you be too shy to talk to him?
You have to take the first step.

jay-lynn11
Jun 2, 2012, 11:44 AM
Well ifd you can't talk to him there is nothing we can help you with. You dated him for 6 months. How can you be too shy to talk to him?
You have to take the first step.

I was going to on Friday only he was sick

Homegirl 50
Jun 2, 2012, 11:48 AM
Does he have a phone? Call him

jay-lynn11
Jun 2, 2012, 11:52 AM
do you guys still talk to each other? that is a good way to get where you want to be then

Yeah sometimes

jay-lynn11
Jun 2, 2012, 11:54 AM
Does he have a phone? Call him

I don't know his dads number but ik his moms but I don't know if he'll be at his moms anytime soon his dads sick really sick

jay-lynn11
Jun 2, 2012, 11:56 AM
How old are you?
You dated a guy for 6 months and are too shy to talk to him now?

I'm 14
Well I don't know what his friends would think they hate me and he lives for his friends

farmgirl13
Jun 2, 2012, 11:56 AM
That's good do you say how you are are? Does he ask? Maybe text him your feelings or write down your feelings and give it to him, people actually can be more themselves when they are almost hiding behind a screen or paper

jay-lynn11
Jun 2, 2012, 11:59 AM
thats good do you say how you are are? does he ask? maybe text him your feelings or write down your feelings and give it to him, people actually can be more themselves when they are almost hiding behind a screen or paper

OK ill write him a note my little bro distroyed my cell (hes 5) thanks ill try

Homegirl 50
Jun 2, 2012, 02:30 PM
im 14
well idk what his friends would think they hate me and he lives for his friends
Well if he lives for his friends and they hate you, why do you even want him back? Sounds like too much drama to me.
You're 14. There will be other boys.

And could you not write in text?

Alty
Jun 2, 2012, 04:33 PM
im sorry i couldn't i was to shy :(

Then you've made your choice.

jay-lynn11
Jun 4, 2012, 02:56 PM
Well if he lives for his friends and they hate you, why do you even want him back? Sounds like too much drama to me.
You're 14. There will be other boys.

And could you not write in text?

His friends don't like me but they got along with me and he liked/still likes me I talked with him today he knows how I feel but he doesn't want to tell me how he feels he says he might later, I can't text him my little brother broke my cell

Homegirl 50
Jun 4, 2012, 03:23 PM
his friends dont like me but they got along with me and he liked/still likes me i talked with him today he knows how i feel but he doesn't want to tell me how he feels he says he might later, i can't text him my little brother broke my cell
He might tell you later? What kind of mess is that!
That is silly. So what are you going to do wait around until he makes up his mind to tell you if he still likes you?

jay-lynn11
Jun 4, 2012, 03:31 PM
He might tell you later? What kind of mess is that!
That is silly. So what are you going to do wait around until he makes up his mind to tell you if he still likes you?

Good point I should just give up, he probably hates me, what's the point of loving someone when they hate you

Alty
Jun 4, 2012, 03:40 PM
good point i should just give up, he probly hates me, whats the point of loving someone when they hate you

Ah, teen drama.

You should just give up, but not because you think he hates you. You should give up because you obviously can't handle a relationship. You can't even talk to him, you're "too shy". So give up on him, get a backbone, and try again when you're a bit older and a lot more mature.

jay-lynn11
Jun 4, 2012, 03:46 PM
Ah, teen drama.

You should just give up, but not because you think he hates you. You should give up because you obviously can't handle a relationship. You can't even talk to him, you're "too shy". So give up on him, get a backbone, and try again when you're a bit older and a lot more mature.

I'm to shy because I'm scared I'm going to hurt him again I'm the one who broke up with him he forgave me right after but I said something wrong that I dident mean to say and I don't want to hurt him its bad enuff his dads dying,I want to be there for him I really do, if he does hate me then what?

Homegirl 50
Jun 4, 2012, 03:46 PM
good point i should just give up, he probably hates me, whats the point of loving someone when they hate you
I doubt he hates you. He is all of what 14 or 15. He probably is just being a teenage boy. You are too young to date anyway and as shy as you are and as desperate as you seem about this boy, you can be easily taken advantage of.
Leave him alone.

jay-lynn11
Jun 4, 2012, 03:56 PM
I doubt he hates you. He is all of what 14 or 15. he probably is just being a teenage boy. You are too young to date anyway and as shy as you are and as desperate as you seem about this boy, you can be easily taken advantage of.
Leave him alone.

I'm to shy because I'm scared I'm going to hurt him again I'm the one who broke up with him he forgave me right after but I said something wrong that I dident mean to say and I don't want to hurt him its bad enuff his dads dying,I want to be there for him I really do, if he does hate me then what?

Alty
Jun 4, 2012, 04:09 PM
im to shy because im scared im going to hurt him again im the one who broke up with him he forgave me right after but i said something wrong that i dident mean to say and i dont want to hurt him its bad enuff his dads dieing,i want to be there for him i really do, if he does hate me then what?

I doubt he hates you, but the fact is, you aren't ready to date. Everything you've posted on this thread has shown that you're not ready.

I would give up trying to get him back as a boyfriend, and try to be his friend instead. But, you will have to talk to him if you want to be his friend.

I understand being shy. I was very shy as a teen. But really, what's the worst that can happen if you talk to him? He either falls into your arms telling you how much he misses you, or tells you he just wants to be friends, or tells you to leave him alone forever. No matter what he says, you won't be any worse off than you are now.

jay-lynn11
Jun 5, 2012, 12:07 PM
I doubt he hates you, but the fact is, you aren't ready to date. Everything you've posted on this thread has shown that you're not ready.

I would give up trying to get him back as a boyfriend, and try to be his friend instead. But, you will have to talk to him if you want to be his friend.

I understand being shy. I was very shy as a teen. But really, what's the worst that can happen if you talk to him? He either falls into your arms telling you how much he misses you, or tells you he just wants to be friends, or tells you to leave him alone forever. No matter what he says, you won't be any worse off than you are now.

We talked to day at lunch like normal friends it was great I told him I have to give him a note because I can't say what I want to say in front of him cause I can't think when I'm around him he said OK so I'm writing it to him he says he'll do the same to tell me how he feels is that a good thing or a bad thing

Homegirl 50
Jun 5, 2012, 12:32 PM
I supposed it's what kids your age do. If it works, that's good but at some point you are going to have to talk to each other. You guys are not ready to date, or hold enough for that matter.

jay-lynn11
Jun 5, 2012, 01:51 PM
I supposed it's what kids your age do. If it works, that's good but at some point you are going to have to talk to each other. You guys are not ready to date, or hold enough for that matter.

I'LL tell you if it works on tuseday all the gr 8's are leaveing tmo for there end of year trip to ottawa and will be back on Monday so I'll give the note to him then k

Homegirl 50
Jun 5, 2012, 02:05 PM
Good luck

jay-lynn11
Jun 11, 2012, 03:32 PM
Good luck

Tomorrow I give him the note I'm nervice

Alty
Jun 11, 2012, 03:34 PM
tomorow i give him the note im nervice

Nervous. I'd spell check the note before you give it to him. ;)

Don't be nervous. Whatever happens, happens. At least you tried. That's all you can do.

jay-lynn11
Jun 15, 2012, 12:42 PM
Nervous. I'd spell check the note before you give it to him. ;)

Don't be nervous. Whatever happens, happens. At least you tried. That's all you can do.


My friend had to give the note to him I've been home sick I still am sick so on Monday ill tell you what he said

jay-lynn11
Jun 22, 2012, 01:00 PM
Nervous. I'd spell check the note before you give it to him. ;)

Don't be nervous. Whatever happens, happens. At least you tried. That's all you can do.

It dident go well at all :'( he riped it up in my face and yelled till I cryed I should have done nothining I thank you for the good advice

Homegirl 50
Jun 22, 2012, 01:05 PM
I'm sorry that happened. Hopefully now you know where you stand with him and you can move on.

jay-lynn11
Jun 22, 2012, 01:08 PM
I'm sorry that happened. Hopefully now you know where you stand with him and you can move on.

His new girlfriend also yelled at me I'm getting over him slowly but I'm doing better then I was when he and she did that

Homegirl 50
Jun 22, 2012, 01:09 PM
Good. He does not sound like he was worth the grief anyway.
Enjoy your summer

jay-lynn11
Jun 22, 2012, 01:11 PM
Good. He does not sound like he was worth the grief anyway.
Enjoy your summer

Thank you and I hope you also have a good summer