I can't believe I missed this thread!!

Dear ex,

I have mixed feelings for you. Sometimes I wish you happiness and hope you will find someone you'll love like you loved me but never cheat on them, grow up to be a great person; sometimes I wish you'll be cheated on and treated badly by your next girlfriend.

I have mixed feelings for you, sometimes I'm scared you will get mad at me for breaking it off after you cheated on me 3 times and lied to me constantly, do something stupid to hurt me. Sometimes I silently wish you good luck for the rest of your life. Sometimes I think we will run into each other in a few years and just smile, everything will stay in the past and we will remember the good times.

You gave me the best present in the world by treating me so badly and making me change my life just to dump me afterwards. You showed me how much I can love, how much I do for a guy but the best of all, you showed me how I am capable of starting over and how strong I am.

So dear ex, I have mixed feelings, but none of them is even related to love. Hope you will find someone desperate enough to cope with all your selfishness and cheat on them a hundred times. Sincerely, panda.

I would like to add my two cents.

Dear Ex,
I hope you will be happy someday. You have had some tough breaks in life, and have come out of it a better person. I still love you and will always remember the wonderful times we had. We laughed all the time and looked out for each other. I know I was not perfect, so I couldn't really blame you for breaking up with me. It wasn't your fault that I couldn't give you the space you needed. I didn't mean to analyze everything you said and did. It wasn't your fault, it was mine. I guess I was born that way. I had a BIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIG MOUUUUTH. That's all it was. I tried to not let everything bother me, but I couldn't help it. I became too sensitive about everything. I was a big PAIN IN THE RUMP. I was lucky to have you in my life, and I blew it. I lost the best thing that ever happened to me. Because I never knew when to shut up.. I had a BIIIIIIIIIIG MOOOOOOOUTH.

Well I certainly feel so much better now..

To Whom it May Concern:

I am addressing this in the above manner because I don't know you. You can't be my ex because you are not the man I was with, not the person I knew and loved. You are a sad selfish excuse of a man so, please, let me start over.

Dearest **** Waffle:

There, that's better. More appropriate. Who do you think you are? What gave you the right to do what you did? I offered you everything even after you pulled this bull****. You know, for how I reacted you'd think I must condemn a polyamorus life style, it's not for me but I don't condemn it. What I do condemn is you... for telling me that we were in one months after you decided it on your own. What I do condemn is your cowardice for not telling me that there was another woman in the relationship until I asked about a couples vacation:

"I don't know I'd have to ask, *Lissa." you said.

"Who the f**k is Lissa?: I replied.

Surely you remember that exchange, that was when you told me of this arrangement I had neither been consulted on nor agreed to. That was when I offered you the world, just like I always had. I offered you an open relationship, you declined. I offered you a break, you declined. I offered you the option of ****ing anyone you pleased just outside of the bounds of the relationship, you declined. You told me "I can't be a cheater but, I also can't live with just one woman for the rest of my life." I was shocked and hurt, did you notice the pain in my eyes? Did you care? I asked you what the engagement ring was for, if it meant anything and you said you loved me and wanted me to be the first, the one you legally married. If I recall properly, I handed it back to you and said "I don't have time for the *****-***-ness." Then you put the cherry on top of the hurt sundae and questioned how I could be so selfish.

How could I be so selfish? How could you? I offered viable options, and when none of them fit what you want and what you needed I gave you freedom to have those things and you think I was selfish? I have news for you oh dear TW, having your own wants and desires is not selfish. I am a woman who deserves love and happiness and who deserves to not have to compromise. You deserve what you have and I deserve what I have.

I replaced you, with a joy I haven't in a long time, I found a man to take your spot. He treats me with respect and love. He communicates, compromises, and shares. TW, he is everything you promised and failed to deliver and more. He doesn't push, and whine, and insist on his way. He doesn't have the warped perception of human interaction that you do. I love him more than I ever loved you. I know you replaced me too, you're still with Lissa and you love her, but I see you're unhappy with her. She gives you the relationship logistics you wanted but, not the emotions that generally come with a committed relationship. She gives you only what she wants to give and not all of herself. What are you thinking? You deserve this, a person who won't give... who won't share... won't compromise. It's karma for what you did to me, I think, but I feel bad for you. So let me give you some advice, TW...

I didn't have time for the *****-***-ness then and I don't now. So, stop leaving me messages and emails about how your relationship with Miss.Lissa hurts and is so hard. Either accept and love what you have or move on. After all, life is short, TW, who had time for *****-***-ness. I most certainly don't and neither should you. I think you should know, I forgive you for what you did to me, though I joke about it to this day but, I don't forgive you for giving up the man I knew... the man I loved... the man who was good... to become this **** waffle. I will never forgive you for replacing my fiancé. He was a man who could have had it all... not just your sad sorry little life. Man up, TW, and maybe get back to someone who doesn't have to wallow in unhappiness.

Cheers.

Honey,
Your gone and I don't whether to smile or ****. Yes, you dumped me, but as I flush this chapter of my life down the toilet. Is it possible that you may afford me some closure on my journey?

Do you have any toilet paper?

Dear ex,
You've been hot and cold recently which confused me.you dumped me because you got jealous and I was stupid telling you what I shouldn't have. I know we hurt each other's feelings that time. You thought I did wrong but you never knew how loyal I was with you and how I didn't stop loving u. when were together, I really am so happy.I was about to move on till you came back.. I wish I could ask you if you still love me... why you give mixed signals.. are you sincere with me... its hard to come off desperate and lose you forever...

Kate

Its so hard to keep this feeling inside I love him so much but I'm scared... I really don't know what to do.. its so hard to pretend to be friends... its so hard to be tough..

He said it wasn't my fault that we split up. But I blame myself for it all... He was my best friend. My boyfriend. My love of my life. My cuddle monster. My goofball. My everything... And I threw it all away. I was just too insecure and jealous that he was giving a little attention to other girls but I should have just trusted him more and forgave him for the little mistakes. It's been five months and I feel like I'll honestly never love someone as much as I do him... Any guy I date doesn't even come close to the chemistry we had. I'm not even attracted to other guys as much as I am to him.. Every little flaw he had made me love him even more. I hate myself and probably always will... I've been thinking of moving far away maybe a few states over just to try getting over him. But I catch myself thinking, well if I move, then there's definitely no chance in ever falling in love again... Anyway, here's the letter I was so tempted to send him, but probably won't because I don't want to bug him and because I know it'll hurt even worse if he didn't say anything back.. I guess I'm afraid to hear what he would say back too..



Dear ex,
I'm sorry.. I wish I had been a better girlfriend. You were my everything and I didn't take the time to understand you better and what type of girl you wanted. I should have listened more. I shouldn't have put the problems on you.. I should have trusted you more. I should have forgiven you more. I should have cared with all my heart and never held back. It hurts so bad to know all the memories we once had together will slowly fade away.. Because those moments were the best times of my life. You were my best friend, and my the love of my life, and I've lost both.. The day we ended things I honestly didn't know what to do with myself. I hated you, for a split second, I hated you with a passion. But that went away instantly because I could never not love you.. So then I hated myself. I hated myself for letting you go. I hated myself for not continuing to fight for you. A relationship lasts if both of you are willing not to give up, if both of you are willing to stand up and still try every time one of you or both of you fall. I shouldn't have lost hope when we had problems along the way.. I never stopped and realized how much you did for me and how much you put up with. I never stopped and noticed how you always listened to my problems. I failed to see that you were making so many changes for me and I didn't make any for you.. I could have eased off the jealousy. I could have put my differences aside with others and became friends with your friends. I could have gave you more space and alone time but let you know I was still thinking of you. I could have gave you time to miss me.. I should have never put the burden of my pains on you either.. I'm sorry. And I wanted to thank you for talking to me about it too, no one's ever really cared, or acted like they did.. I pushed you away towards the end because I was afraid I'd make you hate me too, the way I hated myself. I really wish I hadn't though. I wish I had tried being close friends. I should have just stopped and listened. We could have stayed friends and maybe when you were ready, we could have gave it another shot. I was terrified I may lose you to another.. I couldn't imagine seeing you with other girls and them getting to date the man I was in love with. But I was selfish and didn't want to try any other way of fixing things other than my own. I come across our pictures and stuff from different things we did and I get an instant knot in my throat and pain in my chest because it hurts to know I'll never be able to experience that again. I tried so many new things with you that I don't see myself doing with anyone else. Anyone I date I compare to you and what we had and can honestly say no one's came close. I don't do it on purpose it just happens. You were the only one I could be myself around and I had the best times with. I loved everything about you Your amazing personality, caring, sweet, goofy, loving, handsome, in shape, clumsy, sexy, ambitious, smooth, laid back, spontaneous, respectful, daring, compassionate, hilarious, sarcastic, a good listener, independent, intellegent... You were everything I ever wanted. I was comfortable around you, I felt like you were my other half. You accepted me for my past and looked forward to the future and you made me fall head over heels for you. But my own insecurities screwed everything up... You were everything I ever wanted in a man and I don't see myself ever falling in love again. I guess I was just writing this in hopes that getting this off my chest and letting you know how I felt may help heal a broken heart... I'm sorry...

Dear ex,

You were such a waste of time... 4 years, and how stupid I was to tolerate your behavior for so long!?

Now I woke up and I can decide by my brain and not my heart to eliminate you from my life!!

I used to dream of having a family together, but I found out you were not in my dream, it was a face look like you, made by me, but it was not really you!

Anyway, I hope someone does to you, what you did to me, I really wish it!

Unless you appologize and prove that you are changed, which I don't think you will.

No cheers, no regards

(broke up 6 days ago!)

Dear Ex,

I wish the image I had of you in my head wasn't so horribly shattered in reality :(