I was thinking, for those of you, who still have some residual feelings, about the breakup of your relationship, what do you think about, posting an open letter to your Ex (leaving their name out of course) right here. Get out all those emotions you are keeping in, ask those questions that are in your head, say the things you wish you could say. Type it up, post it, and truly try and cleanse yourself of those thoughts and emotions preventing you from moving forward.

What I am hoping by suggesting this, is for those who really need to get that last bit of hurt out, who have been tempted to contact their ex to ask that unanswered question , perhaps it will help to do an open letter to your Ex. This could be your way of YOU closing this chapter and on your way to days where it truly is all about you!

If this isn't a good idea :o I would understand. Honest. I just want all of your hurts to leave you and this thought popped in my head as a way that may be able to help. I don't know :rolleyes: To be honest, in reading some of your post, I have been tempted to write the letter myself to some of these ex's... geeez.
So what do you think? Any one feel like starting the “ Open letter to my Ex” thread?

Allheart, I think this is a great idea since writing is very cathartic. I look forward to reading some letters!!

Here's my contribution:

Dear ex,
Die in a fire.


Yours truly

Here's my contribution:

Dear ex,
Die in a fire.


Yours truly

LMAO - Now see don't you feel better. I was hoping for some humor as well. Good for you. OMG!!

P.S. Tell that guy you're dating I hope he chokes.

I wish I could be bitter towards my ex... seems like it would be easier.

My letter would probably say something like, I wish you wouldn't see me as such a bad person since I didn't really do anything wrong. Haha now I sound pathetic.

Dear Ex-
I hope you get hit by a bus.. since everything was always my fault. Oh yea and I hope one day someone beats you the way you did me. I used to be mad at myself for letting you treat me this way, now Im mad at you for always being an . I hope your woman learns fast about you before you smack her around and call her stupid and she realizes its too late to run away because you will stalk her for the rest of her life as well. And oh yea its been 5 years please leave me alone. Im trying so hard to move on but you keep popping your head into my life> I want to get married and forget you ever existed!!

To my ex's,

Thank you for giving me the greatest gift of all. Freedom.

God, I could do this all day,

To my ex's

No matter how much time I spent with you and no matter how lost I could get in your eyes, I could never go completely insane like you are.

Love always

Dear ex,

Well, I see your life hasn't changed for the better since you split up with me. You said it yourself you haven't changed, still think you are 17, and take no responsibility for yourself or your future. I really doubt anyone will put up with what I did, and I think you lost a big part of your life when you lost me. I looked after you, supported you and was always there for you. So, you loved me but were not in love with me, we were too different, you said you changed into an a*****e near the end, you wanted a clean break but you wanted us to still be friends, you wanted me to still email you, - no wonder I was and still am a bit confused! You never would speak about your problems in your life, you just let them all pile up, and would get angry. I was the top of your list i.e. I think you thought life would be easier/better without me, Well is it?

wap : )

Hey I am in a really funny mood today, how about we send our exes a batch of spiders for Valentines day ha ha ! I am evil! Oh OK, I could never be evil I know!

My darling ex,
Well one year ago we were planning our wedding and today I sit here getting mails about how you found my photo from when I was a child and funny things that have been happening to you recently.
What the f*** is going on!
Did you not realise all the f****** hurt and damage you caused me when you left me to cancel everything and tell everyone while you f****** off and then if that was not bad enough to f*** me 3 months after that and have the nerve to call it love and feelings.

I hope your f****** life nowadays is all that you thought it would be and that you will seriously think before you tell someone else that you love her every day for 2 years , that she were the best thing that ever happened to you, want to be with her forever,and ask her to marry you. Get out of your dream world and start living in reality.

Your dear ex who is still alive today , I believe any other girl who had to put up with this situation would have ended her life by this stage.

You guys are doing so great with this. Do you know what the great things is, you can get it all out, not have to worry, what will they think , or will they respond or maybe I shouldn't say that. Guess what, say it…and free yourself from all of it. This can be your way of getting some internal control back. Good for all of you and go for it!!

Hoping this helps.

Allheart

Thanks allheart! Seriously therauputic.
Ahhh I feel better.

I would feel better if we all pay 10p for charity and line up to throw custards pies in their faces!

Gosh I nearly feel like sending it to him!!

Wow Rol, so honest! I can imagine you saying this to him face to face with a frying pan/rolling pin in your hand! Ha ha! Yeah, it's a shame we didn't get angry with them face to face or by phone/email - we are so polite aren't we?

Well when I talked with him at the end of October I did say some of those things, and told him how he will never find someone like me again, and in a few a years he will realise it but by then it will be too late, he agreed with what I said. I did raise my voice and get angry and it was the first time in our relationship that he saw that. Luckily there was no pan/rolling pin nearby lol ;-)

And it felt good to finally get angry with him as I had bottled in those feelings for 5 months.
It kind of helped me get to the next stage of healing and let him face the reality of what he had done.

Good for you Rol. I just got annoyed because my ex sweeps things under the carpet. When I saw him last month, he had obviously still been doing that, and just working to take his mind off things. Problems don't go away, you have to deal with things.

Dear Ex idiot type person…

You came home to a half empty house and when you left this morning you had no idea when you returned I and the cat would be gone.
I have no regrets well just one I left the rabbit but at least I know you took care of it, it was about all you were capable of doing.
I think the only thing in our 10 years together that you did right was take me to the edge of the pasture that showed me new life even though you did it without realising.
What I have now is 20 zillion times better than anything you could have given me and the best thing of all is I am loved by an honest man.
All I can hope is you learnt from why I left and you now treat your wife with a lot more respect than you ever did me and that your mother isn't as evil to her.
May you and your family be eternally happy and once again I thank you for setting me free into the arms of a man that really is a man.

Laura.

Dear Ex,

How does it feel now to be the poster boy for herpes? Guess life wasn't so bad with me after all! (he contracted herpes from his new wife and had the gall to accuse me of giving it to him before the divorce - just to prove him wrong, I went and got tested and mailed the resuilts not only to him but to his doctor and his biotch of a mother).

Allheart, I love this thread... You are a genius!!

Here goes,

Dear ex,

Thanks for revealing your true colours. In time you will realise what was special about me! Oh... if you want to do better than me, I suggest you change that picture of you laying half naked on a bed on that website. It is like a pervert or user magnet!

Your loving and caring ex,

***Thanks Allheart>>you made my day!! :)

Dear Mr. Handsome,

Thank you so much for being my first love. There is no one that I would have wanted to trust my heart to for the first time, then you. You were older and wiser than me, and protected me from things I never needed to be exposed to. I thought you were the most handsomest man from day one!! And so did all the girls, oh and so did you < LOL!! I know I was 21, but my mind was far younger, thank you for never getting frustrated or exposing my vulnerabilities.

Not sure why our roads went in different directions, but they did. I do have one regret, and that is not thanking you, for loving me in return, for putting a smile on my face and in my heart, for never being unkind to me or making me feel silly when I was being silly. Mostly, for having that twinkle in your eye, when you looked at me, I will forever cherish that memory. As well as the memory of you.


May you be resting in peace right now. I know that you are. What you think of me now, huh? Grew up a bit didn’t I. Watch over me, if you can and I will continue to pray for you.

You will forever be special to me, you will forever have a place in my heart.

Rest well Sweetheart (and don’t be chasing all the pretty angels)

Thanks rol - keep in mind - mine is about 20 years ago... so as time passes, thankfully
I can only remember the things that made me smile :)

Hugs to you.

Did he die?

did he die?

He did, a couple years back. I had lost contact with him, but did hear of his passing.
He was about 20 years older than me. He's at peace.

Hope I didn't make anyone sad.!

Keep those letters coming!!

He did, a couple years back. I had lost contact with him, but did hear of his passing.
He was about 20 years older than me. He's at peace.

Hope I didn't make anyone sad.!!!

Keep those letters coming !!!!


Ok its off topic but can I post a letter to my dad?

Dear ex,

I can't believe your feelings can come and go so fast, as if our relationship was a joke or something. When we first broke up, you said you wanted to remain friends, now I feel like you wish I would just disappear. I'm moving on, and I don't want to get back together. But I just think is sad about how much you have changed. I guess I never really got to know the real you. I gave you the space you wanted, yet you're still being so cold. Oh well, at least now I can accept that it's over.

I think your current lifestyle is really screw up though. I feel like you get high, so you can skip class and avoid to see me. I know you smoke pot everyday, just don't know how much. I hate how you would stay up all night to chill out with your friends, almost like everyday. I never knew how much of a pothead you are, and how much you rely on having company with your friends to be happy.

I wonder how you feel about me now, and if you ever meant anything that you once promised me. But those doesn't matter now, because they are things from the past.

So I hope you keep meeting b*tches from now on, and thanks for screwing with a poor innocent girl's heart. You stupid pothead!

Dear ex,

I've put your pictures to good use and ironically at the same time improved my dart game!

Always in your heart.

Ok its off topic but can i post a letter to my dad??

ABSOLUELTY!! Get writing girl!!

You guys are doing so great with this. Do you know what the great things is, you can get it all out, not have to worry, what will they think , or will they respond or maybe I shouldn’t say that. Guess what, say it…and free yourself from all of it. This can be your way of getting some internal control back. Good for all of you and go for it !!!

Hoping this helps.

Allheart

Okay in that vain I was holding this back and I'm going to type it. It's going to offend someone so if your easily offended stop now. Read at your own risk...


Dearest ex's... All of you. And the ones who weren't official ex's but still used me,

You know that old phrase that goes, "I wouldn't pee on you if you were on fire." Well I just want you to know that if you were on fire, you have nothing to worry about, because I would still pee on you.

Forever and Always a special place in my heart,
Chuff

He did, a couple years back. I had lost contact with him, but did hear of his passing.
He was about 20 years older than me. He's at peace.

Hope I didn't make anyone sad.!!!

Keep those letters coming !!!!

Chuuuuuf no I didn't make you sad!! Sad is not allowed :)

He was HOT! LOL :) and I was dupid :) but he loved me anyway :) He just had this way of walking... oh my!!

Ha ha that was the best yet Chuff!!
Pee on them all!!

What a great thread you have started DR Allheart.

<<Hope I didn't make anyone sad.! >>

Yes!!
But I was so angry earlier that I've kind of evened up a bit and back to normal now ;-)

What a great thread you have started DR Allheart.


Thanks Tal ;)

Wanted to do something, and short of me writing some of these ex's a letter, felt it may be a little more productive and what is turning out to be fun ( uh thanks Chuff), having the folks write the letters themselves. And what a fine job they are doing!!

Chuuuuuf no I didn't make you sad!!! Sad is not allowed :)

He was HOT !! LOL :) and I was dupid :) but he loved me anyway :) He just had this way of walking...oh my!!!

No, I wasn't sad at all. In fact I was very motivated to know that it is possible to date someone 20 years younger. That is my goal. When I'm 40 I want to date a 20 year old.

In fact I'm kind of surprised more women don't in a way. Older men are more mature, know what they want, and finacially comfortable. And I think many people would disagree with this but I'd think an older man would be less likely to cheat because he doesn't have the desire to hook up with every one he sees like many 20 year guys. I'd peg the older guy to be more loyal in that regard.

When I was 20 through 22 or 23 I went out with a woman who was 12 years older than me. I never gave it much thought. I worked with a beautiful girl who went out with a guy for 5 years that was 18 years older than her. She actually mentioned to me that guys in their 20's weren't mature and that was one of the things he liked about him.

No, I wasn't sad at all. In fact I was very motivated to know that it is possible to date someone 20 years younger. That is my goal. When I'm 40 I want to date a 20 year old.

In fact I'm kind of surprised more women don't in a way. Older men are more mature, know what they want, and finacially comfortable. And I think many people would disagree with this but I'd think an older man would be less likely to cheat because he doesn't have the desire to hook up with every one he sees like many 20 year guys. I'd peg the older guy to be more loyal in that regard.

When I was 20 through 22 or 23 I went out with a woman who was 12 years older than me. I never gave it much thought. I worked with a beautiful girl who went out with a guy for 5 years that was 18 years older than her. She actually mentioned to me that guys in their 20's weren't mature and that was one of the things he liked about him.

Chuff,

That's why I am so grateful to him. I felt safe. If that makes sense. I was very fortunate to fall that way. I really needed that maturity. All that you said was very true. Plus.. he was hot.. hee hee LOL. But I again am grateful. My head honestly was filled with nothing but air at that time, trusted and just loved the whole world , so at least I had some mature wisdom there to guide me a little better.

<<In fact I'm kind of surprised more women don't in a way. Older men are more mature, know what they want, and finacially comfortable>>

Well personally most of the early 30 something men I know these days are seriously in mid life crisis!! I'm actually beginning to think maybe it starts early these days before they settle down. So its true a guy of 40 is not a bad idea! Or get a young one and train him in!! ;-)

My Dearest Ann Marie (Yes this is a real ex)

After I picked up the pieces I was left with some of your clothing. I decided to do the right thing and donate them to a homeless shelter. When I got there I pulled out your clothes to display that were no holes in them. The homeless guy then said, "Hey don't these belong to Ann Marie?" Then another homeless guy said, "Yeah I'd recognize those anywhere they were always on the ground under the bridge!"

I guess I'm not surprised.
Chuff

This is the greatest thread ever!!

WARNING may contain saddness.

Dear Dad,

It will be 9 years this year that you left us, I have no pictures of you up anywhere that anyone can see because my memories of you are far from pleasant, you see I am not ever going to be able to remember the good times I was just to young all I see is the hurt you caused and the mess you left behind.
Never will I understand why you became the way you did but you never did find your answer at the end of a vodka bottle did you?
11 years old I was when you stopped being my dad and turned into this washed out pathetic mess that even my mum was to afraid to question all the screaming and the mental abuse no wonder I became such a hard faced person.
The day you died I was 230 miles away I hadn’t seen you for 5 weeks but I made sure that mum had you see a dr and the day the blood results came back we all knew in our hearts it wouldn’t be long even you knew it deep down yet you wouldn’t stop you carried on destroying yourself until the end.
That dr told us 6 weeks, 6 months, 6 years but what’s destroying you is also keeping you alive true to that dr’s word 6 weeks later you had gone.
I think what annoys me most is seeing my daughter and my sister’s children and knowing how much you would have loved being a grandparent and yet you couldn’t see the next day let alone 10 years on.
All you left was a huge hole of hurt in all of us your funeral was memorable for all the wrong reasons and ill never forgive your cousin for that either my so called god father indeed but that’s another story.
You hurt us you mentally destroyed a fair part of me and as for my mum well heck I do not even want to go there.
I look at my life and I am by no means bitter towards you anymore its surprising when someone who has hurt you so much passes away that you forgive them of everything my only comfort is looking at the sea as that’s where you reside in the deep blue where you wanted to be maybe one day ill be able to tell Millie that’s where granddad is and that he would have loved her with all his mite despite everything.
Guess I just wanted to say I love you and I forgive you because you helped make me what I am today.
Laura

I just love you Laura.

Dear Ex,

You're still a rat bastard, aren't you? I had your baby, and you supported me through the pregnancy. Guess it was cool to prove that you actually DID get in my pants, huh?

But afterwards, when I was suicidal witih post-partum depression, and couldn't deal with the adoption and the loss of our child, where the he! Were you? Out with your "just friend" Laura!

I never understood you dating her... she looked more like a man than you did! I was incredibly happy to hear she had cheated on you and left you for the guy she was cheating with... just like you did to me.

Thanks for destroying my self-esteem and making me believe that no guy but you would ever date me, especially after having your baby. Thanks for making sure that I had no friends to talk to after you left me. Thanks for breaking up with me the day I came back from the psych ward of the hospital... because you "just couldn't deal with me being sad all of the time". She was YOUR baby too! Couldn't you feel ANYTHING?

I hear you're working a crappy job and still doing drugs. I hope that the women dumb enough to date you after you dumped me each gave you a new and different disease. I hope you die in a rollover accident that lights your car on fire.

Most of all, though, I hope you live the rest of your life with everyone who knows her denying you any information about your daughter.

Synn.

PS... this guy dumped me 15 years ago, and I'm STILL mad at him!

You know... writing that letter made me feel better though, even 15 years later.

Allheart... great idea!

The rest of you... many hugs. You rock.

Dear Ex,

I want to feel anger toward you, I really do. But I know you're not the sort of person who deserves that. I know you got into something a bit too big a bit too fast and didn't know what to do about it, so you did the only thing you felt you could do...

The only thing I regret, and the only thing I'll ever regret, is that we couldn't have been friends, after it was all said and done. If you ever need me, I'll be there for you... But don't expect me to come looking for you, ever again. You made that impossible. I hope it was worth it. Good luck in finding what you need to find.

Love,
LeakingBallPoint

Deαr ex,
I hope the best in your cαreer in fαst food. Mαy eαch burger mαde αnd fry cooked remind you why it wαs such α good ideα to cheαt on me with mαcdonαld's girl thαt just left you for your mαnαger.

Dear ex,

I hope you find what you are looking for. I'm just so sorry you could not find that within me, yet I just have this feeling that one day you will have second thoughts about what matters and what it is you really need or even desire. The consequences of your decisions result sometimes in regret and I fear this for you. One thing to remember is that it is better to have loved and lost than to have never have loved before.

I wish you well in your journey of self-discovery.

Love

The man who truly did care

As Synnen said, You guys rock!!

Each of you, I am so proud of all of you. You took this ball and ran with it and kicked some serious butt!!

Just thought I would let you know that :).

Dear Ex,

If you skip again tomorrow, I will not care. I will stop caring if we lose contact with each other. You were once someone that I cared about, I hate for it to end this way. But I don't think I deserve to be treated this way anymore. I should stop trying to be friends with someone who simply don't care. It'll just make me sad.

Good luck in life.

But if one day you remember me, and regret cutting me completely out of your life, I hope you have the courage to try to contact me. I'll greet you warmly with open arms.

Love,

The girl that still wants to be friends

Ok I had been holding back on writing because unlike most of you I'm not mad at my ex about anything and can't be for some reason so it might be really wussy!! So it won't be filled with anger but rather just how I feel about her. It doesn't actually reflect the extent of which I have moved on (because I have so much) but more just how I can look back at our relationship which quite frankly I'm grateful for. Im glad I can look back and smile as opposed to look back and scowl!! So I didn't want to do it but ill give it a try!!

Dear ex,

I will get the negative part out of the way first so we can finish on a high. Unlike our relationship ;) Sorry for the many mistakes I made during our time together. There isn't a day goes by that I don't wish I could change some of those mistakes but I realise now that I made them to learn the valuable lessons from them that I have and know now that I will never make them again. And you're forgiven for any mistakes you made, not that there were many! I'm not mad and never have been at you for anything. Least of all letting me go. How could I be mad at anyone for being completely honest with me and themselves and following their heart! So that's the sorry out of the way. I'm not ever saying it again!

Thank you for being that special and amazing person that you were to me and no doubt continue to be so to so many others. Your smile and warmth would light up any room and I'm so happy and grateful that we shared such a massive part of our lives together. It will never be forgotten.

Thank you for letting me in to your life and being my best friend for 10 years. I miss a lot of things about you and us. The fun and the laughter, the hugs, and even the sad times and hardship we went through. But I think most of all I just miss my best mate in the whole world!!

Thank you for teaching me so many valuable lessons about life. About how to smile and be generous and caring to others even in the face of your own personal torture and adversity! Thank you for teaching me how to love and be loved in return and to understand that life is never really that bad!

And sadly I even have to thank you for ending the amazing thing we had and shared. Because if you didn't I wouldn't have learnt the invaluable and life changing lessons I have about myself over the past 12 months and am continuing to learn each day. You have given me the opportunity to grow and achieve things that I would never have tucked away under your loving wings. So thank you for not just making me such a better person in the time that we spent together but also continuing to make me a better person long after you're gone.

Its sad that you can't be in my life to see first hand what you've helped achieve but you should be proud that you left me a lot better person than the one you met. So I'm sure one day there will be another lucky girl who will also have to thank you as I am, because they will get a much happier and healthier man than the one you knew. Just as I know there is another lucky man out there who will be as blessed as I was because he will get to spend his life with someone so beautiful as you to make him smile and laugh every day just as you did to me. I know you will find what you went looking for!!

Thank you my beautiful girl (that was my corny nickname for her - LOL)

Love always,

Skell

Sh1t!!


I didn't realise I wrote so much! Sorry everyone. I just started typing and it kept coming out!!

Anyway I think it was good for me to do that!! Reminded me again not to take things for granted and to be thankful for the good things we have!


Great thread Allheart!!

Really Skell, I could only hope that someone, would write something like that for me.
Boy, just beautiful and honest.

Thank you. I just started to type and it all come out. It does make you feel better though!

All of the letters here are great because they reflect what people are feeling.

This should be a sticky thread for anyone to come here to post a letter about how they feel at that time. And they can come back and post another letter as often as they like.

I like that Skell.

There may be a day that pops up that you need to say one more thing.

Really nice thought Skell.

Gets it out there without any fear of how its viewed, without any fear that it will go ignored.
It accomplishes what it needs to and that is to just free us from those feelings or thougths we try to push aside while trying to heal at the same time.

I'm amazed that you don't feel bitterness for someone who dumped you after 10 years for what sounds like wildness and nothing more, Skell... YOu're a good man, to say the least! I wish you good luck and good feelings in the future.

I'm amazed that you don't feel bitterness for someone who dumped you after 10 years for what sounds like wildness and nothing more, Skell.... YOu're a good man, to say the least! I wish you good luck and good feelings in the future.

Thanks LBP!!

We were best friends for 10 years but in a relationship for 7! That was what made us last so long I think. The fact that we were best friends before hand!

And bitterness. I just don't feel it!! As I said I can't be angry at her for being honest and open about her feelings. Although I didn't like the decisions at the time, I can respect it! We went through a lot together and I have always said if there is one person in this world that I know that deserves to find happiness then it is her. I would never deny her that!

Oh and myself. I deserve happiness too ;)

But thank you for your kind words, they are much appreciated and the thoughts are reciprocated.

My Dearest Poptito,

I'm sorry that it had to end this way. I just couldn't get used to you and your other 3 personalities demanding to know why you were not an expert in your chosen field of BS. I never fully understood why you felt the need to research and send emails to people you didn't know or have anything to do with in order to prove your sanity. It seemed to me that might backfire. You screamed and changed colors to prove to me I was wrong. I'm not so sure that worked. In the end I laughed, you cried, but we shared each other even if for only a short time. I'm hoping that we can still remain friends... You with me, ane me with all of your many personalities.

Love Chuff

PS. Did you get my 3 green boxes?

LOL how sweet. You know the drill no contact for 3 months try and live without her and get those green boxes elsewhere. 3 months, one for each love you lost.

I agree with Skell that this could be a thread where people should come back and post new letters if they wish, I know myself I change moods dramatically and its so good to express these feelings... thanks so much allheart.

Dear ex,

I can't believe your feelings can come and go so fast, as if our relationship was a joke or something. When we first broke up, you said you wanted to remain friends, now i feel like you wish i would just dissappear. I'm moving on, and i don't want to get back together. But i just think is sad about how much you have changed. I guess i never really got to know the real you. I gave you the space you wanted, yet you're still being so cold. Oh well, at least now i can accept that it's over.

I think your current lifestyle is really screw up though. I feel like you get high, so you can skip class and avoid to see me. I know you smoke pot everyday, just dont know how much. I hate how you would stay up all night to chill out with your friends, almost like everyday. I never knew how much of a pothead you are, and how much you rely on having company with your friends to be happy.

I wonder how you feel about me now, and if you ever meant anything that you once promised me. But those doesnt matter now, because they are things from the past.

So i hope you keep meeting b*tches from now on, and thanks for screwing with a poor innocent girl's heart. you stupid pothead!

Oh Kaitou - you tell him. You are so much better off. So much.

Dearest ex

Just a quick note of thanks for finally letting me off your hook. I realise now that I spent 20 years with a complete stranger, trying my hardest to scratch the surface of your complex personality. Good times, we had a few, bad times were many. I cried a river and almost drowned, before realising that I really could swim, now that you weren't holding me down.

I hope your new life is everything you want, I hope the grass is greener on that side of the fence, but somehow I doubt it. You can keep your big house, in your posh town with your high paid job. I know where I would rather be - in my little house with our beautiful children, oh... you do remember them don't you? Well I guess that's why I'll always be richer than you. Life is not finished with you yet - what goes around comes around.

The day your head comes out of the sand, the light will blind you.

Hope to never see you again. X

That is a great letter kay. Brilliant stuff. You are so true in everything you say.

You are a lot better off than him. In more ways than you probably even realise!!

Dear First Husband,

I knew right after the wedding, when you hit the new puppy we got so hard you made it scream, that I had made a horrible mistake and that it would only be a matter of time before you hit me too. You knew all my buttons and pushed them to your selfish advantage. That isn't love-- its manipulation but I was almost too needy and naïve to know the difference at the time. I am only sorry the year-long therapy I eventually forced us into didn't take on you-- what a shock that was to me! I began to realise what a mess I was and that you got no bargain of a wife from me. For that I am very sorry - I had no business being with any man. I have changed a lot since then, with lots more help too.

I want to thank you for slamming me in the face with your pool cue stick the last day we were together and teaching me the instantly adjustable value of stuff. Without that, material things would probably still hold too much value for me. You can keep the bentwood rocker we were arguing over. In fact you can keep everything wth my blessings.

I want to thank you for forcing me to flee in the night with my life and the dog, and the humiliating stint I did living in my rundown car. I would not have learned the depth of my ability to survive in such dire straights if it were not for you. I have powers I didn't know.

I want to thank you for following me from state to state, demonstrating the terrible farce of our legal system, but requiring me to hone my wits so that I finally lost you and could settle down in a paradise I might not ever have found othewise. I love it here. Thank God for PO Boxes and unlisted phone numbers.

I want to thank you for providing such amazing motivation for me to learn how to cherish myself above all else, so that I could recognize a man who lovingly does the same when I finally met him. He took my breath away with just his looks.

I know I divorced you saying never ever again and while it may have taken me almost fourteen long years to be willing to fully trust a man again, I am so very pleased to say that I have married (after he asked me twice, poor guy! LOL) one of the most honorable men the world has ever known. He is as solid as a rock.

I finally know at last what the measure of a man is.

I hope you found the help you need-- you really do need it. I offer forgiveness because I really do understand how sick you are but sadly no trust because I really do understand how sick you are.

Kind regards,
Your First Wife

(what a catharsis!)

Wow, Val.

I'm in even more awe of you than I was before.

Amazing letter Val.

Thanks for sharing that!!

Inspirational!!

Dear XXX,

You always claimed that honesty was the most important thing. Complete and total honesty. Omitting part of the truth is the same as an outright lie. And you got mad whenever something minor crossed that line, like not being back when I said I would be, taking a change of plans as a lie.

And then when you decided the relationship was too much, you couldn't tell me that. You couldn't say anything about that. So you found a way out of it that didn't involve telling me. You told a mutual friend about what you'd done, and told her that she could 'tell me if she wanted to.' I take a grim satisfaction from the pain that that caused you in the end... not for the pain itself, but for the poetic justice of being injured by your own dishonesty, more injured by it than I was, in the end.

And then you regretted it. And came back. And, like a fool, I gave you another chance, because, well, I don't really know why. I guess I bought into the lines you fed me about how it was a mistake. And even as we went through that, you couldn't be honest, and were already in the process of moving on to your next fling. Even that I didn't hear from you, but from another friend. Oh, you told me about it, but I'd known for a while. And on top of that, you had the unmitigated gall to be mad at me for not staying close friends through all of this. I'll never quite understand that part, really... even though the rest of it makes sense, in a weird and twisted way, that part is just strange.

In hindsight, I should have expected something strange... I was warned against you by a friend before we even met, and I paid no attention. With all of the stuff in both of our recent pasts, it would have been better to just let it drop immediately, but mistakes were made. In the end, the only regret I have is that I gave you that extra chance, the one you begged for, and then threw back in my face.

Thank you all.

LOL There is is teensy weensy fret of... I just hope he doesn't, by some hugely remote chance, stumble across this, read it and start the crap up again!

Gawd, paranoia from being stalked dies hard. LOL

Val,

Do you think there is any possibility?

Not to worry, Allheart. Its so remote a possibility and I thought long and hard about do I do this...
I am mostly airing my wigged out feelings so they don't grow LOL

I hear you Val. Let it go and realease it. Let it keep you prisoner NO MORE :)

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Allheart agrees: Bravo for seeing him for who he truly is. So well done!


Psst... That was a girl. I'm a guy ;)

I have no end of trouble with that misconception with that 'na' on the end of my name. Ah well, my screen name and I have history.

I hear ya Val. Let it go and realease it. Let it keep you prisoner NO MORE :)
You got THAT right! (starts singin' FREEDOM like Richie Havens at Woodstock LOL)

F R E E D O M...
F R E E D O M...
F R E E D O M...
F R E E D O M

Psst... That was a girl. I'm a guy ;)

I have no end of trouble with that misconception with that 'na' on the end of my name. Ah well, my screen name and I have history.


Oh my heavens, I am so sorry :o :o

Eeek. Please forgive. Still good for you for seeing Her for who she really is! So sorry again!

Don't worry about it. I've been mistaken for much worse things in my lifetime ;)

Psst... That was a girl. I'm a guy ;)

I have no end of trouble with that misconception with that 'na' on the end of my name. Ah well, my screen name and I have history.
What does the name mean, if I may ask? It sounds almost native american to me. :)

Well, I was feeling quite original when I last reinvented myself on the internet (I had spent a long time on usenet with one handle, and decided it was time for a change), so I went with my last name backwards: Nosredna. Convenient having a last name that works well in reverse, although having a name that close to "Nurse Edna" wasn't in the original plan ;)

I used that in online games, and two things happened: For shorthand, I was simply referred to as 'Nos', and when making alternate characters, I took the easy way out and went with colors... Nosbluena, Nosgreenna, etc. This name is a combination of those two things.

Well, I was feeling quite original when I last reinvented myself on the internet (I had spent a long time on usenet with one handle, and decided it was time for a change), so I went with my last name backwards: Nosredna. Convenient having a last name that works well in reverse, although having a name that close to "Nurse Edna" wasn't in the original plan ;)

I used that in online games, and two things happened: For shorthand, I was simply referred to as 'Nos', and when making alternate characters, I took the easy way out and went with colors... Nosbluena, Nosgreenna, etc. This name is a combination of those two things.
Yea, I defiantely can't see you as the Nurse Edna type :eek: LOL but I must have been thinking along the lines of Shoshonee and the likes. Thanks for the clarification, Mr. almost backwards Anderson! And I see you picked up the idea of gender clues in your signature line like I have. It happened so much when I was first here, I would wonder if I somehow sounded like a guy?? :D

Yea, I defiantely can't see you as the Nurse Edna type :eek:

Well, maybe in certain situations with that special someone...

Oh wait, this isn't Adult Sexuality. Never mind ;)


LOL but I must have been thinking along the lines of Shoshonee and the likes. Thanks for the clarification, Mr. almost backwards Anderson! And I see you picked up the idea of gender clues in your signature line like I have. It happened so much when I was first here, I would wonder if I somehow sounded like a guy?? :D

Yeah, it's probably best to be blatant about the gender thing... Don't want people taking my advice if they want a woman's perspective or something ;)

I'd believe it if people thought I was a girl... I've got insight into relationships, emotions, feelings, etc. That's not stuff that guys are supposed to know :D

I'd believe it if people thought I was a girl... I've got insight into relationships, emotions, feelings, etc. That's not stuff that guys are supposed to know :D
So now wait a minute LOL whassat s'posed to mean when they mistake me for a guy, hmm?? :rolleyes:

Sorry - we are seriously highjacking this thread! I now return you to your regular thread broadcast LOL Let's seeeeee those letters PEEPS!

So now wait a minute LOL whassat s'posed to mean when they mistake me for a guy, hmm?? :rolleyes:

Er, um... Maybe they think you're a gay guy? Take solace in the fact that since our responses are similar in a lot of places that it must just be the gender of the name that does it.


Sorry - we are seriously highjacking this thread! I now return you to your regular thread broadcast LOL Let's seeeeee those letters PEEPS!

I prefer to think of it as bumping the thread. But you're right, let's get back to the letters!

Dear Ex,

As expected you skipped again yesterday. I've accepted that things between us are over, but why am I still so sad. I want to just be happy and move on. I hate how we don't talk at all anymore, it's like you don't even want me to be your friend. I hate how you would talk to all these different girls but me. I wish you would just stop hurting me. But I know that the only person that's hurting me is myself, by not letting go. I know we have no chance to be back together, why can't I just move on. I wish I can fast forward time, so I can fast forward my healing.

Dear Ex,

I can't believe you tricked me into believing you were the catch of a lifetime for almost 2 years. You are so self-centered. Sure, you took me out on dates and would stay up late talking all night with me... you also flirted with every girl you came in contact with. Oh, and let's not forget the 2 or 3 times you took me out to lunch with your EX GIRLFRIENDS. I gave you the benefit of the doubt. I thought maybe everyone's boyfriend did that. I was so wrong. Then you got mad at me whenever I'd bring anything about it up. I hated how you kept all your exes gifts and memories out in the open. You need to move on from the past and get into the present.

I'm still in shock that 4 weeks ago you told me you loved me so much. You felt like no one would ever compare to me, but you just couldn't be with me. Just 2 or 3 weeks after you said that, you're off with some other girl that you knew the entire length of our relationship. What the hell is that? I mean really, if I meant soooo much to you why did it take you 2 weeks to get over me? I think that's what hurts the most, you said you cared so much... but actions speak louder than words.

I feel so betrayed by you. You were my best friend, and now you just throw me away like garbage. I feel like the past two years of my life are a giant lie.

And NO I will never be your friend. Just because you can trick all your other exes into being a part of your life doesn't mean you can trick me too. I don't need someone like you in my life. All you do is bring me down.

OH, and let me not forget your HUGE commitment problem. Have you noticed that you haven't been single since you were about 14 years old? You can't cope with a breakup. You have moved onto another girl within a month of your last girlfriend since you were FOURTEEN years old, and you're now 23. You should really get some help with that problem. And I guess on that note, I can't take it personally that you moved on so quickly to another girl. It hurts me because I'm a rational human being and can see that it's definitely not normal... but you are crazy. You've done it to every girlfriend, so it really has nothing to do with me.

When I told you I didn't want to be friends with you or talk to you while I was getting over this, that was sort of a lie. I don't want to be your friend EVER. I hope we never talk again. I hope you never try to call me, or write me. Please leave me alone, you have hurt me more than anyone in my life.


There, that felt good... :)

Take solace in the fact that since our responses are similar in a lot of places that it must just be the gender of the name that does it.
Well I am enjoying being your echo or you mine or whatever it is! LOL :p

Dearest Ex,

I think we were neither at fault that we broke up, much rather our relationship crumbled because we rushed into things too fast. We should've gotten to know each other better before getting into a relationship. I wish I realize this sooner. Now I just feel sad that things between us are over, and ther'es nothing we can do to fix it. Nevertheless I learnt a lot from this experience, and I will never make the same mistake I did with this relationship. I'll take things slow from now on. Thank you very very much, for teaching me this important lesson.

Maybe one day we'll be friends again :)

Wow forget the NC thread becoming the sticky for the relationship forum, I vote for this one instead!

It just keeps on impressing me.

Okay, I have a tale that will give EVERYONE some solace. I was married for 24 years to my high school sweetheart and she found someone else. After marriage counseling that didn't work and moving out and in and again out, I took MY therapist's advice and I saved myself. Long story short, its 3 years later and last year I found and married my real soul mate. I have always been religious and I like to think that GOD sent my Maureen... my saviour. In any event, I too, before I met Mar, wrote the letter a couple of times. I still love you, I forgive you, blah blah blah. After I wrote the letters, I always waited a day and Every time, the next day. I threw them away. It felt good to unload but now it feels better, obviously, that I let my head lead me and not my emotions. My best advice (and its free and worth every penny) is to try and save your relationship. Do what it takes and again, after 24 years. I was willing to try anything. But when she continues to profess her love for someone else, allow yourself to realize that its over. If you can't save your relationship then SAVE YOURSELF! I took a week and went to Cancun by myself and it helped me to realize that I can survive and stand alone and that life is VERY INTERESTING... a story for another time! Lastly, rely on your friends and relatives. I landed on my feet and so will you! Take care and GOD bless.

Dearest Ex,

I think we were neither at fault that we broke up, much rather our relationship crumbled because we rushed into things too fast. We should've gotten to know each other better before getting into a relationship. I wish i realize this sooner. Now i just feel sad that things between us are over, and ther'es nothing we can do to fix it. Nevertheless i learnt a lot from this experience, and i will never make the same mistake i did with this relationship. I'll take things slow from now on. Thank you very very much, for teaching me this important lesson.

Maybe one day we'll be friends again :)

I had to spread the love ouch, but had to acknowledge the uplifting beauty of this post because it brings home the point of healing, Great post.

I think writing things out really puts things in perspective as well I believe it is truly healing. I think it is such a safe way to say what you want to the person. Also, I think it gives closure to oneself. Hope this makes sense!

I'm in trouble guys. I meant everything I said on my last letter, but now I feel absolutely horrible. I'm sad at the fact that I can't do anything to fix my mistakes. I can't seem to forgive myself for rushing into things so fast. I'm really hoping in the future that we could become friends, but that highly unlikely. I feel bad for ruining a chance of having a great relationship or friendship. It sucks how sometimes in life, you cannot change/fix decisions that you have already made, or things that you have done. What is done is done.

I just can't stop blaming myself for rushing things. I tell myself I should be grateful that I can learn from this experience, and that at least now I know I won't make the same mistake. I should forgive myself for not knowing what harm I could've been doing, when I didn't know better.

I pretty much spend the whole night sleeping and waking with thoughts like those. This is draining me like crazy. I want to shake off the guilt. I keep telling myself, stop blaming yourself about it, just don't do it again. What should I do? How can I stop blaming myself?

Hi kaitou,

You have just broken up and began no contact... the first few months you will analyse everything , whay you could have done better and changed...
This is completely normal and normal to feel drained... but all this will prepare you better for you next relationship... use this time wisely so you will never make the same mistakes again... slow is the way...
Take care...

I'm in trouble guys. I meant everything i said on my last letter, but now i feel absolutely horrible. I'm sad at the fact that I can't do anything to fix my mistakes. I can't seem to forgive myself for rushing into things so fast. I'm really hoping in the future that we could become friends, but that highly unlikely. I feel bad for ruining a chance of having a great relationship or friendship. It sucks how sometimes in life, you cannot change/fix decisions that you have already made, or things that you have done. What is done is done.

I just can't stop blaming myself for rushing things. I tell myself i should be grateful that i can learn from this experience, and that at least now i know i won't make the same mistake. I should forgive myself for not knowing what harm i could've been doing, when i didn't know better.

I pretty much spend the whole night sleeping and waking with thoughts like those. This is draining me like crazy. I want to shake off the guilt. I keep telling myself, stop blaming yourself about it, just dont do it again. What should i do? how can i stop blaming myself?
Oh my Kaitou, I have been in your shoes. I want to just wrap you up in a hug and rock you while I tell what I know about this important topic.

It is such a painful lesson-- to learn that you contributed to that which hurt you but it is also an incredibly powerful lesson, a life altering lesson and I am not being overly dramatic here. And it comes with such benefits too.

This is where you must begin to hate the sin but love the sinner or you'll get stuck like this again and again-- over all the other mistakes you'll make (yep more are coming LOL) and the ones you will see more clearly now others make. We don't know we are making them when we make them and forgiveness really needs to start with that appreciation.

You will see in time that you only need to make them once (I wish everyone was this awake!) and that many many many good things come to those who learn the lessons -- my god, my whole life is one long testiment to that!! So if our creator can forgive me and the cosmic universe can forgive me, who am I to hold out forgiveness on myself? In a way, that is really bad manners!

Learn now that to atone for the mistake by learning the lesson and therefore being changed by it and not doing it again to the best of your humanly flawed ability is really good enough. It is all that is asked of anyone here, sweetie. Good enough Kaitou -- you learned the lesson!

I'm in the same boat, kaitou. But really, the other side can learn not to be such a baby about getting themselves into emotional entanglements.

So they ended up getting into a relationship a bit faster than they wanted. The best way to solve this problem is pretend that the other person doesn't exist? I will never understand that mentality, not for as long as I live. It's straight up cowardly.

So, yeah, you made some mistakes kaitou... Your job is to learn from them. But this other person had their problems, too.

kaitou, Join the human race my dear, we all go through the part of our lives where we have emotional trauma in our lives and it is so hard to deal with it and our feelings. First there really is no way to change things that are beyond our control so never feel guilty or responsible for something that just happens, also never beat yourself up for making a mistake as this is merely a lesson to be learned and it can be corrected, maybe not now but certainly next time. Good positive action will help you to see that life is out there and there is a lot to do and learn. Stay busy learning, enjoy, and working on yourself. Volunteer work is something I highly recommend to all who think they suffer alone and is a great way to see a bigger picture. What you are going through now is only life getting you ready for your next step. Hang in there.

Wow, you guys responded so fast. Reading your post actually made me cry. Which is good, I needed that outlet. My little frustration cry. Thanks a lot :)

I want to tell my ex GF that I am feeling much more relaxed and happy.Now I am enjoying every bit of my life that I always wanted to.If u think that you are feelingless ,then it doesn't matter to me anymore.Go to hell

It sucks how sometimes in life, you cannot change/fix decisions that you have already made, or things that you have done. What is done is done.
It does suck that there is no dress rehearsal in life but at least its fair in that this is true for everyone. I can still remember the day I finally acknowledge (to myself) that I am powerless over others -- it changed instantly a lot of how I operated. And even more enlightening (again, for me) was how later on I realised just how powerless everyone else was over me BWAAH HA HA HA (LOL) and that changed me some more. We are for the most part powerless over each other - the best, if we even get this, is to influence only. That is something to consider and again its arranged fairly too, how nice! You MIGHT influence me, and I MIGHT influence you. But in my case it took professional help for me to get that I am not powerless over myself, nor is anyone else unless they choose to be. That was really a life altering awareness.

The best we can do is wake up, and live a life with eyes open, minds alert and hearts as loving as possible-- to ourselves first and foremost and then to each other. Lose the pollyanna mindset of childhood and see the world and its inhabitants as they are -- both good and bad. It is your job to take care of you -- that is your mandate as an adult. No privileges for us without the corresponding responsibilities. The only real victims on my list are kids, animals and the infirmed-- they do not have the same resources as we do, on many levels.

So, when you see someone who looks like bad news, just quietly duck across the street. Don't be so quick to believe people. Some of us are very deceived and decieving both. But don't take on being jaded either, for that is just as bad. Instead cultivate (along with this realistic discernment about the world) a positive overall outlook because the best is yet to come. Notice the word "overall" and don't put the burden of your happiness on any one person -- its too big of a load for any mortal. And the good stuff that does arrive, be mindful that may not take the size, color, or form you imagined but it does indeed get better and better in the long run -- at least so far it has with me. That is the truth as clearly as I can put it.

In one of the responses "someone talked about volunteering", doing something for others is truly healing and I truly believe it does a lot for oneself. You learn skills and grow from this experience. It is unfortunate that as adults we have lost our skills taught at childhood and I think it is true - we need to find a way to protect ourselves as the world can be harsh at times. Good luck.

I just think that it sucks how sometimes you learn one thing from one person, but the price for learning is losing the person who you learn from. Learning the lesson is good, and it hopefully prevent you from doing it again to someone else. But I think it sucks that in some circumstances you can't fix your mistake, no matter how much you want to things just won't go back to before. And also you can't show the person what you learn from him/her.

I hope I'll realize my future mistakes sooner, so it's not too late to fix it. Just so that I won't completely lose a friend in my life.

Unfortunately those are things beyond our control, we never know what life brings us or why.

For a time I went through friends like they were water and I felt very sad about all the loss. But one day, it began to slow down and I have come to realise two things looking back (man, hindsight really is 20/20) --

1. I needed all those people because I needed the gift each one had for me. A lot along the lines of when the student is ready the teacher will appear. I needed or wanted lots of "teachers" apparently. I was doing a lot of changing myself too which added into that.

2. I was lousy at determining who to take on as a friend and who not to. Only by gaining experience (through repeatel failures) did I hone my skills and begin selecting people who, for lack of a better way to put it, lasted longer. LOL That's what I mean by "discernment" -- that kind of knowing what will work and not work for me.

These same principles might be said about the initial relationships we take on too, I think.

I am happy to report this is exactly what started happening Kaitou -- "I hope i'll realize my future mistakes sooner, so it's not too late to fix it."

Now its possible to have things that impair your ability to learn and I can make you a list if you like -- active addiction, willful denial, learning to live unhappy, growing up incomplete but not recognizing it, minimizing problems, fear that makes you hide things-- to whip off a few. And when a person gets stuck in one or more of those it mostly takes professional help to get out. And if I hear any stuff that remotely resembles any of this from anyone, I tend to suggest seeking professional help. It works and it beats the crap out of staying stuck. But I am aware of what a stigma I am up against about how people view that too.

Life is strange that way - we have a relationship right in front of us and we aren't able to work through it till it ends... I think people are mean't to come into our life for a reason, season or lifetime!

Kaitou,

Hi. You are such a dear dear girl. First, how about not thinking of things as a "mistake". Rather, think of them as choices. You made certain choices in your life, some good with great results and some not so good with unexpected results. Life is full of choices to be made. As we grow and get older, we then make informed choices. So all that you are going through now, is going to help you in the future when it's time to make another choice. But you will be much more informed this time, won't you?

Okay now, you seem to be way too hard on yourself and putting everything on your shoulders as though everything that went wrong, or didn't work out, lies solely with you. The great thing about relationships is there is always someone else there, who by the way, is not perfect and did contribute to the relationship, both good and bad. This is a shared learning process. Sadly, I know, when it ends, we have to learn as individuals. That is tough and yes it sucks, all over the place, but would you prefer to be one who never made a choice, who for the fear of being hurt, never showed another individual that you loved them? Believe me, there are people out there like that, but I know you are not one of them. Take some comfort in knowing that you heart will heal, you just need to give it some time.

Kaitou, you have to remember, you are looking back on your relationship, through eyes filled with pain and with a heavy heart. Through a view such as that, it only seems to magnify those things we wish we could change, the things we think are our fault or even know to be our fault. You have got to give yourself some time to heal before you can even begin to determine where things went wrong.

To try and sort all of this out now, when you are so torn, and in so much pain and confusion, will only end up confusing you more and may delay your healing.

Take a break from thinking. Take a break from dwelling. Do something totally unrelated to your relationship. Mostly, give yourself some time to heal.

Remember, life is one big classroom and we are all students striving to get that A. With support, self-love, acceptance, a desire to do and be better, that A isn't as far off as you think.

My heart to you Kaitou :)

Oh Kaitou - it's good to cry and get it out. Now don't go beating yourself up about thinking about it too much. Okay? Just know you have a place to come to when you need to vent.

Have your vent time, allow yourself that, and then go and do something wonderful and different. Something that you know for sure will make you :) smile.

m9 would go summin lyk this...
Dear ex
Jump off a cliff you little prick hope you rot in hell
God I feel much betta

Yeah I'm doing sometihng else. Something wonderful and will make me smile :) *cough* not *cough* studying for my 2 stupid midterms that coming up on Monday <_<;;;

Sigh, I better go back to studying now. I'm not really prepared, been down in the dumps for too long. Anyway thanks for all your help :). At least now I'm in a good mood, and can concentrate on schoolwork!

Yeah i'm doing sometihng else. Something wonderful and will make me smile :) *cough* not *cough* studying for my 2 stupid midterms that coming up on monday <_<;;;

Sigh, i better go back to studying now. I'm not really prepared, been down in the dumps for too long. Anyways thanks for all your help :). At least now i'm in a good mood, and can concentrate on schoolwork!

I'll expect a good grade on your mid-term young lady :D ( Okay I don't have any kids of my own, let me role play a little :D )

Now go fill that wonderful mind with all that knowledge you will need for that mid-term!! Do yourself proud!!

To the man who thinks is the only one who exists,

I know you will regret it some day. The girl who spent nights crying, and hours thinking about you doesn't exist anymore. You will see me passing by you and not even recognize your existence. I have more important plans than caring about you; I tried to give you a chance but you kicked it. So go to hell with your selfish.. because you going to be invisible to me .

I suck. After everyone left the house, and I was left alone, I started crying for quite a period. The realization that we would never be together again just makes me so sad. Breaking up after only being together for a short period sucks as much as breaking up for a long period. I think the pain differ in the way that I don't really miss him, but the fact that I ponder about how wonderful it would've been if we continued, because no conflict between us has arise yet. The reason we broke up was because he was scared by spending too much time with me, he would not have time for all his friends, and therefore lose them as a result. It happened before with his previous ex. Just because things went wrong with his ex, he automatically it'll go the same way with us. We were still getting to know each other, of course we had to spent time together, but I never said he can't spent time with his friends too. I didn't expect to be his life. I didn't try hard enough to convince him that it won't happen, not that I know how to anyway. How can I ask him to trust me, when he has so much doubt? But still I didn't even try.

So after our short but wonderful time together, he decided he wasn't ready for a relationship, because he wasn't ready to sacrifice his social time for me yet. Now he completely moved on, and justifies his reason for breaking up with me by going out with his buddies 24/7. He's having the time of his life, and I'm here grieving, crying, and being pathetic.

BAH! I need to move on...

kaitou, The next time you find yourself alone find something to do anything. Clean closets, rearange your shoes, anything. Call a friend or take a walk. Don't just sit during those moments but practice every time you start to think of what if... do something to take your mind elsewhere. Good luck!

Ah Grasshopper Kaitou-- Knowing what to do and doing it -- two very different things.

Example:
Three frogs are sitting on a log and one decided to jump in. How many frogs are sitting on the log now? LOL

I know you know the answer, so now... JUMP! :D

It is true "actions" say it all. I think though in life we all have the answers deep down, however matching the two and following through is very tough.

kaitou, The next time you find yourself alone find something to do anything. clean closets, rearange your shoes, anything. Call a friend or take a walk. Don't just sit during those moments but practice every time you start to think of what if...............do something to take your mind elsewhere. Good luck!


Kaitou,

Great advice above from Tal. Give it a try and then... study, study, study :)

Keep in mind, in a way, this young man, spared you heartache down the road. What if this went on for a couple of years and he then decided to pull the plug? Your feelings would be even deeper and so would your pain. He knew that he just wanted to basically just hang out with his friends and be young. That's exactly what you should be doing (after your studies, of course ;). So when you feel the sadness creeping over you, jump into action, and do as Tal suggested. Really try Kaitou. You don't know if it will help unless you try. K?

Dear Ex,

I know you're a good person and this is what makes it so hard for me. Why is it you turned aside my every attempt at friendship? I know I wasn't my best when you first dumped me, but did you really want me to be? I didn't call you every day - I barely called you every week. I didn't write incessantly. I was hurt that you felt the only way to deal with me was to dump me, and yes I said some angry things, but I never said anything so terrible...

Your last response to my extended hand was so unbelievably hurtful that all I can do is close my eyes and walk away. I can't ever reach out to you again because every time I do you grow more cold and vicious. Why are you doing this? What did I do to deserve it? I wrack my brain but there's not a damn thing I can come up with. I know I didn't give you the maximum amount of space, but for goodness sake you're on the other side of the world... Even if I'd made the ultimate effort to contact you (which I didn't do), you'd still be as far away as you'd ever want to be!

So I'm left to sit here and wonder why you decided your life without me as a friend is better than your life with me... I may be able to forgive you for this, one day, but I don't think I'll ever be able to forget. And I won't ever stop asking why... We were best friends, once. I just don't understand why you had to push me so far, so fast...

I'm sorry that I made you feel guilty. I'm sorry it didn't work out. I'm sorry that it's as though my best friend has died... If it were at the price of never seeing you again, never touching you, I'd pay it in a second to get my friend back...

Love,
LBP

Keep in mind, in a way, this young man, spared you heartache down the road.

That's what a lot of people said to me after my break-up. "Would you rather she did this when you were married or worse, had kids together a few years down the road? be grateful in that you have had a lucky escape." I really think it is better when it happens before things get complicated and I would hate for something like that to happen where kids are involved and it ends up in divorce e.t.c. I have seen that happen and it must be very hard, especially for the children.

Dear Cheating Ex,

Since April 3, 2006, my world has been sheer misery. I gave you the power to make me miserable. Today, I take it back. 13 years yield lots of memories, most of them good ones. I will take them with me and forever pray that you are at peace. I am going to get this pain out by purging my thoughts to you on this post.

I would have hoped that you could have just told me that you wanted to experience another woman in that way. I would have let you go! I could have let you go. Why you had to disrespect me that night, I will never know. I honestly thought I would never get that image out of my head. Alcohol is NEVER a good excuse, although it is just that... AN EXCUSE. So many times I have wished I could have just beat the crap out of both of you, but we all know that it's just not how I am made. Do you remember what I said to you two? "Are you having fun?" Well, was it fun? Was it worth everything that it cost you? I know you have said how sorry you are... I agree. YOU ARE SORRY. I hope your new wife never experiences the hell you put me through that night. I pity her, though. As my new window decal says... SIZE MATTERS! (couldn't resist)

It is now my goal to put back together the shattered pieces you left behind. With a new outlook and determination to STOP letting your actions that one night sabbotage all I have now. You tore down myself esteem, myself worth, and my dignity. It's time for me to start the rebuilding process.

When you told me the other day that the song "MY WISH" reminds you of me... Well, here is one that reminds me of you:

I've been livin' with a heart on the mend
Wonderin' how will I ever be strong
I know I'll live to love again
I just leaned on you too long
It's been an uphill fight
But I'm going to be all right

I didn't know my own strength
'Till I had to pick myself up
And carry on without your love
I'm gettin' back on my feet
It's been a long hard fall
But I'll make it after all
I didn't know my own strength

I've had oceans of tears to get through
And the weight of the world on my mind
There've been mountains of memories to move
And I've been beating back the blows to my pride
But 'Til the times got tough
I never knew what I was made of
Then the times got tough
And I knew what I was made of

Thats what a lot of people said to me after my break-up. "Would you rather she did this when you were married or worse, had kids together a few years down the road? be grateful in that you have had a lucky escape." I really think it is better when it happens before things get complicated and I would hate for something like that to happen where kids are involved and it ends up in divorce e.t.c. I have seen that happen and it must be very hard, especially for the children.
How right you and Allheart are on this one Geoff. People do not have nearly enough appreciation for how bad parental relationships and careless divorce permanently harms kids. People like to excuse their irresponsible behavior by claiming kids are resilient. I got news -- they aren't that resilient, at least not in any numbers. The studies are alarming conclusive. I consider it the number one contributor to the downfall of American culture. We are all paying the price for this one and, like bad environmental mistakes, will be for a long time to come.

Sometimes I wish I was a fish or something, so I can just swim all day and be happy. So that I won't have complicated feelings/thoughts/emotions. So that I don't know how to ruminate. I'll have a shorter life-span, but at least for the most part I'll have a stress-free life. The only thing I'll have to worry about is being eaten by predator.

People are complicated, life is complicated, if you're not stressing over one thing, you're stressing over another. Some people are more sensative/emotional/genuine, while others are less so. Different people are drawn to different personality, and so no one is better than anyone else, we're all just different and have different preference. But I guess all these differences are what make life more fulfilling and interesting.

On a side note: I wish mermaid exist LOL. And is allheart old enough to be my mom o.o

if you're not stressing over one thing, you're stressing over another.
I agreed with most of what you said Kaitou except for this little innocent looking one here. LOL I think its important to realise that what you illustrate here is a chosen pattern that people don't even realise they decided to have as their way of operating. Its possible to become a stress junkie and that is not good! We choose the lives we lead. We sign up for as much or as little as we want. Stress is really you saying to you: "I don't take care of myself." And I think that is worth listening and responding to, for our sake.

There are a number of other ways to view this one too. My personal favorite is this:
If you're not learning one thing, you're learning another! :p
Why not see if you can come up with one of your own? Or borrow mine, if you like...

Additionally, its important to know how to build "breaks" into the schedule. Everyone needs moments to regroup, zone or veg.
If you don't choose constructive things to take your mind off it, you may seek not so constructive things. Even I don't like learning ALL the time! That's what some of my other interests are for mostly -- to allow me to shut off the head and just do and be instead of think and feel.

You can always take a mini break by doing more of exactly what you suggested! Sit back and really ruminate about what being a fish must be like. I mean really really get into it, eyes closed and all. Feel the weightlessness, imagine how much swimming must be like flying, think how strange the surface of the water must seem, the food -is it yummy to them too, etc etc. LOL Just be sure to eventually surface, okay?

Another good one is singing. Put on those tunes and let 'er rip! Its hard to think and sing at the same time. Chanters learned that long ago and there is something about the actual act of singing that they've discovered is good for us emotionally or physiologically. Another mini-break of sorts.

And I hear you about Allheart, she is mother earth indeed and I am very glad she is here.

If you're not happy with one with one thing, you're happy with another :D?

How amazing that little things can change your attitude. That's why my routine is one where I am never to
Tired
Hungry
Angry
Stressed
And when I take care of those areas of my life I generally can deal with anything. A good daily routine helps me make it through a good day(I choose to have a good day)

If you're not contributing constructively here, you are contributing constructive there! :D


How amazing that little things can change your attitude. That's why my routine is one where I am never to
tired
hungry
angry
stressed
and when I take care of those areas of my life I generally can deal with anything. A good daily routine helps me make it thru a good day(I choose to have a good day)
Yeah, those basics are really important and its up to each person as to how well they manage them in their life.
If a person doesn't manage them well, then they get what they get. But that is true for all of us. I learned how to manage them by disliking the effect of mismanaging them enough to do something about it! DOH LOL

If you're not meant to be with him, you're meant to be with another.

Anyway I'm going to try hard not to ruminate about the past, but instead looking forward to what's coming. Like many of you said "the best is yet to come!" I want to be happy, and no one else can help me with that. I've done enough grieving, learning, blaming, and regretting. The only person that's making me sad is myself, by not letting go, and by saying I'm sad all the time. I'm going to stop thinking that I want to be with my ex, stop wishing for a second chance, and stop plotting. It's time to move forward and focus on the positive things in life.

Some good things that happened because of this:
- I've learnt not to rush into a relationship
- I've learnt more about myself
- I've learnt some new technique to deal with break ups LOL
- I met a bunch of GREAT people on a random forum, that I came across by googling "How to get your ex back"... (hey most people came here asking aobut that too lol)
- I made a new friend in real life, and he's the sweetest, most caring guy I've ever met. We were strangers when we first met, but now he's one of the few people that I want to talk to whenever I'm down in the dumps.
- I'm single and freeeee :)

I want to be happily/purposefully single!

Sometimes i wish i was a fish or something, so i can just swim all day and be happy. So that i won't have complicated feelings/thoughts/emotions. So that i don't know how to ruminate. I'll have a shorter life-span, but at least for the most part i'll have a stress-free life. The only thing i'll have to worry about is being eaten by predator.

People are complicated, life is complicated, if you're not stressing over one thing, you're stressing over another. Some people are more sensative/emotional/genuine, while others are less so. Different people are drawn to different personality, and so no one is better than anyone else, we're all just different and have different preference. But I guess all these differences are what make life more fulfilling and interesting.

On a side note: I wish mermaid exist LOL. And is allheart old enough to be my mom o.o
http://www.baddteddy.com/adventures/1/frog/frog.jpg

For asking if I am old :p and to do your studies!! (but yes, I've accumulated enough years to be your Mom, a very very young Mom :)

Being a fish may be fun for a day or so, but I think the fish community needs to come up with a more respectfull way of laying their loved ones to rest other than SWISH down the drain.

Nice perspective Kaitou. Let me offer a little more

Some good things that happened because of this:

- I've learnt not to rush into a relationship
Do you know how many people don't learn this for 2,3, 5 relationships later?
Scary, huh? I can show you threads here like that. Big big lesson --- BRAVO!

- I've learnt more about myself
Always a good thing. Courageous and pays handsome dividends all down the road, keeep that up!

- I've learnt some new technique to deal with break ups LOL
Actually you've learned some skills that will be handy for all disappointments, rejections, failures and losses and this one is probably the most significant one in my mind. Life has those in store for us and when we learn we can and do survive them, we are empowered to take better educated risks as a result. Powerful stuff.

- I met a bunch of GREAT people on a random forum
I just wanted to sat THANKS for that one :p

When I learn something new it spins my beanie. When I see you learn something new, it spins it twice as fast--weeeeeeeee!

I think you have given some great input here "it is truly about learning how to deal with a situation". One's reaction to deal with loss is so important. It can help you or break you.

Feels like this thread is becoming my journal >.>

BUT I want to report to allheart that I did fine in both of my midterms today :O!! They were surprisingly easy. I feel like I lucked out :)!! That brighten my day so much, doing well in schooool. AT least I don't have to stress about my marks :)

Dear Ex, may I call you Ex?
See what you've done to me? I am on some random website assembling my thoughts for no one - to rid my head of the looped video that is you. I am not mad. (that's an emotion that I don't waste much time on). This letter is the equivalent of finding me in downtown LA swapping scoring crack in a back alley and ducking police cruisers. In some ways I am revelling in this feeling of utter vulnerability. But at the same time I sense you were not 100% honest. And honesty is the cornerstone of your re-built self. So, I know that was eating you up. It eats me up too. In a few days I'll wander away from this site and head on back to life. But I'll leave this note, sure you will never see it. You were born with a something... it is special, and it is dangerous.

At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.
--Plato

Lost love is the one thing that stops us all in our tracks and makes us equal. Where we go from there determines our character.
--Me

Dear Ex, may I call you Ex?
See what you've done to me? I am on some random website assembling my thoughts for no one - to rid my head of the looped video that is you. i am not mad. (that's an emotion that i don't waste much time on). this letter is the equivalent of finding me in downtown LA swapping scoring crack in a back alley and ducking police cruisers. in some ways i am revelling in this feeling of utter vulnerability. but at the same time i sense you were not 100% honest. and honesty is the cornerstone of your re-built self. so, i know that was eating you up. it eats me up too. in a few days i'll wander away from this site and head on back to life. but i'll leave this note, sure you will never see it. you were born with a something.....it is special, and it is dangerous.

At the touch of love everyone becomes a poet.
--Plato

Lost love is the one thing that stops us all in our tracks and makes us equal. Where we go from there determines our character.
--Me


Oh Ash,

Everything you said just is worth repeating. Only thing is, I hope you don't wonder too far away from us. Your contributions have been amazing!!

I love your quote:Lost love is the one thing that stops us all in our tracks and makes us equal. Where we go from there determines our character - written by Ash123.

Hey. Stumbled upon your idea and I must say it's brilliant!! I'm going to give it a bash coz' I definitely need some closure from my last break-up.

Dear Removable *ss*ole,

Since you broke up with me I've realised a lot about myself. I can run everyday now, without having to listen to you whine about it, I can lie down and read a book, without you telling me that there's no point coz' they made a movie and above all of that I wake up every morning without a hangover coz' the only time I had a drinking problem was when I was with you. Honestly, I loved you with everything and this is what you reduced me to, a breakdown, se and a tarnished reputation from all the lies that you've told. I know that I'm better off without you now, I know that now when, in my awesome job, I make my awesome salary I can buy myself awesome stuff instead of paying for your alcoholism. More than anger or hurt I'm disappointed, the one characteristic that I thought would never fade from you soul was your good nature, I guess I was wrong. I've lost all respect for you and your entire family because you fed them all those lies and they believed you. Initially I told you that I was nothing without you, but you know what, you're nothing without me! I'm no longer around to buy you this or pay for that. I no longer have to put up with you immaturity and your worthless freeloading friends. I know that regardless of what you may say about me that I am better off without you, I've never done so well for myself in my entire life. All I need for you to know is that you're not the person that I fell in love with anymore, but guess what, I'm still the person you fell in love with and when you're all alone because you've treated everyone the way you treated me, and you finally realise what you had with me and how you ruined everything, maybe, just maybe I'll take the time to actually cut your call.
On second thoughts no, I'll just leave it ringing...

Thank you for giving me the best gift ever, my passion back!

Fornever Yours...

Dear Ex,

On one hand, I hope that your life is good now because I think you have a lot of special qualities and can be a nice guy. You taught me so much. You opened my eyes to the world really. You are intelligent, funny, witty, interesting, sweet, polite, worldly, unique, and beautiful. But, on the other hand, you can be selfish, self-satisfied, unyeilding, and a bit of a know-it-all. You do have a superiority complex. I think we both know that. I found it challenging at the time, but looking back you could be very condescending to people... me included. That irritated me. That part of you, I don't miss, but your wonderful qualities, I do. Another part of me admittedly hopes that your life is unhappy now because of how much you hurt me. I hope that the relationship with the girl that you left me for turned out to be a situation where the grass was in fact NOT greener on the other side. Was it all worth it? Was she worth the fact that you lost me even as a friend? Worth the fact that we no longer even speak to one another? It's sad to think about the way everything turned out.

I find myself wondering now if I ever even knew you at all. Were you a master deceiver? Why did you lead me on? Was I blind? I truly thought that I had found the one in you. The one that made all the other bad relationships, unrequited crushes, and short lived flings worth going through... because they led me to you. Maybe my head was in the clouds or I am guilty of being a believer in stupid sayings like "love conquers all". I should stop watching those chick flicks I suppose. Those movies tend to make us girls believe that the guy that left us will have a change of heart at the end... that he will come running through the rain to declare what a terrible mistake he made and declare his undying love. I guess that's why they call it fiction.

I was very thrown and very hurt when you broke things off with me literally out of nowhere. At least it was out of nowhere for me. Why couldn't you discuss your feelings with me? If something was bothering you about our relationship, why didn't you try to fix it rather than just deciding to end it all of a sudden? We didn't even have a fight or anything. In fact we were making plans for the future. I have never had a relationship end so mysteriously. That is partially why I found it so hard to get over. I kept wondering what the h**l happened. It just made no sense... unless you were pretending to care for me. That must be it because people that care for someone don't just up and leave for another partner. I think maybe you were using me for some purposes that I was not aware of.

I know that we were long distance and I am not blind to the fact that that is an obstacle. I know the distance was hard, but you knew that when we met. Maybe you gave it an honest try, but couldn't do it after all. I appreciated the fact that you wanted to remain in touch and be friends and even still see visit one another, but how could I do that? I would see you and my heart would want more. My feelings didn't change overnight. I can't just switch them off like a light switch. How can I discuss your new relationship without a pain in my heart when I was hurt and cast aside so that this relationship could flourish. That makes your wanting to discuss the relationship with me like a slap in the face. Why can't you understand that?

I know you didn't seem to understand why I found it hard to be your friend after the breakup. You falsely believe it to be because I "hate" you, but that's not true. You have some uncanny ability to stay in touch with all of your exes and not seem bothered at all by their new relationships, but I'm not like that. I wonder about your ability to even love someone. I knew it was a red flag when we you told me that you had never been in love when we first met. That's kind of unusual for a 28 year old male. Also, you told me that you never wanted to get married, never wanted a family, and that when you fell for a girl you would always do something stupid to ruin it. Red flags which I chose to ignore because of how attracted to you I was. Yes, I got hurt but I couldn't just not give things a try. Lesson learned the hard way for me.

I miss you evey day. I miss talking to you. I miss laughing with you. I miss planning our next vacation or trip together. You wanted to travel the world and so did I. I grieve for that dream coming to an end. There really is no one that I would rather see the world with than you. I had a lot of respect for your opinions and it is very hard for me not to tell you things that happen in my life. I miss sharing things with you, from the small to the important. I miss walking down the street in a strange city and holding your hand. I miss sitting in a bar in a new town with you and getting into conversations with the locals. I miss lying in bed with you and reaching over to hug you when you stirred. I just miss you.

Maybe I was crazy, niave, and living in a dream world. Maybe if things had actually worked out with you and I moved to your city, they might not have been as good as I had hoped. It may have been a mistake, but I was willing to try at least. As I told you in our last conversation, "At least I know I tried. I have no regrets. Take care".

Goodbye ex. I guess this is the way it has to be.

SouthernBelle.

Excellent letter Belle!

You've made a great deal of progress, especially coming to grips with the liklihood that you were used by a dishonest person -- that one is never easy for anyone to get their head around or to come away from less naïve but not jaded. BRAVO!

Yes wonderful letter Belle. Great stuff. Thank you for sharing that!


I echo Val's sentiments. It is a hard thing to be so brutally honest with ourselves at times. Often we convince ourselves to believe things that aren't necessarily true. It isn't until we are honest with ourselves that true healing begins.

This post shows how far you have come.

I know you still hurt and I can see that there is still some way for you to go but if you maintain the healthy and honest and honest attitude you have shown here than it will be closer than you think!

Well done!

This thread is just the best!

Here is one a bit reversed...

To the Sweet Guy Who Tried:

It wasn't your fault I was so screwed up and it wasn't your fault that we failed. I came that way already and was trying to hide it from everyone, especially you. And I was really a mess. I take responsibility knowing now how that truly frees me. It took what it took for me to finally get help and it cost more in time, money and effort than you might ever have guessed it would too. I know I would never have guessed and would have never begun had I known how much it would actually take. Good thing I didn't know. There is no way I could do it for you though, even though I wished I could. I had to do it for me and barely managed that as it was.

I am sorry my act was just an act and that you genuinely bought it. Sadly I bought it too at the time. I've since then learned that's called denial. I regret looking like I was up for offering you a shot at a real relationship when I was in no shape whatsoever to offer anyone anything at the time. I wasn't even date material, truthfully. I found out later what a con artist I had been, how deep my denial, how practiced my lies. I was good at lying to myself so it came as second nature to lie to you. I am very sorry for that.

You left me shaking your head, no doubt and I was somewhat embarrassed at the time too but I got over that. I just wanted to let you know I got the help after all. It was really hard work but I finally made it to the real me. I will be forever grateful to you for not adding to the big pile of things I already had to heal from and overcome and mostly for leaving me on my front porch with the lingering impresson of your kiss on my forehead.

You were such a sweet guy.
Love,
Me

Brilliant Val!

So genuine!

I like that letter Val. So many times others take rejection personally when it's not there fault or there was nothing wrong with them. The timing just wasn't right.

Dear Ex,

I gave you six years of my life, the best years, and you threw them all back in my face.

Everything you said about our future was a lie, you looked at houses with me knowing that it wasn't what you wanted, but even when I asked you, you never told me the truth.

For six years you said you would never cheat on me because you had seen the hurt that it caused others in your family, so you can imagine my shock at finding out you had kissed another girl.

But the worst thing is, I didn't even get the dignity to break up with you myself because you dumped me, and two weeks before xmas!

I have had contact with you every week since and you play with my emotions and shout me down, you have no remorse for what you have done and take great pleasure in rubbing it in my face.

The worst thing is I love you and hate myself when it should be the other way round. I hate myself for being so weak and pathetic and wanting you back. I hate myself for not seeing it coming and blaming myself for everything that went wrong. I hate myself for trusting you and giving you my whole heart and not keeping a bit for myself.

I never wanted to be this person, I gave you everything that was humanly possible to give another person and you threw me away like an old dishrag.

I hope you hurt like I hurt one day, to know the pain of someone taking your heart out with a spoon, to not be able to look at yourself in the mirror because you feel completely worthless. To see other people and compare yourself to them knowing that you weren't good enough even after you gave your all.

But it's not just you I have lost, its your family who were like my family. You have never considered anyone's feelings other than yourself. You panicked about commitment and now spend your time giving 18 year olds high fives and sending ringtones to one another (your 23 for god sake!)

I hate it that you had nothing when I met you, but we worked together and I supported you when you wanted a job in the emergency services. So you walk around with all the power and your badge, wowing the girls with your uniform and forgetting the person who helped you get it in the first place.

You say things to mess up my head and we kiss when I see you, I know you love me, and one day you will realise the mistake you have made. When you grow up, give me a call!

X

Dear exes,
Thank you for putting up with my immature wild ways and kicking me to the curb. I know it wasn't easy being with me, and sorry I just didn't know better. Thanks for showing me that I could be better, and can enjoy and be happy with my life mate, and kids and grand kids. All of this because you all had the wisdom to tell me to get the hell out!!

Thanks so much, for the freedom to find my happiness.

XXXXXXXXXXXX:)

Dear you, see you in another life and all the best

Love me

X

OH here's mine you had to be so immature as to go and tell anyone who could read or hear your lousy, dirty, lowlife untrue lies. Did it make you feel like a man to humilate me by doing this? WELL YOU IDIOT OF A FOOL OF A LOUSE SNAKE OR ANYTHING ELSE I CAN THINK OF.. YOU ARE NOTHING MORE THAN A JUVENILE IMMATURE CHILD IN A MANS BODY.. HOPE YOU ROT IN... because I am moving on in life and am a much more better person than you could ever wish to be.. at least I have honesty, and morals that you could never have.

That is my contribution lol... feel so much better now :D

"LBP disagrees: I like the letter, too... But to say something like that isn't personal just isn't the truth. When someone rejects, no matter their intentions, it's personal."

Not at all. If someone has owns a business that requires there attention 16 hours out of the day and they don't have time for dating and reject someone it's not personal. It's reality. If someone just broke off a 5 year relationship and the following week someone asks them out and get denied, it's not personal, it's bad timing. I could come up with 20 more scenarios as could you where rejection wasn't personal.

Maybe not for one side...

Maybe not for one side...
Life hurts sometimes and just as there is pleasure there is pain. That's just life, and you take the good with the bad.

You can take anything you want personally, but that doesn't make it personal.

There's a simple test: Is this something that would affect any relationship, or is it specific to the relationship with me? If it's the former, it's not personal. If it's the latter, it is personal. You just have to keep in mind the fact that not everything in the other person's life has anything to do with you.

If you take everything personally, then you've earned the pain you get. Not deserve, since almost nobody deserves to be hurt, but definitely earned.

Maybe I just define that word differently... You can say it's not personal, but someone is still telling you with complete confidence that their life would be better off without you... I mean, you can be stoic about it, but unless you're fairly cold it's still going to hurt and yes it IS still going to be personal... If the person in question is serious about the relationship, they're not going to do that. If they have the perfect partner then do they really just go and dump them for the sake of a job?

Is a job ever worth that? I mean, no one ever wishes on their deathbed that they'd put more time into their work.

Maybe I just define that word differently... You can say it's not personal, but someone is still telling you with complete confidence that their life would be better off without you... I mean, you can be stoic about it, but unless you're fairly cold it's still going to hurt and yes it IS still going to be personal... If the person in question is serious about the relationship, they're not going to do that. If they have the perfect partner then do they really just go and dump them for the sake of a job?

Is a job ever worth that? I mean, no one ever wishes on their deathbed that they'd put more time into their work.
First you are very sensitive, understandable given what you've been through. Second, you may try hard and think you're the perfect partner, but that judgement is not your call. As humans we all have our own take on things and when a female doesn't have that feeling for you its her call and doesn't mean you have no worth, she just doesn't have that feeling. Work on the self esteem and self confidence, as your judgement can be clouded by the emotions you feel. Accept that this one wasn't the one, and don't let it affect how you feel about yourself. That's what healing is all about.

Maybe I just define that word differently... You can say it's not personal, but someone is still telling you with complete confidence that their life would be better off without you... I mean, you can be stoic about it, but unless you're fairly cold it's still going to hurt and yes it IS still going to be personal...

To add to what Tal has already said sometimes if you get dumped it's not because there life is going to be better. Maybe they have to devote more time to ailing parents or have issues from the past that interfere with getting close to someone. I'm fairly emotional, in fact many women are not as emotional as I am, but that doesn't mean I let there rejection define me. There rejection may not even be rejection, that's the definition your giving it. Give it another meaning such as a learning experience or period in your life but don't let one or a thousand people tell you rejection is the definition for who you are. I'm sure you heard Michael Jordon was rejected from his high school basketball team the first time he tried out. He didn't let that one moment or that one person who let him go define him.


If the person in question is serious about the relationship, they're not going to do that. If they have the perfect partner then do they really just go and dump them for the sake of a job?

Is a job ever worth that? I mean, no one ever wishes on their deathbed that they'd put more time into their work.

But that depends on what there values are. If you value you job more than a relationship you work more. Some people don't value the job but value the security that the job brings, but still value that more than a relationship. As Wildcat says the relationship is part of your life, not your whole life.

Dear Danielle, (like I care about hiding her name)

I'm sorry I didn't make the kind of money it would take to make you happy enough to want to stay with me. Thanks for leading me on though, I guess my heart wasn't what you were after by saying the things you said. I was a fool for thinking that the love I thought we had would have been enough. It's too bad the way the world works for people who still believe in old fashioned "all you need is love"

Guess I'll know better next time, thanks for making me stronger!

Over Over

For sure... Hope you guys don't think I'm still hung up on that girl. It's amazing, but these past few months have worked wonders for me... I hardly think of her anymore. I have a date on Monday with a beautiful girl, actually, who seems like a marvelous person... Here's hoping!

Dear ex,

A few days ago our prof announced to the whole class that he needs to speak with you, you skipped class as usual. It's been almost 2 months since we broke up, and the last we had any contact was 1 month ago. So I saw no harm in informing you about what the prof said. So I did just that. I knew that being nice to you wouldn't mean anything to you, and I'm not trying to be nice to you to get you back or whatever, I'm over our relationship. I simply wanted to do something nice, since I still consider you as a friend. My intention was truly truly pure. But then I found myself getting upset at the fact that you didn't even say thanks. This might be a reflection of how immature I am, getting upset at a little thing like this.

From this I realize while I want to maintain some kind of friendship with you, you probably simply don't care about anything relating to me. And I realize any friendly/nice gesture I do for you would probably end up somehow hurting me, by your lack of response or something. I'll just feel rejected over and over again.

So today I took another step forward by deleting you off my msn contact list. I didn't block you. So if one day you want to be friends again or see how I'm doing, even years and years from now feel free to contact me.

I will no longer make any contact with you. Talaniman was right even sending a e-greeting birthday card would be too much. So I won't even do that on your birthday. Not because I forgot what day it is, not because I don't want you to have a happy birthday, not because I don't care, but because I'll probably feel sad that you didn't even reply to my e-greeting.

Anyway hope you're happy.

Sincerely,
Me

Dear ex go get hit by a bus :D

Dear ex,

Thanks for showing me how much four years is really worth once someone else comes along,

P.S. Go sit on a thumbtack.

dear ex go get hit by a bus :D


P.S. Go sit on a thumbtack.

What if the bus hit both of them and they fell onto the thumbtack? It would be like a two for one!

Dear Mr. Cigarettes,

I miss you so very much. It's been three very long months that we have been apart. A part of me, a very big part of me, wants you back so much, even though, I know, you are not good for me.

I even went on medicine, which I just got off, to help me not want you anymore. The moment I stopped the medicine, the more my longing for you increased.

I love you, I hate you, I want you back but you make me stink. When you were in my life, I had to stand outside in the cold, in the blazing heat, in snow, in rain, and yet, a part of me is willing to do this all again.

You were my friend. Sometimes the only one who seemed to get me and boy do you have me. Before I go on and possibly forget, I want to be sure you do realize how very much, I do hate you. Not having you in my life makes me forgetful, foggy, sometimes cranky, hungry, oh yeah, and I'm healthier and smell so very pretty, big woop, I still miss you so much.

You have a strangle hold on some of my friends as well and I want you to leave them alone!! You are just awful to us all. No one likes you. You are not attractive. Like some of the others, I hope a big bus rides over you and crushes you to pieces!!

You make me sick! (literally) I will not allow you back in my life, no matter how hard you are trying to force your way back.

Mr. Cigarette, I hope you realize how awful you are. You will NEVER touch my lips again!! So stop pleading with me and infiltrating my thoughts. You are in my past and that's just where I am going to make you stay.

I do have one question though – was it as good for you as it was for me? Oh never mind!

I regret the day we met ! I am determined to stick to NO Contact and believe you me, it's not ploy to win you back!

Love and hate you always,
Allheart

Dear ex,

I can't be bothered to think of you anymore.

And banging on about you for so long has driven my friends and family crazy (almost), so I will cut that string you think I am attached to.

Geofferson

Hi all. I hope to god that in however many years time I'm not still thinking about my ex.
Its been about 2 months so far.and at mo,I can't get him out of my head,but after reading these posts its quiet scary to think that I will never get over him.

Dear Ex

You were my first love and I'll never love anyone like I loved you.
7 months ago we went on our first date and I got you the moment I met you and I'd like to think you got me too. We had such a lovely night and I'll never forget how well we clicked. I often go past the place of our first date on my lunch break and think I never thought 7 months ago we would be where we are now.
I only have nice memories of you, that's my heart taking over because you have messed up my head so much.
You knew how much I loved you, how I would do anything for you and how happy you made me feel. I think in some ways you took that for granted.
We had our rollercoaster ride for the first 5 months when there were times I couldn't see us lasting, then for that last month we seemed to sort everything out I was myself and you was yourself. We got on so well and everything seemed 'perfect'
So why 2 days before our 6 months anniversary did you cheat on me?
We talked about the future, going on holiday, my birthday and everything. I wasn't even scared about my new job because I knew that having you nothing else mattered. You told me your feelings were getting stronger that you loved spending time with me and talking to me on the phone (I miss our 2-3 hour convo's at night). This was Wednesday night then Thursday you kiss that girl - what was so special about her? What did she have that made you do it?
You have not only broken my heart but you have taken away everything I had, the confidence, the smiles and the happiness. You've left me in this emotional mess and you seem to be coping so fine!
How could you do this to me, did I really mean that little to you. I trusted you with my life and life doesn't seem so worth while any more! I can't even bring myself to talk to your sister who I got on with so well, she was like a sister to me as well.

I don't think I'll ever stop loving you ex, but I will get over you and re-build my life and I hope that when you feel about someone how I felt about that they do this to you. That would be the biggest punishment I could wish upon you.
But for now darling ex I have to move on and find myself who will love me the way that I wished you would love me. I will never trust a man again and for that I blame you.
I don't hate you ex but I have no respect for you.

Have a good life and say thank you to the girl that makes you feel how I do!

Love always

Dear my sweetness

God damm I love you so so much.its been two months,I never thought you would ever do this to me. You knew you were my first love,the love of my life,I would ave died for u,over and over again.and I still would just to ave u.
Meeting you was the best thing ever,
Glad I didn't lose you to anyone and that you didn't cheat on me,but I think that would ave been easier than drugs.
Why did you ave to do it,if I meant so much to u, why ?
I believe you still love me and wished there was something I could do, but I know they isn't.
Its killing me to ave no contact with you,the person that was my life and soul for two years.
Now I ave to re-build my life that you destroyed,I will never hate you and will always love you with all my heart.
Get clean, follow your heart and be happy.

To my ex.

We did nt really argue and we didn't havea lot of fights .

You said you wanted abreak and maybethats cause I wanted to see you too much.
I gave you what I could and was always there for you, you you wold ring me at night and say am I calling you too much and id say no, now I wish I hadn't of answered all those calls cause you told me you wernt emotionally in love, that happened ecause I was there at theend for you and you even said you love to hearmy voice before you fall asleep at night. You trapped me into this false belief after 3 years that you really loved me and I went from being the kind and generous guy, and started having thoughts like what if someone elase had you and how lucky I was to have someone like you and how I just wanted to see you all the time. Well this backfired on me and you said you needed a break if only I had of done more for myself and not put everything into you , everything was going so fine when I was doing more by myself and making you wait for me but love got the better pf me and I gave you too much of e and you walked away. Its amazing how when a girl really starts to believe you want her a lot she backs down. I regret ever not just staying calm and enjoying my life and fitting you in where I could, imean that's just when love takes over your mind and its probably not even love its just a bit of insecurity worrying about if you are good enough or how can I please her mote should I get her this, if someone else was with her and they sasw er all the time then I wouldn't. I've worked out that's crap when I saw er less she was so keen to see me and we had so much fun on the times when we did catch up cause we hadn't spent all our times together that's what ade her feel so much like she wanted o be with me...

To huny

U will be my only huny,I can't stop thinking of you and really want to.
Sometimes I wish I had never met you because then I wudn't b in so much pain.but I'm glad I did,and I will never love any one as much as I love u, if you don't find your way back to me,how will I ever trust any man again. There was a time where I cudn't bear it when you went away to work for the weekend,yet now its been a month that I haven't seen you for, I had nothink to worry about when I'm with u,
I feel guilty about going out and enjoying myself without u,yet your probably avein a good time getting high.y are you all I can think about.
I hope your thinking about me to.
Please find your way back to me.
I love you very much huny.
Always yours
Mwaa

Please excuse the wide array of emotions. And if things don't make sense sometimes.. I'm just typing what pops into my head.


Ex,

I have mixed feelings about this. I want you in my life as a friend, but I know that no matter how far along down the road we get, there's always going to be that tension. I can't believe that you lied to me about her. You would sit at work on the computer just to keep in touch with her. That is PATHETIC. She is three years younger than you, she JUST turned 18, and I'm really ing angry about this. Whatever kind of "relationship" you guys had before we were together should be forgotten by now. I know there was nothing but pure physical attraction with you two. I gave you that, and so much more. I moved across the country with you when you went off to college. I supported you, cooked for you, took you places, and you all over me. Speaking of which, you just graduated from one of the most prestigious motorcycle schools in the (world, probably), and ALL YOU WANT TO DO IS SEE HER. I know you're online, all ing day. You are a loser. You claim that you want to be with your friends/family right now.. but yet you sit on your ing computer talking to her, sending her messages, etc. You are such a -whipped douchebag. I hate you. But I still care about you. I hope you have fun throwing your education away and basing your decisions around this one girl. I hope she cuts your ing heart out and slices it up, then hands it to you on a platter. You deserve that after that you pulled with me. We were together for a year and a half. And you claim that you were telling everybody that you were planning on breaking up with me months ago? And you tell me two weeks before we move back home? What was that you pulled in the hotel room on the ride up here last week, you were being so ing affectionate I thought you'd changed your mind and wanted to be with me. You will realize how much I gave in our relationship, and you'll miss my touch, my laughter, my personality. You'll come running back. And you know what? Right now I'm not sure if I'm strong enough to tell you no. This past week has dragged on like a month to me. I don't want you to completely cut me out of your life. You know what, I ing hate you for what you did. You threw me away just to get with some girl you've been obsessed with. You're in love with an illusion. You are a self-centered piece of . How can you accept the fact that, just days before you broke up with me, I wrote you a letter letting you know how much I love you and care for you.. yet you still stood there and watched me ing fall apart when you broke up with me. You stood there and watch me ing cry, you saw my heart shatter. I gave you my soul, and you ripped me apart just because you want to sleep with that girl. I ing hate you. If I could, I would wish you to feel the way I feel. I think about you all the time, and it's emotionally devastating. I want you to know the pain of a broken heart, I want you to cry yourself to sleep at night. I want you to have to force yourself to eat, sleep, or drink just like I have been doing for the past three weeks since our split. I want you to ing fall apart. I hope that someday, when you give your heart out, they sabotage it and watch you cry, without showing any glimmer of emotion. You'll know how much this hurts, and you will realize that you are a ing .

No, I don't want you to be in pain. I want to hold you, and kiss you, and love you. I want your arms around me, I want your breath in my ear, and I want your warmth at night. I want to forgive you and put this behind us. I don't want this animosity. I want to talk to you all the time. I miss everything we had. I miss being anxious and happy for you to come home from school, I miss falling asleep with you, I miss doing absolutely nothing on Saturdays with you, I miss your tickles and our wrestling matches. I am still in love with you and I'd give my world up to have you back. I want you to want me, so bad. I want you to think of me at night when you're falling asleep. Most of all, I just want you.


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I feel like a psycho, I feel weak and I hate this. I know this will pass, but it hurts so much.

Dear Ex,

I could not have been more happy with the year and a half that you spent with me. It was my first relationship, and I was worried about how the experience would be, but you showed me how wonderful loving someone can be. And being loved is by far the greatest thing I have ever felt. Hundreds of my fondest memories have you by my side, and you became one of the most important parts of my life.

Unfortunately, your feelings changed for our relationship. So you ended it. I still don't know what I did to make you leave me. You tell me you love me, I tell you that I love you, but it's not enough. And then you tell me you've been feeling like this for the past 10 weeks. 10 weeks? Why didn't you talk to me about it? I was new to everything, trying to be a good boyfriend to the best of my advantage, I haven't had the experience you have. But, one thing I'm sure is that a relationship relies on good communication. It is not good communication for your feelings to be changing because of anything, maybe something I said/did, and not to talk to me about it. You should've known I would have done ANYTHING in my power to fix things. I can't read your mind, and I'm sorry you couldn't approach me with your feelings.

You did dissapoint me though. We're broken up four days, and you've already drunkenly made out with your guy friend you told me never to worry about. I didn't worry ever. Why? Because I trusted you. I trusted you so much. And to do something like this four days after our relationship ends shows me that you may be a different person than I thought. If you can get over it that easily and already fool around, it makes me feel like I meant nothing to you. You further dissappoint me, however, when you took advantage of my vulnerability. You knew I wanted you back, to be together again. Even though you didn't want to get back together, you missed having me as someone to talk to, as your friend. Well you can't have your cake and eat it too. But you wanted to, so you told me we'd try to start things over. So we started talking, dating here or there, and then two weeks into it you tell me something that breaks my heart even further. "It's not exclusive." I still love you. And loving you means that I can't be a friend right now, it's too hard, but you made me one without my knowledge. I was working so hard to show you my feelings, to show you how much I loved you and how hard I'd try to fix things, and I thought we were doing this "together". But that was not the case, because you were running around doing your own thing while I put in all the effort to repair what we had, and you led me on to believe we were a couple again when we weren't. I can't believe you'd make me go through something like that; you know how hurt I am.

I'm done playing games now. If you don't want to be with me, it's time to go separate ways. I'm sorry if it stresses your life further. And I'm sorry if you want to be friends and I can't do that, but I need to look out for myself. You've taught me a lot, and I thank you. But now it's time to repair and rebuild. I'm moving on. Please give me my space, I need it. Don't message me, it's too hard to ignore you and I don't want you to think that I don't want to talk to you, but I can't. I hope everything works out for you in the future. I'm sure it will. And although I still love you, and am sure you will always hold a special place in me, I hope I will find the one person meant for me.

Aww man, that's sweet :( all the best :) YOUR find your special person, keep on chugging on!

Dear Ex,
Okay it has been a long time. I a married now and have I have a beautiful child. I am so happy that we dicided to part ways. You were never right for me. I wasn't racists and you were. I hated when you used to call people of a different origin rude names. Your alchoolism doesn't bother me anymore. The fact that you slept with my best friend, well I hope it was good. I hope that you got back with your ex. Did you rape her like you raped me? Good luck and I wish you the best.

Second ex,
I can't believe that I was so niave as to stay with you. You used to beat me and make me bleive that I did something wrong. Well let me tell you something... you did something wrong. You are a horrible person... you killed my cat in a satanic ritual and never fessed up... I know it was you. I can not say how glad you are out of my life. Goodbye!

Oh and to the first ex you sucked in bed!!

That was theraputic lol

Ha ha
<<you killed my cat in a satanic ritual and never fessed up... I know it was you>>

No way!!
Gosh u had some WONDERFUL exes!!

I know didn't I? He believed that he was satans child lol... Man what was I thinking. Now I have a keeper... I had to kiss a lot of nasty.. wierd frogs to get that man lol.

Just had to laugh there :)

Dear Johnny...


I hope your new girl knows what to do with you... since she's been around the block. You disgusting pig!

Dear ex,

It's amazing how for a year and three months I gave you everything. I let you hit me, shout and scream at me and time and time again take the blame for something I never did for you. I got myself in a lot of trouble with you financially, physically with you (letting you beat me is never a good idea) and with others (being the true gent and defending your honour) and also emotionally (by losing best friends and arguing constantly with parents) just to stick up for you because I loved you. I adored you.

Then you banged your cousin.
The one you're now engaged to.
I dread to think about what your children will look like.

Oh, and the rumours your school 'friends' spread about you? They're true... You really do smell like cheese.

By the way, the way you treated me? I did do things with others I shouldn't have... Never mind eh?

Relishing the day you trip on your wedding dress, fall forward and the candles impale you through the eye and out the back of your head to death...
Your saviour.

I know didn't I? He believed that he was satans child lol...Man what was I thinking. Now I have a keeper...I had to kiss alot of nasty..wierd frogs to get that man lol.

Sorry about that rate, apparently I hit the "enter" button. What I meant to say was

How ironic given this thread's topic that he believed that cat was satan's child because in fact satan's child was my actual ex-girlfriend.

Dear Ex,
I wish I had known you when I was older... and not so damn stupid. You took my friends away one by one, put distance between me and my family, and never knew the meaning of the word love. You berated me constantly even though you were a lazy fat a** SOB who did nothing useful beyond scent the room with your beer farts. You accused me of sleeping with anything that resembled an upright human, including your own freaky looking family members. I used to have such great plans for us... then I developed wonderful daydreams... daydreams of you being struck by a random bolt of lightening straight out of heaven and such. Now I smile when I think of you. I smile because when you are getting your senior citizen discount, I'll still be in my forties! I smile because when I die I won't be alone or begging forgiveness with my last breath. You'll have nothing but your halitosis to keep you company. I may have forgotten to tell you this along the way, so I'll say it now... you really suck.

XXOO, V

ps, please give your brand new girlfriend my deepest sympathies.

Ahha o how I love this thread!

My ex is some sort of demon I think to : (

p.s. to the EX - You think chatting on MSN is actually some sort of friendship, whatever, I can't be bothered to wait for you anymore, with some sort of false hope, what am I doing sitting there advising you on life, what am I accomplishing - nothing, you put about as much effort into talking to me as you did to 'us'!

I Hope you find someone who treats you like utter crap! So all the **** you've put people through can come and HURT U !

Dear Ex,

So 2 weeks after you kissed that girl and ended our relationship I finally find out why you did it.
You done it because that girl (your ex) messed you up so bad that you don't think you can ever love someone again, that you knew you could never love me. But you was falling in Love with me wasn't you ex that's why you done it you got scared, scared that I'd be just like your ex and hurt you again. But Ex you knew I could never hurt you, not even if I tried, I loved you too much.
But why be a cheat and end things like that, how do you expect to even want to respect you when you couldn't even be honest!
You right what you say it is your loss, you say I'm everything a guy could want but still its not enough. You're an idiot Ex you could have had everything with me, but you threw it away with constant comparisons with your ex!

You have to move on stop living your life through your relationship with your ex it will get you know where and you will end up old and lonely!

I now wish you all the best, move on and be happy. Thank you for finally being honest with me in the end!

Love always x

Dear Ex,

Thanks for ripping out my heart again. I hope you are happy. I just hope you find what your looking for because obviously it wasn't me. And the time we had apart this time really shows me what type of person you really are. You are a golddigger, you never did anything for me(never) your selfish, you only cared about your own a**, you used me, never asked if I wanted to do something, always yelling at me, your way was the best way, never listen to me, you always made me feel stupid, was always about you and your son. Who noes you probably lied to me and cheated on me. But I don't care no more. And after all that stuff I bought and did with you guys this is how I'm rewarded. If you really think now that you have your new t*ts everyone is going to drop every thing and try to meet you, your living in a fantasy world like you always did. And I can't wait to the day I see you and you say (Me) I made the biggest mistake by letting you go. And I do hope you meet someone and you get pregnet and get big and you think he's rich because I no that's who your going to find a sugar daddy.But he gets you pregent and he dumps your a** but he has a ex wife who gets all of his money and you get sh*t , then you can have 2 kids with 2 different fathers. You had no rite to treat me like a yoyo and door mat all these years and you will have your day because what goes around comes around. When I still had possession of OUR ring you told me once too shove it up my a**. But since your not giving it back, you can shove it up your a** now and your fake t*ts too. Tell your son I will always Love him and even with all the crap you put me through, I will probably always love you too but not enough to take your fake a** back.

I WISH YOU THE BEST PRINCESS

P.S. If you really think any one else is going to put up with sh*t your wrong, I was just too much in love with you and neive to see the real person you are. And I hope your son resents you for tearing up this so called family.

Dear EX

I became your friend in the beginning of the school year. I helped you get over your shyness. I was the person you could talk to about everything and I could talk to you. I told you things no one was supposed to know and you told me. Then the problems started your brother became evil and started to tell your friends nasty rumors. Then you started to believe them and didn't want to talk to me. Now that I'm recovering from a broken jaw you want to talk to me now and be friends? I am sick of this bull what about me? What about how I feel. I can't deal with all of this I just wish you out of my life and gone.

A way of letting go...

Dear Jesse,
There are a million things I wish I could say to you to get you understand the pain you put me through. I was your rock, the one who was there for you when nobody else was. I remember the times when you had nothing, absolutely nothing and that never changed how I felt about you. No car, no job, not even a pot to piss in. I moved you into my home, struggled with my bills in order to give you money to survie, bought EVERYTHING, treated your daughter like she was my own and sacrificed my friends and family for a relationship with you.
I never wanted anything in return but your love, I thought we would have beeen married by now, have a family and prepare for our golden years together. Instead you played with my heart for 5 years and now all of a sudden that you are on your feet and you have the job of your dreams I'm no longer good enough. You're such a materialistic coward. Money, cars clothes, hoes that's all you care about. Now that you have "baller" status, every golddigger in dallas wants you. What do think is going to happen if you lost your high paying job today? Who would you run to? Who in their right mind is going to sacrifice everything the way that I did?
You listen to what everybody has to say about our relationship, don't you have a mind of your own? Aren't you a grown a** man? I want to hate you right now I really do, but I'm so stupid because when I think of you all I feel is love. I want you to know that you hurt me in the worst way, I have never had someone make me feel so useless and unattractive. I hope one of your whores gives you an uncurable disease and you die in misery you f***ing bastard!!
How could you treat me like I'm nothing? You said so yourself, I was the best thing that ever happened to you. I made you feel like a king when you were only really worthy of being someone's servant. I gave you my best, my all and now I'm stuck with nothing. I'm stuck with jacked up credit and mounds of credit card debt trying to support the both of us while you now have perfect credit because every f***ing thing was in my name.
I find myself wishing horrible horrible things on you. I hope you get hit by a bus or better yet I hope choke on coarse pubic hair since that's the only thing you seem to do with your spare time you a**hole!

p.s. I AM going to move on, and I can be happy without you no matter how much you doubt me. No I may not have the best looking car, house or the most high paying job, but I have love, support, and a good heart and no amount of money can top that!

So scccrrreeeewwww you!
Nikki

Dear Ex of mine,

I hope your P*NIS falls off!!

Never again,
Me

Dear Ex,


I'm thinking of you less and less and went out bar this weekend and talked to some woman and didn't even think of you at all. I really don't know, why but for some reason I'm thinking of you a little bit today. But don't worry I think I'm emotionally stable now to start dating again. And being by myself this weekend without you, I can honestly say I am happy without you in my life. I don't need you to make me happy no more. And when you see my house up for sale don't worry about where I'm moving too. Because it's none of your damn business. And no I don't ever want to be friends with you, you selfish B***H
And stop driving past my damn house. Just remember this is what you wanted and in a way I'm glad you broke up with again because I'm seeing more and more every day what type of person you are.And I feel so sorry for your son, that's probably why he wanted to move in with me. He can't break up with you.

Dear j/o
I took care of you for 8 years and what did I get for it but a kick in the azz.
How could you let your sons girlfriend abuse me in YOUR HOUSE and scream at me and go to hit me 8 times without doing a dam thing. I TOLD YOU I would NOT be back UNTIL YOU told her she must apologizr to me. COme on we are in our 40's she is 23 and your son moved her in and I did so many facvors for her and the other kids all for her to snap one day and tell ME I Don't BELONG UPSTAIRS in YOUR house. We were engaged and yet YOU DID NOHTING> you are so shi* scared of your son that you won't even say hey look she was good to you AND your girl so you better have your g/f APOLOGIZE or else HER AZZ IS OUT OF HERE >>>but NO you just stood there >>>>>>>>that was 3 months ago and even though you are a sh*t head I still miss you. I guess I have a grude against myself.
You threw 8 yrs away because you didn't have he balls to tell your son that you wouldn't have that going on in YOUR HOUSE> you happy now that Im gone??
I hope you suffer every night especially since your friend saw me with another guy the other night. I hope your scrambling your drug induced brains as to WHO he was and WHAT I was doing with him. 8 years 8 long years and YOU let ME go instead of putting your foot down and telling the kid either she apologizes to me or she goes. Ball less bastard.

Roses are red violets are blue go to hell and take your son with you

The post above inspired me to rhyme...

Dear Ex,

There must have been some good times
Or I surely wouldn't have stayed,
But all that comes to me now
Are the games you always played.

You were a decade older.
I thought that made you wise.
So once I met the "real you"
Imagine my surprise.

I should have seen it coming,
The signs were all right there.
You constantly hurt me,
And you didn't even care.

Well here's a little update
In case you're interested
I finally found a real man,
and he's good in bed.

He makes a lot more cash than you
But more importantly
He knows how to treat a woman
With respect and dignity.

So happy to inform you
That I am doing fine
And came out in tact
Despite your grand design.

Good luck finding someone
Who let's you pull your crap.
You'd have much better luck
If you dated a door mat.

Dear Ex of mine,

I hope your P*NIS falls off!!!

Never again,
Me

LOL... had me in splits... hope he reads it... it will really fall off..

To my ex, I could not be mad at you for you did nothing wrong. You were a gorgeous beautiful and honest girl and ever so trusting and always so keen. Maybe it was your age 19 may have been to young to start a relationship with you. But geez your 22 now and say you don't know how you feel. 3 1/2 years was a long time for you to say your not sure of your love? I know now what you wanted, you said that you loved me but not sure if that was enough. How could a few months change your mind. Only at christmas you send how much you loved me and as soon as I let you have more of me you lost interest again. I now know what you needed, really you needed a guy who was not so nice and not always there for you, Ive realised some girls just like and need that deep emotional bond and that's what you were looking for. I know now I could have been less available and it may well have worked, you missed me so much when I was away for a month how could you change so easily... I didn't want to have to see you less for you to want me more and I couldn't do that cause I loved you more... Maybe that's life sometimes you can't put everything ion cause you don't get a return. I know myself and you know it to I was as nice as I could be and you loved me for that you just don't feel it inside. I will live with that and move on now. Some people just like to be with people who make them miss them a bit more and maybe I am a bit soft and that's the reason your still on my mind after 6 weeks apart. I thought we were going to be together forever. You even were kind enough to tell me 5 months ago that you were not in love with me emotionally and you still gave me another chance, I turned it around and you told me how great things were and how you were feeling it inside and you thought we were destined to be together and then I fell back to the needy guy again and always let you come over when you wanted and again you wanted to part.. I know you think of all the good times we had you have told me that you love the passionate and loving times but maybe that's not enough, well maybe you should realise you had someone that loved you a lot. If you had an arsehole boyfriend before me then maybe you would realise how good we were together. I can't change your mind or your thoughts and at the moment I can only think why I didn't keep my guard up and remain a bit distant we were going so well I had a lot of control you wanted to speak on the phone every night, I knew I shouldn't be lettingf you and I should keep you keenr but you said you love toi hear my voice before you go to bed. Well its been 6 weeks and 2 weeks since yourve heard my voice. Im hoping you miss me and realise I was the one for you. Im trying not to beat myself up and believe I didn't handle my side of the mans relationship right, I know I wasn't strong enough and should have stood tall but your niceness dragged me in. I went inrto our relatuionship with no fear was not scared of losing you cause I did not want to get hurt but time got me and when the years went bye I slowly gave in as my heart got taken by you I could no longer pretend I was not in love and that's when you started to say you think you used to love me more but now you thinkn I love you more. I should have realised the signs had put up my guard and backed away, Oh how you love to miss me to realise your love, maybe its your youth yet I'm not much older than you but yet, I keep making up excuses but love is an emotion amnd if you don't make someone keep that emotion in then it slowlky drifts away...

I think of you always and wish I had another go mayb I would be stronger and not see you all the time but then again I had a second chance last time and I still fell into your lock what a wuss what a loser and to think for the first 2 1/2 years I was having so much fun and did not even need to think of you all the time but then love hit me when you told be you loved me I started to buckle, now I think of it, it may have been when I thought I was losing you I pushed harder to be with you when I should have stood my ground and let you come to me. Time will tell and I'm sure I will meet another and next time I know not to give my all. Less is mopre they say and that is what you wanted and that is what you need. No matter what you were pretty much the perfect girlfriend you gave 100% and was always there you tried your hardest and let me close. I can never imagine meeting someoine like you again, you seem to good to be true and I feel privileged to have someone like you come into my life and yet now I do not have you anymore. My heart is broken and my mind is shattered always thinking of how I should have maintained my leadership. Although I must tell everyone this girl rarely ever said "I love You" and said she kept her feelings reserved so she wouldn't get hurt. I told her you are so cold and she said to me if you don't know that after 3 1/2 years you musnt know me very well. She didn't let anything bother her nothing at all. When I first met her I was just like that as well, I didn't want to be hurt but maybe that just wasn't really me... I feel upset that you will probably let your guard down to someone else one day but I can't be that person now!! I was one of the best guys you have ever met you said and you were one of the best girls I've ever met. I still love you and always will, I feel lost without you and 6 weeks has not healed me. Im not sure how long it will take to heal me but I know one thing for sure I must go on!! Im hoping we join again but not holding my breath, Its hard for me not to be sad when I used to be so strong and you would want me so much, but oh how things change...
Love you lots... Baby Hope you miss me and call everyday. I won't be answering though urve broken me enoug...

This is exactly what I need to do...

"Dear Ex,

I don't know why I still think about you but I am working hard to learn that I'm better off without you.

You are selfish and short-sighted. You told me that you're seeing the other person just to kill time. You told me you still have feelings for me and will eventually marry me. This is complete b*ll-sh*t. I feel sorry for the girl and the so-called relationship you're in now.

Thank for letting me see the real you now after 5 years together. Though it's bit late, it's better than staying blind forever.

I still miss you, but it is only the person whom I know five years ago.

Again, thanks for being a big jerk and allow me to learn more what I really need."

Dear Ex,

I guess the hurt is fading away and the hatred I have inside for you ripping my heart out again is also fading. I don't hate you, in fact I will probably always love you and your son till the day I die. I know I can never be friends with you, the fact that you will be in somebody else's arms one day sends chills down my spine. And I do get jealous when I do think about that stuff. I know I can't blame you for the way you are. I just wish I seen you for the real you a long time ago. Maybe if I did I would be married by now with someone else. I can't say it was a total wasted 5 years. We did have some great times together I won't ever forget. I know one day you will want some closure but you will never get that from me. I know thiers a lot of things that I would like to have answers on but it doesn't mater anymore. I have let go of you now and moving on. Well I wish you the best and hope you find what ever you are looking for.

Your Ex,

P.S. I still hope you get preganet and get fat and he leaves you because he was just using you for sex. That would make me HAPPY!

I just want to pop in here and let you all know how great you all are doing.
Your letters are just incredible and I just know, all of you will be more than okay.

The hurt and pain you feel now, believe it or not, will be worth it, when that heart of yours heals and is loved in return as you all so derserve!

Very proud of all of you and keep those letters coming. Not only does it make you feel a little better, but it helps others out as well.

Boy, some of those exs... lucky they are out of Allheart's reach ;)

You were the snake the girl trusted. You go by the name cobra yeah the lowest form on earth the snake and your proud. I hope one day someone stomps on you rips your guts out and then maybe just maybe you will feel one ounce of pain you put me through.
I would wish you a blazing case of herpes but I am too nice for that. SO maybe just (another) case of crabs after all you DO love crabs and you had them wayyyyyyy back in college lol.

This isn't really an ex, but a person who wanted a relationship with me after I moved away. I was just wasn't comfortable, and I was talking to someone else. She kept promising me over and over again we'd stay in touch. She dropped out of sight though. I had painted her a dish at a paint your own pottery shop. I had gone back to my old town and saw her and that she was finishing her masters and getting married in a few weeks (it's only been 8 months since she and I were talking). I sent this letter to her with the painted dish. It was incredibly relieving when I handwrote the letter. I still can't believe how much pain it caused me though, even though I am with someone else:
_______________________________

I want to offer my congratulations on your academic achievement. I am also happy you found a relationship that fulfills you.

I am certain a relationship between us in August 2006 would have been a mistake, but I am sad you avoided contact with me. I enjoyed how you got to know me. I appreciated the time you put into E-mails, phone calls, and cards. I was grateful at your efforts to understand me and encourage me through every negative emotion. While I only knew you 12% of the time I knew she-who-should-not-be-named, you are a much bigger part of my life. You were up there with <name of my friends>. Even though I am seeing someone else now, I still care deeply about you (with boundaries) because I have had so few people like that in my life.

You wanted a boyfriend bad. I wanted you when I left <city I moved away from>. I saw you were new to relationships and felt you deserved better than a 600 mile relationship. I wasn't going to cheat you out of that. I had to know whether you stood the test of time. Did you love me, or did you love the idea of being in love (as Jacob felt for Leah)? Did you like me or were you just bored, as you mentioned several times? My values would not let me uproot you from <old state> before I knew. You had other relationship weaknesses and so did I. I thought we'd support each other as we developed through them with local people. However, you pushed me in a corner because I knew a relationship in August would have been a wreck, but I didn't want to lose your friendship. I know, I said the opposite cause it was the macho thing to do. But that's what I felt. I was also bothered that I never had a picture of you since I was often lost in your blue eyes when we were together.

I regret I did not invite you last summer. I am not certain why, but I was afraid of leading you on, afraid of breaking your purity by inviting you, and afraid of incompatibilities I saw. I was meeting a lot of people back then and my A/C was broken, so my mind was occupied too.I did not know about last minute discount airfares back then either.

While I knew you'd see other people, I was shocked you cut me off. Over and over and over again you said we'd keep in touch. I wondered if it was a way to "get" me, but you said it was not. In October 2006 you asked for forgiveness. In November 2006 you said we'd stay in contact. I trusted you with my needs of people. I trusted you with my fears. I needed trust because losing people is traumatic to me. When you became apathetic, it hurt. It reminded me of getting kicked out of fraternities, invited to parties that didn't exist, rejected by Christians I thought were friends, and calls to God that were never answered. Maybe you did this to get back at me. If so, I am truly sorry that I hurt you and made you feel alone. I did to you what she-who-should-not-be-named did to me. I wanted your companionship but I wasn't willing to give you relationship. I unintentionally triggered your instinct to help others as a way to avoid losing you. At times I took you for granted. I may not have returned your kindness, especially when you seemed gung ho to get a boyfriend. I talked about other "hot" girls when I should have acknowledged how hot you were since I knew you were conscious about your body. I spent more time talking about what I was doing or trying to change you, than how you were feeling (but wait, you never told me). I communicated poorly in a few ways. I never introduced you to my friends in <old place I lived> or my family. But wait a minute. That's why I wasn't ready to have a relationship. You weren't either. And I started to see incompatibilities and questioned if you'd stick around. I didn't realize I would lose one of my safe people. As you once noted, safe people sometimes do unsafe things.

Perhaps one day, forgiveness may be possible. I have been filled with anger, guilt, betrayal, and condemnation. Every guy friend of mine told me not to write you. Sending this has pushed my limit of Christian love, and not just because it is the neatest stretch of handwriting I've had in 15 years. But I remember from Safe People that the chief message in the Bible is about reconciliation. I regret I ended my friendship with she-who-should-not-be-named because I could not handle the emtion. I pushed her because I thought I had to marry her when I finished my degree. I may send her an apology because of the similarities (reverse roles) with my experience with you. I had to send <my advisor> out because he would not stop lying to me. In Oct 1999, I had it out with a German exchange student. I thought we'd never talk again, but she sent me this E-mail that I direct at you (she's married now and we exchange e-mails every few months):

"Did you already give up on me? It really disappointed me that it seems to be quite easy for you to forget the friendship which connected us.

I know that some things happened, that shouldn't have happened and I am extremely sad that things developed that way. What I really regret is that we didn't took the chance to talk about all that on Sunday before both of us went separate ways. I think it shouldn't have been too difficult for both of us to say that we are sorry for everything that went wrong during that week and in that way we could have forgiven each other.

Maybe you can tell me what made you so mad at me - so that I can understand all that. But I really regret it that you seem to have no problems with forgetting me and our friendship just because of some minor problems, which we could have solved. In my opinion people shouldn't deal with such a wonderful thing like the bond of friendship too carelessly. For my part - I regret the mistakes I made during my stay with you, but I hope that you understand me and the difficult situation I was in, too.

I just wanted to let you know what I feel about all that and if you should be interested in rebuilding our friendship you could let me know what you think about this situation."

Wow, after reading that I am sending an apology to she-who-should-not-be-named.

I want the best for you and am glad you are in a relationship that provides for your needs. I hope you you're together for the right reasons and not because you feel alone, you feel you have to get married, or as a rebound to me. Through you, I realized what a sinner I've been and identified my relationship weaknesses (ie, fear of sharing positive feelings). Through <name of current girlfriend> whom I was introduced through eHarmony, I've corrected the mistakes I made with you. I'm feeling the unconditional love that does not have strings, and forgiveness. Through her, I've found a source of healing, my best friend, and someone who completes me. Having watched her in crisis, attend to her friends in crisis, set boundaries, and in conflict with me, I am confident I can be with her through good times and bad.

I am sad I lost what I thought was a safe person, but certain a relationship in August would have been worse. I value you and that's why I have attempted to reconcile. I welcome contact from you whenever it comes --- I will leave that ball in your court. Whether it's 5 days from now or 5 years from now, and whether its anger, appreciation, apologies, or advice, I will always be glad to regain contact. But if not, feel free to enjoy your life.

Regardless of whether you and I ever speak again, I hope you joyously celebrate your graduation. It is an incredibly big deal, even if it isn't as wild as <her undergrad school>. I also wish you a happy birthday next month, a passionate career that lets you make a difference, and the best in your future relationships and family.
__________________________________________________ _______________

dear x now I see what a scumbag you really are matter of fact every time I see my douche nozzle thoughts of u come to mind. You never even squeezed a tear out. You're a hearltess son of a b you and your family use people you have no thanks for all I did you were never there for me and I hope someday your in pain (as usual it will come again) and your dying to have ME by your side and u start to thinkof ALL I DID every time u needed me which was all the 8 years. Yet u neve did a damn thing for me. My tears are turning to hatred cause now away from u I see you really are what you call yourself a snake lowest form of creature on earth. AND if your being a pig well get warts on your penis or testes or crabs see I'm still nice didn't wish you nothing terrible. But I know when a man has any prob w his penis he freaks out; lol hahhahah matter of fact hope your impotent. LOSER your like a B day cake I always told you that EVERYONE had a piece you whore/ THANK GOD I didn't get nothing from you and I HATED seeing all the neighbors and everyone in Town every day knowing you banged all of them. Your not special everyone had you. J/O

Dear Ex,

I guess the hurt is fading away and the hatred I have inside for you ripping my heart out again is also fading. I don't hate you, in fact I will probally always love you and your son till the day I die. I know I can never be friends with you, the fact that you will be in somebody elses arms one day sends chills down my spine. And I do get jealous when I do think about that stuff. I know i can't blame you for the way you are. I just wish I seen you for the real you a long time ago. Maybe if I did I would be married by now with someone else. I can't say it was a total wasted 5 years. We did have some great times together I wont ever forget. I know one day you will want some closure but you will never get that from me. I know thiers alot of things that I would like to have answers on but it doesn't mater anymore. I have let go of you now and moving on. Well I wish you the best and hope you find what ever you are looking for.

Your Ex,

P.S. I still hope you get preganet and get fat and he leaves you because he was just using you for sex. That would make me HAPPY!

WISH TRIPLETS ON THE BEOTCH

Dear Ex,

I really don't know why you left me, you said you had a change of feelings but that really doesn't make sense to me =[. We had a wonderful relationship, I treated you so well. I bought you what you wanted and everything I tried to be a perfect boyfriend , you told me you loved me so much and that you would never leave me, why would you break a promise like that? I truly do love you so much, I don't go a day without thinking of you and remembering everything we been through to our first kiss together in the park. But it's OK
I don't hurt as much anymore. And why would u like ____ he's probably one of the worst boyfriends ever.. I don't knowwww this pain feels like its never going to leave . I hope u live a wonderful life cause all I ever wanted was to make u happy.

Love
Kyle

Dear Ex,

I just want to say happy mothers day too you and your mom.

Forever Yours,

It does suck that there is no dress rehearsal in life but at least its fair in that this is true for everyone. I can still remember the day I finally acknowledge (to myself) that I am powerless over others -- it changed instantly a lot of how I operated. And even more enlightening (again, for me) was how later on I realised just how powerless everyone else was over me BWAAH HA HA HA (LOL) and that changed me some more. We are for the most part powerless over each other - the best, if we even get this, is to influence only. That is something to consider and again its arranged fairly too, how nice! You MIGHT influence me, and I MIGHT influence you. But in my case it took professional help for me to get that I am not powerless over myself, nor is anyone else unless they choose to be. That was really a life altering awareness.

The best we can do is wake up, and live a life with eyes open, minds alert and hearts as loving as possible-- to ourselves first and foremost and then to each other. Lose the pollyanna mindset of childhood and see the world and its inhabitants as they are -- both good and bad. It is your job to take care of you -- that is your mandate as an adult. No priviledges for us without the corresponding responsibilites. The only real victims on my list are kids, animals and the infirmed-- they do not have the same resources as we do, on many levels.

So, when you see someone who looks like bad news, just quietly duck across the street. Don't be so quick to believe people. Some of us are very decieved and decieving both. But don't take on being jaded either, for that is just as bad. Instead cultivate (along with this realistic discernment about the world) a positive overall outlook because the best is yet to come. Notice the word "overall" and don't put the burden of your happiness on any one person -- its too big of a load for any mortal. And the good stuff that does arrive, be mindful that may not take the size, color, or form you imagined but it does indeed get better and better in the long run -- at least so far it has with me. That is the truth as clearly as I can put it.

By chance I have found this website today and have been reading posts for a little while. I ran across this and I had to say that what VAL says is so true of life. I forget it from time to time and it kills me to learn the same lessons all over again.

I would thank him for our son... that is all I would have to say to him.

Dear Ex,

I only went out with you because you were hot.
Burn in hell.
The stain won't come out of your shirt.

Dear my huny
I love you ever so much. I can't understand why you had to do what you did, I am heart broken,I willl never get over you, why did you have to take your life the way you did, if you wanted to go,there were less dramatic ways of doing it, I miss u, I hope and pray that one day soon you will give me some sort of sign that you are really sorry,u do love me,and that your happy, I only ever wanted you to be happy.
God bless you my sweetness
Forever in my heart
Always your
Mwaa

To my ex:
I think you lost the best thing that ever happened to you!! Lol. Grow up.

Dear ex,

Its nice to hear that you are happy again. I hope you have found what you went looking for and your new love makes you feel as good as you did me.

Skell

Dear ex,
I am sorry I will pretend to dislike you on the following days because I think it will be good for both of us.
I still love you. But I believe that a beginning and an ending in the relationship are destined to happen. If our names are written on the star, we would be happy when we are together. I also believe you would be a good boyfriend and husband to another girl after me in the future.
I have seen your letter today. You said you tried to help a girl in England who wanted to leave the larger society. I knew you also hoped that I was not like her. However, you should realize this is a complicated society. You don't have to hope to change anyone. We all will be more mature someday. That someone didn't want to be sociable or talkative doesn't mean that she hates life. She has her own life style which might be better for both her and others.
I love you. I am sorry. I believe that later you would think our breaking-up is the best choice for you.


xiaocake

Dear Ex,

I read your profile again on match.com and from the looks of things the way you keep changing your profile it looks to me like your getting desperate. From some one who would never date a guy who didn't make over $75000.00 a year and didn't have a great job like me, it looks like your going to settle for anyone. I was shocked when you added you would date someone who only had a high school degree and would date any income level. Umm, looks to me like the grass is not greener on your side again. I just hope one day you realize that I did treat you like a damn queen. Like I feel you are now when you drive past my house on purpose. I still miss and love you and your son very much and I still can't believe you did this again. I just hope you hurt and regret every day for the rest of your life how GOOD you had it with me PRINCESS.

P.S. I see you for who you are and I'm moving on with my MONEY, and will see how far you get on just your income. You could have have it all with me baby.


Your ex

To my sweetness

loving you is easy
I do it everyday
missing u is heartache
that never goes away.

no longer in my life to share
but in my heart
your always there.

I forgive you huny, you are so special to me,
you made such a difference in my life,
I truly cherished every moment I had with you,
now I will cherish our memories and our happy times and make you proud of your princess.
forever my lover forever
memore always
mwaa
sweet dreams
all my heart, always yours
sweet cheeks xx xx xx xx xx xx xx X xx

Too my girl.

I just want to say I will always love and miss you. But it's time for me to truly let go of you and XXXX(her son). You taught me a lot about things and how to truly love someone on a different level. I don't / can't ever hate you. I don't know your intentions or why you still are playing head games with me again when we are broken up, but I will not let you ever control me again. Tell XXXX(her son) I will always love him. I would like to be friends but I can never see you as just a friend. I hope you find what you are looking for in a man obviously it was not me. Please never sell our engagement ring, that would kill me to find out you had sold it. I hope one day you think of me and to yourself, yes he was a good man, I wish I never let him go. That would make me feel good about myself. But now I must let you go.

Love always, Scott

Dear Ex,

There you go, out of my life over an argument. As much as I tried communicating, things were only your way and I could never say a word! You would speak and when it was my turn you would hang up! You cursed me out all the time and you shared my deepest secrets to the public whenever you got mad! You made fun of me not having a car and you constantly threw me out of your house! You talked to me like garbage and treated me like ! I dealt with all of you daily and I always tried my hardest to not pay you back for everything. You always found a way to pay me back. I made a mistake of calling certain friends you didn't like but stopped for almost 7 months and what do I hear come out of your mouth? "I'm going to call guys"? I wonder what you've been doing? And then you take a break after going out to your sister's church without telling me and you did it again the next day! Cheater! Hanging out with new guys and letting them get close to you and then you put the F****** guy on your top on myspace! F*** Y**!! You hurt me more than you will ever know. You Bit*h! I loved you with all my heart! I did everything and I was there for you. You had the worst attitude ever which is why we couldn't work things out. Everything had to be your way. Everyday you got out of work, I'd say, what do you want to do today!! I always let you choose! You had a problem with everything I did. "Don't protect me" "Don't look at girls" (even when I wouldn't) You are psycho and bi-polar! Yes you have a great smile and you can be fun, but come to think of it, you really did me a favor by leaving. I can see now how you manipulated me and controlled me. I couldn't even be around family because you wouldn't trust me. Psycho! Don't ever stop me from being around family! I never stopped you. I would tell you for us to go chill with Al and Jeremy and watch a movie with your parents but you always said no! You said you don't like being home and so much more junk. I like your family more than you do... What's your problem. You need to grow up and maybe one day you will realize I was the best thing that ever happened to you like you said everyday. You said I was your best at everything. The truth is I loved you so much I would've never left you no matter what you did to me. So thanks for the favor you mean girl. I rememeber one of our last convos, I said, "I'm being so nice to you and you're being so mean, imagine how you would get if I was mean" And you said "Fcuk you, you piece of "! Still I called you back and I said sorry for getting you upset like I always said throughout our relationship when it was you who should've apologized! You never said sorry! You never would call back to fix an argument unless you wanted to yell at me some more! How didn't you see all this good from me! You always gave up! You would swear not to curse me out and then you would the next day. Your family started hating me after a while because of you. You always made it seem like it was my fault, like I was the one who started things. You're manipulative! One day I told you not to bend over the way you did because of your shirt and people can see and my bro was next to me... One second later you did it again! You stubborn A**! You never did anything right! You even cursed me out in front of my brother! And during a basketball game just because I told you to play defense! One basketball game you walked away on me in front of everyone just because I didn't play defense. I was observing the guy to see how he played and I told you the next game I'll get serious! RELAX PSYCHO! I mean sure I had some good times with and I loved them and I swear I tried my hardest to keep them coming, but you always stopped them from coming. You are too much! Checking through my stuff every second! I let you use my moms computer to do your resume because I cared for your life and future and for 2 hours you were spying on me!! You never loved me at all!! I sent you flowers all the time and gave you everything you desired. I got you airplane tickets to take you away with me for a vacation and to fulfill your dreams, and then you leave me. I did it all for you. I tried fixing every argument but you were not there to help. You loved staying mad. You made the worst of our relationship. I am the sweetest, caring, cutest, funnest, passionate, loving, daring, cleanest boyfriend you will ever have! If you were bored I'd save you and give you the time of your life, but you're attitude is insane! Even the way you talk to your brothers and parents! Then you go to church but yet you smoke and curse up a storm in every sentence! WHO ARE YOU!! Still I always took the blame for EVERYTHING! But I don't care anymore! I'll take the blame! Just know I did my best and I tried everything to fix us, but you just played games and I'm not playing anymore! I still can't believe you told my secret out in the public! How about I tell people your secrets? You wouldn't like that huh? You're so fu*king lucky I'm not like you! I'm so much better than that. Thanks for the good times anyway and for doing me whenever I wanted it (I taught you the nastiest and funnest things!. lol) and thanks for all the lies of always and forever. Bi*ch. But don't you dare for one second ever think that I won't find someone better than you. But I sure will! Goodbye Ex-Girlfriend!!

I hope the next boy you kiss has something terribly contagious on his lips!

And I hope there is ice on all the roads and you can think of me when you forget your seatbelt and again when your head goes through the windshield!

Dear ex

When we first met there was an instant spark, I felt a connection with you that I've never felt with anyone else. From the very first date I knew that you would be a major part in my life.
I remember the first time you said you loved me, we were lying beside each other and I was toying with you, saying how I really really really liked you, you smiled, looked into my eyes and said those three words "i love you", I felt so happy, I never heard anyone say that to me before.
I was your mr perfect, we went everywhere and did everything together, it was me and you against the world.
I only wish you hadn't told me about your past, at least not the detail you gave, I couldn't handle it, I bugged me everyday and night but I tried to hide my feelings.
I know I was an idiot for some of the things I did, I'm sorry I got jealous over your ex and I'm sorry I sent that text, I just wanted a reaction.
I remember reading the text message and scrolling down to see the "its over", I remember feeling lost, like something had knocked me out and I was in a state of daze, I tried to hold back the tears but I couldn't, I was so scared.
I tried to ring you and get an answer but you didn't pick up your phone.
Now I don't know who you are anymore, where did that sweet girl go, why didn't I get to say one last goodbye to her? I look back now and wonder where has it all gone?
Your were my first love and ill never forget you, even now after all you put me through I would die to protect you from anything in this world.
You will go out and find another, I hope that whoever that person is he brings you a state of happiness I could not, I want to thank you for giving me the best time of my life, I'm sorry it had to end, I would have stayed with you forever.

Now all I feel is anger, all I'm left with is this beast that wants to burst out, why did you leave me? Why did you just text me randomly to say its over? I would understand you're behaviour if there was another guy but there isn't, why wouldn't you let me back into your heart and prove myself?

you say your parents won't forgive me because of the text, they are christian, surely they should understand that people make mistakes, I'm still a boy, I'm sorry I swear I never meant to hurt you!

Your friends told you to leave me and you listened, that shows what I meant to you, you listen to girls that have never been in a relationship let alone love, what would they know about the work you have to do?

What hurts the most is knowing that you still talked to your ex, even when we were going out, you said you hated him but you could still flirt online with him while talking to me? What makes me worse than him at this point? You even added the man that abused you on bebo, the man you said you hated and wish you never met! When I wanted to go after him you stopped me, you protected him and got mad at ME for confronting him when he texted you that time.

I was only ever trying to protect you!

I wish you would remember the times we had, it seems that I'm always the one that get left behind, you are out having a good time with your friends but I have found something more valuable, I have found this website with great people that care about me, its ironic that almost complete strangers care more about me than you!

I thank them all because if it wasn't for this site I don't know what I would have done.


You were the love of my life and the life of my love

Im sorry

Goodbye

(sorry it wasn't as humourous as others lol)

An update:

I don't really give a s_h_t! ;]

Dear Ex

Well. I should say dear miss jump on me while you drunk use me like a bit of meat, insane monagmistly challenged, strangly blond.. women!
I couldn't be more happy that you are leaving my life, its been a complete nightmare.. I just feel sorry for your boyfriend, I'm not the victum here, that poor guy is.
Hope it all works out. Hope you can keep your hands to yourself when you get those vodka in you.
Oh yeah I'm going to bill you for making me waste my time thinking about you.

So long and good night

-blank-

Dear Friend,
I’m writing this letter because if I talk to you, I’ll start crying and won’t be able to really tell you what’s on my mind. I fell in love with you the very first moment we met in the hallway. You may not believe that, but it’s true. It wasn’t an instant closeness, or connection. It wasn’t that I felt like I knew you before. It was love. From that moment I was in love. I didn’t know that then. I thought it was infatuation, lust, a faze. But looking back, I now know it was love all along. Why else would I put myself through this? When I meet a man and we are attracted to each other, but he tells me he has a woman, I am instantly offended that he would even want to get to know me and disrespect his woman like that. Even if it’s only to be friends. Because how can you only be friends with someone you like who’s taken? I usually don’t want to have anything to do with a man like that. Until you came along. I’m not saying you are exactly like that, but the way you looked at me, told me you weren’t taken. That’s why I had to ask in the hallway before I was led any further. For some reason, I didn’t feel offended or upset that you were being kind to me, and wanted to be my friend, despite the fact that you were taken. Why? Because it was too late. I was already in love. I felt it as soon as I looked into your eyes. I felt it as soon as I saw your beautiful smile. I felt as though you were mine instantly. I felt like it was normal. I thought that everything I began to feel was normal and I was suppose to feel that way.
You are someone else’s. You are not mine no matter how much I feel like you are. You can’t give me what I need. I want to wait and see sooooo bad. I thought I could just let things flow and let everything ride out. But it has occurred to me that you will be the one who is most satisfied with that. Not me. You can continue to only talk to me on the phone and never feel the need to see me. But I can not. And here lately even an occasional visit isn’t enough anymore. And as long as things continue the way they are, I will continue to want more than what you are able to give. I want all of you PERIOD. I can’t have you PERIOD. I don’t even know if I’ll be satisfied if you were my man. I don’t know if we would work out or not. I feel in my heart we would. But anyway, I’ve fooled myself into thinking that I can be only your friend. I can not do that any longer. Maybe you can, but I can’t. It’s all or nothing for me. Because as long as I talk to you, I will continue this obsession for you to be mine. Yes I am in love with you. But you can’t entertain that thought about me.
I want you to be with me sooooo bad it hurts. Love, love is crazy ain’t it? Everyone falls in love. Sometimes it’s wrong, sometimes it’s right. I don’t know if this was right or wrong. I know it came at the wrong time. Man I want to talk to you, I want to see you, I want to be able to just let things ride and how I wish I could relax. But I can’t. That’s just who I am. I mean even though I’m not going to be in your life the way I was, I am still going to continue to wait for you to be mine. Even if I meet someone else. You will always be in my heart. I feel complete with you. I feel like me and my daughters can have a wonderful life with you. And if ever you do decide you want a child, I want to be the one to have it with you. I want us to continue to educate ourselves together. I want us to travel this world together. I want us to grow together in life and live as one until we are no longer breathing. If only you could feel that way. But of course you can’t entertain that thought because you are someone else’s.
No one knows when, how or who they are going to fall in love with. B, despite what I’ve said in the past, I don’t regret falling in love with you. You have taught me so much about life and love. How it should be given and received. You have taught me what it feels like for a man to love a woman. You have taught me to be patient and live life to the fullest day by day. You have taught me to speak to strangers with a smile and give off positive energy into the world. You have taught me that everything in life has a purpose even if we don’t know what the purpose is at that moment. “It is what it is.” I have learned so much from you and I know I could learn a lot more. I want to thank you for everything that you could give me. I want to thank you for allowing me to love you. And I’m sorry for having to do this. I know it’s hard for you too. But it’s for the best don’t you think? You have a woman who understands you and loves you dearly and who would probably ride or die for you. I can’t believe that I’m doing this. I’m backing away and not just for a few days. I’ve really realized that you really love your woman. And how can I want to take that away from her. Someone once told me that when you love someone for the person they are and not what they are, you can truly be happy for them and not be selfish. I am happy for you. I am happy that you have a woman who takes care of you. And I want you to be happy even though it’s not with me. You don’t need me disrupting your life. You are set in your ways and who am I to try to change them? You are basically married and who am I to try to take you away? I don’t deserves your love. I’m not your woman. Yes I’m a friend, but the love you gave me was not for a friend, but for a love. She has to have your love not me. She deserves it. And I have to accept that. It’s not fair to her for her man to love another woman. I can’t do that to her. You must also love her so deeply. You respect her sooooo much. She must be so special. How can I ever hope to take that love away from anyone. It’s not right. This friendship is not right. It’s not normal. So continue to love your woman with all your love. I don’t want to be in the way no matter what you say. I know I am. I‘m not trying to tell you what to do. All I ask of you is to sometimes do what’s in your heart, and not what you think is right. If you want to call me, then call me. If you want to see me, then ask. Don’t not do it because you think it’s the right thing to do. Let your heart be allowed to make some decisions sometimes. I know if you do, it won’t be often enough to cause any problems. You can go for months without seeing or talking to me. I won’t say goodbye because it’s not goodbye. It’s just a pause for the cause. I’ll eventually be okay. That’s the funny thing about life. You keep on living.

Always and forever loving you,

T

Dear S:
This could be a letter full of anger or regretments, but it's not going to be that, because for this last time I want to remember all the beautiful things you made me feel.I've been thinking about how to get you out of my head and heart, but I can't, and the reason is because I LOVE you beyond anything, and I was expecting to share my life with you.I don't know why God allows such things happen, but I'm sure there's a good reason for that.I'm sure you know what I've been passing through, because probably you are passing through this too, I don't doubt you love me, or loved me in these 4 years, our story is just a bit different, there wasn't cheating, there wasn't lack of love, or passion, compassion... just a wide massive ocean between us, and time. So for all I didn't tell you and I feel I have to, I will...
When I first saw you it was like that scene of Big Fish, when the time stops and you see the love of your life, after seeing the movie and have told me why you proposed me, I laughed but it was truth, everything stopped for me! It was a crazy attraction, that I didn't care my mum was there, I had to kiss you and simply I did! With time, I learned to love you more than anything in my life, and I still do... These almost 4 years we shared everything, were fantastic for me, and I thank you for everyday you spent with me.

1.-For declaring your love for me in front of my parents, brother and sister, in front of your own mother, sister, niece and friends.
2.-For calling me the love of your life.
3.-For paying attention to every detail in the relationship, like offering me a hot water bottl
For my cramps, for preparing me a hot bath when I was tired, for the time we spent online waiting for the sunrise.
4.-For giving me little kisses while you were driving, and caress my leg on our way home.
5.-For wearing white shirts and the lotion I like the most, when you were going to meet me at the airports.
6.-For the lilies and the chocs you set on my bedroom to receive me.
7.-For staring at me while I put on my make up for going to work, and still tell me how cute I look.
8.-For our fights, for driving me crazy every time you didn't react for the things I was shouting you for!
9.-For being a child, and dance of joy every time I was staring at you.
10.-For the glances we share when I was in your house.
11.-For the times you told me you love me, while I was eating in front of you.
12.-For making me feel THIS loved.
13.-For all the poems you made, the letters, the songs, the videos, the pictures, the power point presentations.
14.-For crying and praying with me when my granny passed away.
15.-For the nights we loved each other, with tenderness and passion.
16.-For the time at the movies, when you selected the cloudy popcorn I told you I liked.
17.-For letting me win in chess! Hehe. (you didn't let me win, but let's give you this, in this occasion!)
18.-For letting me comfort you, and caring for you, for cooking with me, for loving my angry sandwhiches!
19.-For have told me: I wish this was our time , Clau... that this was our honeymoon,This is the perfect view for me, you in front of me, the ocean and sunset behind you Clau, when you were holding me in the pool in Acapulco.
20.-For the glances, the dances(eventhough you don't like to dance) for calling me angel, the texts, the short phonecalls , for the bunches of roses, and the little notes , for the letters and the pictures, for the trust and the will, the movies , the naps, the tickles,.

So you see? There are more things I could be listing, but I won't bore the readers here, I wrote this, because all the times you told me, I didn't appreciate all the things you did for me,the truth is... I DID, and I still DO, I will never forget you, or our love S! but to be honest you have hurt me, and I have hurt you, and now we're lost, but I won't stop loving you because of the hurts, my love for you goes further, so I hope I can find peace somewhere
And with time, my happiness. I don't want to hate you EVER, because we gave each other all a human being could share with another.

See you my love.

C

Thanks guys! :)

This maybe a bit off topic but I just wanted to post a letter up here to my grandparents, I hope it's not a problem


Dear,

Grandma & Grandpa

This is your granddaughter, Jenny. Trying to contact you
I don't know how many times I have tried to get in contact with you two but it has been a lot.
This maybe nothing but just a plain silly letter I'm writing to you but it's what I need to do.
I don't know why we still don't talk and I may never know but it's worth a try, I don't understand what made you two stop talking to me, As far as I know I haven't done anything wrong but you two may think differently then I do. I want to know how you two are doing and how everyone in "your" part of the family are doing. Grandma, Grandpa you two have came in and out of my life so many times in my life that I can't even begin to count. Is this where my biological father got this from? Was you grandma? I have so many questions for the both of you that I don't know where to even begin. You two DO not know me by any means because you haven't even bothered or even tried putting any effort into seeing me, You know a card here or a letter here or there wouldn't of hurt? Jeff did the same thing as you two did to me, He walked in and out of my life so many times that I didn't know where I stood in the world, I was such a mess and didn't understand why he didn't want to see me until I found out the truth. Did you two know the truth? Did you know that he sexually abused me as a child? Or did you just not want to see it? Did you know that he sexually/mentally/Physically abused me when I was fifteen till I was sixteen? Grandma, You brought a monster into this world and I don't know how you can just stand by and see him do this to his children. I am not just scared for myself but I am so scared for Ashley's well being and I can't seem to do anything about it but you can, I am sure you know what's going on. You say you don't talk to Jeff or Joanne anymore but I highly doubt that you would neglect him but then again they did to me so it could be possible since he does take after you. I did nothing wrong to any of you and all I got was nothing in return, I can honestly say that I loved all four of you but you four never bothered returning that love to me.

I'm eighteen years old now,
Did you know that?
Or did you forget my birthday too?

I am currently engaged to the love of my life and one day I hoped you would have put time and effort into finding me again like you did years ago and you could join my wedding but I see that's not going to happen anytime soon. I love him, He is the one guy in my life that has showed me what it's like being in love and what it's liked to be loved in return and I am just so happy that he hasn't given up hope on me like the four of you have.

I do hope you can write me back and I will give you the chance to explain yourself to me but if you're going to do nothing but say I'm lying then I don't want to hear from you. I just need to know the answers to my questions so I can move on in my life

With all the love I can give,
Jenny


Sorry if it's long

I am soooo close to sending this to my ex it's scary! Somevody needs to tell me what a bad idea it would be, and that it is a stupid idea, that he doesn't care! Tell me not to do it!

Hehehe

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I thought I knew what it was like to miss you, but I had no idea.

It's been exactly a month since you ended what we had. Some days it feels like a lifetime since I was with you, but most days I can still picture your face smiling before me, your voice in my ear – I loved your voice, it was so comforting to me - and I can still imagine your arms around me when I lay in bed each night.

I’m so sorry for off-loading all my issues on you. I’ve never been one for talking to my friends – I’ve always been the one giving the advice and help - but you were my best friend for those 7 months we knew each other, and I think it’s so sad that I’ll never get to talk to you or see you ever again. I know I never really talked about my issues and all even when I wrote you that letter months ago letting you a little bit into my mind – but I thought someday you would be the one person to truly know me and support me.

I never had a real relationship before I met you – you know that. I have always been the single one in my group of friends, and I’ve always had lots of male friends. There’s obviously something about me, which most men don’t like - but whatever that is, thank you for overlooking it enough to be with me for seven months. After a year on match.com, I lost count of the number of dates I went on and never heard from the guys again. I always was curious why they would say they had a great night – but then never contact me. I’m obviously missing something that other people are seeing. Maybe you saw whatever it is too.

However, when I met you, I felt special. I felt beautiful for the first time ever. When I was with you, I believed that you thought I was beautiful and attractive and it didn’t matter that I didn’t have the slim body that all my other friends have (which is why I suspect most guys don’t like me). You helped me feel normal for the first time ever. I felt comfortable being the real me for the first time. I didn’t feel like I had to pretend to be anything other than myself when I was with you. I was comfortable being with you, being naked with you – which I never thought would ever be possible for me. Even with the guys I had been with before you I always felt like I was pretending, and I never felt totally comfortable with them. When I met you, I finally found out what it was to be happy, and normal.

I miss you every day, and I guess it does not help that I have to pass your house twice a day and I can’t help but look up at it and remember the many happy times we had together there.

My grandfather died the week after you finished with me. All I wanted to do was call to your house for a hug, for some company. I miss that. I miss being with you. I miss having someone to give me a hug, someone to kiss me, someone to call before I go to sleep at night. I miss lying on your bed, and falling asleep in your arms – because I felt so safe and comfortable with you.

I hope that I am on your mind and that when you look at things you are reminded of me. The only reason I hope this, is that this is how it is for me. Everything in my life reminds me of you.

Where I work reminds me of our first date, reminds me of sitting in Starbucks and you giving me my Christmas present, and reminds me of meeting you for lunch. My job reminds me of all the many emails I got from you. The silly pictures or stories you sent, and the many emails where you told me how much I meant to you. I have deleted all your emails to stop myself from reading them every day, but I still remember them. Especially the ones so early in our relationship where you told me that it felt right, that you were crazy about me, that I made you feel special, even stupid comments about you liking my lady garden(!), and that I’d do just the way I am.

Being in my flat reminds me of you. It reminds me that I wanted nothing more than to be close to you – that’s the only reason I moved there. Possibly that’s a bit stalker-like – but I loved you and wanted you to be close (and you said you didn’t mind! Hehehe). The flat reminds me of the times I attempted to cook food but you had to take over. It reminds me of the laughter we shared when you would slag me for my lack of cooking skills – I loved that. It reminds me of lying on my sofa wrapped in each other and you saying how much you loved just being with me. It reminds me of my birthday and opening my presents. It reminds me of your birthday when I spent a day wrapping presents for the first person I ever loved. It reminds me of falling asleep with you and waking up with you – and how much I loved that. It reminds me of how happy I was when my days began with you kissing me.

It reminds me of you taking away the only thing in my life that made me happy. Every time I am in my room, I’m reminded of you sitting in my chair trying to justify why we could not be together. Now when I lie in my bed I am flooded with the remembrance of the utter devastation of the moment you said we were over.

I spent so much time in the first few weeks after you finished it questioning our entire relationship. I have so many questions that I know I will probably never have answers to, or even if I got answers, I probably wouldn’t understand them. I kick myself - which is impressive given my history of injuries :o) - because maybe I should have seen it coming. Maybe if I could convince myself that the relationship was not as great as I thought it was, then maybe it would be easier to get over.

How long before the night you ended it had you been thinking that it was coming to an end?
How long had you been contemplating the possibility of leaving London without telling me?

I wish you had just been honest with me. I wish you had been able to drop even the smallest hint that you were so unhappy with your life. I wish I knew why you stayed with me as long as you did if you knew it wasn’t going to last. I wish you knew how much you meant to me. I wish you had ended it much sooner – instead of letting us become my longest relationship, before letting me fall so in love with you. I wish I knew why I loved you more than you loved me. I wish I knew why I could not be a part of your life. I wish I knew how I could be so oblivious to what was going on in your world. I wish I had realised that I was not important to you, and evidently wasn’t part of your world. I wish you hadn’t made me love you. I wish you hadn’t gone on holiday with me and given me all those memories which once happy are now so sad. I wish you had considered the fact that every day we were together I loved you more and more.

I still do not understand, and to be honest I do not think I ever will. I want to believe that you did love me. I think you did for a little while at the beginning, but whatever bit of love you did have for me clearly faded. Because if you loved me the way I loved you, you could not have just deleted me from your life.

I feel so stupid and naïve for falling for you, and believing that what we had was special. I feel stupid for thinking that we were a good match. I feel stupid for believing you when you said at New Years that this year was going to be good because we were together. I feel stupid for gloating to all of my friends the weekend before we went on holiday that we were going great, that we had no problems and that we were so in love. I feel stupid for going on that holiday with you. I feel stupid for taking pictures of you and me together. I feel stupid for telling everyone when we got back from holiday that it was great, that we didn’t fight once – and I feel incredibly stupid for thinking that was such a great thing. I feel stupid for believing that the fact that we could spend all that time together was a great sign. I feel stupid for being so blind to what we really had.

Maybe it’s because I was 24 when I met you and had never been in love. Maybe I wanted to be in love so bad that I invented this great relationship in my head. Maybe it is because of my depression that I convinced myself I was happy with you – maybe I thought I needed something/someone external to pin my happiness on. Maybe it is because I had 4 years alone before you that I fell for you so hard because you showed an interest – which was so unusual to me.

Maybe you could tell me that my view of what we had was not just in my imagination. Maybe if I knew that you thought we were good together, that those seven months were not fake, maybe I’d have some comfort knowing that what we did have was as real as I believed it to be.

Though, on the other hand, knowing that you thought that what we had was as great as I thought and that you were still able to throw it away would be hard to take in. It makes me sad that you might have just been using me to pass a few months of your life until you decided what to do. If I think of us that way, a little piece of me dies.

Having been single my whole life, I knew that I would have my heartbroken eventually. I did not expect my first love to be the person I spent the rest of my life with – that only happens in Hollywood films. Nevertheless, I had sooooo hoped that I would get to spend more that seven months with my first love. I never trusted anyone enough to let them in my life. I trusted you with my whole heart, and you broke that trust.

I remember how much I missed you last December when I was with my family for Christmas – even though we’d only known each other a few weeks. I was so convinced that we would last that when I booked flights home for Christmas 2008 in June I only planned to go home for a couple of days because I knew that this Christmas I’d miss you even more than last. That is how blind I was! I was so convinced we would last a year! How mental is that!

I guess that’s also quite pathetic and sad on my part! I had such a different view of what we were. You were the most important person in my life. You made me feel special and beautiful for the first time in my life. I honestly thought I was important to you. I don’t think you really know how happy you made me.

I know relationships end and people move one. Break-ups happen ever day all over the world. So I’m not unique in the way I’m feeling. And God I’ve been the shoulder to cry on for enough of my friends to know that time is a healer. But all logic and reasoning goes out the window when it’s you. I will get over you John, and I know our lives are separate now. It is sad, but it was your decision. And however much it kills me, I have accepted that.

I wish I could know if you have missed me at all since you ended us.

Even though I’m heartbroken, I can say that I’m kind of glad that I can now say I’ve been in love. Finally, at 25, I know what it’s like to love someone. Unfortunately, I also now know what it’s like to have that love taken away. Hopefully I will learn from this. Maybe when I meet the next guy (in another 4 years or something like before I met you! Hehehe) I’ll not jump in headfirst like I did with you. I’ll not wear rose-tinted glasses and think everything is great. I will hopefully learn how to view relationships realistically. I guess I never thought you could just walk away from loving someone, but now that you’ve shown that’s possible, next time I’ll be aware that it could end at any moment.

There is a point to this rambling other than repeating how I feel about the situation, and this is it... I do hope that wherever you have ended up that you are happy. You kept saying on the night you ended it that you hadn’t made any decisions. I guess I would be interested to know what decisions you did make. Did you find a new job? Did you move up north? If you did move up north, I hope you are seeing your family and friends often - seeing as that was apparently your main reason for moving.

I’m going to believe that in some way, at some point you did love me. If that is true, then thank you for loving me. Thank you for letting me love you. Although in the weeks after you ended us I was at the lowest I’d ever been, in the seven months we were together I was the happiest I’d been in all my life.

I’d like to hope that at some point in the future be it in a few months, or even years, that you’ll get in touch to let me know how you’re doing and what’s happening in your life, because I’ll always care about you.

I honestly did believe that loving someone was enough – but apparently, life is more complicated than that.

Bye, take care of yourself.

Love always,

M

Dear ex
Ex Friend I mean, if you were ever one.
I k ow its been a while since youlast sent me your insulting e-letter band I do kick myself for not replying especially when ever one told me not to but in a way I'm glad I didn't, sure I couldve told you off and what an a$$hole you really were and arem, but were hopefulyl when you get hit by agarbage truck since yorue trash.
but I want to say thanks for making me realize I do deserve Better,much better!
even if you believe in that warped mind of yorus that I'm not and ever will be good enough for you,
this exzperience makes me realize to be EXTRA careful and more cautious dealing with men because they will obviously turn into a$$holes like you if I am not too careful.
Thing is I am too good for you,even if you don't value me and don't see me as much, I do,and I will make sure that the next man will never treat me the way you did,
and not to keep blinders on when it comes to relationships and men,
Now you made it harder on the next guy because I will make sure not to take any of his crap like I took yours.
I'm glad we never went far because yorue a player and a cheaterand I could NEVER trust you,knowing what a dog you are and will stick it to anything that walks, like you did in your trip w/your player friend. Iam not envious of whatever Ho you're with because you'll Crap on her when you get tired,that's the person you are,a dog always scatching its fleas and sticking its disease ridden thing to anything,especially another disease ridden ho,funny she's from a country known for women Hoing themselves just to get a bar for soap from tourist.
so enjoy yourself and I really do hope you meet the same fate as your father,
Dog HO

People don't turn into A--- H---'s. They already are A-- H---'s.

That's your challenge.

And why it takes practice to not try to turn people into something new.

But to find someone good and accept them as they are... and be in a place to warrant them when they come around.

I'm guessing this guy was no prize prince.

How many days of NC again?

Hang in there!

A

Dear Ex,
I don't really know what happened. I'm not sure at what point you went from loving boyfriend to uncaring jerk, but I know that one day you will realize what you lost. I gave my whole heart to you which trust me was not an easy thing for someone whose been hurt repeatedly! And what did you do, hurt me again. Not only did you never take the time to be with me, talk to me, enjoy my company, but you couldn't even spare me 20 minutes to let me break up with you properly!! The hardest thing I ever had to do was call it quits. I didn't have a choice. I was in love with someone who did not care about me. So this is my farewell. I had such high hopes for us, which is probably why this hurts as much as it does. Great thing is, I have friends that are helping me through this and showing me how to move on. Unfortunately, if you keep pushing people away as you did me. You won't have that. No girl is going to put up with as much crap as I did. Not one!! So I am now moving on to greener pastures. Whether you have realized it or not, you have missed out! One day you will, but I doubt I'll still be around to hear you apologize. I wish you the best. SEE YA!!

Oh yeah, and I'd sure like to add these song lyrics to my "letter" too:)

Wishes by Superchick

The saddest thing is you could be anything
That you could want
We could have been everything
But now we're not
Now it's not anything at all
The hardest part was getting this close to you
And giving up this dream I built with you
A fairytale that isn't coming true
You've got some growing up to do

I wish we could have worked it out
I wish I didn't have these doubts
I wish I didn't have to wonder just what you are doing now
I wish I didn't know inside
That it won't work out for you and I
I wish that I could stop this wishing and just say my last goodbye

After all the things you put me through
Tell me why I'm still in love with you
And why am I, why am I still waiting for your call
You broke my heart
I'm taking it back from you
And taking back the life I gave to you
Life goes on before and after you
I've got some growing up to do

I wish we could have worked it out
I wish I didn't have these doubts
I wish I didn't have to wonder just what you are doing now
I wish I didn't know inside
That it won't work out for you and I
I wish that I could stop this wishing and just say my last goodbye

It's time I said my last goodbye
Goodbye
Goodbye
It's time I said my last goodbye

I wish we could have worked it out
I wish I didn't have these doubts
I wish I didn't have to wonder just what you are doing now
I wish I didn't know inside
That it won't work out for you and I
I wish that I could stop this wishing and just say my last goodbye

It's time I said my last goodbye
Goodbye
Goodbye
It's time I said my last goodbye
Goodbye
Goodbye
It's time I said my last goodbye

You're nothing but a lie pinocchio.

I think for me that would be difficult... I have no harsh words to say to the ex. Even though I left him under good (but confused terms)I can't even remember what the good reasons were, only thing I remember now is all the things we did(all the things I miss) I would probably start babbling on about how I still love him, but I'm still confused and that I am back with my ex... but after everything we shared for the time we were together has stopped me from being able to feel the same about the man I am with now, and spent five years with prior to meeting you. I hate your for being so perfect and for pulling me out my stupid life, just so I could hop back into it cause I'm scared. I could say I wish I never met you, but at the same time, I don't ever remember being so happy as when I was with you.

Goodbye JERK!

This thread is great.

OMG I'm so jumping onto this post... here goes nothing!

Dear X

When I fell in love with you, I had never fallen that hard. I would have walked to china and back for you. I listened to your stupid rants about abstract ideas, I listened to you tell me the same things over and over. I watched stupid eastern european independent movies.

You never accepted me, you made me feel a little worthless, you hated my friends, you hated my studies, you hated my taste in movies and TV shows. You couldn't stand my family...

I honestly thought that the day we were over that I would miss you terribly, that I would never fall in love again, that I would never trust another man again.

But dearest x, guess what...

I don't lie a wake at night wishing you were here. I live my life and I'm happier alone than I ever were with you. I still have my friends, I still have my hobbies, I still have my family and what do you got? Half a sanity and no me.

and I know you want me back, but your chance came and went. You had me, you pushed me away. And I'm not shedding one single tear for you!

So thank you for the reality check. HAHA and my freedom!

Goodbye, and goodnight!

all the best to me!
Roxy to the pox, 2bedelicious!:cool:

Dear ex

I wonder every day why you cheated on mr you thought you destroyed me but I'm stronger now than ever. You blamed me why you cheated I guess because I bought your plane ticket I put you in that situation? Please I hope your guilt is killing you. I did everything fir you and never complained once, and you literally threw me away like I'm a coffee cup. All I did was love you but your selfishness greediness wanted more huh. I know your dating your rebound I wibdrr how much longer before you cheat on him, you have problems.

See you

Dear Ex,

I don't know why you keep reaching out to me like this, but I no longer care.

Your flattery is very nice on the ears, but they are all meaningless, and probably all lies. I hate lies.

I tried to be understanding, forgiving, and nice, but my efforts were clearly unappreciated.

I thank you for continually being a jerk, continually hurting me, and continually making me feel like trash.

Today I can finally say goodbye to you, to us, and to our past. So thank you, for helping me move on.

You made me stronger, and for that I'll be forever grateful.

Dearest Sophia,

It's been months now since that day in July when you packed your things and left. I should have seen it coming. You gave me many chances, but I neglected you and let my pride ruin our relationship.

I'm so sorry for letting you down. I'm so sorry that I wasn't there when you needed me, I'm so very sorry that I didn't try and work out our problems when I had the chance. I ignored you until you left me.

We should be living together now, and maybe even engaged. I am so sorry for ruining something that could have been so great. Im sorry I played a hand in ruining your relationship with your step sister, your step mom and your dad here in town. They had their own problems but we could have solved them in a different way. I feel like a home wrecker.

I miss you almost daily, and feel this was the biggest mistake of my life. My pride has consumed me now, and I have to lay in this bed that I've made for myself. Forgive me.

The times that I remember right now makes me want to... if I EVER see you I'd FRIGGIN' run and jump on you like a crazy baracuda and pull your eyes OUT! Then beat the empty brains out of your skull.

I won't need to do that because you're already doing it to yourself with street drugs :p

Dear Ann;

You were really cute. You came onto me first. Strong. Said you pointed me out to all your friends. I was hesitant because, well, let's just say you didn't exactly make a great first impression of "girlfriend material". You had many guys around, even when we met, and yet you wanted me. I thought this was strange, and I didn't really want a relationship. You pushed. It worked. For awhile.

Summer came. You went to your upper-crust summer home by the lake. I went to the run down shack that we're selling to get out of the midwest. We visited each other. Twice. On my visit, I saw how much of a spoiled little princess you were. Your father bought you everything, while I had to work a week just to pay for the plane ticket to see you. That money would have been better used here in college, on books and beer. But I loved you, so I didn't mind. You treated your family like , you always expected something for nothing. My mother would've slapped you. My father would have sold you into slavery.

I hate how you made me do things. I hate holding your purse while I had to follow you around shopping. I hate how I was "expected" to drive you everywhere, even when I had something to do. I hate how the relationship was one-sided. I hate how you hated my friends. My friends are awesome! Yeah, they might be crude, but they are loyal to a fault, every one of them. And honest. They weren't thrilled with you. They call 'em like they see 'em. I chose to disbelieve 'em. I hate how you were concerned about trivial things like $500 jackets and shoes that cost more than my entire wardrobe. I don't respect the fact that you will never have to work hard for anything in your life, while I was always told since I was a kid that "we don't have enough money for that".

Congratulations. You won't have to do anything with your life. I feel sorry for the guy who ends up with you. In the beginning, he will think he has a prize. A beautiful, sophisticated woman with refined tastes. I hope he can be both successful and at your beck and call 24 hours a day. He will have to be two places at once.

However, if your closest "friends" ever found out how much crap you spewed about them behind their back, I doubt they would be friends with you. I can only imagine the things you are saying about me right now to them. I don't really care, I'm moving on.

I hope you made the right decision. Actually, I think you did make the right decision. I've been no contact for a month now, and I'm only getting stronger. I think you lack all of the qualities of a friend that I look for. I guess that means I don't want you in my life. At all.

But the sex was good. Hope you're happy. Don't fail any classes... like you did this summer... and the winter before that. You'll graduate by 2020, don't worry. Daddy's bankrolling.

~Yo

p.s. Forget about your "Notebook" fantasies. I found out how you told your friends that it was "just like in the Notebook to date a 'poor boy'". And I know you used lines from the movie when we were together. I chose to ignore them. But if you think I'm going to wait around 6 years for you, you got another thing coming. I hate that movie.

Dear K,
Where do I start? I can remember the past five years of my life so vividly because you truly brightened up every single day that I talked to you. The first time I ever saw you I felt like melting and I knew that there was just no possible way I could live with myself without trying to get to know you. You are the closest thing to a fairytale I have ever seen, and I would love to sit here and type angry words and get mad at you for falling out of love with me, but there is not a bone in my body that can do that…at the end of the day you are still the most beautiful person I have ever met.

I guess if I had one wish it would be that my memories weren't quite as clear as they are. I cannot put into words how much you mean to me and I truly wish that someone can make you happy. There isn't a day that goes by that my thoughts in some way don't revolve around you. I have thrown every picture away and put away ever letter we wrote each other, and it doesn't do any good. My mind is a photo album of our life together, and I have to tell you that I wouldn't have it any other way.

I honestly don't regret anything that happened, and I thank God every day of my life that I was lucky enough to be with you. I can still feel you in my arms and I can still remember how you smelled when I hugged you. I can see you on the other side of my bed when I wake up and I can hear your voice saying, “Hi babe,” whenever I would pick up your phone calls. I can remember the touch of your hand in mine when we would walk to dinner on the Plaza, and I can remember the first time we ever knew we were in love. You taught me what goodness was and you showed me what it was like to love. I am so proud of you and I truly hope that one day you will think of me as fondly as I think of you.

All good things come to an end. I am still here for you and I still miss the hek out of you. I would do anything for you and I think you know that. I wish it could have worked out between us, but it didn't, and that is life. My last words to you, from the song that defined us: Edwin McCain's “I'll Be”

“And I'll be, your cryin' shoulder
I be love's suicide
I'll be better when I'm older
I'll be, the greatest fan in your life”

I love you kid, always have and I always will. You are an angel. See you around babe!

Sincerely,
Chris

Dear Rejected,

You were always my closest friend but I never meant for you to fall for me the way you did. I know we said we would always be friends, but its too hard to speak to you knowing how deep your emotions were and how vulnerable you were when you approached me.

You will never know how much your courage meant to me... I can only hope that by staying true to myself and being honest with you that I gave you a chance to find true happiness and true love with someone else.

Always,
busymind

dear x,

I've been broken hearted for three weeks now, 4 years is a long time. Still, getting better every day. I'm setting you free. Hope you find what your looking for.

Dear x,

I miss you like crazy! I love you and always will. You were amazing and I wish I realized things that I do now when we were together. You treated me really good, up until the end anyway, when you started to not care anymore. And that is my own fault because I pushed you to that point.

You are the hottest thing in the world. Every time I looked at you all I could see is how gorgeous you are and how lucky I was to be with you. You completely threw me off when you asked for my number. I saw you around and always thought, wow, he is a cutie, and so polite! Then you asked me out and I thought, sure why not! Never thought I would have fallen for you. You are so much younger and never seemed like my type. You are into heavy metal and have a ton of friends and so outgoing. And lol, you hate my favourite band!

You really loved me a lot, I know you did. You told everyone, you told my sister you wanted to marry me the first time you met her and you told your mom that I was "the one." When we were out with your friends, you would run to the store and come back with a rose and give it to me in front of everybody.

I don't know why I turned insecure and untrusting towards you. Probably because of your hotness and now I know it's because my ex that f****d me over and I stupidly thought you would do the same thing to me. No matter how many times you tried to reassure me and tell me you are not my ex so stop thinking that way. But I still did and had to start a fight with you and accuse you of things if you wanted your time and to go out. Even though you always came home to me.

I broke up with you before and you took me back. You said that would be the last time. If I broke up with you again, then it was over. And you stuck to it that time. That was the biggest mistake of my life. When I tried to talk to you, you said you needed a few days to think and we would talk later. That wasn't good enough for me and I pushed and pushed you and didn't give you the space you needed and I blew it for good. (wow, I wish I knew about this site before I did this! ) I acted so immaturely and I put you down in every possible way and said the meanest s**t to you that you didn't deserve. You think I am the meanest person in the world and I killed whatever feelings you had left for me.

I will never forget you, I will never stop loving you. It's been two months and rest assured, I'm getting everything I deserve. It is not getting better for me. I regret what I said to you and how much I pushed you over the edge. If I could have stayed calm and realized how good I had it with you, how faithful and sweet you are, I would have been the happiest person for the rest of my life. I doubt I will ever meet anyone like you again or anyone that I love as much as you. But if I do, I will never make the same mistakes again that I made with you.

I'm starting to accept it's over and I will probably never see you again. I promise I will let you live your life now without ever hearing from me again. It's going to be so hard. But I really hope one day I run into you again and maybe... just maybe give it another shot down the road. I know right now you want nothing to do with me. I hope you change your mind one day. I'm going to concentrate on myself now. I'm going to hit the gym everyday and get back into shape! I will always be here for you.

Dear ex,

I think I'm finally ready to move on.

Wish you the best of luck in the future

The 2009 Me

Dear Ex,

My oh my, do I love you. Every night I dream about you and I wake up searching around my darken room to see if you're there. Thanks to you, I no longer get a good nights sleep. It's been five days without speaking to you so far and it's been the longest five days of my life. I hear your happy with your new guy. That's good to hear. It's too bad he'll never love you as much as I did. I'm really longing for the day when you no longer cross my mind. I wish you the best of luck

Good riddance.

After a breakup words are useless.take a big breath and that's it! Look for a new moon in your night

Until the sunrise. Then you're back on the wave

To my ex,

As I grow older and wiser, I realize I was not always the man I should have been in our marriage. I was quick to blame you for everything without always taking responsibility for my own actions. It takes two to tango. We both said and did things that were out of character for one another and I want you to know that I forgive you for the mistakes you made and I hope you forgive me for the mistakes I made. I will always love you and I think about you daily.

Great idea this!

I wrote a song for my ex.. the lyrics pretty much works as a letter..


I just want to say thank you
For all the apologies you never made
You kicked me hard when I was down
And took no share of the blame

And it must be hard to keep this act up all the time
And I remember your face when you forgot your lines

And I know you'll think this was all about you
But like your cheap valentine, your words don't ring true



So I just want to say thank you
For all the things you left unsaid
The tales you've spun have all come undone
I've unravelled them all in my head

And it must be hard to be so charming all the time
Especially when I've seen what you're trying to hide

And I know you'll think this was all about you
But like your cheap valentine, your words don't ring true



And I just want to say thank you
For all the promises you could never keep
You caught me off my guard with your disregard
For all the tears you made me weep

And it must be hard to be such a martyr all the time
Especially when your life is based on a lie

And I know you'll think this was all about you
But like your cheap valentine, your words don't ring true

And I know you'll think this was all about you
But my cheap valentine your words don't ring true.

Dear ex,

You may wonder why I am writing to you now. There are things that I deserve to say to you regardless of whether you will hear them or not.

You treated me very badly indeed and when you walked away you showed no concern, remorse or guilt for the way that you behaved.

I think you're probably the most immature, selfish, cowardly and irresponsible person I have ever had the misfortune to meet.

You lied to me, you showed no respect for me and worst of all you kicked me hard when I was down.

I say these things to you now with no desire for reconcilliation, as I can think of nothing I would like less.

I am simply exercising the right to express myself which you denied me when we broke up.

You have showed yourself in a very bad light indeed and I now understand fully why you don't like yourself very much.

You are cold and callous and you played games with someone who showed you nothing other than love and respect.

The only mistakes I made during our relationship were to treat you like an adult and place my trust in you.

You are, to put it simply, a horrible person.

I wish you luck with the denial and fabrication that is your life.

Ironically, if I were to send this letter, I would be giving you the gift of justification.
You are unworthy of my attention and I have no desire to give you anything more, so it will remain unsent.

End of.

Damn! I feel better for that! :)

Oh lord my letter is long!!
------------------------------------------------------------------------
Know I sound like a broken record going over the same bull over and over and I am completely aware of it , but I have all good intentions that this will be the last time we both have to hear or talk about this.
For the last few and by few I mean 8 months I have dedicated my time and biggest efforts on getting the old you and me back , trying to get our old hopes and dreams WE had back knowing deep inside that will never happened , We have become to far of strangers to each other to even have anything close to what “us” used to be, I never would've thought things would come to end like this.
From the moment I met you call me crazy but I knew I was going to love you , It felt amazing how everything was happening without any planning and even when you were so far away I loved you like ihave never love anyone , I felt so comfortable with you I felt like you were mean to be in my life all along and that you were the missing piece that I had been missing and for once I stop feeling empty , it felt like you came in my life unexpectedly but somehow you just belong there and it felt like you loved me like no one ever had love me you were my best friend not just my girlfriend , at least that's what it felt. I am very much aware that what I did to you by lying about my ex was wrong and I am no longer going to try to explain and make you understand why I did it because regardless it was wrong and I regret hurting you as much as I did , Its unknown if you will ever forgive me , I hope someday you , One thing I ask is for you to never doubt of my feelins for you no matter what my childish mistake I did please know that I love you so much and I care about you more than anyone else in my life because you felt true.
But I'm not here to tell you how much I love you or how much I care about you or how bad I want you back , I'm here to say goodbye and goodluck because that seems to be the only two words that are left to be said between us only this time I mean it . Truth is you wrecked me when you fell for her so deeply , you destroyed me when you said” she was the best thing that ever happened to you” , you killed me when you saw every single one of her “ qualities”, when for the longest time you saw my wrong doing my flaws my mistakes . Sometimes I think we grew to far apart from each other and at the end there wasn't any love.. not at least from you maybe you were just used to me or the idea of me being around but unlike you it wasn't the idea of you that kept me hanging on it was the LOVE I felt for you .
I would have never ever dreamed of us ending this way , honestly I never thought we would end because I in my dumb mind felt there wasn't anything or anyone that could come between us , but you proved me wrong by doing a complete change and becoming someone I don't know , you have turned me into a stranger in your life , you have made me feel like I don't belong anywhere near you , you have made me feel nothing more than just a worthless human being who doesn't deserve more than your left overs ,and today I say stop not only to you but to myself because I have let myself go through all of this I'm tired of crying I've cried for way to long expecting you will care , it will never happened it will never be the same you have damage me so much by being the new you , took you days or maybe weeks to kick me out of your life, to stop looking back , you made it seem so easy to move on and even now I was such a fool to believe that maybe just maybe I could or would get my best friend back but once again you have prove me wrong so after many disappointments between each other I'm here to say goodbye.
I have so many questions , I needed so many answers , I needed an explanation but I'm well aware that will not happened , I'm angry and hurt , I feel played and betrayed by the one and only person I trusted with everything and anything I feel angry because you gave up , because you don't care , because you became someone else and I hurt because I love you , I miss you and its time to say goodbye,goodluck , time to move on and let you be , let me be .
I know you have the wrong perception of me , you strongly believe I lied to you for 2 yrs straight and that I didn't care for you , and there is no point on my making you think different because you will not believe me just know that I didn't as hard as that is to believe I truly did love you , I never used you , I never expected a wedding , an expensive ring or you coming out to your family –all I wanted was you to love me that was all. And recently you have continue to make me feel like I have no part in your life , as soon as you met someone else to keep you busy you are off to that person and the one person who has been here regardless , ME. I have tried to explain to you that its not that I need you to talk to me 24/7 but I guess I was in the wrong to think we could be bestfriends again.
There is really not a lot to say left Thanks for showing me how much 2 n half years is really worth once someone else comes along , if true thank you for loving me and letting me love you , I'm sorry I wasn't what you expected , I'm sorry I hurt you , I'm sorry I was never good enough for you , I'm sorry for annoying you , I'm sorry for wanting us back. I wished I would've known you were this kind of person and I would've save me from a heartache , believe it or not I thank you for 2 wonderful years even after the fights and the screaming there is good things that happened and those are memories that I will forever keep I'm sorry for going in this relationship with unsolved personal issues that in some ways got in our way , I wished I would've made you happy because you deserve it and I know I could've made you the happiest , it was obvious I was never what you were looking for so good luck to you I hope you find what and who you are looking for , goodbye to false hope and goodbye to you.

It's been 3 months to the day that you broke up with me - and I hate feeling sad all of the time still. I'm not even sure why I feel sad, I just wish this never happened. I've been so focused on all of the stuff that I missed from our relationship, that today I'm going to try to focus on all of the stuff that I don't miss, or that I don't like.

For christmas, I got you cologne and amazing Eagles tickets - you got me rice krispees, pickles and an eagles Jersey - not really fair huh?

For Valentines day, you basically didn't remember and waited until that morning to go get my gifts (you said because you wanted to give me fresh flowers). Well you got me 2 dozen roses and a 14 pack of magic hat beer. Wow - what a thoughtful gift. You also didn't make reservations anywhere for us to eat, and didn't think of anything fun for us to do. So in the end I suggested sushi, and then we rented movies. This would have been a great idea, if only you had thought of it. I didn't buy you much, but I did replace the battery in your watch which was something you really wanted - it was thoughtful.

For March 14, I took you to baltimore, paid for a room, paid for a steak dinner, and had a great time. Talk about expensive! But I wanted to do it because I thought you were worth it. Maybe we should have just spent the night in the room, but I wanted to go out and have you meet a few of my friends while we were there. You repaid me by being pissy about being tired. Thanks!

I used to rub your back at night so you could fall asleep - yea you did that for me - maybe once - instead you would complain that I kept you up all ntie because I wanted to cuddle - thanks a lot.

I brought a grapefruit over to your house one day when we first started going out - I drew a picture on it, and I don't think you ever said thanks.

I brought you mcds to twin lakes and to thel ibrary when you were studying - did you ever do something nice like that for me?

when you were sick I had mandy bring you tylenol and juice and stuff because I was in California.

One day you were sick while I was in class, so I came over to sit with you- then I went out and bought you some supplies like OJ, applesauce.

I helped you with your resume that night after I took a 3 hour final. You texted me to come over after my final - I thought maybe you wanted to hang out and I was excited - I had a huge headache and all I wanted to do was relax - yep lets hang out - at the library and fix my resume for 2 hours. Oh thank you for telling me it looks awesome. You never helped me with anything. Not even putting my damn wind shield wipers on.

That day back in February where I specifically asked you to make plans for us for that night, basically because I was tired of doing everything and I wanted to see what you would plan - well yep - you planned to hang out with budd - never said anything to me. I called at 630 wondering what the plan was, and you said you were going to hang out with budd instead of me that night. You wonder why I was so upset?? Well - you never made any effort in our relationship to go out of the way for me - and that day I was looking forward to hanging out with you at night - that's the day you really broke my heart. Then I got sad - then of course budd is the one that got me to come over - you didn't do .

There were a few (very few) times where you went out of your way to do something special for me:

You had your sister pick up a world series champions shirt for me.
You bought me a rose for our 1 month anniversary - I wasn't feeling good and thouht I might note come over, but you begged me to come over - y didn't u just come see me at my house?
You randomly came over one night really late when I said I missed you. You might have been drunk.
You bought me a rose for some random reason - that was nice.

Maybe the only thing I ever wanted from you, was for you to show me that you cared. Go out of your way to do something small but special for me. Randomly give me a hug, come visit me, make me a special gift, anything would have been fine. Make plans for us - we didn't have to do anything expensive - just a walk somewhere or a trip. Whatever.

But no. Then you wondered why in the end I seemed needy? Well because you never appreciated me - you never showed that you needed me. I guess you don't. But good luck finding someone as nice as me, who would do almost anything to make sure you were happy.

You know I still miss you. I think I just miss having someone in my life that appreciates me (not that you did), someone I can talk to, someone I can just hang out with on nites hwen I'm bored, someone I can go out with. I can do that stuff with anyone though. I miss being able to hang out with my friends - our mutual friends. I hate the fact that they can all hang out with you and I cant.

Screw that - our friends can all han gout with me - and you cant. Why am I the martyr here? I didn't do anything wrong! Yea I'm obviously hurting more than you, so I'm in that stage where I would do anything to still hang out with you - but maybe I don't want to anymore. Maybe you should be begging to hang out with me. Oh Frank just stopped by with those preseason eagles tickets I bought back in March - I'm going to take someone else - maybe I'll take your friends.

You say you want to be friends with me - then ing treat me like it. I'm not begging to see you anymroe. I care but you don't.

I want to meet someone who will treat me with some respect. Appreciate me. Look forward to seeing me. Yea you might be good looking and funny, but your ungrateful.

dear ex,

well, i see your life hasn't changed for the better since you split up with me. You said it yourself you haven't changed, still think you are 17, and take no responsibility for yourself or your future. I really doubt anyone will put up with what i did, and i think you lost a big part of your life when you lost me. I looked after you, supported you and was always there for you. So, you loved me but were not in love with me, we were too different, you said you changed into an a*****e near the end, you wanted a clean break but you wanted us to still be friends, you wanted me to still email you, - no wonder i was and still am a bit confused!! You never would speak about your problems in your life, you just let them all pile up, and would get angry. I was the top of your list ie i think you thought life would be easier/better without me, well is it?!

Wap : )

Omg! I think you just wrote my letter!

Dear ______.

I am writing this to let you know how I have been feeling since we parted at the end of March. I really feel I need to let you know how I am feeling and also about my thoughts and feelings regarding the future.

Firstly, as you know since you left I have had a lot of time to myself, a lot of time to stop and reflect on my thoughts and emotions about my life as a whole. I have, come to some very important realizations during this time which I would like to share with you. I have been doing a kind of 'self-evaluation' on myself, to attempt to look deep into myself, at to where perhaps I do display some negative qualities, and turning them around or, in some cases, removing them altogether.

I hold my hands up and say I have made mistakes. Some I really regret. However, I have come to truly recognise these characteristics now, which I can feel encouraged that I am recognising and changing them, something which perhaps I struggled with in that past. I feel I want to share with you these characteristics I have discovered about myself, and to tell you that I am becoming a much stronger person as a result.

First of all, something which I am really working on is attempting to look at things generally in a more positive light. I have been thinking a lot and focusing on banishing negative thoughts and feelings, to turn these round into positives. I guess, as you know, this has been a battle for some time, due to my life not perhaps being the smoothest of rides. However, this is something I am trying to get ways to help me to achieve this goal and I really believe if I keep a strong mindset on this it my hard work will pay off. I guess before whenever I might have been feeling down, I never properly focused on what I do have. I have such a great, supportive family and excellent friends, a great job and a great prospect in my studying of the Maths degree. Despite there being certain difficulties in my life, I am far, far better off than a majority of people, something that I am so grateful for. Furthermore, another strength I have developed is the belief that if things do get tough, I am developing a mental strength and a resilience to be able to get myself back to normal; strong and full.

In addition to this, I can now see that I have a lot more to be proud of than I actually allowed myself to realise before. Firstly, my Open University work. After starting so late and the huge back log of work I had to get through, I got my head down and worked through it receiving very encouraging results in the preparation assignments. Then onto the important assignments which go towards my end of course result only losing out on one mark in the whole assignment, something which I am very proud of. Even though it is early days in this module and very early in the bigger picture of the total degree, to achieve what I have so far despite the late start and the difficulties throughout, I feel uplifted by the hard work I have put in so far and the achievements up to now. I need to keep working hard and believe I can achieve by remembering how I worked through the hard times, which in the past I would have found myself freezing at the situation I was in.

Another thing I must feel proud about comes from one of the best things you did for me. I was stuck in a dead job until you notified me of the job that was advertised at _______. But it was not just that. You helped me apply; you believed I would get it. Your help with all that, including great help with preparation of my interview meant so much to me and I am sincerely grateful. I feel very proud to work back at the school, finally a rewarding job which I feel I could not have a better job at this time. Also, of course this is going to be valuable experience when I go on to teaching. I want to achieve all this for myself, as well as the ones I love as they will also see the benefit of my development. Thank you so much again for all you have done,_____. I will never, ever forget it.

With this time alone, I have realised I need to feel more comfortable and enjoy my own company more. This was something which I feel I always found difficult as I do not like the feeling of being lonely. But after thinking about this I have asked myself 'if I cannot enjoy my own company, how can others enjoy mine?' It was not easy being up in the flat on my own, but it gave me time to sort my head out, and re-focus on what I want to achieve.

I feel something I need to do more, and should have done in the past, is to accept positive feedback. Before, I felt I did not deserve it when I did receive these compliments; however I now intend to value and be grateful for every compliment that comes my way and savour the good feeling which comes with it. Another thing I am working on and intending to change is to not take things the wrong way. I admit that I have done before, both with you and Dad in particular. I am incredibly sorry about that _____, I really am. This is something I will change. I also feel I need to stop and think when upset and make sure I am thinking straight before I act or speak. This has been one my central thoughts, one of the things I really disliked. I guarantee I will do everything I can to change it.

Of course, one ongoing challenge of mine is my battle with M.S. Thinking about this now, I feel I have become too wrapped up in the 'what if's' rather than focus on what I want. I am trying to put my illness to the back of my mind, to make me feel like I am in control. I do believe I will be strong. I do believe I will be healthy for so long. I am doing the best thing possible by choosing to take Tysabri; another decision I should be proud of and another decision I should thank you for helping me to make. I have a lot of hope for my future with this illness. I know it may be a struggle at times, but I believe if I keep strong and positive in my mind, I will be strong and positive in my body. Also, I am considering the possibility of training to take part in a charity event for M.S. This would put my strength and mind to the test and is something I am considering doing, possibly in the next year or two.

Lastly, a few more things I have been thinking about. I want to make sure I look after myself physically by eating well, exercising and trying to feel good physically. I am also thinking about looking into the possibly of re-joining the Octopush club which would be great for me to keep active. I also feel I want to get back into taking more quality photographs and perhaps go back to making some videos. I feel perhaps I could do something with the photography to enable me to perhaps make gifts or enter competitions if any come up. Also, possibly start driving lessons in the summer holidays is another one of the things I am thinking about doing.

I really feel that I am trying so hard to change myself. I need to. I need to do this, not just for myself, but for the ones I truly care about. My feelings about the 'old' me are fond, but I really do realise now I was not who I want to be. Now I can look forward and put my work into everyday practice.

Understandably, throughout these last few weeks, I have been constantly engaged in thoughts regarding our relationship. When you left that day _____, I could never be able to put into words how upset I was. It was the worst day of my life without doubt. This is not meant to make you feel bad but I just want you to know how upset I am about our separation. When I think back to our relationship, I have so many incredible memories, ones I will never, ever forget. I had the best time of my life with you ____ and it is so hard now that it is no more. Of course, I am sure you feel upset too. I know how you feel as I really think we both realise that we were so special, so great and so unique.

With thinking about us these last few weeks I realise that I perhaps should have done some things differently. Upon thinking about it I realise there were things I did which I regret or things I should have perhaps done another way. Of course, it is a good thing that I realise my mistakes. However, I wish I had done sooner and had a deep think like I am doing now. I guess I didn't realise how much I wanted to change until I had the time to stop and re-assess. This is turning my focus forward now though, turning it to rectifying these traits I have picked up on and knowing not to let them affect myself or anyone else in the future.

I want to be honest with you _____ and let you know that I recognise I did make some mistakes during our time together of which I want to share with you. Firstly, something I feel I should have done more was to really focus on how lucky I was to have such an amazing girlfriend. When I felt down, for whatever reason, I really should have focused more on this and realised that this was the most important and that I could not dream of anyone better. I should have tried not to be down due to M.S, or work, or any other factors. I wish I could have been stronger for you. But I am now getting myself stronger and by thinking of that I have realised I should have been thinking the most important thing was to have you by my side, not getting worked up about things too easily. I also understand now that, like I said before, I should have believed in myself more when you gave me all the support and compliments you did. You have truly been an incredibly positive influence on my life.

Another aspect I regret after thinking this last while was I should not have made you feel bad about going out. To be fair to me I think I did improve a lot during the relationship with regards to this, but still think there was room for improvement. I should have been happier and more comfortable with your social life. Early on, perhaps I was stupidly put into a mindset of feeling 'second best' which was a ridiculous way to think. Like I said, this did improve but I feel I should have encouraged our time apart more and be happy at it. I realise the importance of time apart from each other, for us both to do our own things alone, with family or with friends. I wish I had encouraged more weekends away shopping for example, or for you to go down to Glasgow/Edinburgh for a weekend with friends. I would have liked to contribute to this, give you something to get away, to let your hair down and to treat yourself with your friends.

Furthermore, another thing I wish I did not do was get irritated and take things the wrong way. Perhaps, I needed to chill out more, especially if I was not feeling happy or under pressure for any reason not to take my feelings out on you. I feel I needed to stop and think and not get angry. I really regret doing that and also for making rash decisions and saying things I did not mean. I do feel these things would have changed if I had changed myself sooner _____, but I just want to let you know I am sorry for it all. It is in the past now and it will not be happening again. I am learning to keep control of my emotions and have been reading articles about how to control myself if I get that again. I want you to know you did not deserve that and it will not happen again.

I wish I had more time to have made things for you ______; like little surprises like I used to do. Of course, living together made it rather difficult to spend weeks making you a CD or a DVD without you becoming suspicious. As you understand, money was another issue as I didn't have as much money to spend as when we lived apart, hence why the shower of gifts became more of a drip. I would still like to think I was good to you in this way _____, I guess I just wish I had done more little surprises like going out for dinner or days out. I loved giving you spontaneous surprises; I got a lot of pleasure out of doing it and then giving it to you. I wish I had taken you on more holidays and weekends away to spend quality time together, something I would have been able to do after moving back to Dads, when I had a little more money at my disposal. I loved our days out together, our weekends away or our weeks away from home. They really meant a lot and I really miss them when I think about them.

As you know yourself _____, I always wanted you to be happy and still do. When you were down, I always tried my very best to lift your mood. Perhaps if I felt happier in myself I could have achieved this better, but I would still like to think I did help. I always supported you in your decisions as I am sure you are aware and I wish I had maybe helped you along with them. Like when you said you wanted to lose weight, I did offer that we exercise together, but maybe I could have looked out a diet to do together to help support you and show I was there. I really did not and do not think you do need to lose weight, but I would have still backed you all the way if you felt you would be happier doing it.

I do not want this to all be about regrets. I have been thinking these last few weeks about our relationship. The one thing I know is that I love you. There is nothing I have been more certain of in my life. When I am with you, I feel like the world is right and makes sense and yet there is nothing in the world but you and me. After this thinking _____, I really realise where I went wrong and what I can change. So I am asking you for a second chance. I know you have said you would not go back, but I really want you to think deeply about this with an open mind and really focus on all I am saying. I really believe we should give our relationship another go. I am worried that you would feel it is a risk to try again. I really, strongly believe it will work after having this time apart and after this time to stop and reflect. It has also given me chance to think what I would do and that is something I want to share and promise to you.

If I was fortunate enough to have you back in my life as my girlfriend _____, I would become the happiest person on this planet, I really would. I really want to show you I am so much better than the 'old' me and you will love me more for my change, you truly will. In this time since we have been apart, a lot has changed about me. I really believe I am a better person now and I am continuing to work hard on developing my character, something which I hope you like already, but something which will continue to blossom and develop. I can promise you I have changed _____and you really will love my change. It will benefit us so much and make us move forward stronger than ever. I really do strongly believe this. I will do everything in my power to make you happy, as that really does mean the world to me. I used to love it when I could see how happy I made you every day and I really want to see this and cherish it once more.

I really believe that our living arrangements will work very well for us both. Living apart will give us both chance to do different things. It will give us time and space to do things apart whether it be with friends, family or on our own. As a result of this, the feeling when we did see each other would be even more special as when we used to visit each other as we both know how great and special that was. I feel living apart can be great opportunity to start a fresh. Also, I would not want to make you feel pressure to see me or do anything you did not want. I understand more now that we both need space and with our living arrangements being as they are, I really think it can be very beneficial to our relationship. When we do see each other it would be amazing and I believe we would continue the great, positive, fun, good humoured meetings we have had recently.

Personally I feel I have realised more so in these last few weeks how much I really love spending time with you. With not seeing each other a lot, I have learnt to savour every moment I have when I do spend time with you and vow to continue this and always make this feel special. I would make sure I savour every moment. I would be so lucky to have you as my girlfriend again and I would do everything to make this relationship strong, both for the present and for the future. I feel I always showed you how I felt about you _____, and I loved telling you how I felt and seeing how you felt when I did. You have done so much for me and I could never thank you enough. Having this time apart has really made me see that this would work so well. I truly believe after all my time thinking about my feelings and yours I really realise what this can become.

I will not let outside influences come between us. All that has happened with my mum has hurt us both. I will never let her come between us again. As we know she did by going behind my back by what she did. It will not happen again ______. Trust me. I will never let her hurt you and never let her come between the only two people in the relationship – You and I. Not her. I will not let anything like that happen again. It hurts so bad what she has done, and even more at how hurt you have become over it. I want you to trust me that it will never happen again. I want to be given the chance to show you that you matter more than anyone.

Another aspect I would be keen to develop in our relationship would be to do things or organise things with your family. For example, taking _____ to Landmark, or perhaps taking both ____ and ____ out for a day somewhere. I know how _____ must feel and I really feel sorry for him so I would like to do something to try and help him and, of course, _____ in the process. I would like to do things like contribute for you to do something with ____, whether it be you and I, or encourage and chip in for you and ____ to do something together without me. I would really like to do this ____ as I know how much _____ means to you, and me for that matter, so it would be something I would love to get a chance to do.

As well as doing this, also taking you out more to your favourite places or out for dinner at places you like or go to gigs or shows you like, generally treating you to the things you love as I know that would be special to you, and as a result special to me. Furthermore, I would also love to go away more on days out, weekends away and holidays. I would love to have more special times away like we had in Skye, Durham, Liverpool and Barcelona. They were so special to me _____ and I hope you feel that too when you think back to all those great times. I want to go away more to relax and unwind together, for example, 'a week by the pool' relaxing is one of the things I remember you saying you would like to do. I would want to do that and treat you to what you like. I would like to take you away as a last minute surprise perhaps as you know how much I used to love surprising you.

On top if this, something which I would be very keen to do would be do save up enough money to go to Australia together. This is something I would be very keen to try and do. I would love to meet your family out there and I know how much it would mean to you to have the chance to go back. I would love you to be able to introduce me, and spend time with your family and for you to show me around Melbourne. It would be our most amazing experience together; I just really want to do this. I just hope it will one day happen. It would be so special, a dream come true and something we would never, ever forget.

Another thing I would love to do if I got the opportunity would be to go on nights out together. I want to show you that my confidence is building and by doing this it would be a great help to me, and to us. I would like to go out together with some friends, or of course if you wanted to go out without me and just friends then I would encourage that also. I really do think that this would be great in our relationship. I know this is something you would like, as well as it being beneficial for me. I want to show you that I am really trying to make a better me, and I really hope you can see that.

I also want to try help you not worry about my future illness. I am doing the best thing possible by taking Tysabri and I have a very positive belief that this will have a great effect on my future with MS. I feel if I keep a strong, positive outlook it will help us both as I feel we would both develop a similar attitude to it. I think we are both very pleased at the advances in the treatments, and of course, my decision by taking Tysabri. I want you not to worry about the future regarding this ____. I really believe I will be strong.

I promise to always be there for you whenever you need me. This is something I always have done, but I just want to re-iterate this point. I would do anything for you, _____. I promise to always do everything in my power to help if you need it. However, I also realise that giving you space is important too. I have realised a lot recently about the importance of this.

I want to be given the chance to prove to you I am everything you could ever want. I really believe I have a lot to offer you and truly and strongly believe this relationship will be great again. I feel with this time apart we can both realise how happy we can be; now we have had time to reflect. Personally, I think if we got back together this time apart will have been a good thing as personally it has made me see things I never saw before. I truly realise now how special we were together and how I feel there is too much to let go. I really want you to fall in love with the ___ you know and first knew, but now a much improved one in many, many ways. I really want you to think deeply back to all the special moments we shared together and how you felt during those moments. We really had so many unbelievable times together _____ and I feel it is important to reflect and realise how unique our relationship is. I really believe that things would be even more special if we tried again.

I really want you to see what we can achieve together. This may sound like a dream but things can be perfect. We can both have everything we could ever want in life on top of our solid foundations of great families, great friends and great jobs. I feel we can also have a great partner to share out lives with in the future. I want to stress that this is not false hope in believing it 'might' work – I wholeheartedly believe it.

I would like you to think back to our some of our very first meetings _____. The one that properly springs to my mind as being particularly special and touching was the party at ____ back in December 2008. That night was probably the first ever time I had ever had a proper conversation with you and a moment I will never forget. I sat on that sofa with you that night, not feeling happy in myself due to several personal difficulties at the time, and at that moment I felt like I have never felt before. I sat there chatting to you, not realising I was telling you everything about my deepest hurts, pouring my heart out to you about the difficult times I was fighting against. This is when I hardly knew you. It hit me half way through our conversation what I was doing. Usually the sort of character to keep things bottled up, I confided in you, believed in you and trusted you enough to feel completely comfortable with what I was doing. So comfortable it no longer was a struggle to speak about it. It was a strong, caring support that I am truly grateful for. I didn't care that people were making a fuss about us being through chatting, I just wanted to find out about you and genuinely feel interested in. Nothing else mattered; I was so taken aback by how I could confide in you that, as you know, we chatted for hours.

I remember vividly going home that night and lying in bed thinking about you and how special our discussion was that evening. It truly meant so much to me. I trusted you that night like I never have trusted anyone before. I found you so easy to talk to, so genuine and touchingly caring. I still feel this. I still feel you understand me and can see what I am about.

I also want you to think back to the very first night I came up to your house when your mum and dad were on holiday. It felt so good from that night onwards, such an incredible feeling of love and care towards each other. Every night I came up I felt so happy and so comfortable being with you – everything just felt so right. Think back to those times _____, when we used to sit side by side and watch Gavin and Stacey and then chat and chat until late. I remember when I brought up a gift for you; the Cool Runnings DVD and Soulwax album. The feeling of genuine appreciation meant so much and the hug to go with it was just wonderful. It was perfect, I felt amazing how just those nights watching a DVD could be so special. Then of course the incredible night of our first kiss, on your bed after another great night watching the DVD. It was the best feeling ever when our lips touched, and every single time since then. I remember the looks on our faces, I felt so in love. Think of all those times we shared that special intimate connection _____ in so many ways. It really feels so special and unique.

Give me a chance _____. Let me prove to you that I am the person for you. I can be everything you ever dreamed of. You know how happy and loved I used to make you feel, I will make sure this time I really focus on your happiness everyday and make sure you feel loved and cared for everyday.

I want you to think about how special it was when I came down to Glasgow for the week when everything was so new, fresh and exciting. Remember and feel the emotions of excitement when I stepped off the train, the anticipation when I jogged down the platform, the joyful look on my face, and through the barrier and into your arms. I could not ever describe to you how amazing that felt, I really could not, it was that unique – so unique as it was us. Remember the whole week, personally, the greatest week of my life. Really focus on the emotions from that meeting at the station, the deep chats on the trains, the great time in Liverpool, the laughs, the smiles, the affection, the love all crammed into that perfect week. I really believe there is so much potential for many more weeks like that, I really do.

I want to be everything you could ever want, the great past me, and the much improved, more mature, more understanding new me. Living arrangements, friends time, family time – we can make sure they work, I know they can, I have thought long and hard about these topics and it will be strong in our future. I just genuinely, strongly believe there is far too much here to let this go. I really want you to take time to reflect all the way back to our first moments together and focus on every little bit of your happy moments with me. For example: our trips away – how brilliant they were, they were always so special to me, and I am sure to you to. In those trips we shared some amazing times which I really want you to think back to _____. Also, our times closer to home, remember the emotions, the closeness, the love. Think back to the Christmas' and birthday's together, the excitement and love at spending those special times together and seeing each other enjoy the gifts we shared.
I really do miss everything about you. I miss the little things; rubbing your feet, giving you massages and playing with your hair. When we hug or kiss, it shakes me all the way down to my bones, deep within my heart and soul. I even miss the things I did not like so much. If I could have you back doing things like caring for my back, it would be amazing. I want things like that again ____. I really do. It would mean everything.

More than ever now, I realise how special these times were. I cannot begin to describe how brilliant things would be again – trust me. I can really see a bright, strong future together. I think more and more of you every day, my feelings for you continue to intensify as you truly are the most incredible person I have ever met, and ever will meet, in my opinion. If I could ever be granted one wish ____, it would be to have you back. I honestly would love nothing more; I would be the happiest man alive and make you the happiest girl alive at the same time. I do not think I can describe how much I have thought everything through and have come to the point where I believe so strongly that we should be together. Trust me ____. I cannot describe how much I miss you. Everything I do reminds me of you and also really makes me realise how much I adore you _____. I honestly think you are beautiful. Truly beautiful.

I really think we have so much more to achieve together, I really think we are so special and so unique together, as one, as _____ and _____.

These past few weeks have been very difficult for me _____ (and I am sure for you also) but I have really tried to bring out a strength in me I guess I did not realise I had. I do not think I could ever describe how hard I have thought this all through. I have taken several long, hard, critical assessments on myself these past few weeks and I have immediately put my efforts into turning my negatives into very strong positives. I have been, am, and will be continuing to work on myself. I have and will continue to work at banishing what I do not like, and blossoming what I do. I really would do anything to have you back as my girlfriend. I have even more to offer you now than I did in the first place, that is a fact I really want you to grasp _____. Things would be even more special as we have both sampled life without the other, even if this may only have been a short time, and personally – nothing is the same without you. There are so many promises to make to you and I will hold them dear. I am becoming stronger and stronger every day after my self-evaluation, which I hope you can see. However, I really feel there is something missing. A vital missing piece. And that vital piece is you. They do say, 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' and I really can relate to that right now.

I still believe we are soul mates, _____.

My only hope is that you will give me a second chance to show you what I have learned from this. I cannot give up without trying, so I ask that you please give me another chance to show you. I know you need your space, and I want you to have it, I want you to feel free. Feel free to take your time and think on this, but understand that everything I have said is my true and honest feelings. I hope to hear from you when you are ready.

I love you.

_____

Oh, how I wish that Allheart was still around on the site!

Dear

You are one of the most beautiful, kind and sensitive people I know, you are a gentle, kind and most important loving mother. Our girls are testament to your love and kindness. I am honoured to have had children with you and will forever cherish that.

I’m sorry for not being the person that you needed me to be, I cannot be angry with you for my faults. There is not a day that goes by that I don't have regrets over my mistakes but with those mistakes I've learned a truly valuable lesson. I’m sorry it has taken this for me to grow up and for me to better myself. You are the one person in my life that has made me a more open person and more able to express to my feelings.

I will miss the way you made me feel and even though I didn’t make you feel good about yourself with my actions you made me feel like a man on top of the world and I’m deeply sorry that I didn’t return the feelings. I will miss your accidental clumsiness’

You were the shining light in my life, the women that completed me as a person and while I never showed you that you was to me.

I don’t want to split up with you but can fully understand your need for space and I’m truly apologetic for letting my feelings and thoughts get the better of me and maybe ruining something that could have been a simple break where we found how much we really mean to each other and work on it one more time. I don’t want to fight with you I want to be with you, I want us to be a happier family and I am willing to do what ever it will take to make us happier.

If you decide that I’m no longer the man you want in your life then I accept your decision and I hope you can find happiness either on your own or with whoever it maybe. I do know that if you did get with someone else then they will have one of the best partners they could ever wish for and I hope he treats you better then I did.

I want to forget the bad parts of past and remember the good times that we had. The experience that we have both shared over the past 10 years has been the best of my life. You have taught me so much and I have learnt so much that I hope can be shared with you in the future, if that is not to be then I will be a better more open and honest man that which you have to be thanked for. You’ve shown me to be a more complete father, a more loving and understanding father. Without your teachings I would have been a much stricter father and would have more than likely been more like my father which you know I hate.

Thank you for being my best friend in the past 10 years, through all the lows we had many highs we had, for my daughters that mean the world to me. You will always be the women I truly love with all my heart and no other women will ever come close to you.

With arms wide open
Under the sunlight
Welcome to this place
I'll show you everything
With arms wide open
Now everything has changed
I'll show you love
I'll show you everything
With arms wide open
With arms wide open
I'll show you everything

Yours truly,

K (Stallion)

Dear Ex,

Thanks for your encouragement going after me back then. I was amazed and freaked a little as well. When you stayed at my place when I am at work, when I came home you had my laundry and food done, I was feeling loved also feeling scared. But as time goes by, I got use to it, I started to giving in. I started to love you. At some point we were both loving each other the same amount. However, after passing that point, you have changed. Maybe because we moved in too fast, maybe you have seen other stuff outside since you started working at this Tea place. Or maybe it is that guy who flirts with you on Facebook who took your heart away from me abit. Once I got more clingy and jealous, I pushed you away. Or did I? When you had argument with my mom, I was stupidly on your side, instead of keep my silent. Thank you for changing me into someone I don't recognize anymore, I stopped watching Independent films, I stopped watching Basketball. Because you don't like it and you think I love them more over you. I stopped eating stuff that you don't like. Who the hell I am right now? Idont know.. and thank you for taking away my friend, they were my friend first, they end up telling you I am not good enough, and breaking up with me was good?

Hope you the best,

Your EX

Dear ______.

I am writing this to let you know how I have been feeling since we parted at the end of March. I really feel I need to let you know how I am feeling and also about my thoughts and feelings regarding the future.
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I love you.

_____

Holy cow... pretty similar to my relationship. Especially mom got involved.

Holy cow ... pretty similar to my relationship. especially mom got involved.

I know mate, it sucks. I am giving this letter to her tomorrow. I just hope to god it works. I believe.

Wish me luck :)

I thought I needed to write this, albeit quick... I feel better. I thought Id share it with you all.

Dear, ______________

Hey. I decided to formally write you this letter... to let you know how I feel, only eight days after you decided our relationship was no longer viable. Still, to this day... I am unaware to why you decided to cause me such heartache, frustration and anger towards you.. The evening you decided to text me, saying we needed to talk... I knew. I knew something had been wrong with you, for weeks. I tried to talk to you, countless times. We “knew” each other pretty good, on a drop of a dime you could tell something was wrong with me. Perhaps you were to naïve to think I knew you as well as you knew me. You grew distant, ignored me, and I tried to give you the space you needed to find yourself. I questioned you, and what was wrong and you got defensive.. I knew it had to either be the pregnancy scare we had, or you had changed your feelings about us.

I still find your ever longing excuses of what happened, what went wrong a total cop out. You never told me exactly what caused you to feel the way you did... ”its not you, its me” type deal doesn't fly... especially knowing you are already on the dating site we used to find one another. I hope you know, you lost somebody who fell in love with YOU... and not with how you looked, how much money you made, or how you acted. I generally loved you for who you were as a person, and how we'll we got along. I went far and beyond what somebody should for somebody else... I took care of you, and stayed by your side through everything we encountered as a couple. Most of which, would break other couples up and I stood their, by your side. It's a shame knowing you wouldn't do the same for me, after which I can recall four or five instances in which others would betray you, and leave you hanging in the dust? Perhaps I am too nice of a guy.

My family, my small family at that welcomed you into our home. My mother, who knew you for over five years, who knew you before I had even met you... who treated you as her own daughter. My brother, who helped you with your schooling. We opened up our home, treated you with dignity, respect and as if you and I were married. I hope you know, not only did you lose me... but you lost that second family you did have.

I was rather insulted, ONE day after we broke up you decided to contact me... and give me the false sense of hope. I can't deny it, a little piece of me was hoping I would hear from you and that you'd realize you made a huge mistake, letting go of somebody who fell in love with you. You had the nerve, to be as so kind to invite me to breakfast the next morning... and sit across from me, in a foul and bitter mood. Oh, and I could tell you cried moments before sitting down in front of me. I still can't believe how defensive, ignorant and insulting you were towards me after I treated you so good for so long. I was more appalled you had the nerve to ask me to be “just friends” so you could “talk to you about my problems” and I should “take what I can get”. I told you, I don't look at you as a friend... rather somebody who I am deeply in love with and being “just friends” with you is impossible. I am sorry this is such a deterrent for you, as you “can't remove you from my life entirely”. I won't be your fall back guy, I won't let you walk all over me... I've had that done before.

I do, wish you all the best in your future endeavors... and I hope you find love, and happiness in this world of uncertainty. I do not resent, hate you... I just can't be in your life as you want me to be... as friends. I hope you understand, it would be impossible to talk to you, see you, and be around you without that lust being present for me.

I'm not sure if I could consider myself an ex; since we went on 6 dates... but YOU were the one saying that this seemed great, holding my hand, kissing me, sharing food and drinks with me.. I wasn't used to it.. but I was falling for you.. silly me... you would talk to me for hours at night and we'd text back and forth during the day and actually make definite plans.. SO I WASN'T stupid when you stopped responding suddenly, and didn't rush to see me or make definite plans for me.. I was surprised though when you said you didn't think we were a good match out of the blue, and deleted and blocked me from myspace... amazing, after you said you were sooooo different... yeah, this is why I have a hard time trusting people.. you're just the same... Go **** off... oh wait, you're pretending you're so christian... wouldn't want people to know..