This concerns my boyfriend of 15 years and father to our 2 children,Jr.14,Daughter,12.I don't feel I need to go into any detail.I've been feeling like this every single day,since the end of May.I have very supportive family n friends. My question is,my head KNOWS its time to leave. I'm 48 and I've had 2 other breakups in my life that were hard,, but not like this. When I left the other 2,I don't remember feeling this unsure.I knew I did the right thing.Everyone knows I should move on,I lost my brother(best friend) just over 2 years ago.My BF and I went to check on him,, he was on the floor.It was the worse thing that has ever happen to either one of us.Could that somehow be a factor in this 'bond' I have with him? I keep reading and it all makes sense,but,nothing is sinking through for me this time. Thank you for listening.

Certainly the loss of your brother, the way you found him, could be a factor - grief and loss go on and on and affect all parts of our life for a very long time.

I realize you don't want to post details BUT if you feel it's time to go, it's time to go.

Also, leaving at 48 is a lot different (and more unsure) than leaving at 28.

It does make sense that you are torn, more so than ever before. 15 years, 2 children, and shared tragedy are strong bonds. Probably shared happiness too, and concerns about the children?

We (most of us) do change when older. When I was young I flitted from place to place and abandoned people without giving it a second thought. I don't even recognize that person.