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Ayshaa
Jan 6, 2010, 03:17 AM
My boyfriend is in love with me for 03 years but we were really happy in our relation but now he is going around with other gal and he is going to get married with her.. I find really difficult to forget him. He is not talking with me... fully ingores me

lovebird120
Jan 6, 2010, 03:24 AM
Did you guys have a bad breakup?
How long ago did you guys break up?

ChihuahuaMomma
Jan 6, 2010, 03:27 AM
Okay, so let's look at the facts here.
1. He is engaged to someone else.
2. He isn't talking to you.

I don't think he's your boyfriend anymore, I think he's moved on. You need to do the same.

broken_ heart
Jan 6, 2010, 03:32 AM
Your situation seems to be just like mine, so I will suggest you not to do any mistake of chasing him. If he ignores you, you also ignore him and you said he is in love with you. No he was not in love with you because if he was he wouldn't have left you for some other girl. Secondly, he is going to get married with that girl. The best thing I can say the earlier you accept this fact the better for you. I know saying it is much more easier than implementing it but you have to do it anyhow for your good life. He has moved on and you should also move on. Just get busy in other things you loved to do. Don't think about him.

Ayshaa
Jan 6, 2010, 03:33 AM
did you guys have a bad breakup?
how long ago did you guys break up?

No last month he came and meet me then from the next day he is not attending my call and after 5 days he answered my call and told me that he is love with other gal and from that day his call is waiting almost for 6 to 7 hours

ChihuahuaMomma
Jan 6, 2010, 03:35 AM
He's not in love with you. He's found someone else. And you are leaving yourself open to heartbreak. You need to move on, do not contact him. You need time to heal.

Ayshaa
Jan 6, 2010, 03:37 AM
your situation seems to be just like mine, so i will suggest you not to do any mistake of chasing him. if he ignores you, you also ignore him and you said he is in love with you. No he was not in love with you because if he was he wouldnt have left you for some other girl. secondly, he is going to get married with that girl. the best thing i can say the earlier you accept this fact the better for you. I know saying it is much more easier than implementing it but you have to do it anyhow for your good life. He has moved on and you should also move on. Just get busy in other things you loved to do. Dont think about him.

Your rite... Almost 2 months he was maintaining me and also her now finally ditch me...

Ayshaa
Jan 6, 2010, 03:40 AM
He's not in love with you. He's found someone else. And you are leaving yourself open to heartbreak. You need to move on, do not contact him. You need time to heal.

Hey you are rite... but still I miss him... but he is not showing on interest... first of all he came back now... :mad:

ChihuahuaMomma
Jan 6, 2010, 03:42 AM
He is hopping from her to you and back because you're letting him have his cake and eat it too. Cut ALL contact with him, it will be the best thing you've ever done.

Ayshaa
Jan 6, 2010, 04:00 AM
He is hopping from her to you and back because you're letting him have his cake and eat it too. Cut ALL contact with him, it will be the best thing you've ever done.

Hmmmm... even I had done... if I go back he is ignores me... but if I ignore he is coming back again and again

amicon
Jan 6, 2010, 04:11 AM
Then tell him,once and for all,to s t a y away. You are in charge of your own life,nobody else is.

Ayshaa
Jan 6, 2010, 04:23 AM
I have toooooo... no other go... he is playing around me..

amicon
Jan 6, 2010, 05:11 AM
Exactly. Pull the plug on his manipulations. Heal from all this and realise that you've the strength to rebuild a happy,contented life for yourself.

Jake2008
Jan 6, 2010, 07:43 AM
Why do you allow anybody to treat you this way.

I don't think it's so much him, as it is you not having the ability to say a simple 'no'.

Why is that.

He is engaged to be married. That alone should be enough of a reason not to contact him. He's not available.

Ayshaa
Jan 7, 2010, 02:08 AM
Why do you allow anybody to treat you this way.

I don't think it's so much him, as it is you not having the ability to say a simple 'no'.

Why is that.

He is engaged to be married. That alone should be enough of a reason not to contact him. He's not available.

Hey he was suppose to get married with me by this march... but suddenly he changed his mind with other gal... even if I say no to him again again he is coming back of me

amicon
Jan 7, 2010, 02:29 AM
Don't answer his calls,texts etc and don't let him in your door.
If he persists,take out a restraining order.

ChihuahuaMomma
Jan 7, 2010, 02:43 AM
It sounds like this girl doesn't WANT to heal.. She is clinging to him when he obviously wants nothing to do with her. Have we considered that maybe he has a restraining order against HER? This is a serious issue--it's hard enough to get over someone and move on with your life, but if you can't even accept that it's over. Perhaps you need counseling, have you ever talked to a doctor about your feelings? It might be something to look into.

Jake2008
Jan 7, 2010, 02:58 AM
It sounds like he's played both women, and finally made up his mind, and you lost.

Chihuahua is right. You don't want to stop taking him back, and that is a problem. Not letting go, and instead settling for being 'the other woman' and making yourself available thinking he'll change his mind, is just unhealthy, unproductive, and keeps you stuck in a rut.

My hope for you is that the next time he knocks at your door, you will realize that the man on the other side, is not worth your time.