sassyash
Jun 10, 2009, 05:56 PM
Thank you to whoever reads this. I really need advice :(
I was seeing this guy for about 3 months. We weren't exclusive just together, as we called it. We hung out a lot and I knew he was into me. He would text me every day and ask when were going to hang out again. Well about a month ago, it ended on a bad note. He really hurt me and I can't even describe it. I thought everything was good and he was into me, but I guess he was just playing games with me.
I kind of ended it first, because I knew something was up. Towards the end, he would always ask when were going to hang out next and I would tell him whenever he's free and he would say oh OK this Friday works, and Friday would come and he would make an excuse up like, he really didn't care. My phone was dead on this weekend, and he e-mailed me after not talking to me for 2 days and asked how I was, and I told him "i was done playing games". I liked him so much, but deep down I needed to tell him because I felt like I was getting led on. His response was "ok i wasnt ready for a relationship anyways but it was fun gettn to know you cya around." The next day he emailed me again saying "if you ever need someone to talk to call me"...
Then I told him how I felt. I told him I really liked him and if he ever thought I wasn't into him I was, I just didn't want to be annoying and text him 24/7.
We kept emailing back and forth and he told me it "wasn't that easy for him to get over me since he still thought of me but we'll just have to let it go". Well I told him I wanted to talk about it in person, and he said "what do you want? you told me you have to get over me now you want to talk about it, you're the one that ended it first". And then I told him I was just as confused as him. So he finally agreed and said he would come over. I was thinking he would come over to work things out.
The first thing when he came over he says "so how would this relationship thing work out?" And then after he started telling me he was over me, which makes no sense to me because how do you go from talking about a relationship and then telling the person you're over them? And then a couple days before that he was just emailing me telling me it's not much easier to get over me... and on top of that he was drunk which really made me upset because that hurt me even more. I told him I wanted to start over and he told me when I get a phone back to call or text him and we can. And then he told me to call him if I ever need someone to talk to, which he was obviously just saying that to be nice. I told him regardless I still want to be friends just to be mature about the situation, and he said you we'll "keep in touch", and even if I meet a new guy he still wants to keep in touch... which I doubt will happen. He even asked me if I was mad because I looked kind of upset, and I told him "no im just disappointed because i thought we had something more."
I haven't contacted him for a month, even though he told me to call him or text him when I get a phone back. I can't get over him. My head is telling me to stop thinking about him and just move on, but my heart is telling me different. Its really pathetic how I try to keep holding on to something that's never coming back. :( I have been rejected before, but not this bad. I really regret telling him how I felt because I think that's what scared him away. He's only 19 and I'm 21. Why do guys just run away from a girl when they were interested in them in the first place? I don't even want to call him or anything to "start over" because I know he was just saying that we could, to be nice about it. Maybe he was scared about how I felt, but I felt comfortable enough to tell him since we had been hanging out for about 3 months. Sometimes I still cry out about it, thinking about what "could've been" . It feels like he just took my heart and stomped on it, and he doesn't even give a crap. I hope someday he realizes what he's missing out on. :mad:
I have a feeling he will contact me , and I don't even know if I should answer him, because he knows what he did to me. Any advice?
I was seeing this guy for about 3 months. We weren't exclusive just together, as we called it. We hung out a lot and I knew he was into me. He would text me every day and ask when were going to hang out again. Well about a month ago, it ended on a bad note. He really hurt me and I can't even describe it. I thought everything was good and he was into me, but I guess he was just playing games with me.
I kind of ended it first, because I knew something was up. Towards the end, he would always ask when were going to hang out next and I would tell him whenever he's free and he would say oh OK this Friday works, and Friday would come and he would make an excuse up like, he really didn't care. My phone was dead on this weekend, and he e-mailed me after not talking to me for 2 days and asked how I was, and I told him "i was done playing games". I liked him so much, but deep down I needed to tell him because I felt like I was getting led on. His response was "ok i wasnt ready for a relationship anyways but it was fun gettn to know you cya around." The next day he emailed me again saying "if you ever need someone to talk to call me"...
Then I told him how I felt. I told him I really liked him and if he ever thought I wasn't into him I was, I just didn't want to be annoying and text him 24/7.
We kept emailing back and forth and he told me it "wasn't that easy for him to get over me since he still thought of me but we'll just have to let it go". Well I told him I wanted to talk about it in person, and he said "what do you want? you told me you have to get over me now you want to talk about it, you're the one that ended it first". And then I told him I was just as confused as him. So he finally agreed and said he would come over. I was thinking he would come over to work things out.
The first thing when he came over he says "so how would this relationship thing work out?" And then after he started telling me he was over me, which makes no sense to me because how do you go from talking about a relationship and then telling the person you're over them? And then a couple days before that he was just emailing me telling me it's not much easier to get over me... and on top of that he was drunk which really made me upset because that hurt me even more. I told him I wanted to start over and he told me when I get a phone back to call or text him and we can. And then he told me to call him if I ever need someone to talk to, which he was obviously just saying that to be nice. I told him regardless I still want to be friends just to be mature about the situation, and he said you we'll "keep in touch", and even if I meet a new guy he still wants to keep in touch... which I doubt will happen. He even asked me if I was mad because I looked kind of upset, and I told him "no im just disappointed because i thought we had something more."
I haven't contacted him for a month, even though he told me to call him or text him when I get a phone back. I can't get over him. My head is telling me to stop thinking about him and just move on, but my heart is telling me different. Its really pathetic how I try to keep holding on to something that's never coming back. :( I have been rejected before, but not this bad. I really regret telling him how I felt because I think that's what scared him away. He's only 19 and I'm 21. Why do guys just run away from a girl when they were interested in them in the first place? I don't even want to call him or anything to "start over" because I know he was just saying that we could, to be nice about it. Maybe he was scared about how I felt, but I felt comfortable enough to tell him since we had been hanging out for about 3 months. Sometimes I still cry out about it, thinking about what "could've been" . It feels like he just took my heart and stomped on it, and he doesn't even give a crap. I hope someday he realizes what he's missing out on. :mad:
I have a feeling he will contact me , and I don't even know if I should answer him, because he knows what he did to me. Any advice?