Hi, My name is Lucy,

I am in a constant struggle of trying not to miss a person who was special to me. Its been a while I haven't seen this person. I am not sure if I am going to see this person again. In short phrase, how do I cope with these fellins. I am not sure anymore how to cope with this. :confused:

It ALWAYS helps to be around people you love. It helps keep your mind off that person.

My love recently passed away. I constantly have friends around me. They help out a great deal. Best of luck and God bless ;)

Hi Southerngalp!

Nice talking to you, I believe you missunderstand about my message, but its OK because I didn't explained well enough. This special person is alive. It is my teacher. Do you think I am real nuts or insane because I cannot get over this person over five years? Is it something wrong with me?I tried so many times to forget him completely and its impossible. The more I tried to suppress this felling I have for him the more miserable I become. I constatly tried to suppress these fellings without no success because my rational mind says its imposible.

Well it usually helps by not seeing them even more. Time is the best!

Plan trips away and stay busy! If you are alone which you will be at times + lonely, try some of the following which I do:

Read book, watch TV dvd series, go to the gym, build website or study.

I am also in the same situation as you as well. Tho reality has kind of overwhelmed any kind of hope I did have. You just got to accept you may never see them again and try to move on.

I know what you meant :)

I know this person is still alive, but we both miss these people. That's all I was trying to get at.

Did you have an emotional relationship with your teacher?

Or you just miss him as a human being/ nice person?

Hi,

Hi

I don't miss him as a human being like I miss my mom or my sibblings. Unfortunatully I was and still am emotionally attached to him.

Sorry for the late reply

Thanks

I wouldn't say you are nuts are insane. Love is hard to overcome.

But you do need to move on. You are only hurting and causing stress for yourself.

Go out and meet people.

I assume you are not together anymore because he was your teacher?

That would have been sign number ONE to not get involved. Something bad is just bound to happen.

I wasn't sure I typed my answer in the right spot

I don't miss him as a human being like I miss my mom or my sibblings. Unfortunatully I was and still am emotionally attached to him.

Sorry for the late reply.

Thanks.

I answered your other post.

Your whole response was there.

I have moved on. Its very easy for somebody to say move on. Its not like I am trying to pursue this teacher or stalk him. I did not see him for two years. But I am terrible afraid of these fellings of not being able to forget him. It frighthens me when I think of this. Why did God made it so hard for me? I never though how dificult this could be.

Lucia...

Eveything takes time. And that is one of the most annoying things

I wish there was a pill we could take and boom! Over and done with..

But here is the thing.

We find the most strength threw all this pain.

Even though it has been 6. use these feelings to better yourself.

There is nothing wrong in FEELING :) we all do it. It's a B$$TH being human isn't it?

But it is how we act on them feelings that count

As long as these feeling don't effect your day to day life. And Futuer! Relationships
You are OK

Once those feelings bleed into those areas. You have a problem and need to work on it harder.

Don't feel bad for thinking about him.
Feel good that you remember the good points
And also focus your life and your goals

No you have not "moved on" since you are still afraid, and still not moving on to find someone else. You go out on dates with many other guys and try to find someone you like.

I feel bad I wasn't able to expel him of my mind. I feel guilty thinking about him. I forced myself to forget him. Why is it so difficult?

Because you are making it difficult.

Just keep your mind occupied. You will meet someone new and everything will be better.

Is it OK to feel attracted towards my teacher?
Maybe its unusual, but I am 30 years old and I tend to feel attracted twards older guys. They ussually have class, they are more muture and have more experience.

Throughout high school and especially college, I had a few crushes my teachers. It's humor nature to be attracted someone but you have to be able to control yourself because in life you will find that you will be attracted to people for different reasons.

Are you still in contact with that one teacher, or is this a new teacher?

Are you also attracted to your dentist, your gynecologist, your GP, your lawyer, and your minister?

This was her post before... just some confusion...

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/how-can-you-thing-about-same-person-over-course-six-years-286777.html

Hey Southerngalps,

Thanks for your advise you gave me couple of time. You thought me not to be rough with myself. I will provide a brief story for you so you can get more familiar with my story:
When my teacher found out that I had a crush on him he started to dress differently. He become very shy when he was around me. He started to shave. He looked so hansome. Every other week I would see him he ware new outfits. When I approached him couple of time he would accidentally drops things on the floor such as book, pencil. I was acting just like him very clumsy around him. One day he had his class right next to mine and made a wrong turn, he got in my class by mistake. For a second I thought he was coming towards me but when he saw that our communication teacher was still there he change his mind and turn around(blushing) and said uups wrong turn. I than smiled to him. He felt so embaressed. I wanted you to get familiar with my story about my teacher. I don't have any doubts he liked me. But we all learn to move on. We can't hold on these memories forever if we want to get better.


You do have a gret memory about my personal dilema. I had to move on and push him ( teacher) out of my conscience and to do I start liking another teacher just to minimize the intensity and the felling I had for the prior one. I am just fighting my own feelings. I am moving on. PS. Someone joke around this website and asked me if I fall in love with my dentist or my lawyer something like that. Ha, ha, I don't fall easily with everybody. Tell me if I am doing the right thing. I think everyone would do the same thing in order to move on.

That is a way that people move on... starting to have feelings with someone else.

However, I am concerned with it being another teacher. It just causes problems. Do you got out and meet other men? Or do you just meet people at school?

All your posts have been merged into one, to stop the confusion, and scroll down the page your on, and you will see where to respond.

To give my opinion, having feelings is okay for another human being is okay, as long as you don't get carried away or let them control your actions, so stay within the boundaries of good behavior.