Confused_And_Smitten
Mar 18, 2008, 07:19 PM
Hello,
I am a 22 year old male, and the female in question is 21. I will call her Gail for privacy. I have known Gail for around 2 months. We both work at the same job. I trained her and work closely as her partner on the job. Over the past 2 months I have become quite smitten with Gail. She is everything I look for in a women. She is funny, intelligent , has a great personality, responsible and attractive. We have both become good friends, I even hang out with her and her friends now. We both flirt with each other and can talk about anything, I mean anything...
Now on to the confusion. Gail is currently in a relationship that she is not happy with. I hear her complain about her boyfriend on a regular basis. From what I have gathered, If it was me I would have been out of the relationship a long time ago. Her friends all tell her to get out of the relationship, none of them understand why she is still with him. If I am reading her signals right she is attracted to me as I am to her. I could be wrong, but only time will tell I suppose. Lately she has occasionally been a little snappy with me. I have no idea what has triggered it. She even apologizes when she realizes it. She has called me to tell me sorry and make sure I know she didn't mean it.
I am quite confused by all of this. The only thing I can figure is she is taking out some of her frustration about her boyfriend on me. It isn't bad, just snappy comments or nagging. I haven't seen her do this to anyone else. So I am hoping it isn't something I have done. I would like some of your input on this. I plan to talk to her about it soon, but I wanted some subjective view points first.
Now on to the fact that I am quite smitten with Gail. As I have said her current relationship is on the rocks. If they break up I don't want to seem like I am only trying to swoop in for the rebound. Do you think It would seem like that's what I am trying to do? Hell, I don't even know if she would say yes, If I asked her out. I am also worried about losing her as a friend if we go out or when she finds out I want to pursue a romantic relationship. I would rather have her as a friend than not at all. Just being around her makes me all warm and happy. I am not so worried about us both working together, the job isn't that important and I can always move to another position with no problems.
Well sorry for the long winded post. I just needed to get some of this off my chest. If anyone has any advice or answers to my questions, they will be greatly welcomed.
Thanks, Confused_and_Smitten
I am a 22 year old male, and the female in question is 21. I will call her Gail for privacy. I have known Gail for around 2 months. We both work at the same job. I trained her and work closely as her partner on the job. Over the past 2 months I have become quite smitten with Gail. She is everything I look for in a women. She is funny, intelligent , has a great personality, responsible and attractive. We have both become good friends, I even hang out with her and her friends now. We both flirt with each other and can talk about anything, I mean anything...
Now on to the confusion. Gail is currently in a relationship that she is not happy with. I hear her complain about her boyfriend on a regular basis. From what I have gathered, If it was me I would have been out of the relationship a long time ago. Her friends all tell her to get out of the relationship, none of them understand why she is still with him. If I am reading her signals right she is attracted to me as I am to her. I could be wrong, but only time will tell I suppose. Lately she has occasionally been a little snappy with me. I have no idea what has triggered it. She even apologizes when she realizes it. She has called me to tell me sorry and make sure I know she didn't mean it.
I am quite confused by all of this. The only thing I can figure is she is taking out some of her frustration about her boyfriend on me. It isn't bad, just snappy comments or nagging. I haven't seen her do this to anyone else. So I am hoping it isn't something I have done. I would like some of your input on this. I plan to talk to her about it soon, but I wanted some subjective view points first.
Now on to the fact that I am quite smitten with Gail. As I have said her current relationship is on the rocks. If they break up I don't want to seem like I am only trying to swoop in for the rebound. Do you think It would seem like that's what I am trying to do? Hell, I don't even know if she would say yes, If I asked her out. I am also worried about losing her as a friend if we go out or when she finds out I want to pursue a romantic relationship. I would rather have her as a friend than not at all. Just being around her makes me all warm and happy. I am not so worried about us both working together, the job isn't that important and I can always move to another position with no problems.
Well sorry for the long winded post. I just needed to get some of this off my chest. If anyone has any advice or answers to my questions, they will be greatly welcomed.
Thanks, Confused_and_Smitten