Is sex better or just as good with a big woman as opposed to a slim woman. Would be interested in your views.

Not for me. While your average big woman is less likely to be cursed with a "gods gift to mankind" mentality which is a real plus on her side, there is the negative of the large size being a turn off for me.

Sort of six of one and half dozen of the other situation depending on how you view things. You can usually have a far better conversation with the average larger woman than the average beauty queen afterwards. And yeah... you will spend more time talking than doing the nasty. A good point to consider.

I have heard that sex with bigger women is better, because they don't get it as often, and when they do... hold on and enjoy the ride.

I guess it would depend on how skinny and how fat you are talking about. But I would think men would want to put it to something curvy, soft, and bouncy, as opposed to a version of their boney 12 year old brother. Lol.

I guess it would depend on how skinny and how fat you are talking about. But I would think men would want to put it to something curvy, soft, and bouncy, as opposed to a version of their boney 12 year old brother. lol.Me? I'd prefer 10 lbs underweight to 10 lbs overweight. However with that said... anorexic does nothing for me. Nor do Shamu sized women. Back in my single days I have actually turned down sex from women who were what I considered morbidly obese, yeah there is a line that I wouldn't cross even back then, and back then it might have been that or Rosey Palmer.. And yeah, I have dated women back in the day that were a bit plump.

Me? I'd prefer 10 lbs underweight to 10 lbs overweight. However with that said....anorexic does nothing for me. Nor do Shamu sized women. Back in my single days I have actually turned down sex from women who were what I considered morbidly obese, yeah there is a line that I wouldn't cross even back then, and back then it might have been that or Rosey Palmer.. And yeah, I have dated women back in the day that were a bit plump.

So what would you consider yourself? Are you fat, thin, what? In my experience it always seems to be the overweight men who turn their noses up to the overweight girls.

*bracing myself*

I'm 5'11" and 220 lbs. Broad shoulders, arms and chest. Can lose a few pounds most of it is upper body mass. My arms are also a lot larger than I was back then too. Anyone that saw me would think I weigh less than I do.

However with that said I've been married 17 years. My shoulders were not a broad in my 20's when I was last dating. While I was never the 100 lb weakling I wasn't as intimidating as I am now and I certainly wasn't overweight by any standards. Why did I date larger women back then? I'm not afraid to say why. Simple they were more approachable, I didn't find them more physically appealing, and I just didn't have the level of confidence then that I have now.

Why do I plan to lose some weight if I'm not fat? I'll tell everyone that as well. It has to do with blood pressure. Losing the weight will lower the blood pressure to where I won't be close to needing medication. Also more overweight people suffer from adult onset diabetes losing a few pounds can significantly reduce your chances of getting it. It runs in my family as well. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure the saying goes.

I'm not going to be apologetic because obesity is epidemic in this country and it carries with it a LOT of medical consequences the "feel good about yourself the way you are" crowd choose to ignore.

Yeah it would be easy to stuff my face with junk food (and yes I do have a sweet tooth) get fat and whine about all my medical problems as I get older. But I'd rather be healthier. Its not the easy way but I'll have a longer life with fewer problems as I get older.

Ultimately that's your choice to make... just remember like with most things everything carries a cost.

I'm not going to be apologetic because obesity is epidemic in this country and it carries with it a LOT of medical consequences the "feel good about yourself the way you are" crowd choose to ignore.

Yeah it would be easy to stuff my face with junk food (and yes I do have a sweet tooth) get fat and whine about all my medical problems as I get older. But I'd rather be healthier. Its not the easy way but I'll have a longer life with fewer problems as I get older.

Ultimately thats your choice to make....just remember like with most things everything carries a cost.

So do you think a bigger woman is bad in bed? I really don't know what you consider bigger... (130, 140, 180, 200, 250+) I had someone tell me I was fat at 125. So in a way it can be a very subjective thing.

It's all kind of stereotypical because not all fat people sit around eating Fritos and pie. And not all fat people have diabetes. I know some very sickly and LAZY skinny people. Whereas, I also know some very healthy and energetic fat people. Sometimes it's just not in the genes brutha. Lol.

So do you think a bigger woman is bad in bed? I really don't know what you consider bigger....(130, 140, 180, 200, 250+) I had someone tell me I was fat at 125. So in a way it can be a very subjective thing.

It's all kind of stereotypical because not all fat people sit around eating Fritos and pie. And not all fat people have diabetes. I know some very sickly and LAZY skinny people. Whereas, I also know some very healthy and energetic fat people. Sometimes it's just not in the genes brutha. lol.
Never said they were bad in bed on the average. In fact I would go as far as saying your average 20 something overweight woman is better in bed than your average 20 something bikini model. Like I sad, a heavy woman is less likely to think she's gods gift to man, and therefor tend to make more of an effort. Oh I've seen a few large women that thought they were... and I saw nothing in them that was the least bit special. Plus seeing the average fat woman naked isn't very stimulating visually. What that dividing line is would vary woman to woman depending on how and where she carries that weight. And yes, I've dated women back then from a large variety of ethnic backgrounds.

My standards for fat? Any weight that starts with a 2 is fat on a woman. Plus how tall? A 6 foot woman can carry 150 lbs far better and a 5 foot tall woman can.


Energetic means nothing... if you keel over at 40 from a massive heart attack from being overweight your whole life.

I've known people that showed little symptoms of problems till they keeled over dead.

Sex is so much better if it is about *PASSION*for another... so identify your passions. A mechanical approach to sex is like work with, hopefully, an orgasm at the end to make all the drudgery worth it!

It is difficult for many Americans to unleash their passions, they are uncomfortable with true, real emotions, sad to say. Due to some negative cultural forces such as the rise of porn, many men think of women as sex toys instead of full passionate partners creating ecstasy.

So, what kind of woman turns you on? Go for that one. :)

Sex is so much better if it is about *PASSION*for another..... so identify your passions. A mechanical approach to sex is like work with, hopefully, an orgasm at the end to make all the drudgery worth it!

It is difficult for many Americans to unleash their passions, they are uncomfortable with true, real emotions, sad to say. Due to some negative cultural forces such as the rise of porn, many men think of women as sex toys instead of full passionate partners creating ecstacy.

So, what kind of woman turns you on? Go for that one. :)OH, I agree with you there... so many repressed people I've known in my life.

Trust me... me and my wife have lots of fun. And not just what I call fun, but what she calls fun. And yeah, she's in great shape too. 17 years of marriage and she can still get a rise out of me just walking by wearing nothing but a thong. :D

Amazingly, I'm not in as good shape as your wife is, Smoothy. Genes, combined with an early pregnancy, combined with a job that had me sitting for 8 hours a day--well, I'm not the 125 lbs I was when my husband and I met.

But... after 11 years, I still get a rise out of him by walking by in nothing but a thong, too.

I don't look like a model in it, but HE loves me, and loves me for who I am.

I think that people that are comfortable in their own skin are better in bed than people who aren't--regardless of size.

I guess it depends on what you see in the person right?

I, for one, am not attracted to larger women (lets say visibly overweight, not just a bit of meat) so I would not enjoy sex with a larger woman because I would not be attracted to it, sothe sex would suck for me.

However, some like larger women and if that be the case than I think sex is just as good with that person than if she were skinnier. I highly doubt weight has to do with performance in bed. If you like larger people than your attracted to that and the sex will be what you make it.

I believe a lot of men are attracted to larger women, however they are swayed by what society has deemed as the perfect woman. Would like to hear your comments.:cool:

Deep breath... OK...

My cousin likes "bigger" women. Its his thing. His opinion. His preference.

I've usually dated women who were fit. My preference. My opinion.

Have I dated skinny women who were lousy or lazy in bed? Sure.

Best sex is mental and physical. Don't rail on a guy or a girl because they are most attracted to a certain body type. We all have our own quirks.

My wife is generally attracted to fit, but bigger men. She doesn't want a guy that can fit into her jeans or who can wear her tshirts. She likes some muscle. Is that bad? no. is it all that good sex is about? No!

One of the sexiest girls I dated wasn't really heavy, but she was a little bigger than all the others. But she had attitude. And she was sexy as sin.

So... lets not make this too much about right and wrong.

You asked about opinions. People are going to disagree here. But there's been a lot of noise lately about people getting grumpy when a person says "i prefer a fit person"... OK... its an opinion. A preference. We can disagree and get along, right?

Amazingly, I'm not in as good shape as your wife is, Smoothy. Genes, combined with an early pregnancy, combined with a job that had me sitting for 8 hours a day--well, I'm not the 125 lbs I was when my husband and I met.

But...after 11 years, I still get a rise out of him by walking by in nothing but a thong, too.

I don't look like a model in it, but HE loves me, and loves me for who I am.

I think that people that are comfortable in their own skin are better in bed than people who aren't--regardless of size.
She spends an hour a day exercising to maintain that as well as watching what she eats. And she doesn't do it because that's what I like, she does it because she wants a long healthy life without the same medical problems her mother, and one of her sisters have.

She was stodgy the first year of marriage but with some patient coaxing she learned to be pretty adventurous even by my standards, she is comfortable enough to discuss what she wants or wants to try.. And many of our likes do mesh pretty well.

Do I have an Ozzie and Harriet marriage? Not by any means. She has a temper and a mouth on her, but on average we have a good marriage.

How presumptous of you to assume I was offended. It was an observation and a question.

Hello td:

Oh, I like chunky chicks, all right... But one must consider the mechanics of the situation.

I'm kind of shaped like a balloon. If I were to run into a chick who was similarly shaped, we'd never be able to connect, if you know what I mean.

excon

Energetic means nothing....if you keel over at 40 from a massive heart attack from being overweight your whole life.

I've known people that showed little symptoms of problems till they keeled over dead.

Sorry, I chose the wrong word, I meant athletic not energetic. I know several women who are in the 180 pound area who you might call fat and they could run circles around many thin people when it comes to sports. It's because they have a lot of muscle under that fat. And also, you are talking about keeling over from heart attacks... it's not just fat people who die from them. But that's a given.

I believe a lot of men are attracted to larger women, however they are swayed by what society has deemed as the perfect woman. Would like to hear your comments.:cool:

I agree to an extent. I think that some men who are into the size 2 100-pound girl would totally bang a size-16 185-pounder. I doubt they would admit it. I doubt the majority would be eager to bone a bed-ridden chick who needs help getting out of bed. So I guess the whole weight cut off line is kind of blurry. It's fine though, everyone has their likes and dislikes.

Sorry, I chose the wrong word, I meant athletic not energetic. I know several women who are in the 180 pound area who you might call fat and they could run circles around many thin people when it comes to sports. It's because they have a lot of muscle under that fat. And also, you are talking about keeling over from heart attacks....it's not just fat people who die from them. But that's a given.I agree... but fat people do suffer disproportionately from that. Not to mention a slew of other problems. When you are 20 its one thing and you might get away with it for a while, but it will catch up with you by the time you are 50. If it hasn't by 40.

Hip joints and knees wear out... and before anyone says they do hip joint replacement. Yes they do but they typically wear out in 10 years and you won't get it done a second time because the risk for a bone infection of the pelvis is so great.

Like a car... the harder something gets used the faster it wears out.

I agree....but fat people do suffer disproportionately from that. Not to mention a slew of other problems. when you are 20 its one thing and you might get away with it for a while, but it will catch up with you by the time you are 50. if it hasn't by 40.

Hip joints and knees wear out....and before anyone says they do hip joint replacement. Yes they do but they typically wear out in 10 years and you won't get it done a second time because the risk for a bone infection of the pelvis is so great.

Like a car....the harder something gets used the faster it wears out.

Oh I definitely agree. Being obese does catch up when your middle-aged. But then again so does a skinny guy's cheeseburger and hot wing diet lol. My dad muscular and fit and looks pretty good for his age, but looks are nothing when your insides are shot.

Oh I definitely agree. Being obese does catch up when your middle-aged. But then again so does a skinny guy's cheeseburger and hot wing diet lol. My dad muscular and fit and looks pretty good for his age, but looks are nothing when your insides are shot.Plenty of reason to watch ones diet. You are what you eat.

Plenty of reason to watch ones diet. You are what you eat.Hello smoothy:

You are not! I've been eating jumbo wieners for a long time and nothing is happening.

excon

Hello smoothy:

You are not! I've been eating jumbo wieners for a long time and nothing is happening.

excon

Lmao!!

Hello smoothy:

You are not! I've been eating jumbo wieners for a long time and nothing is happening.

excon

I gave up regular hot dogs years ago after I found out high fat diets is a huge factor in colon cancer. And yes, My father and a male cousin had that, Cousin had it in his 30's and survived it, my father wasn't so lucky.

Only hot dogs I eat these days are fat free.


And yeah... I did get the joke... :D

Maybe if you switch to kielbasa? :D

Hello smoothy:

You are not! I've been eating jumbo wieners for a long time and nothing is happening.

excon

Cracked me up

Wrong on several levels

I don't know if sex is different with a fat girl. I've never had sex with a girl. The best sex I ever had was with a fat guy. He had a very small one too. I always got huge crushes on overweight men. They refrain from making remarks like "she sat on my face and almost suffocated me." They stare less openly and say ruder things under their breath as a rule.

You can say that body type is a preference, but how are our preferences formed?

I think our preferences are formed by a little of everything around us. Obviously what the media puts out there can shape our opinions, but simply having positive or negative experiences can too.

For ex, when in my young 20's, even late teens, for some reason I was most attracted to blondes, and some to brown hair. I didn't think brunettes looked bad, I just was naturally attracted to blondes. Dated one for 7 years. It got ugly. Obviously this has NOTHING to do with her hair color, right?

Didn't matter. When I was done with that relationship I just didn't seek out anybody who was blonde, and really, since have dated (and married) all brunettes.

Now... there is NO logic in the thinking "one blonde treated me poorly, so all will"... I don't believe that at all, and I have found some attractive for sure... its just I somehow became wired to look at the brunette first.

You say you've had a bad experience w thinner men, or at least better experiences with heavier men. OK. Now maybe there is more reason there... in that a person who is heavier might be more forgiving about body type... but still... all it took was one good experience to shape your thinking, right?

Honestly, no matter the size, hair, or whatever features you want to talk about... one of the sexiest things a woman can have is self confidence. And whenever I knew a woman was interested in me, she usually became more interesting herself... some kind of return of admiration and wondering what exactly do they like about me...

As for tying into the original question... I think a lover who can get into your head and who is attentive, while also being more than a sexual maid or butler, is always best.

Why my cousin is attracted to bigger women, I don't know. He just is. Even though he's as fit as the next guy running several miles every day on the treadmill.

Inner beauty is certainly important, but we still have our general likes and dislikes for the most part where physical interest is concerned.

Hello smoothy:

You are not! I've been eating jumbo wieners for a long time and nothing is happening.

excon

LMAO... thats hilarious!!

What about the biological drive to reproduce? It makes sense that a guy is attracted to a very young appearing woman. A young woman is more likely to have many (of his) babies. Younger women are often thin, many have long legs. Magazines and porn cater to this. Big breasts, I think that's learned as opposed to biological. The average mammary gland is about the size of a small fried egg, everything else is fat, skin and nipple. It's no wonder they start to sag.

Large breasts do not ensure good milk production. Big enough and they guarantee stares and an aching back. I love my double As. Guys have suggested, many times, that I should buy myself some big ones. But then I couldn't go jogging with no bra. If you have ever worn a bra in the summer time, you would surely understand.

Anyway, I think that most of sexual attraction is biologically driven. As much as we would like to think that it's our choice. It's probably as much taste and smell as appearance. Have you ever asked someone out, who didn't smell good to you? Ever wanted to continue making out with a person who's saliva wasn't great? Blondes taste milder than darker-haired people as a rule. But if someone looks OK and tastes and smells great, isn't that part of the chemistry?

I agree that attraction to one type or another can be based on just one positive or negative experience. People are funny. They were totally weird way back when, when a thin woman was scorned as a poor baby-maker.

[QUOTE=kp2171]deep breath... OK...

My cousin likes "bigger" women. Its his thing. His opinion. His preference.

I've usually dated women who were fit. My preference. My opinion.

I understand about our preferences but I am curious: what is your idea of fit? Or anyone's for that matter--there is a nebulous place between heavy and fit. What if a woman with a large frame is indeed fit but bigger? Do you mean you like petite women? Petite women that are fit? What does constitute fit? Someone who looks like she is but can't run a mile without stopping? When you say fit do you mean thin? What if a woman is thin--seemingly fit but doesn't have a sculpted tone look? Do you look for a woman that has muscles or curves? I know this is insane but a conversation I've always wanted to have and have been very curious about...

I get what you are asking. Fit means a lot of things depending on the angle.

I've usually dated moderately athletic women with curves... not skinny waifs who couldn't name their last meal. Not necessarily women who had "optimal" weight or bmi's. My wife, for ex, is strong, fit, a runner... she works out 5+ times a week. That said, her bmi drives her mad cause its "too high"... and personally I think it's a crock much of the time.

so what is fit when I talk about my own personal attraction? Probably someone who you wouldn't look at and say that person is especially overweight, maybe you'd say they could lose a little (like most of us can at least)... someone who moves their body and considers physical health a priority. Fitness is about a lifestyle and a mindset, not just a form.

my wife is a long, lean, curvy italian girl, but before her I dated a different italian girl who was shorter, bigger, curvier, a little "softer"... she was sexy as sin too. She might not have fit the strictest visual description of being really, really fit... but she was fit, in my mind. Active physically, reasonably healthy, energetic.

so... my point wasn't my trying to state any ideal... PLEASE... before I get a bunch of disagrees thrown around... that wasn't the spirit of my original post.

I might be a loudmouth from time to time, but read between the lines before I'm called superficial...

the original post was to state diff people like many diff things, such as my "fit" cousin (reasonably athletic) who loves heavier women. Doesn't mean he doesn't find "skinnier" girls attractive from time to time.

and likewise, I know one woman friend most would call "overweight" whom I think is also sexy and attractive. A confident woman is about the sexiest thing there is.

so yeah, I've tended to take a narrower range... but there are women who are attracted to taller men only, and on and on.

one of my wife's fav greeting cards had a "hunk" in a bathing suit on the front and the words "no matter how good he looks...."

and on the inside said "someone, somewhere is TIRED of putting up with his crap"...
=)

so you need balance. What catches your eye and what satiates your mind.

I LOVE the card you referred to! Ah!

and likewise, i know one woman friend most would call "overweight" whom i think is also sexy and attractive. a confident woman is about the sexiest thing there is.

Awwww... KP, I had no idea you thought so! Thanks! ;)

Mmm... if there is a big woman... I would love it. I mean big - I don't say plump. And with them its heaven. Mmm. The look of a nude big woman is instant arousal... as I type this I am getting aroused just by the thought of a big woman.

I know plenty of men who find large women attractive, and I think you need to lower your standards if you are anything like smoothy, because its people like him that depress large people, and that causes them to overeat, and get even fatter, where as if you were to encourage, and not judge, they'd be a lot better off. I think broad shoulders are repulsive, and I think men under 6 feet are too short, but I would not be mean to you about it.

i know plenty of men who find large women attractive, and i think you need to lower your standards if you are anything like smoothy, because its people like him that depress large people, and that causes them to overeat, and get even fatter, where as if you were to encourage, and not judge, they'd be a lot better off. I think broad shoulders are repulsive, and i think men under 6 feet are too short, but i would not be mean to you about it.

I don't belittle large women... or even ignore them... but they are not what turn me on. That's never stopped them from being my friends. They just were not my lovers.

Trust me, there are plenty of women that put down short guys, big guys... all sort of guys because they aren't what THEY happen to like. And that is NO different. And trust me... most of them were nothing special themselves.

Everyone likes something different. If you like large rather hairy women? More power to you, you are welcome to them... me, I'm entitled to what I like just as everyone else is.

Listen to certain women on the board complaining about how their partner makes love, the fact he wants to hang out with his friends, or likes to watch porn... or Ohhhhhh and Ahhhhhhhh because they think Brad Pitt is so hot but do you see them flocking to guys like Jack Black? Noooooooooooo. If people spent a little time looking at themselves rather than pointing fingers and blaming others they might see where their problems originate. And if what that is isn't clear, They can get the same answer of who is at fault by looking in a mirror.

Funny how certain people think they feel its perfectly fine to pig out on Haggen Daz and take little effort to stay in any sort of shape yet get offended and blame men because we find that unatractive. How many of you igore the buff good looking guy and go after the ugly little troll? Not many right. Why is that different? I'd bet many of those "trolls" have a more pleasant personality than the Buff young guy with an ego enough for 10 people, and a bad attitude to match.

I have to say this. I am a bigger woman. I am 5"10 300lbs. I am married to a 6'2 220 lbs man, that loves me for who I am. We have sex damn there everyother day, and he can't get enough of me.
All I really have to say is that it is the person. Some like big some don't.
It is all in the way that you carrie yourself, I think that I'm sexy so I act that way, I dress nice when we go out, and I try to take care of myself.
But I don't know this question just kind of hit a nurve. Man why can't you pigs just leave the bigger girls alone, we have never done anything thing to you. Just stop, we need some loven to.

If you think you can handle big... I guess??

On Jerry Springer their claim is more pushin' for the cushion.

Oh I've seen people that ridicule, trivialize, ignore and otherwise marginalize large people.

I find that behavior rude. Like I said , big women flat out do not turn me on, and never have, but that's never stopped me from having large friends. Some of my best friends have been large people over the years.

What ever you are talking about Brocksgirl
I ain't into women fat or skinny!!
IF I want to be with someone it will be a GUY thank you.

OH and I ain't blonde either!
Fat maybe, blonde N0PE!

AND the OP said views (meaning either way) NOT who IS into big women.

Play nice, kids.

There's no reason to get rude or mean to each other.

We can still be respectful even if we don't agree.

Oh I've seen people that ridicule, trivialize, ignore and otherwise marginalize large people.

I find that behavior rude. Like I said , big women flat out do not turn me on, and never have, but thats never stopped me from having large friends. Some of my best friends have been large people over the years.

I am not going to agree or disagree with what Smoothy says, he is entitled to his opinion. If he doesn't like big women, it's OK. Women tend to jump on the bandwagon and chastize men for not having a preference to larger women. It is crazy, when most of us here would not give the time of day to a 400 lb man. If you can't be physically turned on by a large man or a large woman, that is fine and not abnormal. We all have a picture in our minds of what ideal beauty is, what we like and what we don't. I applaud Smoothy for his honesty! Having said that...

Sex is not better with one group than another; fat people are not better than skinny people. Ugly people aren't better than pretty people. Rich people aren't better than poor people. Making any assumption for a group of people is ignorant. Sex is what you and your partner make of it. It is about connecting, passion, and attraction, it is not about their size. It is about what works for you and what works for your partner and what gets you both hot.

My boss always says...


For every pot, there is a lid ;)

Enjoy folks :)

My boss always says....


For every pot, there is a lid ;)

Enjoy folks :)


Just for the record, I am 5' 9" 150 and am married to man that is 5' 9" 475lbs The sex is pretty dog gone good.

I am 5' 9" 150 and am married to man that is 5' 9" 475lbs The sex is pretty dog gone good.Hello Lady:

Really? I don't mean to get personal, but how do you find his johnson? That's the first thing to disappear when you get fat.

excon

Hello Lady:

Really? I don't mean to get personal, but how do you find his johnson? That's the first thing to disappear when you get fat.

excon

It was trial and error for awhile, but we worked it out. Some positions are impossible, because the "johnson" just won't reach, but we have def found our groove. It is better sex than I have ever had before with normal sized partners. He was the first and only big man that I had ever dated, and there were def some frustrating moments at first.

The real problem is fat people are unhealthy, unfit, sometimes sweaty and smelly which makes them not the ideal choice of sex buddies. Sure you can love someone who's chubby or who turns chubby during a relationship, but do they make you want to get a chubby??

The real problem is fat people are unhealthy, unfit, sometimes sweaty and smelly which makes them not the ideal choice of sex buddies. Sure you can love someone who's chubby or who turns chubby during a relationship, but do they make you wanna get a chubby????


And thin people are obsessive about their weight, just as unfit at times, and sometimes annoyingly smug about the fact that THEY aren't overweight. Thin people are also more likely to have huge egos about their looks.

My point is not that you're wrong--it's that every group of people has exceptions, and every group of people has habits that are annoying or that could be a dealbreaker for others.

I agree with the above poster that clumping people together in stereotypes is ignorant.

The real problem is fat people are unhealthy, unfit, sometimes sweaty and smelly which makes them not the ideal choice of sex buddies. Sure you can love someone who's chubby or who turns chubby during a relationship, but do they make you wanna get a chubby????


No Dave,

In my opinion, the real problem of today, is people need to live and let live.

Unhealthy comes in every shape and size and so does stinkee.

Expand your view and see past what you see, and your liable to enrich your life ten fold :).

Actually I have seen many big women that have the same attitude toward skinny women.
They are obsessed with their 'more pushin' for the cushion' attitude and put skinny women down like they are inferior.
Did you ever see The Big Beautiful Women Club when they would go on Sally Jesse Raphael in their negligees and flaunt themselves all over the stage??
As Smoothy says

Its all in what floats your boat.

All I have to say about the whole big people are unhealthy, well I'm 5'9 300lbs and my husbdan is 6"2 220lbs and he eats more food then I do, he also eats out (fastfood) then I do. I tend to eat more veggies and fruit then him. So you have to stop looking at one person and thinking that everyone like her/him are all the same.
My husband and I will be married a year in April, and we have been together for 2 years in may, but we had a rocky sex life in the beginning, we tried different things, some worked and some didn't. But we tried to make it work, and I will tell you what this man sure knows how it give it to me.
Who and about the sweting thing, everyone does it, skiny, avrage, and big. So just get over it.

I suppose if you are enjoying yourself then more power to you.

There is probably a larger issue with this and that is obesity is a huge problem in western societies, it is outgrowing cancer as the number one killer. So regardless of your sexual preferences people who are overweight are damaging themselves and the children they are having. Live a fit and healthy lifestyle and imagine how good sex will be with your partner then. So just get over it!!

Remember what I said about playing nice? Let's keep that in mind here.

And as far as being overweight being an epidemic, that may be so--but let's stay on topic, okay?

Sorry. Got a bit carried away there.

Skinny people have health problems but heavy people IF they are not eating healthy and keeping track of their health are more likely prone to
Sleep apnea
Metabolic syndrome
Heart problems
Bad cholestrol/leptin levels

I have to aggree with you in that one. But I'm am trying to get healthyer, it is hard. But like I said my husband fell in love with me for who I am, and told me I could stay the ways I was or change its up to me. He loves me for me, so yeah I guess if you ONLY LOOK AT THE OUTSIDE OF SOMEONE THEN YOU WILL NEVER FIND YOUR TRUE LOVE, AND YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY. BUT IF YOU TAKE THE TIME TO TALK TO THE PERSON THEN, JUST THEN WILL YOU FIND YOUR TURE MATCH.

i have to aggree with you in that one. but im am trying to get healthyer, it is hard. but like i said my husband fell in love with me for who i am, and told me i could stay the ways i was or change its up to me. he loves me for me, so yeah i guess if you ONLY LOOK AT THE OUTSIDE OF SOMEONE THEN YOU WILL NEVER FIND YOUR TRUE LOVE, AND YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY. BUT IF YOU TAKE THE TIME TO TALK TO THE PERSON THEN, JUST THEN WILL YOU FIND YOUR TURE MATCH.


Oh I bet he does love you with all his heart. And I have no doubt you are a beautiful girl.. not one doubt.

Here's the thing, you have your husband who just adores you and you he... and that equates to great happiness.

So you want your time together to be forever - and the two of you to continue to enjoy that happiness and each other.

You don't want to fall sick or him to, so the love that you have for each other, is something that you want to share for a very long time, and is reason enough to want to be healthy. And also to feel good and not tired or drained (assuming you do)

This is not about a weight number or appearnce. It's about you being able to enjoy hubby for a very long time.


So, you can start slow... and again, this is not about losing pounds... it's just about getting healthy. Hey, hubby and I are taking the same road too :)

So, for right now, don't over focus on what your eating. I love to go for walks. It clears my very busy head. So, maybe you want to start with a 5 or 10 minute walk a day. Change nothing else (for now :). Next week bump it up to 15 minutes and take it at your own pace.

What you and your husband have is real and true and precious... hold on to it :)

Wishing you the very best,

Allheart

OK... I received a pm from a distraught member so I feel I better say this one more time out of respect.

I am not and never have intended to put down larger women. Like I have previously stated some of my best friends over the years have been large women.

What I meant by what I said was I am not turned on by them sexually. That has nothing to do with my being able to respect them as friends, and having a real friendship with them just as I would any other person.

I chose my friends based on who they are inside. I will admit I have chosen my lovers based on who they are inside as well as what they look like outside.

OK....I received a pm from a distraught member so I feel I better say this one more time out of respect.

I am not and never have intended to put down larger women. Like I have previously stated some of my best friends over the years have been large women.

What I meant by what I said was I am not turned on by them sexually. That has nothing to do with my being able to respect them as friends, and having a real friendship with them just as I would any other person.

I chose my friends based on who they are inside. I will admit I have chosen my lovers based on who they are inside as well as what they look like outside.

I hear you Smoothy. That had to be upsetting that's what happens when we can only read - I go off course myself and take things wrong and vice versa.

It's really no different then some guys like blonds, some brunettes and we know they ALL love red heads :) (3 guesses what I am )

Anyway, I just breezed over the post but that's how I would see it. But it's a sensitive issue because society can be so cruel. Weight, height, ethnic background, you name it, someone has an unkind word for it, sad really.

But I am sure you were just stating your preferece.

Hope any hurt feelings, yours included heal. I've seen your post and I know you would never be cruel.

I am sure it's all resolved now.

I have been a big woman most of my married life. I did not have sex before marriage. When I married in 1972, I was not really big , but was about 25 pounds overweight and did not have terrific curves but I was considered attractive and I received compliments on how nice my clothes looked on me. My husband seemed to like the way I looked when we were dating and would order lady like portions of steak for me etc. . We had a great sex life . But he began wanting me to eat huge meals with him and ( gain a lot of weight). I thought he was jealous of other men looking at me and maybe was trying to turn them off to me if I was fat. By the time we were married for two years, I had gained 100 pounds. I felt gross but he seemed to enjoy every pound of me. I did not enjoy sex as much because I was ashamed of my body. I went on a diet and lost 40 pounds before getting pregnant. He seemed angry with me as I lost the weight ( pre-pregnancy ). I was careful what I ate while pregnant ( only lean proteins, veggies , fruits, skim milk ) and only gained 10 pounds. But The bigger I got with child the more sex he wanted. After the baby was born, I came home from the hospital 52 pounds lighter, from the baby, water weight , etc. My husband began bringing me chocolates by the boxes, pizzas, any and everything fattening. I gained all that weight back and more. The bigger I got the more he wanted to make love to me. One day , I decided to lose the weight and I got down to my normal weight. My husband was so furious that he started cheating on me with a fat woman. I got so nervous and frustrated that I began overeating. I gained the weight back and he called it quits with the other woman. We moved to another state. He also developed health problems which made him impotent about 15 years ago. I have tried many times to lose weight and once the results start showing up, he will go to the computer and download sites with super obese women. I think my husband must think that sex with big women is great or he is just what they call a chubby chaser. LOL . I do not want to be fat and after seeing all that gross stuff he enjoys looking at... I am sticking to my diet . If he does not like me for the way that I would be comfortable weighing in at... TOUGH.

OK....I received a pm from a distraught member so I feel I better say this one more time out of respect.

I am not and never have intended to put down larger women. Like I have previously stated some of my best friends over the years have been large women.

What I meant by what I said was I am not turned on by them sexually. That has nothing to do with my being able to respect them as friends, and having a real friendship with them just as I would any other person.

I chose my friends based on who they are inside. I will admit I have chosen my lovers based on who they are inside as well as what they look like outside.
Good points. I'm not turned on by guys. Doesn't make me a homophobe. I'm not turned on by uber-skinny waifs that think a rice cake and mineral water is a meal and a half. I've dated, as I've already said, women who were generally "fit", active, most not heavier.

Hell, I don't even fit my wife's "perfect man" profile. I'm generally fit, physically active, and reasonably funny and smart enough it seems to keep her around and faithful, but I'm not 6ft 3in or taller, I'm not latin or dark skinned, I have no accent or super deep bass voice, and I don't play pro football. Still... she seems to like me well enough.

But you shouldn't be receiving pm's concerning a post that honestly asks about primal preferences. Diff strokes for diff folks. And thank God for that.

I had no problem with the PM, it was both quite genuine and quite nice, I wish more people were as nice about things, I felt if they viewed it as they did then maybe others might have as well, And I didn't want them having the wrong idea.


To me its hard to find good friends. Finding acquaintances is easy, dates are easier (yeah I'm happily married and don't fool around but it would be easy to find is my meaning). But the type of friends you can trust and know will be there is what I refer to as friends.

Yeah I know people that don't associate with people that aren't just like they are. I'm not them.

And like I said... some of my best friends have been larger people. Not just people I know, but true actual friends.

I think there is an extreme to either case. I wouldn't think having sex with a 500lb women would be arousing and then again I can't see a 100lb women sexual attractive in the least. As for plus sized women I actually think they are beautiful espically in their 40's while most slender women in their 40's tend to wrinkle and sag. I am a full sized lady in my 20s by today's standards. I am not extremely obese but I am larger than most of my "skinny" friends. My jeans are in the double digits and "they dont make that in my size" happens to me but as for a difference in sexual appeal I find none. I have no problems meeting men and a lot of times I am complimented on being beautiful and intelligent even though I am not in the running for any runway model position. BUt I assure you one thing I love sex and not because I do not get it enough because I like it. As for smoothie... you sound hard up for anything you can get ahold of and I doubt you should be judging anyone at 220. I am 5'10 and not even close to that.

Like I said whatever floats your boat. I'd rather have a boyfriend that was shorter, thinner and not as good looking as what most girls go after. That doesn't mean I find other guys repulsive, just maybe not my type. Like Allheart said some people even have specific hair color they want their 'ideal' to have.

I think there is an extreme to either case. I wouldnt think having sex with a 500lb women would be arousing and then again I can't see a 100lb women sexual attractive in the least. As for plus sized women I actually think they are beautiful espically in their 40's while most slender women in their 40's tend to wrinkle and sag. I am a full sized lady in my 20s by todays standards. I am not extremely obese but I am larger than most of my "skinny" friends. My jeans are in the double digits and "they dont make that in my size" happens to me but as for a difference in sexual appeal I find none. I have no problems meeting men and a lot of times I am complimented on being beautiful and intelligent even though I am not in the running for any runway model position. BUt I assure you one thing I love sex and not because I do not get it enough because I like it. As for smoothie....you sound hard up for anything you can get ahold of and I doubt you should be judging anyone at 220. I am 5'10 and not even close to that.

Keep in mind 220 for a man is far different than 220 for a woman. Men carry far more of their weight in upper body mussel mass, wile others don't . Am I hard up? Not by a long shot. My wife is a perfect size zero. Not an emaciated waif. Body type means everything when you start discussing absolute numbers.

If I was the fooling around type I could have quite a few on the side at any given time. I have enough women of all sizes making their interest known. But like I said, I have a good wife and I don't fool around. Its as much a matter of respect for her as it is for doing what's right.

So I prefer slimmer women, its what turns me on. Would you fault a woman who only considers men over 6'5" to date, or guys with 6 digit incomes... or guys who are say, exceptionally well endowed (trying to keep it clean here).

Or how about that shorter rotund fellow that always seems to be setting alone. I've known some rather large women express their personal tastes that are not that different than my own in certain ways. And more than a few in fact.

My basic point being there is a huge difference between being one of those people that ridicule larger people (and usually anyone else that's different from them) and being someone that just isn't attracted by it.

Everyone has their preferences as to body type, hair color, eye color etc. And they have their right to it. Even before you toss personality into the mix everyone can't be all things to all people.

Also Smoothy
I am only 120 pounds I wouldn't want to be with someone that big cause a 200+ (maybe even less?) pound guy is going to crush me cause I have shortness of breath so you have to factor in what is preferable to you according to many things besides oh he is too fat, too short, too skinny, too ugly, too poor.

I promise you... a 230 lb man who is fit is not going to crush you. As smoothy stated, that's what upper body strength is for, and guys are absolutely proportioned differently than woman.

I have a wide build, broad shoulders, fit, but I can't buy a suitcoat off the rack at most big box stores. The waist and hips are fine but the shoulders aren't big enough and the arm width is way to small.

Trust me... a fit guy at 230 isn't going to crush you any more than a fit guy at 180 unless he passes out or is a lazy slob in bed. My partner is 138, a previous partner was 120's, and they never turned blue in the face when I was on top. Again, that's what shoulder and arm strength is for.

That and cutting down trees and lifting big rocks. *grunt* *grunt* *grunt* ;)

I am married to a nice figured woman whom I love very much, I have everything I want with her. That being said, if I ever was to get thrown back into the dateing pool, size would not be an issue. I would much rather hook up with a 300 pound woman with a good sense of humor and a bubbly personality than some 120 pound twit with the "my dont stink attitude". The body is simply a tool that carries around the person inside. Have you seen these models lately... fake noses, fake boobs. Heck... fake everything... Naw... I will take a good, down to earth woman any day... Any size!
Mike

First of all.. BAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHA to the comment "I have heard that sex with bigger women is better, because they dont get it as often, and when they do.....hold on and enjoy the ride" From 2 personal.

That's the stupidest thing I've EVER HEARD. Im a big girl, size 14 and my boyfriend loves every curve on my body. He NEVER leaves me alone.. is always touching me in public (which gets quite annoying) and tell me that he loves the attention I get from other men.

We have an awesome sexlife... do it twice a day almost every day of the week. And he's a lot smaller than I am. I think people that think like that are idiots, who said the big girls don't get it as often as skinny girls? To be honest, I like woman, and skinny women under size 10 do not turn me on what so ever.. Woman were meant to have curves.. so the more cushion for the pushing the better I say ;)

What's wrong with being big? Doesn't mean were less flexible or that the sex is worse.. I can get my feet over my head!. and yes I'm a size 14... I am also very healthy and love experimenting. My bfs last girlfriend as he told me.. was a deadroot and was boring... and she was a size 6.

So its got nothing to do with size... it's the way you work BABY!

Size 14 is not that big. That is only 34 waist--while it is not petite or small it is NOT BIG.
Bigger women, I would say, start more like size 18 OR 20 on up
I do agree that just because bigger women are bigger doesn't mean "they don't get it as often'' I know most bigger women have to be because they always seem to have a boyfriend no matter what, so they MUST be doing something right.
Personally I like being around a size 8 and am trying to get back to that.

That's got to be the stupidest thing I have ever heard "bigger women don't get it as often" lol. I am a smaller guy and I personally prefer larger women. I find them dead sexy, and when they know that you love every part of them, that seems to boost their confidence. My current girlfriend has been the best sex I have ever had, and I have had my share of skinny little twigs. But I love the way a larger woman feels. They know how to make things fun and interesting. I have had skinny women almost put me to sleep lol. It just depends onwhat you really are into and what your not, I just prefer larger women as they have curves and they are well... sexy. Can't help it. To all the BBWs here live it up!

I have heard that sex with bigger women is better, because they dont get it as often, and when they do.....hold on and enjoy the ride.

Yea. I don't necessarily agree with this comment. I think it depends on the individual, on both individuals.

Thread is over a year old.

Closed.