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    Asked Jan 22, 2008, 06:28 AM 74 Answers
    Is sex better or just as good with a big woman as opposed to a slim woman. Would be interested in your views.
    Last edited by tdmstory; Jan 22, 2008 at 12:15 PM.
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    Jan 22, 2008, 06:54 AM
    Not for me. While your average big woman is less likely to be cursed with a "gods gift to mankind" mentality which is a real plus on her side, there is the negative of the large size being a turn off for me.

    Sort of six of one and half dozen of the other situation depending on how you view things. You can usually have a far better conversation with the average larger woman than the average beauty queen afterwards. And yeah... you will spend more time talking than doing the nasty. A good point to consider.
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    Jan 22, 2008, 07:08 AM
    I have heard that sex with bigger women is better, because they don't get it as often, and when they do... hold on and enjoy the ride.
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    Jan 22, 2008, 07:15 AM
    I guess it would depend on how skinny and how fat you are talking about. But I would think men would want to put it to something curvy, soft, and bouncy, as opposed to a version of their boney 12 year old brother. Lol.
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    Jan 22, 2008, 09:05 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by mafiaangel180
    I guess it would depend on how skinny and how fat you are talking about. But I would think men would want to put it to something curvy, soft, and bouncy, as opposed to a version of their boney 12 year old brother. lol.
    Me? I'd prefer 10 lbs underweight to 10 lbs overweight. However with that said... anorexic does nothing for me. Nor do Shamu sized women. Back in my single days I have actually turned down sex from women who were what I considered morbidly obese, yeah there is a line that I wouldn't cross even back then, and back then it might have been that or Rosey Palmer.. And yeah, I have dated women back in the day that were a bit plump.
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    Jan 22, 2008, 10:24 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by smoothy
    Me? I'd prefer 10 lbs underweight to 10 lbs overweight. However with that said....anorexic does nothing for me. Nor do Shamu sized women. Back in my single days I have actually turned down sex from women who were what I considered morbidly obese, yeah there is a line that I wouldn't cross even back then, and back then it might have been that or Rosey Palmer.. And yeah, I have dated women back in the day that were a bit plump.
    So what would you consider yourself? Are you fat, thin, what? In my experience it always seems to be the overweight men who turn their noses up to the overweight girls.

    *bracing myself*
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    Jan 22, 2008, 10:39 AM
    I'm 5'11" and 220 lbs. Broad shoulders, arms and chest. Can lose a few pounds most of it is upper body mass. My arms are also a lot larger than I was back then too. Anyone that saw me would think I weigh less than I do.

    However with that said I've been married 17 years. My shoulders were not a broad in my 20's when I was last dating. While I was never the 100 lb weakling I wasn't as intimidating as I am now and I certainly wasn't overweight by any standards. Why did I date larger women back then? I'm not afraid to say why. Simple they were more approachable, I didn't find them more physically appealing, and I just didn't have the level of confidence then that I have now.

    Why do I plan to lose some weight if I'm not fat? I'll tell everyone that as well. It has to do with blood pressure. Losing the weight will lower the blood pressure to where I won't be close to needing medication. Also more overweight people suffer from adult onset diabetes losing a few pounds can significantly reduce your chances of getting it. It runs in my family as well. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure the saying goes.

    I'm not going to be apologetic because obesity is epidemic in this country and it carries with it a LOT of medical consequences the "feel good about yourself the way you are" crowd choose to ignore.

    Yeah it would be easy to stuff my face with junk food (and yes I do have a sweet tooth) get fat and whine about all my medical problems as I get older. But I'd rather be healthier. Its not the easy way but I'll have a longer life with fewer problems as I get older.

    Ultimately that's your choice to make... just remember like with most things everything carries a cost.
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    Jan 22, 2008, 10:58 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by smoothy
    I'm not going to be apologetic because obesity is epidemic in this country and it carries with it a LOT of medical consequences the "feel good about yourself the way you are" crowd choose to ignore.

    Yeah it would be easy to stuff my face with junk food (and yes I do have a sweet tooth) get fat and whine about all my medical problems as I get older. But I'd rather be healthier. Its not the easy way but I'll have a longer life with fewer problems as I get older.

    Ultimately thats your choice to make....just remember like with most things everything carries a cost.
    So do you think a bigger woman is bad in bed? I really don't know what you consider bigger... (130, 140, 180, 200, 250+) I had someone tell me I was fat at 125. So in a way it can be a very subjective thing.

    It's all kind of stereotypical because not all fat people sit around eating Fritos and pie. And not all fat people have diabetes. I know some very sickly and LAZY skinny people. Whereas, I also know some very healthy and energetic fat people. Sometimes it's just not in the genes brutha. Lol.
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    Jan 22, 2008, 11:12 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by mafiaangel180
    So do you think a bigger woman is bad in bed? I really don't know what you consider bigger....(130, 140, 180, 200, 250+) I had someone tell me I was fat at 125. So in a way it can be a very subjective thing.

    It's all kind of stereotypical because not all fat people sit around eating Fritos and pie. And not all fat people have diabetes. I know some very sickly and LAZY skinny people. Whereas, I also know some very healthy and energetic fat people. Sometimes it's just not in the genes brutha. lol.
    Never said they were bad in bed on the average. In fact I would go as far as saying your average 20 something overweight woman is better in bed than your average 20 something bikini model. Like I sad, a heavy woman is less likely to think she's gods gift to man, and therefor tend to make more of an effort. Oh I've seen a few large women that thought they were... and I saw nothing in them that was the least bit special. Plus seeing the average fat woman naked isn't very stimulating visually. What that dividing line is would vary woman to woman depending on how and where she carries that weight. And yes, I've dated women back then from a large variety of ethnic backgrounds.

    My standards for fat? Any weight that starts with a 2 is fat on a woman. Plus how tall? A 6 foot woman can carry 150 lbs far better and a 5 foot tall woman can.


    Energetic means nothing... if you keel over at 40 from a massive heart attack from being overweight your whole life.

    I've known people that showed little symptoms of problems till they keeled over dead.
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    Jan 22, 2008, 11:36 AM
    Sex is so much better if it is about *PASSION*for another... so identify your passions. A mechanical approach to sex is like work with, hopefully, an orgasm at the end to make all the drudgery worth it!

    It is difficult for many Americans to unleash their passions, they are uncomfortable with true, real emotions, sad to say. Due to some negative cultural forces such as the rise of porn, many men think of women as sex toys instead of full passionate partners creating ecstasy.

    So, what kind of woman turns you on? Go for that one. :)
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    Jan 22, 2008, 11:42 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Choux
    Sex is so much better if it is about *PASSION*for another..... so identify your passions. A mechanical approach to sex is like work with, hopefully, an orgasm at the end to make all the drudgery worth it!

    It is difficult for many Americans to unleash their passions, they are uncomfortable with true, real emotions, sad to say. Due to some negative cultural forces such as the rise of porn, many men think of women as sex toys instead of full passionate partners creating ecstacy.

    So, what kind of woman turns you on? Go for that one. :)
    OH, I agree with you there... so many repressed people I've known in my life.

    Trust me... me and my wife have lots of fun. And not just what I call fun, but what she calls fun. And yeah, she's in great shape too. 17 years of marriage and she can still get a rise out of me just walking by wearing nothing but a thong. :D
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    Jan 22, 2008, 11:45 AM


    Amazingly, I'm not in as good shape as your wife is, Smoothy. Genes, combined with an early pregnancy, combined with a job that had me sitting for 8 hours a day--well, I'm not the 125 lbs I was when my husband and I met.

    But... after 11 years, I still get a rise out of him by walking by in nothing but a thong, too.

    I don't look like a model in it, but HE loves me, and loves me for who I am.

    I think that people that are comfortable in their own skin are better in bed than people who aren't--regardless of size.
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    Jan 22, 2008, 11:48 AM
    I guess it depends on what you see in the person right?

    I, for one, am not attracted to larger women (lets say visibly overweight, not just a bit of meat) so I would not enjoy sex with a larger woman because I would not be attracted to it, sothe sex would suck for me.

    However, some like larger women and if that be the case than I think sex is just as good with that person than if she were skinnier. I highly doubt weight has to do with performance in bed. If you like larger people than your attracted to that and the sex will be what you make it.
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    Jan 22, 2008, 11:51 AM
    I believe a lot of men are attracted to larger women, however they are swayed by what society has deemed as the perfect woman. Would like to hear your comments.:cool:
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    Jan 22, 2008, 11:55 AM
    Deep breath... OK...

    My cousin likes "bigger" women. Its his thing. His opinion. His preference.

    I've usually dated women who were fit. My preference. My opinion.

    Have I dated skinny women who were lousy or lazy in bed? Sure.

    Best sex is mental and physical. Don't rail on a guy or a girl because they are most attracted to a certain body type. We all have our own quirks.

    My wife is generally attracted to fit, but bigger men. She doesn't want a guy that can fit into her jeans or who can wear her tshirts. She likes some muscle. Is that bad? no. is it all that good sex is about? No!

    One of the sexiest girls I dated wasn't really heavy, but she was a little bigger than all the others. But she had attitude. And she was sexy as sin.

    So... lets not make this too much about right and wrong.

    You asked about opinions. People are going to disagree here. But there's been a lot of noise lately about people getting grumpy when a person says "i prefer a fit person"... OK... its an opinion. A preference. We can disagree and get along, right?
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    Jan 22, 2008, 12:16 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Synnen
    Amazingly, I'm not in as good shape as your wife is, Smoothy. Genes, combined with an early pregnancy, combined with a job that had me sitting for 8 hours a day--well, I'm not the 125 lbs I was when my husband and I met.

    But...after 11 years, I still get a rise out of him by walking by in nothing but a thong, too.

    I don't look like a model in it, but HE loves me, and loves me for who I am.

    I think that people that are comfortable in their own skin are better in bed than people who aren't--regardless of size.
    She spends an hour a day exercising to maintain that as well as watching what she eats. And she doesn't do it because that's what I like, she does it because she wants a long healthy life without the same medical problems her mother, and one of her sisters have.

    She was stodgy the first year of marriage but with some patient coaxing she learned to be pretty adventurous even by my standards, she is comfortable enough to discuss what she wants or wants to try.. And many of our likes do mesh pretty well.

    Do I have an Ozzie and Harriet marriage? Not by any means. She has a temper and a mouth on her, but on average we have a good marriage.
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    Jan 22, 2008, 12:17 PM
    How presumptous of you to assume I was offended. It was an observation and a question.
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    Jan 22, 2008, 12:27 PM
    Hello td:

    Oh, I like chunky chicks, all right... But one must consider the mechanics of the situation.

    I'm kind of shaped like a balloon. If I were to run into a chick who was similarly shaped, we'd never be able to connect, if you know what I mean.

    excon
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    Jan 22, 2008, 12:44 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by smoothy
    Energetic means nothing....if you keel over at 40 from a massive heart attack from being overweight your whole life.

    I've known people that showed little symptoms of problems till they keeled over dead.
    Sorry, I chose the wrong word, I meant athletic not energetic. I know several women who are in the 180 pound area who you might call fat and they could run circles around many thin people when it comes to sports. It's because they have a lot of muscle under that fat. And also, you are talking about keeling over from heart attacks... it's not just fat people who die from them. But that's a given.
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    Jan 22, 2008, 12:54 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by tdmstory
    I believe a lot of men are attracted to larger women, however they are swayed by what society has deemed as the perfect woman. Would like to hear your comments.:cool:
    I agree to an extent. I think that some men who are into the size 2 100-pound girl would totally bang a size-16 185-pounder. I doubt they would admit it. I doubt the majority would be eager to bone a bed-ridden chick who needs help getting out of bed. So I guess the whole weight cut off line is kind of blurry. It's fine though, everyone has their likes and dislikes.
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