msprettiegirl
Oct 30, 2007, 12:01 PM
First let me start by saying please don't judge me. I recently just got out of a 5 year relationship with my ex. During the last 2 years of it I started a friend with benefits type relationship with someone else. I didn't mean for it to happen... my ex and I were on a break when I met this guy, so I WAS unattached at the time. I was honest with my fwb and told him that I wanted to try and make things work with my ex. He basically told me that he and I could be each other's plan B.
Fast forward, there were times where I felt he wanted a relationship. He kept telling me to break up with my man.. but I couldn't because of the history and a part of me still loved him. Now I have fallen for my fwb! I broke up with my ex recently and I want a relationship... Right before the breakup my fwb told me that he can't confide in anyone else like he can in me. We've even tried staying away from each other but one of us always seem to come back no matter what. The first time we stopped seeing each other he told me that he does love me (the one and only time he has ever said it)--but he needed to move on. But he came right back. I've also tried to stay away. I guess our problem is that we were so open and honest that we told each other any and EVERYTHING. Now we don't trust each other with our heart. (he's told me he can't trust me).
Right before I broke up with my ex, my fwb told me that if I broke up with the ex he'd give us a chance. But he's so wishy washy. Sometimes he wants a relationship and then he doesn't. He always says he's confused and doesn't know what he wants.
Well I told him I'm going to give this new guy that wants to date me a chance. He told me to do what I want and give him a call WHEN it doesn't work out.. not if. He also said he'll say I told you so. I'm just so confused because I really feel like I love him, but on the other hand he's still doesn't know if he wants to see other people or be with me. What do you guys think? Why can't we just either stay friends or be together?
Fast forward, there were times where I felt he wanted a relationship. He kept telling me to break up with my man.. but I couldn't because of the history and a part of me still loved him. Now I have fallen for my fwb! I broke up with my ex recently and I want a relationship... Right before the breakup my fwb told me that he can't confide in anyone else like he can in me. We've even tried staying away from each other but one of us always seem to come back no matter what. The first time we stopped seeing each other he told me that he does love me (the one and only time he has ever said it)--but he needed to move on. But he came right back. I've also tried to stay away. I guess our problem is that we were so open and honest that we told each other any and EVERYTHING. Now we don't trust each other with our heart. (he's told me he can't trust me).
Right before I broke up with my ex, my fwb told me that if I broke up with the ex he'd give us a chance. But he's so wishy washy. Sometimes he wants a relationship and then he doesn't. He always says he's confused and doesn't know what he wants.
Well I told him I'm going to give this new guy that wants to date me a chance. He told me to do what I want and give him a call WHEN it doesn't work out.. not if. He also said he'll say I told you so. I'm just so confused because I really feel like I love him, but on the other hand he's still doesn't know if he wants to see other people or be with me. What do you guys think? Why can't we just either stay friends or be together?