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LUVMUFN25 · Mar 19, 2010, 01:06 PM

I've been with my boyfriend/fiancee for seven months now... and I love him to pieces... last night he came out about some things in his past... he admitted to me that he has slept with a transvestite before... while I would never judge him and I love him and couldn't imagine my life with out him... what is best in moving pass this... help??

jaime90 · Mar 19, 2010, 01:20 PM

Simple. If you love him, you would move past it. If you need help moving past it, talk to him about it. 7 months isn't very long. If you want your relationship to succeed you need to open the lines of communication. He obviously has started, so now the ball's in your court. Take a seat, and talk about it with him.

Cat1864 · Mar 19, 2010, 02:53 PM

This isn't meant to be flippant, but why does it matter what he did in his past? Does it make him a different person than you thought he was? Is the same person you fell in love with?

He obviously shared something with you that he trusted you not to over-react about. That shows he has a lot of trust and love in you. A lot of faith in the type of person he thinks you are, too.

Are you willing to let preconceived ideas about people and acts you know nothing about ruin the relationship you are building with someone you do know and care a lot for? If not, then what is there to move past?

m!sz89 · Mar 20, 2010, 10:03 AM

Personally, if he has been with you faithfully for seven months, most likely he is past this phase.. I"d wait a little longer before committing to marriage to make sure that he won't have the desire to do it again once you two are married.

Larken85 · Mar 23, 2010, 02:34 AM

I personally think he has admitted an embarrassment to you from his experimental phase. I'm sure you have done something embarrassing experimentally too. But that is all beside the point. What matters is that you love him and he loves you. Personally I would divulge your entire lives to each other and so there are no secrets what so ever between you. Make sure that the both of you know that no matter what you have done in the past that you will not do it again and there is nothing to worry about because of it.
7 months is a young relationship even though you feel totally connected right now. Take it slow but hide nothing. And make darn sure that he never feels like he has to omit the truth to you or it could lead to mistrust later on.

Good luck in your relationship, but most of all enjoy each other and have fun with it. These are the best times you will ever have together and you'll need to make a lot of great memories to reflect on later in life. I should take my own advice there... hmmmm

smoothy · Mar 23, 2010, 06:03 AM

Was there large quantities of alcohol involved?

With a transvestite... outside of the women's clothing.. its all guy parts... and no girl parts.

How did he get to the hand in the panties stage, much less get past the why in the heck is THIS here... but Oh well, why stop now?

Its semantics but that's still gay sex.

He did however fess up to it... so you know about it, h eisn't keeping any dark secrets... take it as you are able. Just use protection and play safe if you can move past it. Many people have done something dumb at one point or the other... this was his dumb thing.