So my problem is very confusing... I am 24 years old and a really attractive person! (really, not saying that as an ego thing.) My fiance' is 26 years old & we plan on getting married next September. However, no matter how hard I try, how many toys I get, how much lingerie, makeup etc, or how many erotic dvds I play he can't seem to be "in the mood". He smokes allot of pot & I don't. Could that be his problem? He thinks it is because he "peaked early". He started having sex as a young teen, & has been with a disgusting 60 people already! He claims he's ready to settle down and get married. We have been together over 4 years now. Lived together for the last 3. Sex is AMAZING when we have it. We used to have sex 5-6 times a day. But over the last year and a half it has dropped dramatically!! Im lucky to get it once a month or every month and a half. That's BAD! I am a very sexual person & I don't masturbate. I NEED sex!! He says he think its depression or that he's peaked and it has nothing to do with me. He swears he still loves me and we will work through it but tonight it has been almost 2 months since he last screwed me and I finally talked him into messing around. Tonight like the last few times I tried he was not able to get totally erect & just gave up. IM SO SEXUALLY FRUSTRATED I COULD GO INSANE!! I need help and reassurance that Im not just crazy. Is it because of his pot smoking habits? Is it because he could be depressed? Is it possible that he could just be losing his sex drive at age 26? This doesn't seem right to me. Also, I want a baby, we haven't been able to conceive in over 4 years of no condom, no pullout, no pill or birth control of any kind in 4 years. How do I get pregnant? (Obviously I have to fix the sex issue first) but can it be because of the pot thing, I have heard rumors that smoking weed & caffeine can prevent fertility. Is this true?