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    love story45 Posts: 7, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 10, 2007, 02:17 PM
    The virgin afraid of sex
    I am not homosexual, and there is no other problem. I am just afraid of sex. If you can't tell I'm a virgin, and sex intimidates me. One major fear I will say is being a father, growing up through high school I wished it upon all my friends that were sleeping around, but it never came to them so I believe Kharma will bite me in he butt for this one... so awkwardly enough, what do I do?? Precautions?
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    Apr 10, 2007, 03:03 PM
    I don't understand what karma has to do with any of this.
    If you fear becoming a father, use protection.

    Love story, it shouldn't be just about losing your virginity and having sex. When you find the right person who makes you feel comfortable and whom you care about, things will seem less scary. It's OK to be nervous; it's expected but the more important thing is that you don't concentrate on sex (the act itself), and losing your virginity, but on the person who you're doing it with- that's what is more important. You'll be fine. :)
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    Apr 10, 2007, 03:44 PM
    Hello love:

    I haven't tried having karma bite me on the butt - my girlfriend, maybe. Is it good?

    excon
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    Apr 10, 2007, 03:53 PM
    Plain and simple : you don't have to have sex until you feel ready. Just because your friends are doing it, doesn't make it right or mean that you should be doing it. Some day you will meet the right girl and you will make the decision to have sex and its OK to wait as long as you want. And just because your friends haven't become daddies yet, doesn't mean they won't. I really don't think Karma is going to get you for not having sex. So don't worry about it, when your ready you will know.
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    Apr 10, 2007, 04:25 PM
    How old are you LS45?
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    Apr 10, 2007, 05:22 PM
    So don't have sex till you get married, ( there are a lot who still do that)

    Or if you don't, use good protection ( for more than just pregnacy)
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    Apr 15, 2007, 07:11 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by love story45
    I am not homosexual, and there is no other problem. I am just afraid of sex. If you can't tell im a virgin, and sex intimidates me. One major fear I will say is being a father, growing up through high school I wished it upon all my friends that were sleeping around, but it never came to them so I believe Kharma will bite me in he butt for this one...so awkwardly enough, what do i do??? Precautions??
    Well I have some of your fears too. No, I am not afraid of becoming a father, however I am afraid of the intimacy and have problems getting used to touching other people. I am 37 years old and am still a virgin. So you might want to use protection and work on that problem because for some people: THE FEAR NEVER GOES AWAY.
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    Apr 15, 2007, 08:27 AM
    Simple all the time you are afraid you are not ready.

    You will know when the time is right and who the right person is stop fretting!
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    Apr 15, 2007, 08:48 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by love story45
    I am not homosexual, and there is no other problem. I am just afraid of sex. If you can't tell im a virgin, and sex intimidates me. One major fear I will say is being a father, growing up through high school I wished it upon all my friends that were sleeping around, but it never came to them so I believe Kharma will bite me in he butt for this one...so awkwardly enough, what do i do??? Precautions??
    All I can say is make sure you use protection when you do have sex but whatever you do, don't have sex to impress your mates or anything like that (even if it means you need to lie to ppl). Trust me when I say you will know when you're ready to have sex but until then have fun with yourself and then when you let a girl take over you will be able to show her how to please you and hopefully she will be able to help you to please her. Good luck and safe sex love fi xxxxxx
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    Aug 19, 2010, 03:49 AM
    Well I'm 21 and I am terrified!! I think my problem more or less is what he will think of my body and my areas:/ see I'm a heavy set women so that's my problem I think.. im sure you will be ok:)
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    Aug 19, 2010, 07:13 AM

    Kittyboo09, please check the dates on the threads you post to. The original poster hasn't posted on this thread in over three years. I doubt he is going to see anything you post. Try to keep it within a month or two. :-)

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