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peluzitah_290 · May 5, 2012, 11:39 AM

We've been together 2 years and well... we really don't have sex any more, he wants to do weird things and Im not up to it. Im not one of them girls he sees in his porn vids and stuff, and I've felt him touch me and takes pics while I sleep and it makes me feel weird. What should I do?

cheekiegirl34 · May 5, 2012, 11:48 AM

You have to tell him how it makes you feel and If you don't like it IT STOPS if you love him
Tell him you are happy too discuss and try and meet in the middle and if he loves you he be happy too work on it the pleasure has to be a 2way thing...

Alty · May 5, 2012, 11:49 AM

Confront him.

If you're aware that he's doing this what do you do while it's going on, continue to pretend that you're asleep?

If you don't confront him, and you know it's going on, then you're consenting to this.

peluzitah_290 · May 5, 2012, 11:56 AM

Originally Posted by Alty

Confront him.

If you're aware that he's doing this what do you do while it's going on, continue to pretend that you're asleep?

If you don't confront him, and you know it's going on, then you're consenting to this.

I just move and he stops and when I make sure he's sleeping I go back to sleep. I just don't know how to tell him without getting into an argument because when I don't want tohave sex with him he starts to argue.

excon · May 5, 2012, 12:01 PM

Originally Posted by peluzitah_290

What should I do?

Hello p:

He's weird. You ain't going to change him.. I'd pack my things and leave.

excon

Alty · May 5, 2012, 12:01 PM

Originally Posted by peluzitah_290

I just move and he stops and when I make sure he's sleeping I go back to sleep. I just don't know how to tell him without getting into an argument because when I don't want tohave sex with him he starts to argue.

You have two choices. You either confront him, even if it leads to an argument, and get him to stop, or you say nothing and accept what he's doing.

I have to ask, why are you still married to him? It doesn't sound like much of a marriage.

LadySam · May 5, 2012, 12:50 PM

I agree, sounds creepy. And what is he doing with the pictures?

Fr_Chuck · May 5, 2012, 12:57 PM

I guess I would ask what he asks or wants you to do that is "out of the porn?

I guess is it dress up or role playing, costumes. Which is one thing, or are you talking about group, three some or something.

The other are you naked when you sleep, so is this nude photos ?
But I am a little more direct, no the last thing you do is say nothing, he thinks it is OK then, you confront him and perhaps second time, smash the camera to about 100 pieces.

smoothy · May 5, 2012, 02:18 PM

You have to talk to him about this... argument or not.

You don't go taking naked photos while someone is sleeping... that's just not cool on so many levels. Its NOT the same as him doing it when you are awake WITH your consent.

And yes you HAVE to say something about it... saying nothing can be considered agreeing with it.

As far as what you are calling weird things... I think you should elaborate more on that. I've actually briefly dated two women that considered anything but straight missionary to be weird. I didn't hang around long with them.

JudyKayTee · May 6, 2012, 08:26 AM

I have no idea what "weird" things means - it appears there is always something that someone finds "weird."

Photos when you're asleep is a violation of your privacy. Not confronting him is consenting to it. You either confront him and he argues (or doesn't) OR you do nothing and don't complain about the pictures.

Me? I'd be so freaked out that I'd leave - but that's just me.

peluzitah_290 · May 6, 2012, 02:29 PM

Originally Posted by Alty

You have two choices. You either confront him, even if it leads to an argument, and get him to stop, or you say nothing and accept what he's doing.

I have to ask, why are you still married to him? It doesn't sound like much of a marriage.

Yes, we are still married... and have a daughter.

peluzitah_290 · May 6, 2012, 02:33 PM

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

I guess I would ask what he asks or wants you to do that is "out of the porn?

I guess is it dress up or role playing, costumes. Which is one thing, or are you talking about group, three some or something.

The other are you naked when you sleep, so is this nude photos ?
But I am a little more direct, no the last thing you do is say nothing, he thinks it is ok then, you confront him and perhaps second time, smash the camera to about 100 pieces.

I don't sleep naked, but I feel when he tries to slowly pull my shorts down. He wants to do EVERYTHING he sees in his porn.

JudyKayTee · May 6, 2012, 02:35 PM

He pulls your shorts down and takes your photo and you pretend to be asleep?

I have no idea what he sees in his porn so I have no idea what he's asking for - some people find oral sex to be offensive. Some don't. I don't know what you find offensive.

smoothy · May 6, 2012, 03:01 PM

I don't find a lot of the stuff you see in porn offensive... or sick. But that depends on exactly what kind you watch I guess..

Alty · May 6, 2012, 03:08 PM

Originally Posted by peluzitah_290

Yes, we are still married...and have a daughter.

Why? You can't even talk to him, that's not a marriage, that's not even a friendship. It's nothing. He takes dirty pictures of you while you pretend to sleep, and instead of confronting him about it, you let it continue. You said that you haven't had sex in a long time. Do you have a relationship at all, or are you two just together for the your daughter?

It makes no sense. It sounds like you don't even like him, much less love him.