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    May 1, 2012, 08:44 PM
    Unable to maintain erection?
    Hi. I'm 25 years old and I'm having a problem keeping an erection right before sex. I'm recently divorced and getting back into dating and I've never had an issue with an erection with my ex wife. I can stay hard during foreplay such as rubbing other things. But just as I'm about to have intercourse I go soft. I have th same issue with receiving oral sex I'm hard for ainute maybe to then I'm soft again. Please any information is greatly appreciated.
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    May 1, 2012, 08:45 PM
    Sounds as though you might be experiencing performance anxiety. Do you have any health issues? Are you on any medication?
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    May 1, 2012, 08:48 PM
    No health issues I recently quit smoking after 8 years. I also don't last very long during sex which is always how I've been.
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    May 2, 2012, 06:56 AM
    Might be the system shock of quitting smoking. How's the masturbation going? Any problems there?

    At first blush I think it might be psychological, getting a divorce can be a little... hard WRT to some aspects of life. You're brain might still be in the "I am married and cheating on my wife" mode.

    Get a physical from your doctor explaining the issue and go from there.
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    May 2, 2012, 07:01 AM
    Well I masturbate just one no issues there and I've been with several women since my divorce. It's just recently this has started. I had a similar problem like this when I started dating my ex wife 6 years ago but now it's popped back up
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    May 2, 2012, 07:14 AM
    I would talk to your doctor about this. Unless you're on some medication that is causing this. You might need a little counseling for this too.
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    May 2, 2012, 07:15 AM
    Should I consult a general doctor or some sort of specialist?
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    May 2, 2012, 08:15 AM
    General doctor is a good start. It may well just be nerves unless there is a underlying issue like prostrate problems ( often sex problems is a first sign) But a doctor is a good place to start.
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    May 2, 2012, 06:39 PM
    I think you should go to the doctor because it can be serious and maybe it could be because you quit smocking
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