Should a adault daughter be discussing her sexual experiences with her father?

Why not? If they are both comfratable with being that open with each other its fine.

Hello kat:

No. Some things are nobody's business. I'm a father. I do NOT want to picture my daughter in sexual situations, just like I do NOT want to picture my PARENTS in sexual situations.

In my view, those things are shared with girlfriends - NOT your parents.

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I agree. Women should be able to talk to their mother about their sexual experiences but there's various reasons that's not an option for every woman. Instead I talk to my aunt. I know my cousins, both male and female, talk to her about their experiences. I don't see anything wrong with a daughter having open conversations with her father.

I have to ask, is her mother dead ? Did her dad raise her perhaps and was mother and dad t the child.

I know I had a open door with my BOYS and we discussed all sorts of problems in their lives. As a parent we need to have a open door for our kids when they need us.

I'm on the fence with this one.

As a mother I really hope that both of my kids feel that they can come to me with any problem, no matter how old they are.

As a daughter, I never felt comfortable talking about my sexual experiences with my parents. If they were still alive, I still wouldn't be comfortable talking to them about this, and I'm 40.

I guess I'm a bit of a hypocrite about this. I hope to have open communication with my kids, but couldn't imagine that type of openness with my parents. But then, I was raised under very different times, and times, they are a changing. ;)

I guess it really all depends on what she is sharing with him.

It's one thing for a curious GIRL 12, 16, maybe even 19 to ask questions about sex, but for a grown woman to discuss sex with her Father... well, that's strange to me.

Would I share such things with my Father? NO WAY!

That's just me though.

It's obvious that you are concerned, or else you wouldn't have asked us.

So now I ask you this, how old is she?

Is Mother in the picture?

Are you HIS girlfriend?

What exactly is she sharing with him?

Some more details would help us out, AND might even change the way I feel about this.

Thank you.

I have always wanted my kids to be able to talk to me about anything.

If my daughters were to ask my opinion , or had issues they needed a male point of view , or had something important to them that involved sexual issues , I would have no problem discussing anything with them.

If it were just a casual conversation I would rather not venture into their private moments.
So far this is the first time I have even thought about it because it has never come up before and seeing my youngest girl is 33 I don't think it will.

So if it were important , no problem.
Casual conversation , no.

I think it depends on the context.

Both my son and daughter consulted me for contraception advice (I'm the mum) since they felt I had more knowledge than their dad. Probably correct.

If either of them thought dad would be a better source of advice on some sexual subject I very much hope they would turn to him without reservation.

As a family if a sexual topic comes up in the news, on TV, etc we freely discuss our opinions. (My kids are in their twenties now by the way).

On the other hand I wouldn't want to know the details of what they get up to with their partners and I'm sure they wouldn't want to know what their parents do either. Although if they had any health or other concerns about a particular practice I would not be squeamish about hearing pertinant information if it is important to the discussion.

When the kids were small they went hand in hand to their dad and asked him how babies were made. As it took him a while to ponder the best response our son pulled his sister in my direction saying, 'dad doesn't know, let's ask mum.' I think that set a precedent lol.

It would indeed be helpful if you told us what kind of discussions are taking place.

I don't know what the discussion is about BUT my stepson has talked to me about sexual matters, his sexual relationship with his girlfriend. I didn't feel awkward. I also have talked to my stepdaughters. I didn't see a difference.

Maybe the word "step" makes the difference.

I think you hit the nail on the head Judy.

I've talked to my older cousins about sex, or my Aunt, just never my parents.

Not that you aren't a parent in every sense of the word, but you're not the biological parent, and that can make it easier for a kid to open up, be honest, tell all.

Again I feel like a hypocrite. I hope that my kids will come to me, and so far they have (only Jared, he's on that cusp between child and teen, and thankfully so far his only serious question was about asking a girl to be his girlfriend). But, I have to say, I was never comfortable talking about sexual issues with my parents. Other family members, yes, but them, no.