Hey everyone, so I'm new at this but after reading something so similar to my situation, I figured I'll post my own concern and hopefully someone could help me out.

My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 yrs and like most relationships, the sex was very much alive in the beginning. But we haven't had sex for the past 8 months now and counting... We had our 2nd year anniversary back in Sept10 and still nothing happened.

We've talked about this issue over and over again and we think that the more we talk about it, the more it's hard for us to get in the mood. At first I thought it was me, that he wasn't attracted to me anymore, then he tells me it's him. Since he's gained weight, he doesn't feel sexy. I've gained weight too since I started to date him but it doesn't really affect me as much (yeah sometimes) but what makes me feel sexy is if I see that my partner wants me. We don't even passionately kiss that much anymore. It's mostly a peck now. We're still affectionate, just not as passionate.

A friend of mine suggested for me to read an erotica, but I'm way too shy to get close to those books in a bookstore! I don't find porn helpful. I find it so repetitive, it's silly to me. I've never really done role playing, but I can just see myself giggling. Sometimes I think that I think about this too much that's why it's hard for me to initiate anything with him anymore. But when I used to, I would be rejected because he's not in the mood and now I'm afraid to be rejected.

This kind of problem have probably been read before... but please help!