my boyfriend and i have had a couple three-somes over the years (we have been together for 8 years) and the one thing i've learned is. never have a threesome with a very good friend. We have had threesomes with people we know yes but only one person that was my Quote Un Quote Best Friend and i totally regret it. Her, My boyfriend and i regularly saw eachother around once every few monthsfor maybe almost two years. Everything had been going fine. Her and i always had a crush on eachother but never made a move until that one day at our house. It had all been going so well up until around 8 months ago when she started texting him, sending provocative pictures of her and calling him. (now in my opinion my boyfriend is one of the few truely commited men i know because each time she would text him he would forward the text to me and call me and he would give me his cell phone just to show me times and dates of her texts.) she was asking him to come over (and not me ) and trying to break us up. My boyfriend said that she was not his type (she is alot different then us in opinions, lifestyle, goals etc...) and that she was horrible in bed to begin with. He said he couldnt understand why my best friend would try and go behind my back. The next day i called her up and asked her how she could do something like that (she was always saying *even infront of him* that she only fooled around with him because she wanted to fool around with me) of course she didnt say anything and hung up the phone. She stopped texting and calling him for a week then she started it up again while he was home sitting beside me. Without telling me who it was he flipped open his phone again, called her and explained to her that she never had a chance with him and that she should stay away from me and him perminantly and that he loved me more then anything in the world. Now we have a couples plan on our cellphone and the bill is under my name so i am the one who gets it. Each month we get our bill we sit down together and highlight the long distance calls etc to keep track of how much money we are spending and i noticed that since that day she has never called us again. Though she is now going around saying about him and i, insulting us, going around to our friends and saying she slept with my boyfriend and i didnt know it. And that she couldnt understand why i was mad at her and why i didnt beat her up. (personally i would never sink that low as to attack someone) Even the people we know tell her that it was pointless to try and be with my boyfriend because he loves me. Little did we know she was also with someone else and had a child with that guy and she was cheating on him with us (i dont agree with cheating) so i do agree there are lots of rules that are needed for threesomes. and yes they can ruin your life or at least an attempt on that could and possibly would be made. Be careful is what i have to say. Now our relationship has survived that horrible experience and we have not had another threesome since and we plan on keeping it that way. Marriage is in our near future and him and i both agree we dont need the bull that comes with things like that interfearing with our lives

Desert.. I'm sory but your wife sounds like a real - itchy itch.

WOW. You shouldn't feel sorry for that! No one should ever make you feel sorry about your body.

As for the threesomes she is just getting her cake and eating it too! Do get to have sex with other women?

This is just a guess but are you even in a happy marriage?

Just a thought...
Sarah