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pontiacqueen85 · Oct 24, 2006, 08:01 AM

My husband and I have been married for a year and a half. Our marriage has been great and we love each other so much. I have noticed lately though that he doesn't offer to show me any affection anymore and I can't keep his attention for more than 2 seconds. When we first got married he would hug, snuggle, cuddle, and wanted me 24/7. It use to be the moment I walked in from work; he wanted to get busy and have sex right then and there. At that time I was on multiple antidepressants and it was hard for me to want sex, but eventually I came off them and went back to having sex with him whenever he wanted it. I have gained a few pounds since we've been married and so has he. Lately I have to beg and throw myself at him to get him to look. I came home from work yesterday and he never hugged me, never said good-night, not even a kiss. I often wonder if he's just not attracted to me anymore, or even worse if he could be seeing another woman. I don't know what's up; and I have tried everything I know. When I talk to him about it, he's great the day that I mention it to him, but then he goes back to being unwelcoming or unloving again. What do I do, because I am starting to feel more like his friend and maid than his lover.

Krs · Oct 25, 2006, 03:10 AM

Have you totally expressed how you feel about it? And how he is making you feel?
Have you asked him straight forwardly whether he is still attracted to you?

velvetjones · Oct 25, 2006, 02:32 PM

Have you also asked him how it made HIM feel when you didn't feel like having sex with him during your down time?

Sentra · Oct 25, 2006, 02:42 PM

I agree wholeheartedly with the aforementioned questions. Sounds like the 'end' of the lusty newlywed phase, and it happens but it would help a lot for the two of you to put your feelings out there.

Have things gotten monotonous? Perhaps an exciting change in routine can liven things up a bit: Spur of the moment vacation, picnic, anything to get some interaction between you two.

I hope everything works out!

velvetjones · Oct 25, 2006, 02:56 PM

Talk talk talk as much and as openly as possible. It's difficult for a guys to talk about sex the way women do, at least in my experience.

Krs · Oct 26, 2006, 12:36 AM

Originally Posted by Sentra

Have things gotten monotonous? Perhaps an exciting change in routine can liven things up a bit: Spur of the moment vacation, picnic, anything to get some interaction between you two.

I so agree!!
Especially the vacation idea.
Organise something, a night in a posh hotel, breakfast in bed..
Surprise him.