I have been having sex for over three years now and I have never had an orgasm during sex... is that nornal? However I do have orgasms only when a guy goes down on me but it takes forever. I want to know if its just me and if I'm doing something wrong...

Most women orgasm during oral sex more than actual intercourse!

Monica, I'm a man of 36 and when I met my girl 15 years ago I could not bring her to orgasm as she has never experienced it before. In less than 2 months she was gasping for breath and ripping my back with her fingernails. I perfectly remember that night when she came, Jesus! She was like a wild animal and from that moment on she always come.

The best way to have an orgasm during sex is you to identify the most sensitive spot in your vagina. To do this is when your partner is thrusting his shaft inside you, there must be a tiny place in there where you get the most sensation, so keep him there. But this again depends on the knowledge and skills of your partner on sex. If he is thrusting his penis the wrong way, forget orgasm. He needs to explore with short and long thrusts and also occasional 'Stirring' (moving his pelvis in circular motions). By doing all this he will find your spot and in doing so he will feel the change with you. This can be increased breathing , heaving your pelvis begging him not withdraw from that spot or other changes.
Another way is to find your most desirable position or when having have him lick your ears, nipples, neck or other sensitive areas. For extra sensation he can even grab your buttocks firmly.

The ultimate secret is to be aroused fully, so there must be good foreplay. One thing that would surely help is try to watch a porn movie alone just before having sex.
CAUTION: Don't watch it together because he will come too quickly and you can say goodbye to orgasm.

So try these, happy multiple orgasms!

I Have Also Been Told That Warming Lube Can Help... cause I Have The Same Problem...

I lost my virginity at 17 and I just got my first orgasm at 27 years old. I am now 32 and life is goooood!

You have to be open and honest with your partner and try new "things"! You can't expect to just hop in bed (or wherever) and start having sex and expect to have an orgasm! This works for some people but... it didn't work for me and it obviously hasn't worked for you!

Rest assured... YOU ARE NORMAL!!

Well firstly you should try to find out what are the reasons that makes you not to orgasm during the sex
Do you think something else when u having sex with your partner ?
Did you find out what gives you pleasure ?
Did you ever use a vibrator and find out if you can or not
I believe if you can by using a vibrator you could by intercourse
Just tell your partner to be gantle and use his whole body
He should use his hands legs his penis and his fingers and his body
Well I can't tell the details here if u are willing to learn more just contact me..

First it's important that you let your inhibitions go. Sex is supposed to be wild and fun and you need to know your own body. If you don't know your body then he's not going to know it either. I read a book once on learning how to find your G spots that had all these really strange and kinky things you try on your own. It's been years ago so I don't remember the name of the book. Anyway it helped a lot in knowing what I want, how to ask and how to make it happen. There was also another book that I'm sure was called," How to have an orgasm anytime, anywhere". It's amazing how deep thought and flexing those muscles can... you know even in public.

Most women can't reach climax during vaginal intercourse. They need direct stimulation of the clitoris to achieve orgasm, which is tricky because the clitoris is located outside the vaginal opening.

The best advice I can give you is explore your body together with your partner. Relax, take your time, play with each other, find out what feels good. Try different positions and different techniques (short, shallow thrusts or long, deep strokes or combinations - you get the picture). You may find that you need to stimulate yourself in addition to your partner's efforts.

Stimulation usually helps!

Have you ever tried the woman on top position... you can easily adjust your movements to best suit you. He won't care because it looks and feels great. Wife can get off practically every time this way. Without additional stimulation.

I find that I orgasm when I'm on top. I had an orgasm once when I was on the bottom, but then we decided to try new things, and I went on top, thus causing an amazing orgasm!

Goodluck :)

I have the same problem and for a while I honestly thought that I was the only one. I lost my virginity with my fiancée (now my husband) when I was 21, I just turned 22 and I have only had 1 orgasm durning intercourse since. We don't talk about it much it really upsets him and he automatically thinks he is doing something wrong, so I fake it most of the time. I know its probably not the right thing to do but I don't want his feelings to be hurt.

Hey I can't even get one if he goes down on me, your lucky that you can do even that. 27 years of having sex and not one time have I ever had one from any means or even from me.or toys nothing works at all

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