We have been together for about 1 year and a half almost. Around the 10th month mark... he seemed to have lost the drive, and I have a high sex drive. I wouldn't mind it every day. But it slowly stopped. Tomorrow will be a month since we've had sex. I have tried numerous times to talk to him about this, and he told me he understands how I feel and that he'd try harder. And after that talk, it was like one great time.. a month ago.. and nothing since. Now... after the last time we had sex I did get sick for a few weeks, and so he says he didn't want to do it then because he knew I didn't feel well... thats fine, but he never seems to initiate any form of sex and it really bothers me. He does look at porn on the internet just about everyday... even that doesn't bother me ( he only looks at a few things). He said he looks at it because most of it is funny to him. (? ) I have tried to talk to him about watching it together or something, and he said OK... but didn't really care I guess either way. Even if it was just 2 times a week I would be so much happier... its better that once every 2 or 3 weeks. I will try to give hints that I would like to have some action later that night or something and he'll say something back as if agreeing--to what I'm thinking.. so when I get home I get showered, shaved, smell good, look good... and he ends up watching TV. And I get frustrated big time. I just do not know what to do... I used to mention it more and he'd say that when I keep "griping at him b/c he doesnt want to do it" it makes him not want to do it even more.
We both have gained a few or 10 or so.. lbs since together. He isn't as active as he used to be... I still find him as attractive as when I first met him and he says the same about me.. but I still start feeling angry/sad/ and insecure with me because of the situations. (we both are working out together now to lose lbs.. just started) But maybe it is because he's just gotten lazy. He is 5 years older than me.. im only 21, he was my first... and he's been with many. Is it possible his sex drive is slowing ? I can't help it... he's my first and I want it A LOT.. I feel like talking is overrated right now.. b/c its been done so many times. I really do try to just back off and not say a word to see if he will initiate something, but nothing happens. Help.