For one, stop thinking that he makes you climax, as this is something you do for yourself, using the same mindset as when you are doing other things that do get you there.

This month's myth is that intercourse alone should stimulate orgasm in most women. And this, I'm afraid, is a myth that lots of both men & women believe, & it causes a lot of unhappiness, because in fact, the truth is that men very much want to make their women happy, & they want to make their women satisfied.

And they think it's their responsibility. And women very much want to have good sex lives, & they feel also that it's their responsibility to be satisfied by their partners – they want to make their partners feel good by being satisfied.

So although research has shown that men lie about sex more than women do, the one lie that women tend to tell most often is that they've been satisfied, & they lie about the fact that they've had an orgasm when they haven't. And so this is a myth that really has to be busted, because women feel they ought to be having orgasms from intercourse, & men feel that they ought to be somehow providing that orgasm from intercourse.

And the fact is that it's just not the way the equipment has been made.

This popular idea that a woman, a mature woman, a healthy woman should have orgasm by intercourse alone, was made popular (at least in the last century – that is, the 20th century) – this erroneous concept – by Freud.