I'm 30 years old and I've never had and orgasm. What should I do!

Have one!

If I could I would]

Research this and read about it -- library books and websites are helpful -- then practice on your own alone at a private, quiet time. No one here is going to give you lessons.

I just wanted advice. Not lessons. I've tried a lot of different things. I've been researching it makes me think I'm never going to be able to orgasm

But you need to understand what you're asking us... we are online... how can we really help you have one?

We won't give you lessons or instructions. We don't know the details as to why you haven't had one... we don't know if there might be a medical or mental issue keeping this from happening... so, unfortunately, we can't really answer this.

I was just asking for advice. Not a lesson or instructions

This is going nowhere fast.

You aren't even listening to what is being said, you just keep posting the same stuff over and over...

You either don't get it or you're trolling.

I'm not on her for u to be a smart to me or give me a hard time.

Did you see what I wrote on the last page... how we can't know what is causing this?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/3465892-post8.html

What else do you want? You're not reading anything that we wrote to you... all you're doing is posting the same stuff over and over.

Bye.

If you have done all I said, then it's time for a serious talk with your doctor.

Ty hun, and ty for being nice and not having an attitude with me. This is important to me obviously I've tried everything I can think of. That's the only reason I ask the question on her. I thought some other people would have suggestions. Ty very much for being so kind

Many women have problems having orgasms. Some women never experience one. It can be due to physical issues or mental/emotional issues. Some women have them and don't realize it because it isn't the grand, earth shaking experience the media has led them to believe a climax always is.

Some women try so hard their mind and body shut down instead of climaxing.

Are you expecting physical sensations to be enough to arouse you to the point of climaxing? Do you get your mind involved? Do you explore the thoughts that you find sexy and intriguing?

Remember that for females, arousal begins long before the clothes come off. Even with masturbation there is a mental build up to the act. Also remember that whether you are with a partner or alone, there are more erogenous zones than between your legs. Don't put all of the focus in one or two areas.

Explore all kinds of erotica and find what really turns you on and what you shy away from. Music, scents, and textures can all play a big part in getting your mind past all the daily distractions to allow you to relax enough to let go and enjoy the sensations.

It isn't a race to a finish line. It is more of a journey of discovery. Have fun and try not to put pressure on yourself to reach a goal.

Ask an ambigious question and you're surprised that you get someone scattered answers? Then you cop an attitude and call us rude?

Figure out your own body. Figure out what makes you climax. Everyone one is a unique flower and if you want your rose to bloom... well you need to figure that one out on your own. We can only talk in broad strokes. Figure out what gets your mind in the right place. Then touch yourself. Find out what works for you. Get a vibe or a dildo. Have some fun.

Women are the lucky ones. We can have an external or internal orgasm, and at times, simultaneously. OP needs to explore a little more, not just reading, or listening but doing. She may not be able to achieve the internal right awaybut the external clitoral orgasm, by stimulation, is definitely possible. Relaxation and mindset is key to this and watching some porn to achieve this mindset will definitely point her in the right direction.

Basically, I guess, what our esteemed expert cravenMorhead wrote, only I said it differently.

Tick

On another note. The clitoris comes in many different sizes, much like the penis. Perhaps the OP has a much smaller one that won't come out of the hood. Just a thought.

We get the message. Enjoy exploring and experimenting. The more you know about yourself, the more you can teach your partner about YOU.

@tal. I get very clinical about anatomy, any part of the human body. My input was purely physical. Apologies if offended.

It's not too late! My wife is 58 and she doesn't even know what it is!!

:)