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fairynbeckett · Sep 8, 2009, 05:11 PM

My husband and I have been married for a little over a month, but we haven't had sex since the honeymoon even then it was may twice and we were gone a week. We have a 1and a half year old son, but he sleeps pretty well so that doesn't factor into our sex life. I just don't feel like he's interested in having sex any more.

He used to like it when I wore sexy clothes or wore sexy lingerie, but now that stuff doesn't even turn his head. I figure I do stuff to make him happy, but that doesn't even get me a thank you. It just seems that if he's not taking care of our son, he wants to play on his computer, play video games, watch TV or sleep. I mean he does go to class but he has a class three nights a week then he's free. He doesn't have a job. (we live with his parents and before its asked, that has never stopped him from wanting to have sex)

I just... I guess I don't know what to do. I am 21 and he's 23 and I know we're young and all, but I just want to be able to get him to look at me the way he did even on our wedding day.

Catsmine · Sep 8, 2009, 05:37 PM

Sounds like there's some type of stressor in his life that he either doesn't want to deal with or is waiting for it to resolve. Has he had any conversations with the parents that you weren't there for? Is there a major bill coming up, like tuition? Has he been to a Doctor recently?

Withdrawal like this is common when a man doesn't want to bother/burden loved ones with something he thinks he should deal with.

My advice to you would be to emphasize that you're a team now and can handle anything better with four eyes looking at it and four hands to handle it. That sounds trite but it may get him to open up without getting defensive.

simoneaugie · Sep 8, 2009, 10:40 PM

I'll ask an awful question. Does he smoke pot?

shian109 · Sep 8, 2009, 11:39 PM

He so tired isit?
Need go to doctor...