I've been with my boyfriend for in all 14years. We've lived together in a studio for the last 3yrs. It seems like every time I turn around we argue. We never argued. People would see us on the street and try to understand our relationship thinking we're just friends but we were so happy in love and nothing could come between that.

Now it's like every time I see him we argue. He tells me I'm not as sexual as I use to be. I want to prove to him that I love him and that I'm not fuc*ing anyone else.

Example: Some days he will hang out with his friends and rather than take the long trip late at night on the train he stays at our mutal friends house. I don't mind but I just don't want to spend the night at someone's house to sleep on the floor when I have a California king size bed at home.

He will get mad at me because I will say at such and such time I'm heading home. He will try and try to get me to stay but I always want to go home. Why would I want to sleep on the floor when we all know the two of you are night owls and I have to wake up early to go to work.

I don't know what to do. Every time I think things are looking good and I'll in a way ask him regarding our relationship... "Do you think our relationship is getting better or worse?" I'll think everything is getting better and he'll tell me "ehh, the same".

Sometimes I'll tell him I love him and he'll give me a look like he doesn't believe me, sometimes he'll say it back to me and make me feel like he really means it, then there are days that I'll say it and he'll say yeah right.

The latest thing he likes to say to me is "why are you in such a rush to go home what you've got some d**k waiting for you?

How can he say that when I call him when I'm at work, call him to tell him I'm leaving work, call to see how his day is. I make sure that even though I don't have a cell phone he will always know where I am.

I don't know how to make him love me again... the way he use to.

Generally when someone is accusing someone else of cheating with no evidence, it's because THEY are the one contemplating cheating.

You can't change him. You can only change you. Do what makes YOU happy, and stop worrying about him, if you ask me.

It sounds like you may need to sit him down and have a serious talk about the things that are bothering you. For as long as you have been together, you are for all intents and purposes married (and in some states you might actually be in a common-law marriage). No long-term relationship is without its challenges, and the only way to get through these is to tackle them together. Tell him what you are feeling, and let him tell you what he is feeling.

14 years with no wedding ring? What's up with that?

You both are on a different wavelength.

Fourteen years... both of you should be realistic about the other and know each other very well... I think you might still have your thoughts and emotions in the clouds about this man and your relationship with him. He seems practical and not above manipulating you a little because he can.

Do the best you can with this situation and get some help understanding it from a therapist.

Best wishes going forward, :)

He sounds controlling, I agree w/ Synnen about the whole cheating thing. However, instead of leaving every time (the mutual friend) stay one night. In a relationship you have to compromise sometimes, but that means him too.

You began dating too young. Now he is stuck at the age you met.

It will be tough but you need your own place. You've given your life to this at too young an age and you need to stand on your own two feet.
Not only will that make him respect you more, it'll make you respect yourself more!

I have to agree 14 years and no wedding ring! That has to be some sort of record. Since it appears from your post that he is trying to be a control freak, as I see it you have two choices. Stay and accept this behavior or LEAVE THE JERK. He has gotten free sex for 14 years with no commintment. What more can you do except leave his sorry behind.

It has been my experience that when people suddenly change in a negative way, that the problem is based in their court. Simple as that - as stated above, if he is implying/accusing you of certain things, maybe you need to take into consideration where that is coming from, and why all of a sudden.

If you have to prove something then the trust isn't there.

If I had to prove something all the time to my wife I'd be looking for a new wife before long.

Based on my previous relationship, we were together for 13 years, I was accused of having other boyfriends, but let me say I only have 1 child, his and my child together, but he on the other hand has another son 1 year older than mine. We split up when my son was 2, and didn't talk for almost 4 years, now we get along great as friends. So I'm just saying look deep into the relationship, he might not be in love with you, but don't want to lose you because of all the years together, so therefore you are being accused of his actions.