So I'm a 21 year old girl and I'm still a virgin. I have dated a little bit, but have never been in a real relationship. I don't think there's anything "wrong" with me and I don't really know why I haven't been in a relationship or had sex, I guess the timing just hasn't been right yet or something along those lines. It's not that I'm planning on waiting until marriage either--I just want to be in a committed relationship.

I recently ran into a guy I hadn't seen in a few years at a party and ended up staying over at his house because I was too drunk to drive and there wasn't enough room to stay over at my friend's house (where the party was). I assume he wanted sex from me (why else would he have asked if I wanted to stay over if he wasn't interested?), but at the time it didn't feel right for me so we ended up just talking and cuddling that night. I have seen him since then, but it seems like he just wants to be friends. I wonder if the fact that I didn't have sex with him pushed him away. Maybe he heard through mutual friends that I'm a virgin, I don't know. Is having sex with somebody really the only way to show that you're interested in them?

Anyway, I just feel a little behind in terms of all of this because of the fact that I am still a virgin and it's not as common for somebody my age. It's easier for people that have already had sex to be more casual about it, but I'm just trying to find somebody that will at least commit to me for a little while until I'm ready for sex. Is finding out that a girl is a virgin something that scares guys away? I've thought about just not telling guys that I'm a virgin because it seems to put a lot more pressure on them, but at the same time I don't want to lose my virginity to a guy with him thinking that it's a one time thing and then never even see him again.

Let me know if you have any feedback on this.