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    Toluca_86 Posts: 114, Reputation: 11
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    Mar 20, 2008, 07:20 PM
    Have you had a rebound relationship?
    Say you were looking for sex and companionship to help get over someone else, not necessarily a relationship.

    Did you/would you do it with someone you weren't physically attracted to, if you liked their personality?
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    Mar 20, 2008, 07:54 PM
    I don't believe in sleeping with someone unless you care about them, so no.. I don't think I would want to sleep with someone unless I was both attracted to them not only physically, at least somewhat, but also attracted to their personality and their emotions and such.
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    Mar 21, 2008, 05:49 AM
    If you want a friend with benefits (it does sound like that's what you're saying), it's best to stay as emotionally detached as possible. Instead of explaining all of it, I'm going to tell you to just read the latest Men's Health. They did an article on it.
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    Mar 21, 2008, 05:18 PM
    What you're looking for, you aren't going to find rebounding into the bed of another person...

    We just have to suffer, talk and recover... otherwise, we don't get over the broken heart.
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    Mar 21, 2008, 09:55 PM
    Have I had a rebound relationship? Yes. Two.

    Did I seek them out as rebounds? no. I wanted companionship and attention and I didn't intend to use the other person... just didn't understand how screwed up I was from the crash and burn relationship before it.

    So.. after twice jumping into relationships too soon, and with it sexual actions, I finally understood I needed to clear my head before trying again.

    So... to answer the OP, no... I never bedded someone I wasn't attracted to, to make myself feel better intentionally. I did bed two women before I was ready for a relationship, but I was absolutely attracted to them physically and mentally. I was just screwed up from the previous girl and shouldve probably not sought a new relationship yet.
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    Mar 22, 2008, 08:21 AM
    to expand on the post above, after I broke it off with my ex I was extremely vulnerable. I was confused as why it ended the way it did and I knew I had to move on.

    I did the whole club scene with some friends for a year and had quite a few random sexual encounters and went through the whole moral hangover because these girls weren't the girls I wanted, nor could I see myself with. I guess I just needed to feel validated and needed to feel something.

    so in that way, it was helpful, but I do regret a few of them. I should have been smarter and more selective. I really didn't gain that much from it except from one relationship. Looking back at who these women were, all of the others probably carried more risk than reward

    be smart

    give it time
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    Mar 22, 2008, 09:35 AM
    The closest I can say I came to rebound was when my x hubby was messing around with a 15 year old. I had totally given up on him by then. The guy I started seeing was like a soul mate more than anything. Before I knew who he was and would see him out my kids bedroom window I thought he was not good looking.

    Often people do get into 'rebound' relationships because they are more vulnerable so it is good to wait until you can evaluate your motives with a clear head.
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    Mar 22, 2008, 02:48 PM
    I never have... almost did... thanks to a good friend I didn't. It took time to feel good about myself again... however I finally met and married a wonderful woman. Hang in there and things will work out for you.
    Mike
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