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    bonjourindia Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 7, 2012, 07:56 AM
    I have been a virgin all these 29 yrs of my life hoping to find the love of my life!
    Hey all... This seems really helpful...
    Here it goes.. I'm a woman 29 yr ol, very pretty and look much younger than my actual age! I always thought having sex is the most special thing you could do with the one you love! But I have still been waiting God knows for what when I have men around me falling for me! I somehow don't connect with them... But there's this one guy I've met whoz insanely attracted towards me. I've been ignoring him for over a year now but not anymore... I'm unable to stop thinking about making out with him (its just attraction I guess my urge for sex) he is 4 yrs younger to me. I kept avoiding him saying I'm on a different phase of life, I gotto get married and not fool around etc all that blaaa... But now I've started to think... Is it all worth it? Saving up for God knows what its going to turn out to be?
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    Feb 7, 2012, 12:48 PM
    I don't know if "God" keeps popping up in your question because of your religious beliefs OR because it's just an expression.

    Everyone has a different opinion of whether it's "worth it." I think sex can be like Christmas. You look forward to it for what seems like forever, you get all excited about it. Then it happens and you think, "Well, that wasn't half as exciting as I thought it would be."

    I don't think the "four years younger" is a problem. I've dated older and I've dated younger - depends on the person, not the numbers (as long as everyone is legal).

    So - why are you a virgin? Religious or personal beliefs? Just haven't met the right man?

    When responding to this same question other people have said they regretted losing their virginity to certain people because the relationship didn't work out. Others haven't had an opinion in either direction.

    It's all about your beliefs, spiritual and personal.
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    Feb 7, 2012, 10:18 PM
    Hey judy, its an expression... I see now too :)

    well... I got too serious in life I guess was worried always to be something n do something big (careerwise)n spent those years of having fun and being worried as I dropped out of the course I was in n then on been working with good firms until now! So probably it was that... n yes didn't meet the right man too! Durin the fresh yrs of 12th grade 1-2 infatuations happened n later I had a huge crush on one(all this 10 yrs ago).

    its not reigious, I chose it to be (subconsciously I gss) I don't know what it is just kind of lost interest in the "love/relationship" topic over t years! My <3 life s been zero!! But now looking at all the love in the air n all my friends with their respective men... plus the new scene of this boy... seems to be on my mind most of the while... n hence gets me to think... whaaaat to DO?
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    Feb 8, 2012, 01:33 PM
    Who have you been dating, You date, date does not have to be sex. You go out, if you are looking for marriage, you date, this is a time to get to know people better.
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    Feb 12, 2012, 07:20 PM
    You only live once... use protection and have sex. Enjoy life to the fullest.
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    Feb 12, 2012, 07:37 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by lian003 View Post
    You only live once... use protection and have sex. Enjoy life to the fullest.
    No protection is 100 percent, so live life and maybe be a single mom from a man you were just having fun with.
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    Feb 12, 2012, 08:12 PM
    I think that you should get to know this guy. It doesn't mean you have to have sex with him, but you should at least give him a chance to prove himself. If you're waiting for Mr. Right, the only way to REALLY do that is to meet people. Otherwise you'll just be sitting there waiting for something to magically happen, and it won't. So have fun and get to know people, and just do what feels right. Good luck!
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    Feb 14, 2012, 08:28 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck
    No protection is 100 percent, so live life and maybe be a single mom from a man you were just having fun with.
    I didn't say 100%. It's 99%. Hell, your life isn't 100% safe. You could be shot randomly, or have a heart attack at any time. 99% is good enough... don't limit yourself in life. You only live once.
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