Last year was my first year of college. I am on one of the athletic teams for my school, and as a result am very close with my teammates. We all know each other very well, and are pretty open to one another. I have never thought myself to be a lesbian, or even bisexual for that matter. All throughout high school I had a boyfriend and was always into guys. In college my fondness for guys continues, and guys are always all over me. The only problem is I have also become very close to one of my friends and teammate.
Last year I had a bad injury and as I result had to sit out this season. One of the other girls on my team, who is a year older than me has also had a bad injury, so we have had to do rehab together. Last year we weren't close at all, and hardly knew each other. But over the summer, during pre-season training, that all started to change. We both were experiencing similar challenges, and had to work out with each other while our team was off training, trying to get better so we would be able to join them again. At first it was awkward, we would hardly talk, but then we started to get to know each other better and we became friends. We found similarities within each other, and grew fonder of each other each day. Pretty soon it was easy for me to miss practice, and the two of us made rehab fun. At first I had absolutely no attraction towards her, and Im sure it was the same way for her. She herself has always had a boyfriend, and is like me in the sense that boys drool over her. But then we started becoming extremely comfortable with each other. She began talking very flirtatiously with me, and always brushed against me as we were walking. It was then I started thinking she may be interested in me.
One day after practice we went to go have lunch in the cafeteria, and there was only one fork, which she grabbed first and jokingly said that we could share it. I laughed awkwardly, uncertain of what she was trying to get at. Then we sat down and she asked me if I could ever be gay. I was pretty shocked and laughed again, saying no, I think it would be weird to be both best friends and lovers with someone. She stared deeply into me and I quickly looked down at my food. I expected her to go along with what I had said, and for her to agree with me, but she said nothing.
Once season actually started, and the team began traveling we were left with only each other and a few other girls to hang out with on the weekends. One night she called me letting me know what party she was at, so I brought my roommates and met her and some of her friends there. Immediately upon arriving, she drunkingly ran over to me and hugged me. She grabbed my hand and told me that we had to dance. I agreed and we walked down to the basement. I started dancing with a guy, and she was beside me also dancing with a guy. She then grabbed me, and swung me in front of her. She started to grind on me and put her hands all up and down my body. I was shocked but went with it and actually enjoyed it. Eventually a guy stopped us and said that we should make out. We both looked at each other and laughed and ran away.
On another instance it was her twenty first birthday. I was supposed to be out of town, but she insisted that I change my plans so that I could attend her party. I felt I had to, especially since she had thrown me a birthday party earlier in the year. That night I was going hard on the dance floor. I danced with a lot of guys, and always out of the corner of my eye I always saw her. And she was always staring at me, even though she too was dancing with a guy. It was almost like she was following me. Once I stopped dancing I went up stairs and sat on one of the guy's laps. He asked me to give him a lap dance, so I slowly started moving back and forth to the music. There were a lot of people in the room so I didn't want to make a scene. Suddenly she ran over to me and sat on my lap. I was shocked. He told me to continue, so I subtly kept moving. She noticed and started grinding on me…even though people were in the room. I couldn't handle it, so I got up and went back to the dance floor. She also went down stairs. The song "Only girl in the world" came on. She was sitting on a couch next to where I was dancing. We both started singing it and we grabbed each others hands. Want you to make me feel like I'm the only girl in the world, Like I'm the only one that you'll ever love, Like I'm the only one who knows your heart, Only girl in the world...,Like I'm the only one that's in command,Cuz I'm the only one who understands how to make you feel like a man, Want you to make me feel like I'm the only girl in the world, Like I'm the only one that you'll ever love, Like I'm the only one who knows your heart, Only one... Once the party began to die down, I went back upstairs and sat down on a couch talking to a guy. With plenty of other chairs in the room, she still decides to sit right up against me, even though she herself was talking to another guy. Pretty soon the two of us were sandwiched between these two guys. I was trying not to look at her, but then she started touching my leg, even though she was talking to the other guy. Then she began laying her head on my shoulder, with her legs on the guy she was talking to. After a while she switched and placed her legs over mine. As the night progressed she gradually began sliding her legs in between mine. I couldn't believe it.
As I have gotten to know her better over the year, I have come to learn that she is friends with a lot of lesbians. Some people say that she has had a relationship with a girl—someone that helped her cope with the loss of someone really close to her. Others deny that. Most people on my team believe her to be straight. But they haven't seen some of the moves she has placed on me, or some of the things she has said. There are times when she seems almost mad at me, and for no reason. And then there are times when she can't keep her eyes off me. I don't know if she acts mad because she can't cope with her feelings, or what. I myself have just come to accept the fact that I am attracted to her. She gets jealous whenever I talk with guys, and tries to get their attention. Is it because she is trying to get my attention? I don't know what to do. I really like her, and I think she likes me. But she sends me so many mixed messages. Is she into me, and should I say something? Or should I just let actions speak for themselves?

Maybe she is attracted to you and has some reservations. Maybe she is attracted to you and senses you have reservations.

On the other hand, if all this physical attention she gives you is only in public maybe she likes the attention it gets her. There are guys who find the idea of two women hot, and there are girls who play along with that. Is the jealousy about her wanting to keep you to herself or about wanting all the guys attention for herself? Hard to tell.

Maybe she is just having fun and experimenting a little.

Unless you ask her how will you know?

To put it in context what would you do if a guy was acting the same way towards you? If the only attention I was getting from someone, male or female was in public displays of affection I would be questioning what was going on.

You need to let her know you haven't been in this situation before and want to understand what she wants. I personally can't see the point in a relationship or friendship with someone I can't talk to.

I used to be exactly like the friend you are talking about when I was younger and didn't completely understand what I was/am. It was rather distressing to have such strong feelings and need to be around this one particular girl that I didn't fully realise that I wanted in that way, I thought I was straight.
I think that your friend is in the same situation and you should talk to her about how you feel. I think it will help her understand herself better and help her come to terms with everything.

What do you want your relationship with this person to be? I'd decide that first and then decide how to proceed.

And the "what would you do if this were a guy" question is a good one - if you are interested in a romantic relationship, what would you do if she were a guy?

I think you should tell her how you feel about her. She clearly loves you and if you like her completely or are just bicurious I say go for it. She likes you, you like her. Talk to her about how you feel and give it a go.