Well a couple of months ago at a party I had sex for my first time, it was outside and really I wasn't that aroused and was hardly erect. It felt good when I would enter her vagina like a warm feeling but after I started to pump into her I felt literally nothing. It took me about 5 minutes to achieve an orgasm and I was getting really worried about not being able to orgasm. At the end of it I put it down to being my first time and thought that my next time would be better.

I had sex for my second time with the same girl who is not ugly and I suppose is reasonably attractive but nothing special. This time I got oral sex for the first time and hardly felt anything and I didn't achieve an orgasm or even get relitively close to it. When it came to sex I didn't even really have an erect and couldn't get that hard. I didn't even get a warm feeling while entering this time and when I started thrusting it was just an up and down movement. I lasted around 10 minutes this time before I orgasmed and even then I hardly felt anything and just ended up really tired for my effort =\.

Just to sort out some minor details about a year ago I measured my penis and it was 7.2 inches erect and I think its grown abit more. I guess its not the fattest penis and the head is pretty small and it gets bigger as it goes up near the base of the penis. I started masturbating when I was 11 or 12 and it was pretty much the best thing until I turned 15-16 and I started to feel little to nothing while jerking off and the orgasm seemed hardly worth the time. Sometimes when I'm very horny I can have a decent time and the orgasm is pretty good. Im 18 my body is nothing special I guess, I'm not fat but I don't have abs, my biceps etc are pretty decent as I do boxing and lift a decent amount of weights. Also both times when I was having sex I wasn't really attracted to the girl and I wasn't very hard. Also I did feel a lot of pressure going into having intercourse and wasn't really thinking about pleasure or anything as I wasn't getting any.

Any help would be greatly appreciated, I have thought about seeing a sex therapist but I'm not sure how I could afford this. I've also thought about trying a relationship and seeing if that will help and also masturbating less but I'm really stumped as I would like to just have some good sex.

Thanks

Masturbating less will certainly help. No vagina is going to be as tight as your hand, or grip you the right ways.

So would having sex WITH strings attached---having positive emotions for the person you're having sex with generally does help.

You don't need to see a sex therapist, but seeing a doctor probably wouldn't hurt you.

You're off to a really bad start at heterosexual sexual relations, my friend.

Stop having sex and moderate your masturbation... no pornography.

Now, your goal is to have sexual passion, not just an unpleasant mechanical act . The opposite of sexual pleasure is apathy---the opposite of love is apathy, not hate. So, stop your current sex life that is teaching apathy.

Do not use alcohol or drugs in association with sexual relations. You have to find out who you are, and you do that without chemical enhancement.

I think this is serious, you should nip this in the bud... so seek professional help from a therapist who can help you get to understand yourself more.

Best wishes to you, :)

Thanks for the replys guys I appreciate it, if anybody else has any other suggestions I'd appreciate them as well.

Coming from a girl let me just say... quit jacking off.. ok? Build up some sex drive and find a girl you think is ATTRACTIVE! And honey, you will NEVER make a woman happy if you think 5 or 10 minutes is a long time! HAHA! That is soooooooooo quick and should not worry you at all... well not worry you about being to long... but perhaps worry about getting off to fast! Good luck sweetie!

5-10 minutes for my first times is pretty long if I'm correct, I'm hardly experienced and from what I heard my friends only lasted a minute or so there first couple of times =\. And yeah I'm going to try stop masturbating but its abit of a habit after 6-7 years of it daily :p