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Lisa Waweru · May 11, 2009, 03:31 AM

Really, I need help ASAP!

I have this new boyfriend, he is one of those guys who will never initiate anything(apart from sex of course) and even that, he uses his hands more to suggest it than his mouth. He never surprises me with anything. For 2 years, my birthday has passed and he says,"dont worry, ua gift will be arriving soon" but it never does.so why mention. I give him birthday presents, I get to plan for a gig with him or just a weekend out. Sometimes I feel like the man in the relationship.

I am an open person and have spoken at length with him concerning this issue. I make an effort to call him just to see how he is. But he rarely does it unless I point it out to him. You might say that he is just not that into me, but I think he loves me, just have a funny way of showing him.

About sex, he is the kind of guy who willl jump straight to ua vagina and not work his way there, all women know how frustrating this can be.and it is to me, because am never really turned on, again, I have spoken to him about it. He either doesn't know how or he suffers amnesia, and am tired of whinning all the time. Please help and shed some light on what could be wrong with him or me.

bronzebabe · May 11, 2009, 05:00 AM

Sounds like he is very selfish. If you stopped calling him, and doing things for him, (like for his birthday), would he bother to call you? Stop calling him and see. If you don't hear from him, you'll know he just isn;t that into you.
Stop whining, it's not working. Maybe this isn't the guy for you.

Catsmine · May 11, 2009, 08:42 AM

This guy is either a total narcissist or he's afraid you're a stalker. BB's advice is right on. Let him make some moves or you move on.

Synnen · May 11, 2009, 08:45 AM

Lose weight.

He weighs what? About 200 lbs?

That's a good place to start---lose 200 lbs of idiocy.

taoplr · May 11, 2009, 09:14 AM

Originally Posted by Lisa Waweru

..."dont worry, a gift will be arriving soon"...

Give yourself the gift. Dump this selfish, immature, thoughtless, boring liar. What kind of jerk would "forget" a birthday gift after saying one was coming? What do you need to be comfortable ending this frustrating relationship?

Tao

chrissymarie · May 11, 2009, 03:33 PM

OP, read your question... you a sound like someone trying to force a relationship with a BOY who doesn't love you or care about you.

Just like YOU said... he's just not that into you... move on!

liz28 · May 11, 2009, 06:46 PM

I couldn't be in a relationship with someone thinking they love me.

Also, if you talked to him regarding these issues then it is going in one ear and out the other. Nothing will change.

Krazi · May 11, 2009, 06:55 PM

Don't talk to him, don't ask anything of him.
He is selfish, sounds like an all around pu$$.

Dump him... and get yourself a man who knows what he wants and knows how to treat a lady.

Lisa Waweru · May 12, 2009, 01:08 AM

Originally Posted by chrissymarie

OP, read your question... you a sound like someone trying to force a relationship with a BOY who doesn't love you or care about you.

Just like YOU said... he's just not that into you.... move on!

Trust me all you people, I have ignored him, and am not forcing anything.u know why, he is the one who follows me. I know I am not that into him, yet I do stuff that I do to friends of mine.whether they reciprocate or not.thats me. What bothers me about him is that why say u'l give me then don't.

Catsmine · May 12, 2009, 02:30 AM

Lisa,

If nothing else, he is a liar. If need be, call him one to his face and tell him to stay way way far away.

Synnen · May 12, 2009, 05:44 AM

Lisa,

This is an ADULT board, and as such, we use proper english, typing out the full word, rather than chat speak.

Please refrain from using chat speak on the Adult Sexuality boards.

Catsmine · May 12, 2009, 08:30 AM

Everybody,

Please refrain from using chat speak on any board.
The trnsl8's dn mk sns

Synnen · May 12, 2009, 09:52 AM

Originally Posted by Catsmine

Everybody,

Please refrain from using chat speak on any board.
teh trnsl8's dn mk sns

The difference, really, is that I have a (near) zero tolerance for chat speak on the adult boards.

I assume that if you can't type full words that you're 13 years old, and don't belong on an ADULT board.

I don't make the rules, I just enforce them.

Catsmine · May 12, 2009, 01:39 PM

Thank you, Officer Synnen.

Really, Thank you.

griffers90 · Jun 4, 2009, 04:37 PM

Ok I think we got the point on the text style talking... everyone went of on a bit of a tangent there...
Anyway as for your situation hun I would say that this guy is not going to get the point unless you turn round and verbally slap him in the face. You need to tell him that you are fed up with his empty promises and want him out of your life, if you don't want to for fear of being alone don't worry there are men out there who know how to treat a special lady like you.

Good luck hun all the best x

slapshot_oi · Jun 5, 2009, 09:24 AM

Sounds like he checked out of this relationship a long time ago. Don't waste your time.