I can't seem to give my girlfriend an orgasm. She says she can't get herself off manually unless she's using a shower head on her clitoris. My problem: I'm not a shower head and can't replicate that feeling, nothing else seems to work. I've done research but the clitoris just seems like a lost cause, it gives her absolutely no stimulation, from what I've observed and from what she's communicated to me.

She responds well to intercourse and really gets into it, but again, I just can't get her off, it's really bothering me because I want to be able to please her. I can get her pretty far down that road to an orgasm, but can't seem to push her over the edge and make it happen.

I did note one thing of interest though, sometimes when we're having sex (2/5) she tells me to "hold on" or "slow down" because she says she feels like she has to pee. This also occurs when I work the g'spot with my fingers.

So does anybody have any advice for me? My girlfriend and I would really appreciate it.

Thank you~


P.S. Sorry about the grammar, it all sounds fuzzy but I was trying extremely hard to give you guys and gals the quick watered down and to the point version.

Maybe with the shower head it is not direct stimulation(which sometimes can be TOO intense). Maybe just be a little more gentle at first. Use different things other than your tongue which might not make it so sensitive. A lot of times using your fingers is just too much.

Try some of these

The Experi Mint
This technique really packs a huge payoff for very little prep work. Some
Women claim that different cough drops provide varying degrees of
Stimulation. It seems to be purely a matter of personal preference, so
Don't be afraid to experiment with a variety of brands and flavors.
Here's What You Need:
One mentholated cough drop, any flavor.
Here's How You Do It:
Get your woman naked.
Unwrap the cough drop and put it in your mouth. You need to give it a
Couple of minutes to partially dissolve; so use this time to pepper her
Belly, bikini line and inner thighs with little kisses.
Swirl the cough drop around in your mouth, making sure to rub the tip of
Your tongue against it. Now, keeping the cough drop in your mouth,
Gently begin to lick around the vagina, paying special attention to the
Clitoris. In a few moments your woman will begin to feel both the hot and
Cool sensation of the menthol penetrating her body.
For added stimulation, pause every minute or so and gently blow on the
Clitoris (the air reactivates the cooling properties of the menthol and
Provides a sensation most women find immensely pleasurable).
Women all over the world have gone absolutely crazy for this little ditty.
Done properly, it will have her yodelling!!

Walking the Wall
This is a great way to find just the right angle to stimulate her G-spot.
Here's How You Do It:
Get your woman naked. You, too.
Have her sit on the edge of the bed with her legs apart.
With you standing, enter your woman.
Have her bend her knees, letting her feet rest on your stomach.
As you continue thrusting, tell your woman to "walk" up your chest,
Placing one foot in front of the other.
As she does this, you'll stimulate different areas of her vagina. It's up to
Your woman to determine exactly where she should be on "the wall" to
Achieve an indescribable orgasm. Watch for the screaming orgasm though! A towel underneath her usually helps keep the bed clean…

Oral Stimulation
Most of my female friends I have talk to about this say men don't really understand where to pleasure a woman the best around this area.
Yes the is very sensitive but the underside is even more sensitive as are the outer and inner lips.
While working the tip of your tongue along the outer lips up one side and down the other side all the way to the bottom and back up again doing this a few times you'll know your doing it right but the sounds your partner will be making.
With your thumb and fore finger slightly open the lips and lick the inner lips and flick your tongue as it licks the inner lips basically tickling your partner.
Most men try to suck their partner, just use your tongue to lick and gently tickle every inch of her as though you are tasting her.
Make your way to her and kiss and nibble on it with the tip of your tongue flick the front of the ever so gently and lick the underside with a little extra pressure after a few strokes of your tongue increase the pressure as your partner moves to meet your every stroke of your tongue.
Here is where the fun really heats up insert a finger or two as your stroking the underside of her with your tongue.
I have found that using toys vibrators works the best to give a earth shattering screaming orgasm.
You'll know what your doing to give your partner that screaming orgasm by the way she moves, moans, purrrs, breathing.

That's all I've got time to type today but if anyone else has got some goodies to share both myself and Im sure other people here are always interested in learning more so please be generous and post your ideas and comments below

That was my first time using the "rate answer" button, if you couldn't already tell. But what I wanted to say to you was that I appreciate your reply and the "walking the wall" idea sounds very new and unconventional which is what I think I may just need. Thank you again.

I'm very interested in what anyone else has to say regarding the matter, I could really use all the help I can get.

If I can think of anything else you'll be the first one to know...

Did you try any of them? Has anything worked?

Well sometimes my girlfriend says I do something "too strong" to please her. Women feel something when you are tender and touch her gently.

I haven't had the opportunity to, our schedules are tightly woven. =( I see her on Sunday, I'll let you know what's working and not. Hopefully one of those techniques will give me the results I'm looking for.

Any other Idea's for me to try this coming week?