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primetime9 · Oct 20, 2007, 12:16 AM

I broke up with my ex girlfriend about six weeks ago. It has been the fourth time I broke up with her, but we were dating for three years. Anyway, a month ago, she said she wasn't coming back. Now, I caught her sleeping with someone else already?

Can she possibly move on that fast? Three months ago, we were talking about getting married. I was the one who ruined the relationship, but I still treated good overall. Sex life was good. One month after we break up, she sleeping with someone else already?

Someone help?

poseidon · Oct 20, 2007, 01:02 AM

Hello Primetime9,

I am afraid it does not just appear as 'can she move on that quickly' but that she has.

I feel you have to accept this and move on yourself.

You do not give the reasons you felt it necessary to break up with your ex four times over the last three years, but presumably these must have been major problems to make you do it.

You say you were even talking about marriage and your sexual relationship was good. Successful marriages are not simply based around good sex and from what you have said in your question, I feel that if you married each other, it may not have lasted.

My advice is to let her go and move on. It may not be easy but you will get over it and hopefully you will find someone else and you both will have a long and happy relationship.

A great many people have the same experiences as you are going through and they move on and find someone else.

Good luck

Poseidon.

statictable · Oct 21, 2007, 06:23 PM

You do not need help. You need insight. We learn as we go. She moves fast and will need help some day. Best to smarts it out and move on.

Leidenschaftlich für Wahr · Oct 21, 2007, 06:26 PM

Im sorry about this, as I am sure it hurts deeplt to find out about it, however... you are broken up and its time for you both to move on. She has, and you have not.
There is a slight possibility that she is doing this on the rebound, but I wouldn't focus on it.
How did you find out anyway? Did she tell you herself?

Lotz_of_Questions · Oct 22, 2007, 12:36 PM

I'm sorry but it is possible. She moved on. And I think you should do the same.

Good Luck :)

slj1022 · Oct 23, 2007, 09:01 AM

Originally Posted by primetime9

I broke up with my ex girlfriend about six weeks ago. It has been the fourth time i broke up with her, but we were dating for three years. anyways, a month ago, she said she wasnt coming back. now, i caught her sleeping with someone else already?

can she possibly move on that fast? three months ago, we were talking about getting married. i was the one who ruined the relationship, but i still treated good overall. sex life was good. one month after we break up, she sleeping with someone else already?

someone help?

You can't be upset and feel hurt that she's moved onto someone else... time makes to difference... if you had broken up with her yesterday you should consider the possibility that she would be sleeping with someone else today.

margarita_momma · Oct 23, 2007, 12:28 PM

Maybe she was tired of being in an on again off again relationship and needed to get out. Honestly, if feelings were involved in your relationship at all (and I'm guessing they are since you were considering marriage) she might want to stop the heart ache by cutting ties with you all together. Move on hon.

Smiley5 · Oct 31, 2007, 09:27 AM

It may be that she is re-affirming her sexuality. I know that I have done this after a long relationship has ended. Sometimes it just feels good being wanted really bad by someone you don't have a long history with. Newly single, maybe she is acting on those feelings.

This probably has nothing to do with you, just her inner feelings about herself and her new world.