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    Sep 29, 2014, 07:17 PM
    Cant orgasm or have female ejaculation since the first and only time?
    At age 18, I had a body-tingling, toe-curling orgasm and had a female ejaculation as well from my boyfriends fingers. That was before I had intercourse a few weeks later. I haven't had anything close to that orgasm and haven't ejaculated since then. Not from that boyfriend, the following partners and my current boyfriend. Im now 22 and I am confused as to why it won't happen again. I did it before, why haven't I done it since? My boyfriend and I have tried so many things to make it happen. Its just annoying lol! I really want that feeling again. Not just for me, but for him and our relationship! Has anyone else experienced this?
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    Sep 29, 2014, 07:35 PM
    Do you masturbate? Do you know how to pleasure yourself?

    It's very possible that you're putting so much stress on having an orgasm, that you're not able to reach orgasm because you're over thinking things.

    Keep in mind that if you're talking about having an orgasm during intercourse, you're by far not alone. The majority of women never orgasm during actual intercourse.

    As for female ejaculation, I won't even start a discussion on that. Too many studies and too many differing views on whether it exists or doesn't. If that's your goal, you're really setting your sights high.

    Why not start by trying to get yourself to orgasm through masturbation. Your boyfriend doesn't have a chance if even you don't know how your body works.

    Good luck.
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    Sep 29, 2014, 08:53 PM
    I do masturbate! And when I do... It feels great and I get to that point it feels too good I have to stop, and I just loose it. I don't feel like I reach max satisfaction. And The climax part only happens clitorally. (spelling?) When we have sex the same thing happens! Maybe that IS my orgasm, and its just how mine feel.

    I do over think about everything, hence why I look for help on a site like this! Lol!

    About the female ejaculation... I have done it before (was 18y/o now 22) when my boyfriend at the time used his fingers. It was literally the toe curling, mind blowing, all over my body orgasm. Ive looked up videos and everything about how to make it happen again. And my current boyfriend tries those techniques every once in a while.

    I know it might be me worrying about it too much. Is there any techniques you've heard of on how to relax or free my mind while we try? Is it possible that there is something medically/physically wrong with me as to why I haven't been able to orgasm in the past 4 years of being sexually active!!

    I know my "feels so good till i have to stop" feeling isn't just how my orgasms feel.
    Lol I feel crazy...
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    Sep 29, 2014, 10:04 PM
    Why do you stop, you are almost there, and just stop if it is feeling "too good"

    Seldom during intercourse, will you orgasm, normally that is either with fore or after play. You have to find it, yourself, through masturbation so, you can show boyfriend how.
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    Sep 30, 2014, 05:09 AM
    There is no definitive proof via credible studies that female ejaculation is anything but the bladder releasing urine. Which is exactly what you see in any porn flick out there. As was mentioned...this is not a topic thats even open to be discussed/argued here.

    As far as orgasms , they simply aren't all going to be the same, and they aren't all going to come as easily. Its not even true for guys (who are generally pretty easy to please)....and its far more true with women. Its all about being in the right place mentally. If you aren't then an orgasm would be impossible. And no its not intuative for women much less men. As least as it pertains to women with orgasms. Nor are any two women exactly alike in what it takes to get them to where they have to be.
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    Sep 30, 2014, 06:54 AM
    You are so busy chasing a past feel good that you fail to enjoy the shared experience of NOW. You have much to learn about exploring your own mind. What's puzzling, and you have to figure out is why you stop yourself before you get to where you are trying to go.

    Don't blame your body because this is about your mind.

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