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    ashm1005 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 1, 2009, 10:10 PM
    Cannot orgasm when boyfriend gives me oral sex
    I think by boyfriend is so extremely sexy and I even masturbate and reach an amazing orgasm just thinking about him (giving me oral sex).

    The problem is that when he actually does give me oral sex.. I just can't orgasm and I just don't feel the same sexual stimulation as I do when I'm masturbating. What is wrong with me?
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    Jul 1, 2009, 10:12 PM

    Nothing is wrong with you. You know what buttons to press; it's your body! He doesn't, time to teach him where your hot spots are.

    Nothing that a little bit of practice won't help.

    Sarah
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    Jul 2, 2009, 12:37 AM

    Maybe you're putting too much thought and expectation into when he's down on you. Try and relax and enjoy. Somewhere in your mind you're concentrating on an orgasm other than the pleasure he's giving you. Think about the moment and not the result. Grind into him and you can help control the pace and amount of pressure without being too bossy. Otherwise After a while it will turn into a goal that he needs to reach and that will take all the fun out of it.
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    Jul 2, 2009, 12:40 AM

    Sounds like he needs a few pointers. Or maybe you just can't reach orgasm from oral stimulation. Have you had previous lovers who could get you off with oral sex?
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    Jul 2, 2009, 01:07 AM
    Try relaxing and just enjoying it rather than focusing so much on trying to orgasm. You have to really relax and work with your boyfriend if you want to orgasm from oral sex. You have to tell him what feels good and what doesn't, that way he can learn how to make it more pleasurable for you and make you orgasm.
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    Jul 2, 2009, 05:04 AM

    Besides what has been said... you need to give him some lessons. Being able to give a woman an orgasm via oral, is not instictive. Its something a guy HAS to learn.
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    Jul 2, 2009, 05:30 AM

    Thanks for the quick responses!

    I think I am concentrating too much on getting an orgasm (and I'm also somewhat self-conscious - he has tons more experience than me). Next time, I'll tell him what feels good.
    I don't think he's necessarily bad at it.. I think I just need to relax and just say what turns me on!!

    Another thing I think that made me a bit self-conscious and I'm thinking that's another reason why I couldn't orgasm... is when we wer kissing and stuff beforehand.. I got really wet... and I thought he'd be turned off. He never said anything about it...

    (I'm not very experienced - he's my first lover)
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    Jul 2, 2009, 12:53 PM

    Why would he be turned off that you are turned on? To him it should be the greatest compliment in the world that he can make you that wet.
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    Jul 6, 2009, 04:31 AM

    Either you are too tense or your boyfriend is doing oral to you at the wrong spot.

    Mental relaxation is very important in reaching organsm. Example, some woman feels peeing sensation when about to reach orgasm and the embarrassing thought of squirting is holding their orgasm back (Same for hitting the G-Spot)

    Relax and you should climax.
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    Jul 6, 2009, 01:08 PM

    Tell him to do a little sucking rather than just 'flicking'

    It sounds like you do need to relax.


    Also, how old are you, depending on your age, it might be more difficult to reach orgasm if you are very young or if you are an older lady.

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