Hi I am posting this question because I don't know what else to do. I have been in this relationship for over 13 months now and I am more confused by the day. We haven't had sex now in almost 9 months. Masturbation is getting boring and I won't stoop to cheating on him its not my style at all.
I will admit a lot of drama has gone down in the last 6 months or so but he has a way of twisting things around so that it is always my fault. He refers to sex as being the frosting on the cake and claims until our relationship is back on tract and he is able to trust me again with his feelings that he won't have sex with him. He continually asks me not to push him. If I try to kiss, hug, or show any kind of indication that I want to have sex with him he simply moves farther away from giving it to me. IS IT ME. I am an attractive woman who gets asked out my many people on a weekly basis. I don't want another man, I want this one. I love him very much. It seems like everyone that I talk to has the same answer dump his and move on he don't love you, or he is using you. Well using me for what? I don't understand.
He tells me he loves me or should I say he replys to my I love you more often than just offering a simple I love you on his own. He says he is simple in fact so simple that he is complicated. I have caught him in many, many lies in the past and I think he is now unable to trust that I trust him. Actually I'm not sure I do.
He hasn't slept here since March and this is now November. I am frustrated, annoyed, aggravated and feel semi insecure due to his actions. However I am an independent woman and able to stand on my own two feet at all times.
He lives with his parents at the age of 41 (why)? His mother seems to be the only person he will confide in with anything and to a point I can talk to her about things and she seems to keep our conversations in confidence.
He makes no effort to visit me other than maybe one day on the weekend but sometimes will go over two weeks without seeing me and seems to be unaffected by that even though he knows it drives me insaine. But he calls me at least 6 times a day without fail. I usually have to lead the conversations but I try to talk about everything and anything except my emotions and feelings because all it does is aggravate him more and push him farther.
He has asked me on several occasions not to push him, but its hard not to feel what I feel. He also says just because that's what I want him to do does not mean that he will and makes me very informed that he will move at his pace and not mine. He tells me if I want to walk then that's what I should do. But he knows I won't. OMG... what the hell do I friggin do HELP!! :mad: