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    beccec18307 Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Sep 7, 2007, 07:55 AM
    My boyfriend won't have sex with me!
    Asd
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    Sep 7, 2007, 08:00 AM
    Hiya.. do you use the same positions every time you have sex? If so it might help if you are a bit more adventurous in the bedroom.. what positions do you use now?
    From Emily... x
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    Sep 7, 2007, 08:08 AM
    How are you bringing it up to him? Have you tried the approach of saying gently to him "I don't know what's changed between us but it concerns me. I think that you don't find me attractive anymore and it really hurts to think thats the case. Can we talk about this?".

    If you are mature enough to be having sex you should be able to handle this situation in a mature fashion. Yelling at him and such will not help matters at all. There is clearly something else going on where he has lost interest in sex. Is he maybe under a lot of stress? Is he taking any medications? When was the last time he had a physical? There could be something going on with him physically, mentally or emotionally.
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    Sep 7, 2007, 08:24 AM
    I think its time you move on. Its clear the only reason you are still together is familiarity. It has little to do with you and how good you look. In fact the fact you are hot looking and in good shape makes that more clear.

    Blunt , yes, but seems to be pretty clear, you don't grab his attention anymore and he doesn't care enough to listen to you and help with your needs.

    I've been MARRIED for 16 years and don't have that drama in my house. And neither me or my wife have done that.
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    Sep 7, 2007, 08:26 AM
    I was trying to point out that I've tried everything... I don't yell at him for not being able to do it. That's REALLY RETARDED.. DUH! I have brought it up calmly and I have even been sexual in doing it but it always ends up in me just giving him a blowjob.. We love trying out all different kinds of positions so that's not it either.
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    Sep 7, 2007, 08:30 AM
    Well what else is going on with him? You didn't answer any of the questions in my post. Is there anything going on with him that would cause stress on him? How long has it been like this where he has no interest in sex? Has he lost interest in other things. There is a lot you are leaving out...
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    Sep 9, 2007, 07:00 AM
    Comment on GlindaofOz's post
    Might relate to my situation.
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