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    beckylynn21 Posts: 11, Reputation: 2
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    Aug 23, 2012, 10:08 AM
    Boyfriend watching Porn Should I worry?
    Okay so here is the deal. My boyfriend and live together and we have had "the talk" about porn. This originally all started because he told me he does not watch porn anymore because he is so sexually satisfied with me. However, I saw the most frequently visited websites on his computer and porn was the number one site. So, I approached him in a civil nice fashion and we spent hours talking about how I want him to be honest, and how I don't mind the porn as long as our sex life is good and he is not watching it frequently, or when I am in the other room and he could just have me. He swore he doesn't watch it frequently, he used to when he was single and lonely and that is the reason it is the number one frequent site. He swore he wouldn't lie and that he doesn't lie and that he is sexually satisfied with me and doesn't need to watch it all the time. So anyway, we had sex multiple times over the weekend (like 4-5 times a day), and sex on And then Monday I passed out early same thing on Tuesday. So yesterday when I got home from work I decided to look at the history which I probably shouldn't have but I was curious and both Tuesday and Wed morning he watched porn when I left for work. It is very frustrating to me and yes I am wrong for checking up on him but point is I can not help myself it bothers me because we can have lots of sex and I miss out a day or two and he is off to his porn again. How do I deal with this because weither I want it to or not it is bothering me. And is he addicted? Should I be concerned?
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    afaroo Posts: 3,998, Reputation: 251
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    Aug 23, 2012, 10:29 AM
    Hello Beckylynn,

    Please open the link below, and read what all the experts has said, Thanks.

    John

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...rn-572704.html
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    beckylynn21 Posts: 11, Reputation: 2
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    Aug 23, 2012, 10:48 AM
    I am sorry but I don't think that really helped my particular question.
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    Cat1864 Posts: 8,007, Reputation: 3687
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    Aug 23, 2012, 11:05 AM
    Beckylynn, you are going to get the same answers here that were already getting in your other thread. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...er-694098.html

    People enjoy erotica for a variety of reasons and it isn't always to get off. Men especially like to look at the female form. It doesn't mean he is masturbating every time or taking anything away from being with you.

    I know you have said that you don't have a problem with porn, but I think you aren't being honest with yourself. Otherwise you wouldn't being asking if he is addicted or putting stipulations on it, etc.

    Are you really feeling secure in the relationship? Are you having a moment of doubting how much he wants and needs you?

    From your posts, I don't think you have anything to worry about especially if you don't start acting like a control freak and cause the problems you want to avoid.

    Stop looking at his history. Don't expect to be able to control everything in the relationship. Accept that he obviously loves and cares about the unique and special individual that you are.
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    CravenMorhead Posts: 4,532, Reputation: 1065
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    Aug 23, 2012, 11:22 AM
    no.

    It is as pure and simple as that. You should not worry.

    Stop looking for it and you will stop finding it. You should also talk to him about private/incognito browsing if it bothers you so much.

    He isn't really using it as a substitute for you. You had sex six times in three days. What is the problem? He isn't doing because he isn't satisfied with you. He stuck his pee-pee in your hoo-hoo six times in three days for Chriss-sakes. He obviously likes you and all your imperfections, wobbly bits, and personality traits.

    Men like looking at naked women. Goodness knows I do it. I am getting laid right now as often as you are. That being said I still looking at porn, a little less than I used to when I was single, but still on occasion.

    Give it a rest and stop looking for it. Relax in the knowledge that he likes plundering your booty like a seasoned pirate. Yaaarrrh!!

    What you should also consider is the message that you're sending him. "I DON"T TRUST YOU! " Have a little faith in him. Think about why you don't like him watching it and come to peace with it. You kind of have already, just takes a little bit more.

    Good Luck.
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    Aug 23, 2012, 11:31 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by CravenMorhead View Post
    no.

    It is as pure and simple as that. You should not worry.

    Stop looking for it and you will stop finding it. You should also talk to him about private/incognito browsing if it bothers you so much.

    He isn't really using it as a substitute for you. You had sex six times in three days. What is the problem? He isn't doing because he isn't satisfied with you. He stuck his pee-pee in your hoo-hoo six times in three days for Chriss-sakes. He obviously likes you and all your imperfections, wobbly bits, and personality traits.

    Men like looking at naked women. Goodness knows I do it. I am getting laid right now as often as you are. That being said I still looking at porn, a little less than I used to when I was single, but still on occasion.

    Give it a rest and stop looking for it. Relax in the knowledge that he likes plundering your booty like a seasoned pirate. Yaaarrrh!!!

    What you should also consider is the message that you're sending him. "I DON"T TRUST YOU!!" Have a little faith in him. Think about why you don't like him watching it and come to peace with it. You kinda have already, just takes a little bit more.

    Good Luck.
    Damn! You beat me to the punch! You said EVERYTHING that "I" wanted to say!. Well, except for the "Getting laid" part.

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