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    Aug 9, 2007, 01:32 PM
    My boyfriend is not in the mood anymore for sex
    My BF and I have been dating for a year and we were bestfriends of 4 years before lovers. He has always been very horney and wanting to have sex which is great, we would go at it like 3 times in a day or more. He also watches a lot of porn and can still after satisfy me and sill ejaculate. Recently he has had a big move and as been tied up with things, but there is time where we can have are fun.

    We haven't had sex for about 10 days now and this is never like him, I am a girl who needs to be pleased a lot. I have asked this question why, he says the more I bother him about it the more he doesn't feel like it, and the longer ill wait.

    The last few times we have had sex I felt like it was taking him very long to ejaculate or he wouldn't... I've even tried to spice things up or talk extra dirty and it just doesn't work.:mad:

    What can be posiibly up? :confused:
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    Aug 9, 2007, 01:48 PM
    What's going on in his world? Stress and responsibilities will play a big role in a man's libido.
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    Aug 9, 2007, 01:51 PM
    I hope this is not a power struggle using sex as a weapon. Work together to identify the problem and solve it, so that you both are happy. Communications and the willingness to work together is more important than sex right now.
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    Aug 9, 2007, 01:54 PM
    It appears to me that both of you were functioning only through signals from the "outside", this apparently has gotten old and your boyfriend got tired of it. I can understand that he has been turned off, but he should be able to explain this to you if he feels that you will listen and no longer put him under pressure to "perform". You should not expect every time to be perfect, or long, or better, - sex should not be a scene from a porn film and no contest.

    You both should take a break, get to know each other again - likes and dislikes in other parts of life and not think about sex for a while.

    So, talk to him, tell him to relax, and don't rush things.

    Good luck.
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    Aug 9, 2007, 03:20 PM
    Hello.

    ITS ONLY BEEN 10 DAYS... Relax and stop bugging him about it. He has a lot on his mind and needs your help dealing with it all. He needs your hugs and kisses to be for him and to help him relax and telling him it will all work out, He doesn't need you bugging him about sex when his mind isn't in it right now.

    Make him a nice dinner and let him relax tonight with no stress from you. Show him how he is number one in your life and how you can add to his life no matter how hard things don't get (hehehhee sorry couldn't help that one) How hard things get. I bet after you show him that your in his corner he will be back to his own self if not more loving then before.

    Dennis777
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    Aug 9, 2007, 04:02 PM
    10 days is nothing. Relax you minx.

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