So, first off, I am going to preface this by saying that I have read all the similar posts on the topic, but they all deal with their boyfriends being addicted to porn. I wish my problem was that simple. I am 20 and my boyfriend is 21. When we first started dating about 6 months ago the sex was AMAZING. We did it all the time.

My problem is over the last couple of months my boyfriend has become almost completely un-interested in sex. I don't mind initiating things, in fact I love it, but he never wants to anymore. It's not a physical problem, trust me, that part is just fine, but it's seriously like there is a mental block on him. I'm not sure what to do anymore. I am incredibly open and willing to try just about any new kind of thing when it comes to sex, and I have asked him more than once if there was anything else that I could do, or do differently, and he always replies that it has nothing to do with me, that he just doesn't feel like it. We have had sex once in the past month and that was during the middle of the night when I'm still not sure if it was just an extension of a good dream he was having.

I'm sure that he does look at porn/masturbate, but I don't think that's the problem. I'm not one of those girls who is disgusted by the fact that their boyfriend's masturbate/look at porn... in fact I'd be worried if he didn't do that. But, I just don't know what to do anymore. I have tried everything from throwing him on the bed and practically ripping his clothes off, to dressing up in sexy lingerie, to buying toys (which I love and he always seems skeptical of), to lighting candles and playing soft music. I have put on just about every sexual face that I can think of, and it just comes down to the fact that he doesn't seem to have that drive anymore. We often spend the night together and there will be so many opportunities to have sex (ie: waking up with morning wood, having wrestling fights before bed, laying practically naked next to each other before we fall asleep... etc.) and it's like he doesn't take them, even if I initiate and will do most of the work for him.

All I want is to have my boyfriend back. It's really starting to wear on my self-esteem. I am normally a very confident, educated, self assured young woman, but after being rejected time and time again by my own boyfriend for sex, it's making me feel unattractive, unwanted, and unloved. He says it has nothing to do with me, but I after I have exhausted all remedies and he still is not responding, what else is left for me to think?

So please, if anyone has been in this situation before, or has any advice on how to get him interested in sex again, please, please, let me know. Thanks.