My question is actually two-fold and has been asked in other threads, but I don't feel that my situation has really been covered. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months and have been sexually intimate from the beginning. However, he has never been able to achieve an orgasm while inside of me. He has always said that it was because of an intense fear of getting me pregnant, and he has been able to get off from oral sex.

About three months ago he had a vasectomy, so now there is no possibility of pregnancy, and he still has the same problem.

In addition to this, he has lived alone for about 10 years and always masturbated about 3 or 4 times per day. Now we are living together (for about a month), and I understand that this must be a HUGE adjustment for him. Lately, we haven't been having sex as much, and I wondered if he was masturbating instead of having sex with me. So, I spoke with him about it (after I walked in on him :p which probably wasn't the best time). He said that he felt that we were intimate all of the time. He said that we kiss, and hug, and cuddle... which we do... a lot. He is VERY affectionate for a guy. I told him that I needed more than that, and wanted to be sexually intimate more often. I told him that I was afraid that he was masturbating instead of having sex with me, and that I didn't want that to happen. I understand that he is going to masturbate, I don't care about that... I just don't want it to be the only way that he get off.

So, I have the two issues, and I am wondering if they are related: he isn't able to get off while inside of me, and we aren't as sexually intimate as we used to be (I may have handled this one... I don't know yet). What do you think about this?

I appreciate your input.