Hi;I have been with my boyfriend for about 7 years and we always had a really good sex life and the last year it has been getting less and less Well now he works out of town and is gone for 3 weeks at a time and gets to come home for 4 days you would think that he would be dying to make love but he doesn't want to at all he always gets mad when I talk about it and I end up on the couch with my vibratorThis hurts me deeply I do not believe that he is cheating on me at all he gets pissed off at me and says oh you you are really making me horny well the thing is I don't even know how to if I touch him or try and get him to touch me he just gets mad and we end up in a fight I can't take this **** no more and I ask him why are you even with me if you don't want to touch me but he always finds a way to turn it around on me and its all my fault I am so frustrated and hurt and its impossible to talk to him I feel like we are roomates not lovers I love this man with all my heart am I in the wrong to want to have a love life with him?? I don't know what to do where to turn I feel like I'm going to have a breakdown Can anybody help me out in this mess Any suggestions will be appreciated Thanks

After 7 years sex can become routine , if you let it.

The best way I am aware of to avoid or overcome this is communication, which you say is not a possibility in his case.

You might approach him with the attitude of " I love you and want us to be happy, but I am feeling like...... How do you feel about this ?"

Be clear that you are not accusing , blaming, complaining or nagging...
You just want to understand his feelings and have him understand yours.

Communication is key to any relationship. Work on it all you can in any way you can find.
It can make or break any relationship.

Do think about counseling. It can open up the way to solving many difficult problems.
It usually takes a lot of effort to get the males to agree to it. It's a man ego thing.
But the rewards are worth it.