Because I like to use dildo's and look at gay pornography more than straight I often wonder if I myself am gay.. yet, I like straight things to. I fantasize too much but is that really something to worry about? And Am I gay? I wouldn't do that with another man in real life..

Bi-Sexual maybe?
Oh try to stop having sexual experiences unless it's a straight thing just for a wile anyway I guess try and see if it goes away I've heard from more then one person this helps so I hope it helps you.

I think it means you are curious. Enjoying anal stimulation alone does not make a man gay. In fact, many straight men and straight couples enjoy anal stimulation and use dildos and vibrators. Being attracted to other men sexually is what makes a man gay. But if you are sexually attracted to both sexes then that would make you bisexual. Though, I would opt for the term 'curious' because you have yet to experience sex with a man and don't know if you'd enjoy that. Maybe it's just a fantasy. Maybe it's more.

And if it does mean you are gay, is that really such a bad thing? You have to accept and like yourself because at the end of the day, you are the only one who has to live with you. I hope you find the answers you are looking for but remember an answer such as this is something only you can answer.

At this point, you're bi-curious. Maybe you're gay, maybe you're bisexual, but who cares? Just be yourself, nobody's forcing you to choose a side, so do what you want.

Experiment with your sexuality. There are many websites for you to find a partner and no one will ever have to know, except you. Of course, you have to be 18 (and don't lie about your age if you're not because people can get in big trouble having sex with minors!) Also, make sure you wear a condom and use a lot of lube with anal intercourse (it is STRONGLY recommended to use a condom for oral and a dental damn for anilingus).

I can relate totally to this issue. Whenever I pleasure myself.. or what have you, I think of women. When I look at porn, I focus on the girl. However, I date only men and the thought of dating a woman grosses me out. Well, dating grosses me out.. but doing things with another woman does not. I really believe that the social stigma's against homosexuality is what's weighing us down. Consciously, we're accepting of homosexuality and all those who partake in it. Subconsciously, though, we're scared as hell about letting society accept us for it. I think if a man approached you in secret, you'd be on top of him in a minute. You don't want to feel like you're against it- but face, you are. Subconsciously speaking, that is.

I think it's more of a fantasy than anything to tell you guys the truth. I mean I've been straight all my life, I was born straight (if you want to believe your born a certain sexuality) and I want to continue to be straight. However, it gets to me because I really in all honesty don't want to be considered a homosexual. I mean I would never do that in real life, and in real life I'm attracted to girls, not guys. But porn wise it's always guy stuff.. I just don't know. And dildoing might be for straight men too but it feels so different to me.

There is gay, and there is straight, And since we haven't named anything in the middle, except bi, There can be anything in between, so since I don't believe in labels just be yourself and enjoy it. I have a friend whose tri-sexual. As in try anything once.

Hello d:

I think you're gay. I don't know any straight men who put dildos up their butts when they wack off. Of course, I don't know any straight men who would admit doing it either.

excon

I don't think you are gay... you'd have an attraction to men rather than women which is not the case. You say you don't have that attraction to men then you maybe aren't Bi either. Maybe just a straight guy that's pretty kinky. As has been mentioned plenty of Hetro couples like dildos and strap-ons as well. If you enjoy it and your wife (for those married) does as well then go for it. Nothing wrong with it.

You may or may not be gay, but if you are gay, you're basically enjoying the first stage of coming out. It usually comes along with denial. Ask yourself 'why do I like this type of porn?' Also ask yourself if you find guys around you attractive at all. Be honest with yourself and you'll find your answers.

I personally always enjoyed watching guys while jacking off and I told myself I wasn't gay for a long time because all I ever looked at was other guys jacking off. At about 15, after looking at some really hot pictures, I found myself also looking at guys around school. That's when I knew something was definitely up. It wasn't until 17 that I called myself bi and it wasn't until 18 that I figured I was pretty much gay. Even today Ii still only like looking at guys jacking off and even though I'm gay I don't play with my a lot. The most I've ever stuck up there was a highlighter just to see what it felt like.

This is coming from a gay guy. The real test of your sexuality comes when you try to do something with a guy or girl or both. Figure out what you like and don't worry about being gay or not.

Honestly David I don't think you are gay. I often look at porn of two women going at it and I enjoy watching it. But that doesn't mean that I am gay. I couldn't even imagine doing anything with another girl because I am attracted to men. I think the female body is beautiful and I often think about a girl when I masturbate. I enjoy looking at women but that doesn't mean I want to do anything with a girl. Your fantasies are yours alone and just because you have them doesn't mean you have to follow it just to make sure and prove that you are not. If you don't believe that you are gay then you are not.

I refused to believe that I was gay for a long time, but I am. You may or may not be gay, but you need to be honest with yourself (easier said than done) to get to the bottom of this. On some level, you're attracted to men, so you are bi-curious, whether you act on it or not. Pride festivals are happening all across the country (USA) this week, so check one out if you feel comfortable doing that. Good luck.

I appreciate all your comments. They have really helped me find out who I am. Although I like male/male porn and dildo's more than straight porn, I have been straight since I was old enough to know what sex was and my orientation. I think your right Margirita, I don't think I'm gay, I just think I'm into different things that don't make me gay unless I act on them. And I appreciate some of you gay oriented people helped me as well.
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So basically if they are just fantasies or something I'm curious about doesn't make me slanted one way? I can't be sure if I'm bi because I don't like both sexes equally and I don't really like the thought of real sexual practices with another male but I just don't know..

Don't let others define you, define yourself.

Bisexuality is understood as a continuum. You very well could be bisexual or homosexual, but who cares? You just need to do what makes you happy. I will say that you have an attraction to men, whether you act on it.

"Gay" is an identity, if you don't identify with the gay community, you're not gay. I do think you owe it to yourself to find out if you like having sex with men, you could be missing out on finding your ideal partner.

By the way-I'm not one of those gay men who say "don't knock it 'til you try it" to every straight guy, but I think you should try it.

Hello again:

I'm going to add a few things here that I'm sure are going to get me a few more reddies. But, I'm not here for the popsicles.

There seems to me to be a lot of denial going on in this thread. Oh, I understand it, given our national homophobia, but it's denial nonetheless. Now, I understand a little fantasizing. However, as I said earlier, sticking a dildo up your butt isn't just a little fantasizing.

I agree with the gayboy. Don't think about it - do it! Follow your instincts... If you don't like it, don't do it again.

I have the same recommendation for you ladies out there, who watch girl porn and fantasize about giving head to another girl. Yet, you maintain your straightness?? Look, as Seinfeld says, there isn't anything wrong with that, but straight chicks DON'T fantasize about scarfing another chick's box.. They just don't. Like gayboy says, you could be missing out on finding your ideal partner - if you'd just relax about it..

I AM a straight man who's telling you to check it out. Living a life of regret is very sad... I dare say, it's even worse than being labeled a fag.

excon

I really don't like that idea of going out with another guy. Not because of the nations phobia of gays or the way they treat them, but because I just don't like the sound of it. I mean sure I like doing "different" things, but if I marry or meet anyone for sexual relations and a relationship for that matter I intend it to be with a woman. I think these are just fantasies, nothing more.

My wife loves her strap on. And quite honestly it gets her crazy hot and wet. And it does feel good. I guess that is one thing that feels the same for a guy as it does for a woman.

I'm straight as an arrow.

At the bottom *raises eyebrow* of this issue, you are attracted to men sexually. Do what you want, I was just suggesting you try being with a man because you might enjoy it, and who doesn't like enjoyable things? It would definitely put your mind to rest because then you'd be sure about your feelings; either you'll like it or you won't... problem solved!

LOL at the bottom issue. ;)


I'm wondering how to test this on my husband without freaking him out. I mean, using a dildo is one thing, but having your wife probe around in there with... Well, that's stuff for another post!